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By *ice_couple2012 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

probably married and couldn't make a good enough excuse to get away from his wife....

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Report them! Timewasters are so annoying as it makes you so wary about arranging a meet again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sucks I feel for you!

It’s sad when you’ve been messaging all day and building yourself up

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By *otwife and Him 69Couple
over a year ago

Preston

Feel your pain and why we don’t meet without a longer term chat now.. infuriating when you don’t get much free time as it is xx

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By *ice_couple2012 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leicester


"Report them! Timewasters are so annoying as it makes you so wary about arranging a meet again"

How do we report him?

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

if its alway happening then maybe look at your selection process ...

dont see what reporting to admin does if honest they have zero control as to what happens off the site just block and move on

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By *ice_couple2012 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leicester


"That sucks I feel for you!

It’s sad when you’ve been messaging all day and building yourself up "

I know. Its such a turn off and makes us feel v v unsexy

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By *ice_couple2012 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leicester


"if its alway happening then maybe look at your selection process ...

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Fair point although tbh we've tried to tighten this up after earlier disappointments. Makes you question whether you can ever make a judgment about someone's reliability

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"if its alway happening then maybe look at your selection process ...

dont see what reporting to admin does if honest they have zero control as to what happens off the site just block and move on"

So you're saying admin don't remove profiles that repeatedly don't show or are fake?

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By *im4play4uMan
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

I will restore your faith in the genuine single men that aren't hiding a marriage or simply have no intention of doing anything they say. We do exist and it's frustrating that guys make couples so wary of us all.

If I was actually fortunate enough to be invited in the first place, I will arrange wiyh you when and where to meet and make the journey to be there when I said I will .

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"if its alway happening then maybe look at your selection process ...

Fair point although tbh we've tried to tighten this up after earlier disappointments. Makes you question whether you can ever make a judgment about someone's reliability"

I have a real tight screening who I want to meet as I know there's alot of timewasters out there. My first 2 years was full of timewasters. Now years later, I get really good meets. So experience of judging people will pay off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't understand it. If I had the opportunity to meet then I would be there for sure. They must lead boring lives

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

The site is full of timewasters and fake profiles. It's been much worse since the first lockdown. And it's not just men.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

"

Sorry to hear you have been let down again. We feel your pain as we have had the same. Joanne

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Report them! Timewasters are so annoying as it makes you so wary about arranging a meet again

How do we report him?"

Go to his profile. Even if he has blocked you there will be a menu top right. On that select the Report line and fill in the info in a box and send it to Admin.

Time wasters spoil this site but every once in a while you get a meet, with great people, and it all seems worth while.

Good luck in future!

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"The site is full of timewasters and fake profiles. It's been much worse since the first lockdown. And it's not just men."

Yes agree. Cpls let us down just as much. But fake cpls profiles are 99% of the time guys pretending to be cpls.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

"

Been there, done that and bought the t-shirt and matching hat. Unfortunately there are a lot of time wasters around.. I get that things crop up and I will give people a second and sometimes a third chance after that it's see ya later bozo x

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By *ice_couple2012 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leicester


"if its alway happening then maybe look at your selection process ...

Fair point although tbh we've tried to tighten this up after earlier disappointments. Makes you question whether you can ever make a judgment about someone's reliability

I have a real tight screening who I want to meet as I know there's alot of timewasters out there. My first 2 years was full of timewasters. Now years later, I get really good meets. So experience of judging people will pay off. "

Can you say a little about your selection process as whatever we are doing is not working? We've tried chatting for a long time, chatting for a short time etc etc. Tried to DM you but we cant as we're outside your age range

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Absolutely there loss completely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"if its alway happening then maybe look at your selection process ...

dont see what reporting to admin does if honest they have zero control as to what happens off the site just block and move on

So you're saying admin don't remove profiles that repeatedly don't show or are fake?"

im not saying that im just saying how do they get involved for something thats happened off site ? what can they do ? they are not gods who see everything theres alway 2 side to a story

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"The site is full of timewasters and fake profiles. It's been much worse since the first lockdown. And it's not just men."

its really not 1,000s are meeting and having fun so it works and fab is by far and i do mean by far the best site on the internet for swinging and swinnging related stuff ... however i do understand alot of men wont see it that way but thats due to the number of men not the site

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We generally always meet in clubs as then you've got insurance of not wasting a night off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After it happened to us we decided to only meet verified guys and we also insist on moving messaging to WhatsApp (we have a burner phone)

It’s a buyers market so if we sense reluctance or nonsense then we just block and move on.

