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The term Bull/Alpha give anyone else the ick?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So cringey I don't know how any male can call themselves a bull

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t how someone wants to “title” themselves down to them.

One thing I was always taught is never kink shame

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Neither of us like either or the Stag one but each to their own.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

kink shaming not cool its ok to disagree but not ok to slag off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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So cringey I don't know how any male can call themselves a bull "

We agree it is cringy when it's a guy doing the self titled bull thing...

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Doesn't give me the ick but like so many other things it's often the case that people calling themselves an alpha obviously aren't.

Just like having to repeatedly tell others you are nice or genuine is usually a sign that you must be portraying a different image if you feel the need to reinforce how nice you really are.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


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So cringey I don't know how any male can call themselves a bull

We agree it is cringy when it's a guy doing the self titled bull thing...

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Who else would give him the title? Are hotwives, subs, Dommes etc given their titles by someone else?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I see it as a way of identifying what they are here for.

Couples ask for bulls, so men use the word.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

A bull comes in, asserts dominance / shows his Alpha-ness, fucks and goes

That's a role some guys enjoy. And some couples want that too.

I could play the role, but it's not what I'm looking for.

But different strokes for different folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So cringey I don't know how any male can call themselves a bull

We agree it is cringy when it's a guy doing the self titled bull thing...

Who else would give him the title? Are hotwives, subs, Dommes etc given their titles by someone else?

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I'm talking about guys on here who have clearly never been involved in swinging before...they stand out like a sore thumb.... there are mnay of them yes!!

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I see it as a way of identifying what they are here for.

Couples ask for bulls, so men use the word.

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Yep agree, it’s mainly couples that use and generate the term. Another thing being dumped on single guys by the holy and righteous on here !

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I see it as a way of identifying what they are here for.

Couples ask for bulls, so men use the word.

Yep agree, it’s mainly couples that use and generate the term. Another thing being dumped on single guys by the holy and righteous on here ! "

Just another day in Fab mate, own it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn’t how someone wants to “title” themselves down to them.

One thing I was always taught is never kink shame "

Love that

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

bulls / doms (of all types) are not well liked on fab even from us looking for them its not that they are not liked its because they are so hard to find for every 1000 bulls /doms on fab only one will fit the tag ...its the same with every tag / kink everyones an expert if they think it leads to a shag

we now just look for assertive guys as it seems to get better results

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I don’t like titles

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

It gives me the ick. Reminds me of those farm documentaries where some poor vet turns up to wank off a big heaving bovine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always been out of by the term as it has connotations (for us) of big, arrogant guys pounding away relentlessly, and also is too closely associated with cuckholding (which is also not us).

Recent events have made us question this though. Pumpkin arranged a meet with a guy in a hotel this weekend. Building up to it he has been texting us both individually saying what he’s going to etc adding to the build up. They met, had drinks, and he sent Badger pics and vids during the meet, and she arrived home thoroughly used and satisfied, to a very eager husband wanting his turn. He gave her it exactly how she wanted.

This was exactly what we were looking for, but we usually dismiss a lot of guys claiming to be bulls, yet he could certainly by considered one.

Has made us think twice about deleting their messages.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset


"A bull comes in, asserts dominance / shows his Alpha-ness, fucks and goes

That's a role some guys enjoy. And some couples want that too.

I could play the role, but it's not what I'm looking for.

But different strokes for different folks "

not everyone is role play i avoid anyone who even use the word role play for alot of us swinging and our sex life is real life not fantasy or role play the are real assertive guys out there as i like to call them not many but it the same with anything you have to sort the wheat from the chaff ... take alot of work to avoid the pretenders / fantasist ..

but on the other side of the coin there are plenty who want and love fantasy nothing wrong with that at all just we are all different ...i and hubs have never seen anything as fantasy its alway been let get out there and do it enjoy it and if we really like lets get more ...alot more

never assume ...

#justmyopinion

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By *inx and NymphCouple
over a year ago

bristol

No ick here; quite the opposite

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By *arried BifemWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the midlands

I quite like it as it identifies men I have no desire meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the term alpha as I was a psychology student, who has spent many hours since arguing with laymen regarding Schenkel’s theory, later echoed by Mech and then rescinded.

For the same reason, I hate it when people use the term ‘negative reinforcement’ because most don’t have a clue what it actually means.

Feel free to call yourselves a bull, but I’m no matador

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely hate the term personally!

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