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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

..How do you know if you will like it or comfortable with it?

This is particularly for single guys as we get a lot of messages seeking mmf..but when we used to do them it is rare for the man to be comfortable in that situation and (ahem) perform 'adequately'.

Seems like a lot like the idea of it (thanks porn industry) but not the reality.

What do you think makes a good single male swinger?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Anyone with a Roman sounding name is a dead cert I'm told

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am only interested in Bi MMF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..How do you know if you will like it or comfortable with it?

This is particularly for single guys as we get a lot of messages seeking mmf..but when we used to do them it is rare for the man to be comfortable in that situation and (ahem) perform 'adequately'.

Seems like a lot like the idea of it (thanks porn industry) but not the reality.

What do you think makes a good single male swinger?"

Being confident, thats what ive found, i have met a few couples now, and ive not had a problem up to now, touch wood lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to say we really only meet single men and never experienced this problem.

The guys have always said how comfortable an at ease we have made them feel.

So I think it also depends on the couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..How do you know if you will like it or comfortable with it?

This is particularly for single guys as we get a lot of messages seeking mmf..but when we used to do them it is rare for the man to be comfortable in that situation and (ahem) perform 'adequately'.

Seems like a lot like the idea of it (thanks porn industry) but not the reality.

What do you think makes a good single male swinger?"

One that's in it for the benefit of all involved - not just out for a quick shag!

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I am only interested in Bi MMF"

That is the answer to a different question

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

What do YOU think makes a good male swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just to say we really only meet single men and never experienced this problem.

The guys have always said how comfortable an at ease we have made them feel.

So I think it also depends on the couple."

i agree with that statement so much

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just to say we really only meet single men and never experienced this problem.

The guys have always said how comfortable an at ease we have made them feel.

So I think it also depends on the couple."

Well we aren't scary. Honest. But we still remember:

1) Mr Floppy. Seen this with couples as well.

2) Mr Premature. Somebody was far too excited!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What do YOU think makes a good male swinger?

We asked first. Get your own question.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I am only interested in Bi MMF

That is the answer to a different question"

why, I would only do things I am truly comfortable with, I have tried the majority of things and in cases I have been uncomfortable, so I stopped

Now, if I chose to meet it would be Bi MMF as I know I would perform to my best, get the maximum enjoyment and hopefully give others the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone with a Roman sounding name is a dead cert I'm told

Yes - whatever happened to Biggus Dickus????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting to know the people you are going to play with helps.

Then again, a one off can be just as thrilling.

There are many people that think the fantasy will be the same as the reality, but when it comes down to the 'fight or flight' part, most will take flight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

someone who is confident and doesnt take themselves too seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have found that often the younger the male the less confident they are. We mean under 40 ish as young. We have experienced shy younger males who added very little excitement to the meeting and were not very sensual .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just to say we really only meet single men and never experienced this problem.

The guys have always said how comfortable an at ease we have made them feel.

So I think it also depends on the couple.

Well we aren't scary. Honest. But we still remember:

1) Mr Floppy. Seen this with couples as well.

2) Mr Premature. Somebody was far too excited!"

I am sure you are not lol, but I can't explain really how we make single men feel comfortable and I haven't got a set of instructions.

If no 2 though, as long as they can turn about quickly, shouldn't matter?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

What do you think makes a good single male swinger?"

Them being single, male and good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just to say we really only meet single men and never experienced this problem.

The guys have always said how comfortable an at ease we have made them feel.

So I think it also depends on the couple.

Well we aren't scary. Honest. But we still remember:

1) Mr Floppy. Seen this with couples as well.

2) Mr Premature. Somebody was far too excited!

I am sure you are not lol, but I can't explain really how we make single men feel comfortable and I haven't got a set of instructions.

If no 2 though, as long as they can turn about quickly, shouldn't matter?"

3) Mr One Shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just to say we really only meet single men and never experienced this problem.

The guys have always said how comfortable an at ease we have made them feel.

So I think it also depends on the couple.

Well we aren't scary. Honest. But we still remember:

1) Mr Floppy. Seen this with couples as well.

2) Mr Premature. Somebody was far too excited!

I am sure you are not lol, but I can't explain really how we make single men feel comfortable and I haven't got a set of instructions.

If no 2 though, as long as they can turn about quickly, shouldn't matter?

3) Mr One Shot

Not having much luck lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have mostly met single guys and we haven't had a problem with any of them, even in a mmmmf situation!