Sorry, we know it’s harsh but why should we have our time wasted?

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By *alley71Couple
over a year ago

St Helens


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

"

We’ve had exactly the same tonight….. planning arranging then nothing, face pics exchange loads of chatting and just needed to confirm time. No message, and that’s another coulple wasting time

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By *ary 121Man
over a year ago

East Bergholt


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

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By *ary 121Man
over a year ago

East Bergholt


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Happens to us men too, to me several times, even messaging up to 15 mins before meet, I sit around for hour or more and no response!!!! Grrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel for you both plus those want meet and not get chance or even message if like me being new or never had chance makes it harder for us

Such shame let you both down i say missed out on amazing time with you both

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"Happens to us men too, to me several times, even messaging up to 15 mins before meet, I sit around for hour or more and no response!!!! Grrrrrr

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yes but its likely to be men running fake couples or womens accounts ...dont get me wrong there will be real couples a nd women messing too tho

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By *ouseofhoneyCouple
over a year ago

North West

We had to miss a meet recently due to a completely genuine reason, but we gave them notice in the morning... it does happen.

But not showing up and just blanking someone then yeah you would class that as being messed about, just move on.

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By *artiniman50!Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Had been messaging a certain person on here for a few days all arranged to meet at theirs I literally messaged them on my way ,I got outside the door knocked on it they answered I went in and then they made an excuse they changed it heir mind and I left!, what a time waster

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Yes, it's annoying especially as I usually take the day off work so it's a total bummer when the guy I'm supposed to be meeting blows me out. Had it on our couples profile too, from a regular forum user no less, which is a bit akward and embarrassing.

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

To some people it's the thrill of the chase that turns them on, even before they speak to someone they have no intention of meeting. What you could do in future is speak to them on the phone or video. We've also had no shows.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"Had been messaging a certain person on here for a few days all arranged to meet at theirs I literally messaged them on my way ,I got outside the door knocked on it they answered I went in and then they made an excuse they changed it heir mind and I left!, what a time waster"

thats not timewasting that changing there minds everyone has the rights to that the clearly changed their mind after meeting you or got cold feet thats not timewasting ...

i done this a few times with guys who have not looked as the pics they sent or b.o or other reasons no one should have to continue if something is off or they dont feel right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

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gets use to it we paid for multiple hotel rooms expecting a fun time. Only to get ghosted at the last moment.So protect yourself as much as possible.

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By *im4play4uMan
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead


"Had been messaging a certain person on here for a few days all arranged to meet at theirs I literally messaged them on my way ,I got outside the door knocked on it they answered I went in and then they made an excuse they changed it heir mind and I left!, what a time waster

thats not timewasting that changing there minds everyone has the rights to that the clearly changed their mind after meeting you or got cold feet thats not timewasting ...

i done this a few times with guys who have not looked as the pics they sent or b.o or other reasons no one should have to continue if something is off or they dont feel right"

Yes I agree. Its not compulsory to go ahead with anything at all!

The door was answered, you was invited in. That is nit time wasting in anyone's book

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We only meet people we have met previously through group socials or met in clubs it eliminates all the fakes and fantasists and we’ve never been let down so we must be doing something right.. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had been messaging a certain person on here for a few days all arranged to meet at theirs I literally messaged them on my way ,I got outside the door knocked on it they answered I went in and then they made an excuse they changed it heir mind and I left!, what a time waster"

This isn't timewasting. They may have not liked the way you looked in person. We've had this previously guy looked nothing like his pics so we asked him to leave.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We had a couple once messaging us all day. They even messaged us when they were "on the way."

They never turned-up and blocked us about half an hour after the meet was due to take place.

It was so satifsying to see them complaining a few weeks later about having been stood up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

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That's a shame to hear that x it sadly happens to a lot of people on here x i don't understand why people do that to people like yourselves. You should try and make sure that yous have spoken to whoever yous are meeting with for a good while 1st to get to know them x keep your chins up and forget about it x not all the people on here are as ignorant as that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"probably married and couldn't make a good enough excuse to get away from his wife...."

