FabSwingers.com forum: Do unicorns actually exist?

By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

We've been trying to find a female to join us since we joined and wow, it's a frustrating quest.

Seems to be an awful lot of time wasters/attention seekers that spend ages chatting only to disappear.

So annoying when you get so little free time, arrange childcare and then poof, they vanish.

I wonder if it's worth chasing on here and try and meet someone at a club.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I think it's always better to meet people at clubs. You know they're not just fantasists and at least exist offline that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes clubs are always the way. Try a couples and single female night. Most clubs will have those nights.

Other nights single women usually just go off with the single men and don't play with couples that often. Well that's what we see anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As many others will tell you, you’re looking for the most sort after thing on Fab, a single woman wanting to join a couple.

Most of these women will want to meet with fully bisexual others, not those dipping their toes and wanting to explore. There’s huge potential for these encounters to go wrong if the female part of the couple decides it’s not for her halfway through the meet, I’ve personally witnessed this.

Not suggesting this would happen with you both but it’s certainly part of why women are wary of who they will meet x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We've met some lovely ladies, although we don't actively seek sex, we are more social, if things develop then that's great. We prefer to make friends and see if there's a connection, I wouldn't want a woman to think she's joining us just to fulfil a fantasy but joining us for mutual pleasure, her as much as us.

As a woman I'd be put off by being referred to as a "unicorn" or to just fulfil someone else's fantasy, that's just me though.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

While I fully appreciate that you have to start somewhere I only meet experienced couples where the female is bisexual and not bi-curious.

My reasoning for this is that in my personal experience so many couples seek a female third in order to satisfy the fantasy of the male half.

Hope you find your unicorn.

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

Ah, okay. Perhaps that's why we are finding it difficult.

Penthouse playrooms on Nye so hopefully we'll get lucky there. I'm sure it'll happen one day

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By *rish CougarWoman
over a year ago

Bray

"While I fully appreciate that you have to start somewhere I only meet experienced couples where the female is bisexual and not bi-curious.

My reasoning for this is that in my personal experience so many couples seek a female third in order to satisfy the fantasy of the male half.

Hope you find your unicorn."

Soo true

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

There are loads of bi women on here op ,but to meet a couple they'd need to get on with and find 2 people attractive ,so it's not always easy.

Added to that to most of the site want an ffm,so they have their pick of people to meet.

As someone else said try a club ,you can all see each other ftf and see if there's attraction and it's a safe environment for a single woman .

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As many others will tell you, you’re looking for the most sort after thing on Fab, a single woman wanting to join a couple.

Not suggesting this would happen with you both but it’s certainly part of why women are wary of who they will meet x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been lucky to meet a few

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I get asked all the time to be a unicorn...i think I have amazing time if I was but I really don't find women sexually attractive

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I really hope you find what you are looking for, I was lucky and found my one-in-a-million couple. You'll find yours too, hopefully the right girl reads this thread and approaches you.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

Yes, we know and play with a lot of them, both in clubs and fab. The trick is to treat them like people not a commodity with a label on them

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

It seems like the majority of couples have a female who is at least bi-curious so you're likely to get more experience just playing with couples at clubs.

I think that part of the problem is that Fab doesn't have enough categories to reflect the full straightbi spectrum.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Is it a long term thing you are looking for? A regular bi girl that could form a throuple? Or would it be enough for a couple to have Miss join you while Mr watches?

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

"Yes, we know and play with a lot of them, both in clubs and fab. The trick is to treat them like people not a commodity with a label on them

Appreciate the advice/veiled insult

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

They are like rocking horse shit lol. I hate the word unicorn tbh and reading your profile it seems it’s the female of the couple wanting to explore which would be a no from me. I like everyone to be involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going to show my ignorance of Fab terminology now...what's a unicorn?

Assuming from the comments it's a single bi female looking to meet only couples...that right?

So a single bi guy looking for the same, are they a unicorn or known as something else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Going to show my ignorance of Fab terminology now...what's a unicorn?

Assuming from the comments it's a single bi female looking to meet only couples...that right?

So a single bi guy looking for the same, are they a unicorn or known as something else?"

