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Do you feel swinging has saved your relationship?

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By *ellparty123 OP   Couple
over a year ago

telford

I’m happily married and couldn’t ask for a better person to spend my life with. I know I enjoy all aspects of life, i am not gay, bi, straight.. I’m just me with no labels, I’m not new swinging ( my wife is) I have found this way of life has kept me faithful as would not conduct extra marital affairs without the other half being present and consenting.. has this helped anyone keep their relationship alive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m happily married and couldn’t ask for a better person to spend my life with. I know I enjoy all aspects of life, i am not gay, bi, straight.. I’m just me with no labels, I’m not new swinging ( my wife is) I have found this way of life has kept me faithful as would not conduct extra marital affairs without the other half being present and consenting.. has this helped anyone keep their relationship alive? "

Did you tell her that if she won't swing you will cheat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m happily married and couldn’t ask for a better person to spend my life with. I know I enjoy all aspects of life, i am not gay, bi, straight.. I’m just me with no labels, I’m not new swinging ( my wife is) I have found this way of life has kept me faithful as would not conduct extra marital affairs without the other half being present and consenting.. has this helped anyone keep their relationship alive?

Did you tell her that if she won't swing you will cheat?"

Nice loving original post. Then straight for the jugular..

"But did you emotionally control her to do what you wanted?"

Lol.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

No

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon


"I’m happily married and couldn’t ask for a better person to spend my life with. I know I enjoy all aspects of life, i am not gay, bi, straight.. I’m just me with no labels, I’m not new swinging ( my wife is) I have found this way of life has kept me faithful as would not conduct extra marital affairs without the other half being present and consenting.. has this helped anyone keep their relationship alive?

Did you tell her that if she won't swing you will cheat?"

That’s a good one! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m happily married and couldn’t ask for a better person to spend my life with. I know I enjoy all aspects of life, i am not gay, bi, straight.. I’m just me with no labels, I’m not new swinging ( my wife is) I have found this way of life has kept me faithful as would not conduct extra marital affairs without the other half being present and consenting.. has this helped anyone keep their relationship alive?

Did you tell her that if she won't swing you will cheat?

Nice loving original post. Then straight for the jugular..

"But did you emotionally control her to do what you wanted?"

Lol. "

Some couples enjoy Swinging because it adds to their relationship. They both enjoy it and the reclaim sex is amazing.

If one person says it has stopped them from cheating there will always be some level of coercion, even if not stated explicitly. If the person wants to stop swinging then they were 'warned' the other would likely cheat.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m happily married and couldn’t ask for a better person to spend my life with. I know I enjoy all aspects of life, i am not gay, bi, straight.. I’m just me with no labels, I’m not new swinging ( my wife is) I have found this way of life has kept me faithful as would not conduct extra marital affairs without the other half being present and consenting.. has this helped anyone keep their relationship alive?

Did you tell her that if she won't swing you will cheat?

Nice loving original post. Then straight for the jugular..

"But did you emotionally control her to do what you wanted?"

Lol.

Some couples enjoy Swinging because it adds to their relationship. They both enjoy it and the reclaim sex is amazing.

If one person says it has stopped them from cheating there will always be some level of coercion, even if not stated explicitly. If the person wants to stop swinging then they were 'warned' the other would likely cheat....."

Ah yeah I hadn't considered that he said he'd have cheated without it. Having always been faithful myself, that's a bit crappie.

But it's too early for me judge

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

It adds to our relationship but didn't save it ?? as if your relationship needs saving going into swinging ?? and hardly fair on the people you swing with if there's issues ?? and all about being honest with us pair .....xxx

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I’m happily married and couldn’t ask for a better person to spend my life with. I know I enjoy all aspects of life, i am not gay, bi, straight.. I’m just me with no labels, I’m not new swinging ( my wife is) I have found this way of life has kept me faithful as would not conduct extra marital affairs without the other half being present and consenting.. has this helped anyone keep their relationship alive?

Did you tell her that if she won't swing you will cheat?

Nice loving original post. Then straight for the jugular..

"But did you emotionally control her to do what you wanted?"

Lol.

Some couples enjoy Swinging because it adds to their relationship. They both enjoy it and the reclaim sex is amazing.

If one person says it has stopped them from cheating there will always be some level of coercion, even if not stated explicitly. If the person wants to stop swinging then they were 'warned' the other would likely cheat.....

Ah yeah I hadn't considered that he said he'd have cheated without it. Having always been faithful myself, that's a bit crappie.

But it's too early for me judge "
try not to judge is the best way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m happily married and couldn’t ask for a better person to spend my life with. I know I enjoy all aspects of life, i am not gay, bi, straight.. I’m just me with no labels, I’m not new swinging ( my wife is) I have found this way of life has kept me faithful as would not conduct extra marital affairs without the other half being present and consenting.. has this helped anyone keep their relationship alive?

Did you tell her that if she won't swing you will cheat?

Nice loving original post. Then straight for the jugular..

"But did you emotionally control her to do what you wanted?"

Lol.

Some couples enjoy Swinging because it adds to their relationship. They both enjoy it and the reclaim sex is amazing.

If one person says it has stopped them from cheating there will always be some level of coercion, even if not stated explicitly. If the person wants to stop swinging then they were 'warned' the other would likely cheat.....

Ah yeah I hadn't considered that he said he'd have cheated without it. Having always been faithful myself, that's a bit crappie.

