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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Do people have the right to complain to others for having personal choice in what they are looking for on fab? For example, someone only wanting black men? Or men under 25 years old? Why should they be criticized for their preferences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people have the right to complain to others for having personal choice in what they are looking for on fab? For example, someone only wanting black men? Or men under 25 years old? Why should they be criticized for their preferences?"

Not at all, best to be open and honest. If you didn’t have that and someone messages that you aren’t interested in

Then is a waste of everyone’s time isn’t it

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

No and we've even seen people play the race card when being rejected.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Do people have the right to complain to others for having personal choice in what they are looking for on fab? For example, someone only wanting black men? Or men under 25 years old? Why should they be criticized for their preferences?

Not at all, best to be open and honest. If you didn’t have that and someone messages that you aren’t interested in

Then is a waste of everyone’s time isn’t it "

But why should people get criticized?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people have the right to complain to others for having personal choice in what they are looking for on fab? For example, someone only wanting black men? Or men under 25 years old? Why should they be criticized for their preferences?

Not at all, best to be open and honest. If you didn’t have that and someone messages that you aren’t interested in

Then is a waste of everyone’s time isn’t it

But why should people get criticized? "

They shouldn’t

Is what I’m saying

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"No and we've even seen people play the race card when being rejected."

I swear people do it just to be catty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people have the right to complain to others for having personal choice in what they are looking for on fab? For example, someone only wanting black men? Or men under 25 years old? Why should they be criticized for their preferences?"

I honestly believe that some people are just looking for reasons to be offended and criticise.

Im fairly new to the forums, but im seeing it lots on here.

In theory, rational thinking people should accept everyone has personal choices. Even when they are the complete opposite of their own.

But, unfortunately, some Forumites lack rationality

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford


"Do people have the right to complain to others for having personal choice in what they are looking for on fab? For example, someone only wanting black men? Or men under 25 years old? Why should they be criticized for their preferences?"

Its fine by me

But as many use the feedback to complain that they arnt getting the meets.

Isnt there anybody available on this site.

I tend to see it as both ways you picked your prefs you therefore dont have the right to complain to others.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Do people have the right to complain to others for having personal choice in what they are looking for on fab? For example, someone only wanting black men? Or men under 25 years old? Why should they be criticized for their preferences?"

I think sometimes the language used causes offence to some people. Also if its a females profile or a males seems to alter the amount of offence that is taken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nobody has the right to complain to someone else for their personal preferences.

for example I messaged you OP previously (and as I didn't fit your criteria) you wasn't interested and I think blocked me. that doesn't then give me or anyone else the right to criticise you or attack you for what your searching for. Unfortunately this site has some very toxic People on it, however there are way more lovely people on here than those toxic trolls.

dont let anyone make you feel like you aren't allowed to have your Personal preferences. no matter how much they insult you.

if you want to be shallow be shallow if you want to give anyone and everyone a chance there do so.

only you have the right to choose what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And just because we set preferences when someone ticks those preferences we still have a right to say no thanks... there is lots of complexities when it comes to finding suitable people

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By *edstockings2Couple
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

When I (female) had my single account I got a lot of let's say interesting feedback about my personal preferences, most of them were from woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people have the right to complain to others for having personal choice in what they are looking for on fab? For example, someone only wanting black men? Or men under 25 years old? Why should they be criticized for their preferences?"

I'm black and under 25 years old so please flood my inbox!

Seriously tho it's sad that people have this fetishization for race and age.

Unfortunately these people are too stupid to realize it's dehumanizing.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Do people have the right to complain to others for having personal choice in what they are looking for on fab? For example, someone only wanting black men? Or men under 25 years old? Why should they be criticized for their preferences?

I'm black and under 25 years old so please flood my inbox!

Seriously tho it's sad that people have this fetishization for race and age.

Unfortunately these people are too stupid to realize

it's dehumanizing."

Age, race are not important to me, it's personality and sense of humour that attract me. The only thing that wi da me up is when profiles say "must be gym fit". It's like they are saying people who have never been near a gym in their life are sub human and worthless.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Age, race are not important to me, it's personality and sense of humour that attract me. The only thing that wi da me up is when profiles say "must be gym fit". It's like they are saying people who have never been near a gym in their life are sub human and worthless. "

No that’s not what they are saying. They are simply stating their preference for peoole with bodies that appear “gym fit”.

It is a bit of an insane leap to go from someone simply preferring to fuck people who spend a lot of time in the gym, to saying that their expressing that preference, is a declaration of people outside that being sub-human.

Tone down the hyperbole. It is just sex. And there are plenty of people who don’t care for, or about gym fit bodies. Why not focus on those and go where you are wanted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple answer, no they don’t have the right.

The only people who will have a problem are those who don’t meet with your preferences.

There’s plenty of profiles on here that catch my eye but I accept I’m not what they’re looking for. It wouldn’t cross my mind to question why I’m not.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"nobody has the right to complain to someone else for their personal preferences.

for example I messaged you OP previously (and as I didn't fit your criteria) you wasn't interested and I think blocked me. that doesn't then give me or anyone else the right to criticise you or attack you for what your searching for. Unfortunately this site has some very toxic People on it, however there are way more lovely people on here than those toxic trolls.

dont let anyone make you feel like you aren't allowed to have your Personal preferences. no matter how much they insult you.

if you want to be shallow be shallow if you want to give anyone and everyone a chance there do so.

only you have the right to choose what you want "

I only block persistent or rude people from messaging me.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"And just because we set preferences when someone ticks those preferences we still have a right to say no thanks... there is lots of complexities when it comes to finding suitable people"

Exactly but I feel strongly it doesn't make us shallow. I mean how many people looking at a profile think, "I don't find them at all physically attractive but I still want to have sex with them because they're nice people and been polite to me?"

