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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When someone winks and we view their profile it seems somehow hard not to respond in some way.

We never wink ourselves but we imagine if we did and they looked at our profile we’d feel a little discarded perhaps.

We sometimes send a polite no thanks and some compliment in the hope that it softens the rejection a little.

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By *unnyone32Man
over a year ago

london

Fab profile !

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I often send a brief message thanking for the wink and if they’d like to follow up with a chat. Often to no avail. It could just be a way of saying they just like my profile I suppose; perhaps I shouldn’t lead with a face pic in future

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

If someone winks at me I look at their profile maybe read it and fab a picture or two I like. That's enough of a thanks to me, but may message them if the profile is of interest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I often send a brief message thanking for the wink and if they’d like to follow up with a chat. Often to no avail. It could just be a way of saying they just like my profile I suppose; perhaps I shouldn’t lead with a face pic in future "

Ooh yeah.

Establish a bit of trust before the face pic I’d say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fab profile !"

Thank you.

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

I usually respond to a wink, with a wink....if the mutual interest is there of course. Hoping it lets them know I'm interested also and that they may initiate a conversation

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I often send a brief message thanking for the wink and if they’d like to follow up with a chat. Often to no avail. It could just be a way of saying they just like my profile I suppose; perhaps I shouldn’t lead with a face pic in future

Ooh yeah.

Establish a bit of trust before the face pic I’d say. "

I like to get the inevitable disappointment out of the way early

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"When someone winks and we view their profile it seems somehow hard not to respond in some way.

We never wink ourselves but we imagine if we did and they looked at our profile we’d feel a little discarded perhaps.

We sometimes send a polite no thanks and some compliment in the hope that it softens the rejection a little. "

A polite no thanks generally hardens the rejection unfortunately!

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By *rangarCouple
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

We get a few winks…and I like to maybe fab a pic or two in return and message if they look interesting to us….but so often there aren’t pics fab or messages then go unanswered.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

Thats route I go down aswell wink back and thanking them for the wink see where it goes from there

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"I usually respond to a wink, with a wink....if the mutual interest is there of course. Hoping it lets them know I'm interested also and that they may initiate a conversation "

Same here. Whoever sends the first wink sends the first message In reality, basically nobody follows up their wink if we reciprocate though

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at winks to be honest

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By *isFabMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I do use winks, I understand the amount of mail couples and women get on here and don't wish to add to it, I have a said on my profile why I use winks, if whoever I wink looks at my profile and winks back I'll send a message,

If I receive an initial wink from someone I will reply even if it's just to say thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone winks and we view their profile it seems somehow hard not to respond in some way.

We never wink ourselves but we imagine if we did and they looked at our profile we’d feel a little discarded perhaps.

We sometimes send a polite no thanks and some compliment in the hope that it softens the rejection a little.

A polite no thanks generally hardens the rejection unfortunately!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I often send a brief message thanking for the wink and if they’d like to follow up with a chat. Often to no avail. It could just be a way of saying they just like my profile I suppose; perhaps I shouldn’t lead with a face pic in future

Ooh yeah.

Establish a bit of trust before the face pic I’d say.

I like to get the inevitable disappointment out of the way early "

Aww mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When someone winks and we view their profile it seems somehow hard not to respond in some way.

We never wink ourselves but we imagine if we did and they looked at our profile we’d feel a little discarded perhaps.

We sometimes send a polite no thanks and some compliment in the hope that it softens the rejection a little.

A polite no thanks generally hardens the rejection unfortunately!"

Really?

Is that how you actually feel.

We’d hate to make things worse.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

We love a good wink, can never understand why people don’t find them useful - to us its a little nod of interest, we like the pics & bio but don’t want the rejection of an instantly deleted message.

So we wink… if we get one back then we’ll send something more.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

If someone winks at me I send them a photo of my flaccid penis, that’s how it works right?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I just wink back if i am interested in at least exchanging a message to see if compatible

Though I find half of the winks I reply back with never get a message back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just wink back if i am interested in at least exchanging a message to see if compatible

Though I find half of the winks I reply back with never get a message back "

Assume you didn't like our wink lol real shame for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just wink back if i am interested in at least exchanging a message to see if compatible

Though I find half of the winks I reply back with never get a message back "

Assume you didn't like our wink lol real shame for us.

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We have been on here a few months and still trying to work out how some of the site works. We look at lots of profiles and have even sent received some messages. Still unsure how Winks work did discover you can’t add quote ti a wink also reading some profiles we worked out some people don’t like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we get a wink from a couple we will always reply with a wink or message.

I have to grovel here and say we do get lots of winks from single men and ignore most of them. Sorry.

A good message is something we always answer unless it comes with a cock shot. They go in the sin bin.

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By *arah_tv999TV/TS
over a year ago

Oxford

I wink for a variety of reasons. Sometimes its a sign that I have seen something that stirs my interest but the profile contains insufficient information for me to make a comment. Other times, its to a friend to show that I'm still around, but haven't been active for a while on here for various reasons. On occasion , I wink where the profile seems confusing or contradictory and the wink is a signal to invite a response, should the other party feel so inclined.

If I receive a wink, I always check out the profile. Sometimes I apply the above criteria, other times I reply as I've seen enough to interest me to start a conversation. But sometimes, there is nothing there at all, i.e. no pictures and no text, so those I ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually respond to a wink, with a wink....if the mutual interest is there of course. Hoping it lets them know I'm interested also and that they may initiate a conversation "

Yes, we do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like the wink method.

If we wink and a wink is returned we'll then send a message.

If we receive a wink we'll have a peek at the profile and wink back if we think that we could be a good match.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP out of interest how many winks have you received since your post?

To me winks are subtle hellos, a way to show interest or just show appreciation for the profile.

Not gonna lie OP one of the winks is from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I mean? I ignore winks

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"I just wink back if i am interested in at least exchanging a message to see if compatible

Though I find half of the winks I reply back with never get a message back

Assume you didn't like our wink lol real shame for us."

Have to bear with me regarding winks. I have a silly long list of winks

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

A wink is just a way of saying ‘I like the look of you, have a look at me’

We’ll look at winks but will only wink back or reply to profiles that we like.

No one knows that their wink has been looked at or not unless responded to, so I wouldn’t worry about it.

K

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP out of interest how many winks have you received since your post?

To me winks are subtle hellos, a way to show interest or just show appreciation for the profile.

Not gonna lie OP one of the winks is from me "

We generally receive quite a few throughout a day and they are welcome of course but our post is in regard to perceived etiquette.

We don’t feel at all guilty ignoring those profiles with only cock pictures.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

If we like them we’ll message back or wink, if they’re not for us then we just say no thanks

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

If someone winks me I do tend to view their profile and wink them back if I like what I see

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria


"I usually respond to a wink, with a wink....if the mutual interest is there of course. Hoping it lets them know I'm interested also and that they may initiate a conversation

Same here. Whoever sends the first wink sends the first message In reality, basically nobody follows up their wink if we reciprocate though

LvM"

I must admit, it is quite a common one that there is nothing beyond the wink itself, it's very rare anyone follows it up by messaging me

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I like a wink, if someone winks we wink back I'd expect a message and vice versa.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always acknowledge a wink out of politeness, it's nice to get them

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

A wink i simply that, a wink. If a person that winks at me doesn’t follow through with a message that overtly indicates interest, then nothing happens.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I wink back and message them; I don't get many so not that hard for me to engage with everyone connecting with me in this way

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