We always meet socially first to make sure they are ok with us and vice versa, we are pretty down to earth and understand that some single men may be a tad nervous when meeting a couple, but haven't had any 1, 2, or 3s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on the ambience lol

Actually thats crap chemistry of the 3/4 or 5.

Ive had a great set of mmf meets but can also remember my worst which was mr no 1 and 2 combined.

The fella was bi, physically bigger than me and wasnt doing anything directly but was hinting strongly at guy on guy. i found out he was bi moments before walking in the door. It was a last minute chatroom meet.

Also i discovered in chat before we all went upstairs he may know people i do.

Argh!

Then to top it all off i could tell she just wasnt that into me or the scenario. She wanted to see some MM then all in bed together. Rather than focus on her.

Disaster.

Made my excuses and left.

Absolute nightmare but i laugh about it now.

Now the good ones ...oooh yes please. But that was all about the cpl's attitude and demeanour towards my presence at their play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes a good meet is when the guy is totally into the wife - lots of kissing , passion and real lust - works every time

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Anyone with a Roman sounding name is a dead cert I'm told

Yes - whatever happened to Biggus Dickus????

If you find him, send him my way...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"What do you think makes a good single male swinger"

Turns up on time, clean, healthy, enthusiastic, adventurous....for starters....it's sounding a bit like me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Things do fall into two categories:

Really, really good

Really, really bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the game of a single guy to make a couple comfortable...So i would suggest u guys to look for verification and talk to the guy before arranging something...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally agreed..x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think its the game of a single guy to make a couple comfortable...So i would suggest u guys to look for verification and talk to the guy before arranging something...x

Problem with verifications is that you only get the positives...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am yet to have mmf. Had many of mff but not quite sure if I could perform as well as I could on a 1-1... Mmm, maybe something to cross off soon if the right couple comes along

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"I think its the game of a single guy to make a couple comfortable...So i would suggest u guys to look for verification and talk to the guy before arranging something...x

I disagree, I think its as much the responsibility of the couple to make the single person feel comfortable...

From my experience and from reading many of the posts and profiles on here there are plenty of couples that make it sound like they are doing the single person a favour, long list of hoops to jump through, and an equally long list of what THEY want....

I suspect the most successful meets are ones where the couple thinks about what everyone wants.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"What makes a good meet is when the guy is totally into the wife - lots of kissing , passion and real lust - works every time

Except when the couple have too many rules:

Cant kiss the lady

The lady must not lose eye contact with her husband

He has to inspect every moment/position at "Attenborough" close range

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its the game of a single guy to make a couple comfortable...So i would suggest u guys to look for verification and talk to the guy before arranging something...x

I disagree with this.... We realise how nerve wracking it must be for a single guy to join an established couple, the couple know each other inside out, the single guy doesn't! So in our opinion it's up to the couple to make the guy feel comfortable, and verifications are unique for each individual, so what may work for some may not work for others, we chat on the phone then meet socially and if all are happy it's play time

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By *3rryj1Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

Feeing at ease with the right couple and its a positive and fun outcome for everyone..after all the ideas is to enjoy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think feeling comfortable with the couple helps as well as fancying the arse off the lady too

In my - albeit limited - experiences Ive always got on well with all parties and been quite happy to realise Im there as an addition to the fun, a bit like a walking vibrator. Except you cant use me to stir your tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone with a Roman sounding name is a dead cert I'm told

lol yeah- find someone named Caesar

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think feeling comfortable with the couple helps as well as fancying the arse off the lady too

That is what we think, the guy is there as a walking sex toy hence the disappointment if their batteries run out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think feeling comfortable with the couple helps as well as fancying the arse off the lady too

That is what we think, the guy is there as a walking sex toy hence the disappointment if their batteries run out.

ha ha!! I can see the problem

funnily enough when its just me and a lady I find my batteries take longer to recharge but when its a couple its usually a very quick turn around time, gotta put it down to mfm being a big fantasy of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone with a Roman sounding name is a dead cert I'm told

Yes - whatever happened to Biggus Dickus????

he wan off with wodger

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What makes a good meet is when the guy is totally into the wife - lots of kissing , passion and real lust - works every time

Except when the couple have too many rules:

Cant kiss the lady

The lady must not lose eye contact with her husband

He has to inspect every moment/position at "Attenborough" close range

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Lol we know what you mean - you get that with couples too !