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I turned someone down, not because of their race like they thought. It was their mannerisms towards me, acting all desperate and plus didn't find them really physically attractive. But they accused me of being racist and I left the conversation as I couldn't be bothered to argue. Would they prefer me telling them the truth?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I turned someone down, not because of their race like they thought. It was their mannerisms towards me, acting all desperate and plus didn't find them really physically attractive. But they accused me of being racist and I left the conversation as I couldn't be bothered to argue. Would they prefer me telling them the truth?"

in that situation being honest would of not only shut them up but also proved it wasnt about race (not that you have to prove yourself)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I turned someone down, not because of their race like they thought. It was their mannerisms towards me, acting all desperate and plus didn't find them really physically attractive. But they accused me of being racist and I left the conversation as I couldn't be bothered to argue. Would they prefer me telling them the truth?"

Sounds like they were trying to guilt you into meeting them anyway. I don't bother giving a reason as it's irrelevant. It's just 'no'.

If they get arsey it's just yet more proof they aren't worth meeting.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

It's like olive on pizza

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I turned someone down, not because of their race like they thought. It was their mannerisms towards me, acting all desperate and plus didn't find them really physically attractive. But they accused me of being racist and I left the conversation as I couldn't be bothered to argue. Would they prefer me telling them the truth?

Sounds like they were trying to guilt you into meeting them anyway. I don't bother giving a reason as it's irrelevant. It's just 'no'.

If they get arsey it's just yet more proof they aren't worth meeting. "

For sure, people throwing toys out their prams are definitely a great confirmation that they were a definite no. It's amazing how many do it and how many ignore what you said and carry on messaging you asking you to meet them! Everyone has a history of the message?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Because for some strange reason that is beyond me. People get offended when they think they’re missing out on something. I.e why them and not me. People are idiots. It’s like getting offended because someone took their gherkins off their burger.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I turned someone down, not because of their race like they thought. It was their mannerisms towards me, acting all desperate and plus didn't find them really physically attractive. But they accused me of being racist and I left the conversation as I couldn't be bothered to argue. Would they prefer me telling them the truth?

Sounds like they were trying to guilt you into meeting them anyway. I don't bother giving a reason as it's irrelevant. It's just 'no'.

If they get arsey it's just yet more proof they aren't worth meeting.

For sure, people throwing toys out their prams are definitely a great confirmation that they were a definite no. It's amazing how many do it and how many ignore what you said and carry on messaging you asking you to meet them! Everyone has a history of the message?"

I'm not sure if everyone can see the message history. Even if they can I think some are just terribly ignorant.

Sometimes I reply and say I would never meet anyone who can't take "no" for an answer as they are clearly unsafe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because for some strange reason that is beyond me. People get offended when they think they’re missing out on something. I.e why them and not me. People are idiots. It’s like getting offended because someone took their gherkins off their burger.

The mr "

Gherkins!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. You can judge, have an opinion, complain and do whatever you want when you see a persons preference for anything. But what you can’t do is persuade someone to change something just to suit you.

It’s a persons right to have a preference for having sex with people, even if it sits wrong with you.

For example. I like open minded people.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Because for some strange reason that is beyond me. People get offended when they think they’re missing out on something. I.e why them and not me. People are idiots. It’s like getting offended because someone took their gherkins off their burger.

The mr

Gherkins!!

"

I'm no fan of gherkins either... But sometimes you got to just power through to get to the good bit.

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Out of UK


"Because for some strange reason that is beyond me. People get offended when they think they’re missing out on something. I.e why them and not me. People are idiots. It’s like getting offended because someone took their gherkins off their burger.

The mr

Gherkins!!

"

But the gherkin is the acidity that stops you from getting reflux what an outrageous preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because for some strange reason that is beyond me. People get offended when they think they’re missing out on something. I.e why them and not me. People are idiots. It’s like getting offended because someone took their gherkins off their burger.

The mr

Gherkins!!

I'm no fan of gherkins either... But sometimes you got to just power through to get to the good bit. "

That's what men tell me about cocks.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because for some strange reason that is beyond me. People get offended when they think they’re missing out on something. I.e why them and not me. People are idiots. It’s like getting offended because someone took their gherkins off their burger.

The mr

Gherkins!!

But the gherkin is the acidity that stops you from getting reflux what an outrageous preference. "

I'd rather have reflux.

I've been gherkin shamed..

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I’m highly offended by the gherkin hate on this post. How dare you!

The mr

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Because for some strange reason that is beyond me. People get offended when they think they’re missing out on something. I.e why them and not me. People are idiots. It’s like getting offended because someone took their gherkins off their burger.

The mr

Gherkins!!

I'm no fan of gherkins either... But sometimes you got to just power through to get to the good bit.

That's what men tell me about cocks..... "

What's that? It might taste a bit salty but it combines well with the cheese?

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

People don't have the right to complain about your preferences, but they do have the right to judge you as long as they keep it to themselves. When we read a profile we're trying to get a picture of the people it represents, and every part of the profile contributes.

So we're a bit less likely to talk to people who have that bit about Sydney University on their profile. We're not keen on people who won't meet bi people, even though we're largely straight. And if their profile says "No blacks or Irish", then we're extremely unlikely to be interested in them because, frankly, the fact that they think that's important enough to put on their profile suggests they're not the sort of people we'd get on with.

And saying "it's just our preference" on their profile is a big black mark!

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"Do people have the right to complain to others for having personal choice in what they are looking for on fab? For example, someone only wanting black men? Or men under 25 years old? Why should they be criticized for their preferences?"

I dont give a shit what they are looking for... we all like different likes...and needs.

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