FabSwingers.com forum: Verification

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey guys quick question

How do single males get given the opportunity to have a genuine chat on here gain some respect when your try your hardest not to upset someoene.

I mean the genuine females or couples ask for verification but yet they started out where I am at one point and now turn their noses up.

Rant over haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey guys quick question

How do single males get given the opportunity to have a genuine chat on here gain some respect when your try your hardest not to upset someoene.

I mean the genuine females or couples ask for verification but yet they started out where I am at one point and now turn their noses up.

Rant over haha "

Go to a club and meet people.

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

Go to a social

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks with me being a single dad at the minute this is hard to come by however it’s just having the guts to go by myself that’s the problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your reply even then I’ve asked for a social in a message obvious explaining first we should chat on here but zilch haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks with me being a single dad at the minute this is hard to come by however it’s just having the guts to go by myself that’s the problem "

The only way to get over that hurdle is to just go and break through that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve been on here a very long time…. It surprises me you’ve not had a meet yet

Why not try the chat rooms

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I have but tonigt is the first time I have logged in for say I think 9 months if I can work it out haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for your reply even then I’ve asked for a social in a message obvious explaining first we should chat on here but zilch haha "

There are organised socials, they tend to limit single guys, but that's a good way to meet a bunch of people, socialise and maybe get a veri or two.

Hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Might be a get proper pissed on a night out and go home early to mates but make my way to one

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By *rincess1988Woman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

Your profile literally says “always happy to go to a club”. I guess you’ll have to muster up the courage to go. Or try to get a webcam verification.

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

You’ll be fine at a club. Just go with zero expectations, and have a little friendly chitty chatty with likeminded people. You could come out of it with a few veri’s and some contact in the future, and if you are very lucky maybe something else, but be realistic is my best advice.

Or keep at the current approach and bang your head on a brick wall for many months or more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might be a get proper pissed on a night out and go home early to mates but make my way to one "

Probably not the best idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think it's only the fact that your profile is over a year old and has no veris that would make some wary, not if you were a newbie with none asking for a social or meet.

Offer to video call any interested parties maybe?

Veris also help when you don't have many public pics to go by.

Just keep chatting and asking for socials?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Many people meet those who are not verified. They are also no guarantee of any perceived potential changes to your results.

Having realistic expectations here is essential. Single men also benefit from using all of the tools available to help them, if they are committed to being active successful swingers.

There's a wealth of advice in the forum helping single men, including how to get verified via clubs, socials etc. People are very supportive to those who show a positive outlook and why want to help themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might be a get proper pissed on a night out and go home early to mates but make my way to one

Probably not the best idea.

A terrible idea and any decent club or organized group social event wouldn't let him in.

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By *erncoupleCouple
over a year ago

newquay

The main thing when messaging a couple or woman for the first time is to make sure you have read their profile and you are what they are looking for. We get lots of copy and paste messages and lots from guys who haven’t read our profile.

Then tailor your message to them.

Also the more detail you have on your own profile will help as once they’ve read your message, they’ll check out your profile.

Hope this helps.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I've never been to an organised social. Just having a decent profile and pics, and writing respectful, tailored messages goes a long way. Being active on the forum doesn't hurt either

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile literally says “always happy to go to a club”. I guess you’ll have to muster up the courage to go. Or try to get a webcam verification."

Yea it does because I know about them and is be happy to go just not on my own but I will soon I think

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Your profile literally says “always happy to go to a club”. I guess you’ll have to muster up the courage to go. Or try to get a webcam verification.

Yea it does because I know about them and is be happy to go just not on my own but I will soon I think "

Hi op

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile literally says “always happy to go to a club”. I guess you’ll have to muster up the courage to go. Or try to get a webcam verification.

Yea it does because I know about them and is be happy to go just not on my own but I will soon I think

Hi op

Cheers bud I figured as you posted haha nice one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would meet an unverified man. We absolutely would. We are a couple, we don’t need anyone else’s opinions and seeing some of the drivel that is written on veris and knowing what we know about the lifestyle and how it works we would rather just decide for ourselves. If we don’t like someone or the three of us don’t click then TTFN.

But, here’s the thing - we 100% wouldn’t meet an unverified man where the profile doesn’t jump out at us. You need more pics on your profile. Good ones. Some clothed to give a bit of insight into your kind of vibe because frankly dick pics are ten a’ penny on here and get boring. You also need to write something different about yourself. Your profile really doesn’t a) intrigue us or b) make us laugh or c) feel like a breath of fresh air … this, with a few other secret sprinkles is the magic formula for us.

The definition of madness is to keep doing the same thing and expect a different outcome so I might be speaking out of turn, and maybe you do post different pics and give a bit more away about yourself but I think you need to mix it up a bit. Do some research into what other men write on their profiles and see what the ones WITH veris have to say and show the wonderful world (!!) of Fab!

And good luck … it’s a big old pond.

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