That is a good possibility but there are a number of female and couple accounts doing the same thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had several no shows in my early days on fab about 10 years ago, so it's not a new thing either

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By *nicornExplorersCouple
over a year ago

north east

Had it twice, we now look at clubs to meet at, that way it's not a total waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something that goes with the territory. It happens to us now and again.

We've got some theories why single guys do it.

One - they're married

Two - performance anxiety. They desperately want a threesome but think they have to turn up and perform like a porn star. When we have the Stag and Vixen scenario they also have an audience. When we get blown out it's often when we give them our address when they ghost. The reality hits them and they panic.

Three - they have no intention of ever meeting and are looking for pictures or descriptions of what we like to fuel their wanking. We have had a few of these. Constantly asking for pics and what J likes but always avoiding arranging an actual meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always turn up for a meet. Have travelled two hours for a no show and a block. If you arrange a meet, at least have the courtesy to show up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has happened to us twice before only actually managed to meet on 1 occasion with a nice genuine guy. To add to the frustration we lost a lot of money in hotel costs. We only now speak with guys that have a few verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

"

Are these people mad???...gorgeous pic mr and mrs N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to us last night too! Not first time and very annoying when you have childcare sorted. It’s like they are just here for a chat! Full of single guys but hard to find genuine ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meets get cancelled for a variety of reasons, but if there is communication at least one party is not wasting time getting ready and waiting.

Just not turning up, with no message or valid reason, and then going radio silence after is not acceptable.

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall/Devon

It has happened to us so much too. To the point that we have almost just given up on here. The lies and bullshit we have received particularly since Covid, mostly from single guys is a real detriment to this otherwise fantastic site. It’s got to the point that we now expect to be let down and have our time wasted when we start a conversation with a new “gent”. It is so disheartening.

Have said all that we don’t know what the solution is. We try to vet as best as we can. Clubs are an answer but we are not night owls and there are none close by.

Fortunately we do have a couple of genuine regular guys which is great but we do miss the excitement of having someone new and the variety it gives us.

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By *ice_couple2012 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

We appreciate all the people who have raken the time to comment - at least knowing that this is such a common and pervasive problem helps us not to take it too personally. Have a good weekend everyone

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

Yes unfortunately we’ve suffered this a few times too.

Very frustrating but there are many genuine people on here, as this forum thread demonstrates so we keep trying and don’t let it put us off.......

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

"

Maybe it's best just to arrange to meet at a club. If they don't turn up you can still have a good time

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By *ercedes_SLKMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Seeing posts like this infuriates me and I remain bewildered as to why guys continue to do it…..

Without a doubt - report him

It’s difficult enough being a genuine single guy on here and trying to make yourself heard through all the noise is virtually impossible so the quicker those with an ambition Vs ability imbalance are ed out and cut down the better

Having said all that, it’s ironic that my last meet that didn’t turn up were from Leicester

Great comms over 2 days then when I arrived at the postcode - radio silence

I hope your next adventure is more fruitful

If you fancy a social later today - just shout

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

guys saying bad guys ruin it for the good guys is not correct they ruin it for themselves nobody else and it seems an excuse for guys to blame them for getting nowhere rather than looking at the real problem as to why they are getting no meets ..no meets is down to you nobody else ...well and the sheer number of guys too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's simple make sure you only chat with guys with verifications first and see what their about from others. Alot of fakes on here like most sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me "

I find that hard to believe

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By *ice_couple2012 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leicester


"It's simple make sure you only chat with guys with verifications first and see what their about from others. Alot of fakes on here like most sites"

We actually only ever chat to guys with veris. The person who stood us up yesterdaÿ actually had decent looking veris which makes us wonder if these were also fake..

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By *onny69sMan
over a year ago

Donny

It's one of the reasons I accom or agree to meet local to me. This way if they don't turn up I'm either at home or very close.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"Had been messaging a certain person on here for a few days all arranged to meet at theirs I literally messaged them on my way ,I got outside the door knocked on it they answered I went in and then they made an excuse they changed it heir mind and I left!, what a time waster"

People are allowed to change their minds at any point. That's not time wasting.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"It's simple make sure you only chat with guys with verifications first and see what their about from others. Alot of fakes on here like most sites

We actually only ever chat to guys with veris. The person who stood us up yesterdaÿ actually had decent looking veris which makes us wonder if these were also fake.."