Single bi guys are not rare. Single bi women for couples are definitely rare. That's were the term unicorn comes from.

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

"They are like rocking horse shit lol. I hate the word unicorn tbh and reading your profile it seems it’s the female of the couple wanting to explore which would be a no from me. I like everyone to be involved"

It's definitely both us keen on the idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely both us keen on the idea!"

Couples and single female nights at a club would be your best bet.

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By *nked_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We've been very Lucky and met quite a few single female's who have not only become great play friends but also life long "vanilla " friends to.

Do agree clubs are the best way and also if you go to a organised party night at a club sometimes there's a group chat on something like kik or telegram for people who are attending and they are quite good for meeting people and getting to know them a little

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

Penthouse playrooms on New years Eve so perhaps we'll get lucky.

It's a mix between my fantasy and L's curiosity to explore. It's not the be all and end all though so if it never happens, so be it.

Thanks for all the replies. Sorry if I offended anyone with the term 'unicorn'. Thought it was an accepted term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe look for a couple where the male is happy to watch. We do this sometimes, everyone a winner xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Going to show my ignorance of Fab terminology now...what's a unicorn?

Assuming from the comments it's a single bi female looking to meet only couples...that right?

So a single bi guy looking for the same, are they a unicorn or known as something else?

Single bi guys are not rare. Single bi women for couples are definitely rare. That's were the term unicorn comes from. "

Thanks

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

It's definitely both us keen on the idea!

Couples and single female nights at a club would be your best bet.

I’d probably say this is not the case at all. I’ve been to couples and single female nights before with a friend and can say that the majority in attendance are couples.

The nights where a couple are likely to come across single women are the nights where single guys are allowed to attend

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

maybe stop the unicorn rubbish and just look for what they are ..bi women

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

"maybe stop the unicorn rubbish and just look for what they are ..bi women "

Thank you for the constructive input. X

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By *eniandMikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

We are a couple looking for a “unicorn” and in fairness just use the term as have seen it used on the forums etc.

It’s a bi woman we are after and going against some views it’s more for Jeni than myself. And it’s her fantasy to see me with another woman as well as playing girl on girl also. But I guess that kind of makes her a “unicorn” in her own right lol

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

"We are a couple looking for a “unicorn” and in fairness just use the term as have seen it used on the forums etc.

Ooh, be careful with the 'U' word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Penthouse playrooms on New years Eve so perhaps we'll get lucky.

It's a mix between my fantasy and L's curiosity to explore. It's not the be all and end all though so if it never happens, so be it.

Thanks for all the replies. Sorry if I offended anyone with the term 'unicorn'. Thought it was an accepted term.

PP is amazing and will be your best bet.

Tbh it will also take the pressure off you compared to a home meet and could lead to future fun.

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

Thanks Red. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I hate the term unicorn. No one is that fucking special.

I'm a picky bitch and i struggle finding one guy I like. Finding a guy I like and also like his wife? Near impossible.

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

"We've been trying to find a female to join us since we joined and wow, it's a frustrating quest.

Seems to be an awful lot of time wasters/attention seekers that spend ages chatting only to disappear.

So annoying when you get so little free time, arrange childcare and then poof, they vanish.

I wonder if it's worth chasing on here and try and meet someone at a club."

Maybe they..prefer to be more than just a tick fuck box and the additional conversation that you had showed them they aren't a match of what you want them for

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Unicorn but I have standards

and higher standards for couples

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

"Unicorn but I have standards

and higher standards for couples "

Good to know

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

I always find it amazing how easily people take offence on internet forums.

Maybe working in fire stations for 20 years has desensitized me, lol

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

"I always find it amazing how easily people take offence on internet forums.

Maybe working in fire stations for 20 years has desensitized me, lol"

Ive worked in a Maximum security male prison of 5000+ inmates so i feel the same.

What I see as direct and to the point other see as offensive or excluding

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By *heHotwifePairCouple
over a year ago

South

Why’s everyone getting so upset about the name ‘unicorn’ lol?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you ever see yourself being an adult and seriously asking that question?

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

Threesomes are a funny thing. We've had a few, both with friends and a failed arranged mfm. They've definitely been better with existing chemistry. For us it's one of those thing that actively trying to find the right people to join us would actually not be the right thing to do.