We are totally not like that - no rules rules !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you think makes a good single male swinger?"

In an MMF situation with a couple, a couple who fully understand the dynamic of the situation into which they are inviting the single guy, and ones who do not think they are 'doing the guy a favour'....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think social meet to break the ice and chat openly is beneficial, with the objective to have fun same time,if all comfortable.

A little discretion goes a long way too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If truth be told, we're all doing each other a favour

The single male should understand that he is a guest, and the couple, the hosts, and should all act appropriately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its the game of a single guy to make a couple comfortable...So i would suggest u guys to look for verification and talk to the guy before arranging something...x

I disagree, I think its as much the responsibility of the couple to make the single person feel comfortable...

I suspect the most successful meets are ones where the couple thinks about what everyone wants. "

Completely agree we always try to make the guy feel comfortable (let's be honest it must be a scary thing the couple have each other the single guy has no one there for support).

We feel its our job to make them feel as comfortable and special as we can and love the sensual side of things lots of kissing (single guy and miss giggles) never have any expectations and few simple ( which are more common sense than rules) obviously the porn industry has given some guys a really false impression of a mmf which tends to make for a scared man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only way you know is by trying, thankfully I passed the best and performed like a pro in mmf lol

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I've played with a few couples and never had an issue, possibly because I'm choosey and don't like rule laden meets.

If there are a few simple rules then great, I know where I stand then

One thing that can help is the lady taking the single man to play for a few minutes before the husband/partner joins in. That way he's already 'in the zone' as it where...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've played with a few couples and never had an issue, possibly because I'm choosey and don't like rule laden meets.

If there are a few simple rules then great, I know where I stand then

One thing that can help is the lady taking the single man to play for a few minutes before the husband/partner joins in. That way he's already 'in the zone' as it where...

Lol have we met? Because that always how we do ours, Paul will always leave the room for awhile ( his excuse is a cigarette and he doesn't smoke In The house) gives us time to relax slightly and get to that place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..How do you know if you will like it or comfortable with it?

This is particularly for single guys as we get a lot of messages seeking mmf..but when we used to do them it is rare for the man to be comfortable in that situation and (ahem) perform 'adequately'.

Seems like a lot like the idea of it (thanks porn industry) but not the reality.

What do you think makes a good single male swinger?"

Exactly the same thing that makes a couple good swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..How do you know if you will like it or comfortable with it?

This is particularly for single guys as we get a lot of messages seeking mmf..but when we used to do them it is rare for the man to be comfortable in that situation and (ahem) perform 'adequately'.

Seems like a lot like the idea of it (thanks porn industry) but not the reality.

What do you think makes a good single male swinger?

Exactly the same thing that makes a couple good swingers. "
What a big cock and loads of stamina ? lol

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

We have had them all too,

The ones that just want to get their nuts wet.

The ones that cannot keep it hard when wearing a condom(did not realise how many men are like that)

We are alot more choosy now and ask alot more questions.

I remember watching a program on the making of porn movies, and one producer said it is amazing the amount of guys that turn up so confident and eager to star in the movie when in reality they just cannot do it when other people are around, cannot get it up, cannot keep it up.

So I guess its the same with this, every guy loves to think they can be the best thing since sliced bread but in reality they just cannot perform in front of others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..How do you know if you will like it or comfortable with it?

This is particularly for single guys as we get a lot of messages seeking mmf..but when we used to do them it is rare for the man to be comfortable in that situation and (ahem) perform 'adequately'.

Seems like a lot like the idea of it (thanks porn industry) but not the reality.

What do you think makes a good single male swinger?"

I'm afraid i dont really know where ur coming from(speaking as a single and having fab relationships)-a man is a man, regardless of whether he is in a relationship.Just in the way a woman might not perform very well with others, single or attached.

The male half if swinging should be able to perform with a condom if he is fucking someone else, just as a single should.He should feel comfortable being around other men, if he is having sex and its group based.

What i do hate is the director hubby(who isnt even playing)dictating how 'we' should perform-or rating 'our' performance.

if its not so much about sex(the thread), well single guys should respect the boundaries and never try pestering the fem half to do anything without hubbys consent.Its also not the first time I've heard of male halves doing this though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having read the comments above I believe to have a truly successful mmf there are a number of factors that need to be right-

1, All parties should be happy to what's about to take place...on a few occasions I've felt that the female partner or the male partner wasn't 100% happy with the situation and was going along with it just to keep the other happy.