Maybe msg one if the other profiles, you can tell genuine ones as they'll have a trail.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Had been messaging a certain person on here for a few days all arranged to meet at theirs I literally messaged them on my way ,I got outside the door knocked on it they answered I went in and then they made an excuse they changed it heir mind and I left!, what a time waster

People are allowed to change their minds at any point. That's not time wasting."

It certainly is if they don't have the courtesy of letting you know!! Utterly rude and disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's simple make sure you only chat with guys with verifications first and see what their about from others. Alot of fakes on here like most sites

We actually only ever chat to guys with veris. The person who stood us up yesterdaÿ actually had decent looking veris which makes us wonder if these were also fake.."

That's worrying! Don't give people much hope going forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will end up leaving again soon at this rate. None of us signed up for this.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Probably had a tactical before the meet and lost interest after he had blown his load.

I reckon this happens a lot.

There are also loads who get off on the idea but then lack the bottle to actually go through with it.

This is why meet veris (not cam) are useful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't know why people mess others around atleast let them know. Imagine being a first timer all them nerves building and then they flake!!

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Its a proper shit feeling when you get stood up and ghosted.

It's happened to me countless times, the most recent one being just over a month ago. What's worse is that they were 70 miles away. So it was a bloody expensive trip for last nothing too.

Fab should definitely have a function that allows you to rate people. A bit like ebay lol.

There are some proper fuckedup people on this site.

Mike xx

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

Happened to me this week. Women messaged me after seeing me on cam for a meet. Agreed after longish chat to meet up for coffee and see if got on. Got there and did not turn up. Annoying as could have gone to see a FWB instead that afternoon. Mind you sometimes you meet lovely people and had some fun from here. Some totally unexpected ones

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over a year ago

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We get our fair share of no shows. Yes, it's annoying. Not to mention the time and effort put into planning, arranging and getting ready. As a couple, we turn it around and always have fun between us. Meeting others is an 'extra' to our fun. Our block button is so over used. They don't get a second chance with us.

Differant if your a single. But I suppose self love is the way to go.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"It's simple make sure you only chat with guys with verifications first and see what their about from others. Alot of fakes on here like most sites

We actually only ever chat to guys with veris. The person who stood us up yesterdaÿ actually had decent looking veris which makes us wonder if these were also fake.."

Same happened to us. It was a cpl who had veris.the guy chatted to us for two hours until his mrs got back from a birthday party. He said he had been messaging her and she was well up for a meet. She apparently got home and and again it was both of them there taking part in the messaging. Then a message came where they wanted to meet two days later. Three hours messaging and then they call it off for no reason. It is not just single guys on here who let people down and timewaste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nees a name and shame forum for timewasters and people who get abusive. Although they will leave and get a new username. Sad pathetic little people.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"guys saying bad guys ruin it for the good guys is not correct they ruin it for themselves nobody else and it seems an excuse for guys to blame them for getting nowhere rather than looking at the real problem as to why they are getting no meets ..no meets is down to you nobody else ...well and the sheer number of guys too"

Disagree sorry. If people keep getting let down the good guys do suffer as most women or cpls block all guys like we have due to multiple let downs. But a guy we chatted to on here yesterday after a send a pic to above post made us see that there are very tidy guys on here. So to all the good guys on here i am sorry that the dickheads spoil things for you as you lot do not deserve it.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Nees a name and shame forum for timewasters and people who get abusive. Although they will leave and get a new username. Sad pathetic little people. "

Fab will not allow naming and shaming.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"We will end up leaving again soon at this rate. None of us signed up for this."

Dont leave. You have met tidy guys on here as you have veris off them. Keep plugging away as you always have on here.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

"

The last couple who arranged to meet me, wanted to meet in a club. Clubs aren’t my favourite places, but I thought it would be ok if we were meeting, and it was all their suggestion.

All was going well, until a few days before, when they messaged to say they couldn’t make it after all. Fair enough, they let me know in good time, I could plan something else.

They then messaged me the day before, saying their plans had changed, and would be going to the club that night, so if I was still able to make it, would I let them know…..?

It felt like I was a Plan b, and someone else had let them down, so I politely declined.

