FabSwingers.com forum: Reply in the forum, people!

By *inkyfun2013 OP Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

Twice today I've posted in the forum and people have replied by pm. Unless it's genuinely personal, reply in the forum!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

North East Lincolnshire

Yeah find it a bit creepy when people message direct in reply to a forum post, especially when we’ve mentioned a scenario and they carry it on and/or if they’ve not even commented on the post

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I wonder how much of these can be attributed to mistaken use of the “reply privately” button under posts.

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By *inkyfun2013 OP Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

Thanks to the one guy who replied privately to this thread. That joke has now been done.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I see it as people using it as an excuse to get in your inbox.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasn't me

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Agree ,I find it's usually creeps who want some dirty chat who sneak into your inbox from posts .

Even if the post wasn't sex related,makes me cringe.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I’m just thankful for the message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see it as people using it as an excuse to get in your inbox.

The mr "

Oldest trick in the book. Done it a few times myself

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I normally don't mind too much if this happens but I find it hilarious and hypocritical when one of the forum police does this.

Especially when they are so vocal about what others do and call them out on it while doing exactly the same.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

WHEREVER I LAY MY HAT

As a relative newcomer on the forums I am going to be unusually charitable. It took me a little while to to suss out forum characters and "etiquette" and I have been guilty of mistaking a flirty post for interest on one occasion. I'll therefore forgive one DM but if it's clear that the person isn't interested then let it go people

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

We have guys blocked so we don't have this problem

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it really so bad?

Some people don’t get any messages at all.

Seems like attention seeking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder how much of these can be attributed to mistaken use of the “reply privately” button under posts."

None, you have to click button, then type a message and then send it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, happens all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depending on the context it’s annoying sometimes.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"I wonder how much of these can be attributed to mistaken use of the “reply privately” button under posts.

None, you have to click button, then type a message and then send it. "

No really? Really sherlock? /s

No way that the same user flow as “reply with quote” would result in a mistake. The only difference being the UI a user sees based on which option they pick.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I have no issue at all with this if it relates to something personal, or we've flirted on the forums etc.

Every now and then I'll get a message and genuinely be so confused, because pal - I didn't ask on the thread and I don't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it happen the other day. The thing is, the thread it was about had been quiet for a few days. Really didn't understand why they felt the need to message me, of all people, directly.

Feels weird when that happens. Creepy

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

Always! Rude not to.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm not precious about this.

If I don't like what they have to say for themselves in the message, I just don't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I press the wrong button and accidentally attach a dick pic

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Can't stand the reply privately feature.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I do this , I don’t really care what anyone thinks but the person I’m messaging , it works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't stand the reply privately feature."

this ...i find it wierd but if theres a button there they will use it as a it ok to message ... wish admin would remove it meanwhile ill carry on blocking those who do message because of something ive posted on a open forum

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Yea it's a joke anyone should ask in the forum post if they can pm you and not just think they have a right to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree ,I find it's usually creeps who want some dirty chat who sneak into your inbox from posts .

Even if the post wasn't sex related,makes me cringe."

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

This! We posted asking for advice the other day. Had 3 responses in the forum and ten private messages! Only one of the messages was actually helpful, the others were just creepy. It's much better to just reply in the forum as it might help others in the future.

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