We're always open to it with the right people, but we're also happy to come across those right people in due course. Some things can't be rushed and this is one of them.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"Why’s everyone getting so upset about the name ‘unicorn’ lol?

no ones getting upset just say it for what it is a bi woman as thats all it is there no extra high pedestal for a so called unicorn ? your bi thats it it is what it is ... nobody is being horrible or awkward just putting it as we see it and it might acually help those looking for a bi woman to join them when they see how many dont answer to that tag

some will of course but the majority wont

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

We're relatively new to the scene and genuinely thought it was an accepted term, lol

Certainly in no rush. Just frustrating when you get a free night every few months and you get messed around.

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

"Why’s everyone getting so upset about the name ‘unicorn’ lol?

some will of course but the majority wont"

I'm not bi not bi curious and I'm a unicorn soooo

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

Well know you've gone and complicated it Penelope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only I could find that illusive couple!

It's surprising that when you agree to meet the lady of a couple, are happy for pics and videos to be taken for the male half to enjoy later but this is never good enough, they have to be there in the flesh and not wait until us girls have figured out if we have a good amount chemistry first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, we do.

I personally like the term unicorn, because unicorns are cool

Can I make a comment about your bio?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why’s everyone getting so upset about the name ‘unicorn’ lol?

some will of course but the majority wont"

Is it a pedestal, or just something that’s rare?

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

"Yes, we do.

I personally like the term unicorn, because unicorns are cool

Can I make a comment about your bio? "

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They’re definitely out there

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

We are out there and some want to be found

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

"Well know you've gone and complicated it Penelope

Lol I enjoy couples to ONLY AND MUTUALLY tease and satisfy the guy.. I like to get along with the woman and see her as the same energy as myself. She has to be confident and secure and enjoy seeing HIM Pleased because she knows she's lucky to have him daily and I'm being allowed to share him temporarily.. if I can't see that she's not well spoiled well pleased and not lacking sexually from him that's a turn off.. so for me

I want her and I to make him the centre of attention. I'm not into bi or gay men so I don't want to be involved in him being a submissive pegged etc but just him having to pussycats to devour..4 boobs two faces to kiss and us to just enjoy every inch of him... She and I are not his lesbian fantasy but his true thank you for being GREAT you deserve this..

I've been lucky that I've had a few couples with women who know they have a great partner in every way possible

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon

"We've been trying to find a female to join us since we joined and wow, it's a frustrating quest.

Seems to be an awful lot of time wasters/attention seekers that spend ages chatting only to disappear.

So annoying when you get so little free time, arrange childcare and then poof, they vanish.

I wonder if it's worth chasing on here and try and meet someone at a club."

Yes, they do exist.

I think they dislike being viewed as a "trophy" or target...not saying that's how you go about things, but just by naming them "unicorns" tends to put them in that category.

Organised socials, clubs and parties are the way to go, but don't rush 8t.

We have never played with a "unicorn"..... but we have played with loads of our FRIENDS who, as it happens, are single, bi, and female!

Network at events, make friends, and for hot couple like you, you will have no shortage of offers.

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Unicorns are not toys to be picked up and then dropped/discarded when people feel they have ticked a box.

Real people with real feelings not some mythical creature like the tag suggests.

Engage by all means with real people not fantasies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get asked all the time to be a unicorn...i think I have amazing time if I was but I really don't find women sexually attractive

Exactly how pumpkin feels

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I’m not here to help someone else’s fantasies

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I posted already on another thread but I’ll say it again. In order to try and push my boundaries I have met with a couple once, in a pub.

I couldn’t help but feeling like a piece of meat, both from female and male side. I’m not bi, not even bi curious, so it was painful.

Again, I know everyone is different and maybe I was just unlucky that night but I’m just here sharing my thoughts from a single woman perspective.

Would I do it again? Yes.

It takes the right people at the right time.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I posted already on another thread but I’ll say it again. In order to try and push my boundaries I have met with a couple once, in a pub.

I couldn’t help but feeling like a piece of meat, both from female and male side. I’m not bi, not even bi curious, so it was painful.