In over 10 years of Fab, I’ve never failed to make an arranged meet. I have been let down and messed around by couples and solo ladies, but it goes with the territory so to speak, and it’s rare I give a second chance these days. Just block and move on. Plenty of genuine people to meet and make friends with

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Yep it is disappointing especailly when youve out laid for the hotel & had it confirmed even on the day of the meeting. That said its their loss sad does give single guys a bad name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

"

We've already had two no-show's and won't be caught out by these fcukwits again..we now state on our profile:

If we arrange a meet we do a quick Kik video call to verify on the day

### BE PREPARED TO CONFIRM THE MEET AT LEAST 3 HOURS BEFORE OR WE'LL NOT TURN UP. IF YOU CAN'T MAKE THE MEET THEN LET US KNOW ASAP SO WE CAN MAKE OTHER PLANS ###

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

The last couple who arranged to meet me, wanted to meet in a club. Clubs aren’t my favourite places, but I thought it would be ok if we were meeting, and it was all their suggestion.

All was going well, until a few days before, when they messaged to say they couldn’t make it after all. Fair enough, they let me know in good time, I could plan something else.

They then messaged me the day before, saying their plans had changed, and would be going to the club that night, so if I was still able to make it, would I let them know…..?

It felt like I was a Plan b, and someone else had let them down, so I politely declined.

In over 10 years of Fab, I’ve never failed to make an arranged meet. I have been let down and messed around by couples and solo ladies, but it goes with the territory so to speak, and it’s rare I give a second chance these days. Just block and move on. Plenty of genuine people to meet and make friends with "

I think on here it is not just a guy thing. Cpls and singles are just as bad these days for pulling out of meets for no reason.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

The last couple who arranged to meet me, wanted to meet in a club. Clubs aren’t my favourite places, but I thought it would be ok if we were meeting, and it was all their suggestion.

All was going well, until a few days before, when they messaged to say they couldn’t make it after all. Fair enough, they let me know in good time, I could plan something else.

They then messaged me the day before, saying their plans had changed, and would be going to the club that night, so if I was still able to make it, would I let them know…..?

It felt like I was a Plan b, and someone else had let them down, so I politely declined.

In over 10 years of Fab, I’ve never failed to make an arranged meet. I have been let down and messed around by couples and solo ladies, but it goes with the territory so to speak, and it’s rare I give a second chance these days. Just block and move on. Plenty of genuine people to meet and make friends with

I think on here it is not just a guy thing. Cpls and singles are just as bad these days for pulling out of meets for no reason. "

As I’ve never arranged to meet a single guy, I couldn’t agree more

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

close


"probably married and couldn't make a good enough excuse to get away from his wife...."

Exactly this. We stick to club meets now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Report them! Timewasters are so annoying as it makes you so wary about arranging a meet again

How do we report him?"

Absolutely pointless, admin are only interested in reeping the cash the site generates.They aren't remotely interested in running the site as it should be..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is there’s so many chancers and married people or in relationships wanting something on the side on her, maybe some form of shit list or reporting is the way forward you can wax lyrical on here and spend time trying to find someone who doesn’t want to kill you afterwards only to find someone with the same ethos but at the last minute go quiet or block you, everyone has a change of heart or sometimes circumstances change, I get that but it’s a mine field on here … my block list is getting bigger by the day

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

"

Honestly I have been stood up or ghosted 99% of my time here. So much so I would probably lying go into major shock if someone actually turned up.

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By *he LsCouple
over a year ago

East Midlands

This is why we stick to club meets. Even then we arrange to meet people and they don't show, but at least we can enjoy the night..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had been messaging a certain person on here for a few days all arranged to meet at theirs I literally messaged them on my way ,I got outside the door knocked on it they answered I went in and then they made an excuse they changed it heir mind and I left!, what a time waster"

That's not time wasting in any way shape or form

EVERYBODY has the right to say no at ANY stage.

I think you will have made quite a few block lists with your post as it's a major red flag of entitlement.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Report them! Timewasters are so annoying as it makes you so wary about arranging a meet again

How do we report him?

Absolutely pointless, admin are only interested in reeping the cash the site generates.They aren't remotely interested in running the site as it should be.."