2, Some sort of social interaction has got to take place before the fun begins, there is nothing worse than jumping straight into playing without having chatted and get to know each other first.

3, Having an idea of, for want of a better expression the "rules" I guess this is where having had some kind of chat to find out what is wanted/expected and what is not, there is nothing worse than in the midst of fun that you do something that the other participants detest!!

For me the most successful mmfs have been a win-win-win, with everyone getting from it what they wanted and as a number of people have said what is right in one situation is not necessarily right in another.

It's funny but when I first started swinging I was not interested in meeting up with couples at all, in fact I thought it was a bit odd that a husband/partner would want to see his Wife/partner with another man............but when it's done right I can honestly say nothing beats it, to see a woman with a great big smile on her face while being at the centre of attention is mind blowing!!!

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By *efreeMan
over a year ago

North Staffs

"Just to say we really only meet single men and never experienced this problem.

The guys have always said how comfortable an at ease we have made them feel.

So I think it also depends on the couple.

Well we aren't scary. Honest. But we still remember:

1) Mr Floppy. Seen this with couples as well.

2) Mr Premature. Somebody was far too excited!"

Used to swing with my ex, how about Mr I can't cum! Had that a few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having read the comments above I believe to have a truly successful mmf there are a number of factors that need to be right-

2, Some sort of social interaction has got to take place before the fun begins, there is nothing worse than jumping straight into playing without having chatted and get to know each other first.

I mean seriously..whats wrong with picking ur nose then fingering???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having read the comments above I believe to have a truly successful mmf there are a number of factors that need to be right-

2, Some sort of social interaction has got to take place before the fun begins, there is nothing worse than jumping straight into playing without having chatted and get to know each other first.

I mean seriously..whats wrong with picking ur nose then fingering???"

I'm glad I've not ventured north of the border!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most "single" guys are married and just want panda sex as they are limited on time.

A true MFM fun filled play time could last a few hours if not all night! That is my experience!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most "single" guys are married and just want panda sex as they are limited on time.

A true MFM fun filled play time could last a few hours if not all night! That is my experience!"

"I'm not married...its just I have to get home and join my COD clan tournie..honest"

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By *hangovCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

What is panda sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is panda sex?"

eats shoots and leaves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is panda sex?"

Idve came in my pants before arriving if i got offered it from U's!!!!!!!

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By *hangovCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

Lol thanks Keen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what the OP means.

When a guy meets a couple he is meeting the two of them, a completely different dynamic than having a single woman on her own. The guy will have to accept that the female is going to have a far closer bond and attraction to her partner than she will with him.

Some guys will message couples because they like the look of the female and think they can handle it and disregard the fact that another man will be there. When they meet the couple and they are faced with another male, there also to join in a threesome and ensure his partner is safe and well, it can be daunting at times.

A lot of single men have the mentality that the woman doesn't fancy her partner and wants another man to satisfy her. I can honestly say that no other man has ever come close to completely satisfying me than my OH because a stranger will always be missing a vital element.

A lot of people get offended by the term 'plaything for couples' but when a man or a woman joins a couple, they are in effect this. Obviously its a three way thing and all should be happy with the actions they partake in. I'm happy to be termed a plaything because that is all ill ever be to swinging guys. I won't call them darling, I won't text them at all, they won't ever get my number, they get Chris's for a contact number, there will be no saucy or romantic texts from me, I don't want anyone to buy me a present, I don't agree with all that.

Some men find this dynamic unusual, think they can handle it but can't. I'd say men can handle it better than women, which is why I imagine a lot of single straight women won't meet couples because the female of that couple is going to be a powerful driving force to what goes on.

So I agree with the OP, not every guy can handle playing with a couple and may exhibit physical symptoms regardless of how comfortable a couple try and make him, because its a whole new mindset and not to be entered into because guys think couples are more accessible than single women

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By *igger2012Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

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By *aulusMan
over a year ago

Chester

"Just to say we really only meet single men and never experienced this problem.

The guys have always said how comfortable an at ease we have made them feel.

So I think it also depends on the couple.

Well we aren't scary. Honest. But we still remember:

1) Mr Floppy. Seen this with couples as well.

2) Mr Premature. Somebody was far too excited!"

I've been both No1 & No.2 on occasion, but I've also been the opposite on many other occasions!

Just depends on the day and the mix of people I guess. Although ther eis nothing worse than coming away thinking how poor you were - never had too many visits when its been like that!!

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