Again, I know everyone is different and maybe I was just unlucky that night but I’m just here sharing my thoughts from a single woman perspective.

Would I do it again? Yes.

It takes the right people at the right time."

Push your boundaries in what way?

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"I posted already on another thread but I’ll say it again. In order to try and push my boundaries I have met with a couple once, in a pub.

I couldn’t help but feeling like a piece of meat, both from female and male side. I’m not bi, not even bi curious, so it was painful.

Again, I know everyone is different and maybe I was just unlucky that night but I’m just here sharing my thoughts from a single woman perspective.

Would I do it again? Yes.

It takes the right people at the right time.

Push your boundaries in what way?"

To try FMF threesome I guess. It didn’t work out, for obvious reasons.

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By *eed.a.signalMan
over a year ago

Local

"We've been trying to find a female to join us since we joined and wow, it's a frustrating quest.

Seems to be an awful lot of time wasters/attention seekers that spend ages chatting only to disappear.

So annoying when you get so little free time, arrange childcare and then poof, they vanish.

I wonder if it's worth chasing on here and try and meet someone at a club."

Probably be better off (not guaranteed) visiting the clubs

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By *eed.a.signalMan
over a year ago

Local

"I posted already on another thread but I’ll say it again. In order to try and push my boundaries I have met with a couple once, in a pub.

I couldn’t help but feeling like a piece of meat, both from female and male side. I’m not bi, not even bi curious, so it was painful.

Again, I know everyone is different and maybe I was just unlucky that night but I’m just here sharing my thoughts from a single woman perspective.

Would I do it again? Yes.

It takes the right people at the right time."

Without some feeling there you can feel like a tick box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I’m a single bisexual female. I meet couples, women and men.

I’ve made lifelong friends here with couples who I meet socially and sexually.

Mostly because they treated me like a human and were generally interested in me as a person, and didn’t see me as a mythical creature to capture or a conquest to fulfil their sexual fantasies.

They were interested in my needs just as much.

Clubs are a good place to start if you want to make friends with ladies, but don’t expect them to see to your needs simply because they are a “unicorn”.

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

Did you just read the first post and then comment?

The biggest problem with internet forums is being totally misunderstood and people not taking the time to actually read replies. You end up having to defend yourself because someone takes it the wrong way.

Time to step away from the forum I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, we do.

I personally like the term unicorn, because unicorns are cool

Can I make a comment about your bio?

Absolutely!"

I’m not keen on the comment about it fulfilling one of Mr’s fantasies, would feel a bit like a tick box thing maybe?

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

Lol. A previous post implied it was off-putting that it looked like it was only L was keen to explore so I changed it. As the saying goes "you can't please everyone"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol. A previous post implied it was off-putting that it looked like it was only L was keen to explore so I changed it. As the saying goes "you can't please everyone"

I presume you’re replying to me? You can use reply +quote.

You’re absolutely right, you can’t please everyone, you‘ve had lots of advice, and you can choose to take some, all or none of it

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you just read the first post and then comment?

Time to step away from the forum I think."

Sometimes the most innocent post can get torn to shreds but it may have helped if L would have posted this thread.

I'm sure the reaction would have been different but I'm not sure your responses have helped matters imo

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

They do but you have to be exceptional to get any attention from them

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By *lirtyforties OP Couple
over a year ago

Horndean

"Penthouse playrooms on New years Eve so perhaps we'll get lucky.

It's a mix between my fantasy and L's curiosity to explore. It's not the be all and end all though so if it never happens, so be it.

Thanks for all the replies. Sorry if I offended anyone with the term 'unicorn'. Thought it was an accepted term.

As I previously said.

L is beyond expectational so if it never happens...f**k it.

Now, how do you delete a thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Penthouse playrooms on New years Eve so perhaps we'll get lucky.

It's a mix between my fantasy and L's curiosity to explore. It's not the be all and end all though so if it never happens, so be it.

Thanks for all the replies. Sorry if I offended anyone with the term 'unicorn'. Thought it was an accepted term.

As I previously said.

L is beyond expectational so if it never happens...f**k it.

Now, how do you delete a thread?

You aren't able to! what gets posted in the forum is set in stone... Forever

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