Agreed...we complained and the admin removed ALL our profile because we named and shamed the culprits. We don't care if it's against their rules because like you highlight, it's revenue they're bothered about not fakes

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I had a hotel meet arranged, there was me, kitted out in my finest lingerie, stockings and heels in a hotel room. He turns up, I open the door, he comes in and says "wow, you're really tall, I wasn't expecting that" (I'm 6ft 2 or 3 in heels and my profile states my height) he said "just going to get a drink from the Starbucks in the lobby, do you want anything" and fucked off. Text message later saying "so sorry, it threw me you being so tall, can we try again"

My reply was "no, you can fuck right off". He'd left me with the hotel bill and humiliated beyond anything I've experienced before. Never once had a meet walk out on me. Been blown out plenty of times, but to take one look at me and run away because I'm tall is pure pussy behaviour.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky


"I had a hotel meet arranged, there was me, kitted out in my finest lingerie, stockings and heels in a hotel room. He turns up, I open the door, he comes in and says "wow, you're really tall, I wasn't expecting that" (I'm 6ft 2 or 3 in heels and my profile states my height) he said "just going to get a drink from the Starbucks in the lobby, do you want anything" and fucked off. Text message later saying "so sorry, it threw me you being so tall, can we try again"

My reply was "no, you can fuck right off". He'd left me with the hotel bill and humiliated beyond anything I've experienced before. Never once had a meet walk out on me. Been blown out plenty of times, but to take one look at me and run away because I'm tall is pure pussy behaviour. "
yep,proper pussy.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

We've never stood anyone up. Have had it happen to us a few times and been messed about also so know the feeling and would hate for anyone to feel like that if we'd done it. We either meet or cancel in plenty of time so that the other party can make alternative plans.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I absolutely hate it and it’s happened a couple times for me

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire


"I had a hotel meet arranged, there was me, kitted out in my finest lingerie, stockings and heels in a hotel room. He turns up, I open the door, he comes in and says "wow, you're really tall, I wasn't expecting that" (I'm 6ft 2 or 3 in heels and my profile states my height) he said "just going to get a drink from the Starbucks in the lobby, do you want anything" and fucked off. Text message later saying "so sorry, it threw me you being so tall, can we try again"

My reply was "no, you can fuck right off". He'd left me with the hotel bill and humiliated beyond anything I've experienced before. Never once had a meet walk out on me. Been blown out plenty of times, but to take one look at me and run away because I'm tall is pure pussy behaviour. "

That is shocking.

OP feel your pain I have had it too get lots of messages and then last minutedotcom radio silent.

Good luck for the future.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

if you are constantly being let down then your doing something wrong in the picking and chatting process

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral


"Well we've just had the pleasure of being stood up again at a planned meet. Had been messaging the guy all day to arrange a social at a local pub with a view to more later if all ok. After an hour of hanging around and feeling like complete twats we went home. WTAF is the matter with some people here?! It sometimes feels like you can't trust anyone. This has happened to us so many times in the past couple of months...you feel like giving up trying to arrange meets outside of clubs.

Sorry I know this has all been said before but just had to have a rant.

"

It's happened to us on a couple of occasions too - some very sad individuals out there.

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

Just had similar - ghosted on texts hey ho, their loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a hotel meet arranged, there was me, kitted out in my finest lingerie, stockings and heels in a hotel room. He turns up, I open the door, he comes in and says "wow, you're really tall, I wasn't expecting that" (I'm 6ft 2 or 3 in heels and my profile states my height) he said "just going to get a drink from the Starbucks in the lobby, do you want anything" and fucked off. Text message later saying "so sorry, it threw me you being so tall, can we try again"

My reply was "no, you can fuck right off". He'd left me with the hotel bill and humiliated beyond anything I've experienced before. Never once had a meet walk out on me. Been blown out plenty of times, but to take one look at me and run away because I'm tall is pure pussy behaviour.

That is shocking.

OP feel your pain I have had it too get lots of messages and then last minutedotcom radio silent.

Good luck for the future."

Further up, a guy spoke of similar happening to him but that was OK as change of mind happens, agree it can't have been nice being left like that but can't have it both ways. people can change their mind at last minute it's not dependent on gender, or shouldn't be. Do I think the guy was a wimp... Yes, he should have said she wasn't for him and been honest. But, a change of mind is open to us all.

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