But it's too early for me judge try not to judge is the best way "

Ha I don't really. Regardless of the time.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No, swinging is an extra bonus, not the be all and end all, if I thought the Mr would cheat if we weren't doing this there would be no relationship at all.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, it's just extra fun for us.

We're living while we're able and trying to explore everything together.

Not sure if swinging could save a relationship...especially if its to stop one party cheating. The damage is already there.

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By *ellparty123 OP   Couple
over a year ago

telford

This is not the case, as never have, and not interested in doing this .. cheating that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is not the case, as never have, and not interested in doing this .. cheating that is"

But your OP said that this lifestyle has stopped you be ing unfaithful? So the the interest must be there?

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By *ellparty123 OP   Couple
over a year ago

telford

Nope, not controlling just asked.. there are a lot of people on Fab who are cheating their way around, or don’t have the balls to ask the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not saved, but certainly helped. If you can have a conversation about somebody else dicking your wife, all other difficult conversations become a bit easier

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By *ellparty123 OP   Couple
over a year ago

telford

To me swinging is a choice, not a necessity.. I have spent many years without swinging. This post was just an interest to see how roper thoughts.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

I think OP's choice of words got people's backs up, there's some twisting of what he was suggesting. Of course swinging won't fix your actual relationship problems. But it will alleviate the pressures of long term sexual exclusivity, for those that feel that.

Not exactly the same as swinging but I have an open marriage and this has definitely helped it be a very long one. I don't know if it's "saved" it, but it's facilitated some stability for sure. There's no way of knowing how we'd do in a conventional marriage, we might have separated/divorced over our mismatched sex interests or I might have found a different way of coping, shutting your sexuality down or cheating seem to be the two main options. I don't think it's shady to acknowledge not everyone can cope with long term monogamy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If we were here to save our relationship it would have broken down long since because we're rubbish swingers, well I am anyway.

I'm absolutely sure it's saved some people's relationships though. I think there are men and women here as singles who would have left their partner long ago if they didn't have the release of fab. There are couples too where the added excitement of swinging has saved a relationship from the doldrums.

It can open up communication that brings people much closer together too.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

We had discussed swinging many times the whole pros and cons aspect. We both wanted to try it and see if it’s for us or not. No coercion from either party. We want to explore our own sexual boundaries but also see what pleasures we can give to others.

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

Isn't swinging just consensual cheating?

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

If you go into swinging to save yourself from cheating then the relationship in my eyes is already dead, if you are bringing swinging into a relationship to save it then I suggest the relationship is already dead. Swinging has got to be a mutual decision for it to successfully work and the relationship thrive

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By *unmidwcoupleCouple
over a year ago

leicester

We have a good strong relationship did before swinging too, got into to explore fantasies and enjoy kinky sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have both come from a previous marriage that didn't work. When we got together we really discovered what true love is, soul mates.... we both talked openly about our sexual desire but realised our love transcends sex. So, sex then becomes a fun exciting activity to be enjoyed as best as we can, it is not the basis of our love which is much much bigger than sex. Our profile is enlighten2018 because we really feel enlightend by our discovery and experiences. We enhance each other, we enjoy sharing each other with similar minds as ours. It's not about the look, size, shape colour or any other material thing that attracts us. Its the exploration of the sexual mind with others.

I believe it certainly made our relationship more fun but not swinging would not put any kind of strain on it. Not at all. For us TRUST is the most essential part of this. If you feel swinging can save a relationship then your probably in for a shock. We have seen what can happen in those circumstances and it is not very nice for anyone. Xxx

Happy swinging All G and N

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby


"If you go into swinging to save yourself from cheating then the relationship in my eyes is already dead, if you are bringing swinging into a relationship to save it then I suggest the relationship is already dead. Swinging has got to be a mutual decision for it to successfully work and the relationship thrive "

Absolutely this.

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton


"If you go into swinging to save yourself from cheating then the relationship in my eyes is already dead, if you are bringing swinging into a relationship to save it then I suggest the relationship is already dead. Swinging has got to be a mutual decision for it to successfully work and the relationship thrive

Absolutely this. "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's useful to be aware that not all relationships look the same or mirror our own. If it works or can be made to work I can't see a problem with any legal or mutually consensual way of achieving that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you go into swinging to save yourself from cheating then the relationship in my eyes is already dead, if you are bringing swinging into a relationship to save it then I suggest the relationship is already dead. Swinging has got to be a mutual decision for it to successfully work and the relationship thrive "

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

no we swing because we were already that rock solid couple who could tell each other anything open honest trust and madly in love all those things are still there 30 years later not because of swinging but because of us ... if we stopped swinging tomorrow we stop knowing our relationship is solid

weak relationships generally dopnt last with swinging its not a life style that fixes its one that will expose tho

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

No, our relationship was and is as strong as ever. Swinging/Cuckolding just enhances our sex life.

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By *ellparty123 OP   Couple
over a year ago

telford

This is it in a nutshell, thank you ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not, we have a strong relationship anyway. And Im completely devoted to her,so no i wouldnt cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a relationship is already rocky then swinging is probably going to finish it all together.

I can’t think of a worse reason to join this lifestyle.

It takes implicit trust and good communication to make it work. Two things that are highly likely to be non existent in a relationship that needs keeping alive.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Not saved but enhanced it for sure we love each other even more now

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

Nop

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