FabSwingers.com forum: She limits why do we have them?

By *mMrbrightside OP Man
over a year ago

wakefield

After visiting clubs and having the pleasure of meeting some really nice people I’m surprised especially with age discrimination we still have an age limit choice on fab.

Over the last couple of months after actually meeting people and not just been blinked by pics on their profiles. Iv been shocked at some stunning peoples figures and their ages (people that i previously would have discounted because I thought were too old)

age is just a number

Profile pics can be deceiving, good and bad

People that have age range 30 to 45 are missing out

We don’t have the ability to search by body type so why age

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Did you mess up your title as we don't know what she limits are lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you like to search by body type op?

Which would you prefer if you could only search for people on here by either of those two choices. Age or body type?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

People that have age range 30 to 45 are missing out

What about 46+ ?

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By *mMrbrightside OP Man
over a year ago

wakefield

"Did you mess up your title as we don't know what she limits are lol"

Should have been age limits but damn auto correct kicked in and I didn’t see it and can’t edit it Doh!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I like being able to search by age. Nobody is missing out by not meeting me

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By *mMrbrightside OP Man
over a year ago

wakefield

People that have age range 30 to 45 are missing out

What about 46+ ?"

Yep exactly lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Because I want those filters

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By *oinerbillMan
over a year ago

warrington

My She limit is 6, never meet more than 6 ladies in one day

On a serious note age limits are useful thing i feel, cant see the harm in them In one way it stops ladies / couples getting loads of mails from people they wouldnt meet

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

I never understand when people have 18 to 99 as an age filter? Any 99 year old on here?

Some people have age filters because they have adult children and don’t want to knowingly meet someone the same age or younger than their children.

We’re all entitled to our preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some people aren’t attracted to people over a certain age…

I’m sure if some found you attractive, a year or a two out of their age range might be some give or take. But generally you set your age range because you have a preference.

Not sure why anyone would leave it at 18-99.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Some people have age filters because they have adult children and don’t want to knowingly meet someone the same age or younger than their children.

And also I don't want to meet someone old enough to be my dad

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No one is missing out on anything if they don't want to fuck someone for whatever reason .

I have age filters on for two reasons one to cut down on messages. I found when I was first on that most of the abusive messages I got were from people outside my age filters especially on the lower end of them. So I upped my age filters and abusive messages have virtually stopped now. Two I prefer people around my own age and if I see someone outside of those that I've set on here I can and have sent a first message anyhow.

The whole age is just a number is a line that people use to try and persuade others that they are being ageist usually and almost as though they are trying to guilt them into dropping or raising theirs. It is usually said by men on here or couples where one is in their late 40s upwards. Because they want to meet others who have them filtered out. It would be easier to concentrate on those who's preferences you fall within than to concentrate on those who exclude you.

And while yes in clubs and real life age might not be the first thing asked or even asked at all but I know I personally prefer men closer to my own age and anyone young enough to look like they could have been my son or old enough to look like they would be old enough to be my father I still would avoid.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

"Because some people aren’t attracted to people over a certain age…

I’m sure if some found you attractive, a year or a two out of their age range might be some give or take. But generally you set your age range because you have a preference.

Not sure why anyone would leave it at 18-99."

Ours has been left at 18-99 because age is of no preference to us, it depends on the person

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I have no filters but not particularly interested in the older man. They just never ever appealed to me in any way.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I had an 18 year old beg me to meet him. That also felt really wrong. So age does matter to certain extent

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Age does matter to some and not others, personally I don't want to meet anyone young enough to be my child or old enough to be my mother, I mean there's some exceptions to the age range if we've stuff in common, I can safely say I doubt I could hold a conversation or find an 18yo sexually attractive it feels wrong.

Mrs

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

If people aren't attracted to people of a certain age it isn't discrimination.

Ours is set to a rough guideline and we would potentially play with people outside of it depending on the person.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Because alot us don't want to be meeting younger people who are close in age to our children. And under 25s haven't fully matured.

I also don't want to meet people that much older than me for various reasons...

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By *ady GoodwitchWoman
over a year ago

Witchery wish lane

Age is just a number, and I get passed by just because of my age (but been told many times I don't look it lol)we not all wrinkles

but I do have a younger age limit lol as I don't think I could be with someone my grandsons age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you like to search by body type op?

Which would you prefer if you could only search for people on here by either of those two choices. Age or body type? "

You know what I’d like? Body type definitions! For example “athletic: defined muscularity, body fat below xyz, complete regular excercise or sports”.

Something like that so that people know which body type to select on their profile.

I’m starting to get annoyed by catfish profile details.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I think it's fairly obvious that meeting people in a club people are potentially likely to be far more fluid with their preferences than online because face to face chemistry is arguably the biggest factor

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"Would you like to search by body type op?

Which would you prefer if you could only search for people on here by either of those two choices. Age or body type?

You know what I’d like? Body type definitions! For example “athletic: defined muscularity, body fat below xyz, complete regular excercise or sports”.

Something like that so that people know which body type to select on their profile.

I’m starting to get annoyed by catfish profile details. "

The flaw in that suggestion is that my marathon runners physique ticks all those boxes while being very different to someone gymfit?

The descriptions are always going to be subjective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people have age filters because they have adult children and don’t want to knowingly meet someone the same age or younger than their children.

And also I don't want to meet someone old enough to be my dad"

How can some folk not understand that many of us simply don't find people old enough to be our parents and in some cases grandparents attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you like to search by body type op?

Which would you prefer if you could only search for people on here by either of those two choices. Age or body type?

You know what I’d like? Body type definitions! For example “athletic: defined muscularity, body fat below xyz, complete regular excercise or sports”.

Something like that so that people know which body type to select on their profile.

I’m starting to get annoyed by catfish profile details.

The flaw in that suggestion is that my marathon runners physique ticks all those boxes while being very different to someone gymfit?

The descriptions are always going to be subjective"

Someone better than me could write the descriptions. It removes a lot of the subjectivity.

I’ve seen so many “athletic” or “average” when the person is quite clearly obese. It would be much easier to call them out on their intentionally catfishing if there was a clear definition.

I know it’s a controversial subject but it’s one that annoys me. I’m always getting blank profiles messaging me and when they eventually send a photo they are not as described at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't discrimination though. My body isn't a public space and I am entitled to exclude people based on whatever criteria I personally choose.

I don't want to sleep with people old enough to be my dad. And I'm not attracted to people younger than me.

Just because you choose age isn't a number doesn't mean that should apply to others.

If you identify as a straight man, then surely a dick is just a body part.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

i think its a simple question to answer really .. we have age range because we do lol thats it of course those outside peoples ranges that they like will moan but its there for a reason ..

my age range is 30 to 60 but because i know there will be some exception ive gone a little higer and lower to cover ..

as for not asking age in clubs well i think thats generally people know roughtly how old people are (tho there will be exceptions

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

You can search for 81 years of an age difference.

OP would you have sex with a 99 year old? That's why we can search with age.

With body sizes what is medium to you could be slim to someone else and what is medium could be fuller figure to another.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"After visiting clubs and having the pleasure of meeting some really nice people I’m surprised especially with age discrimination we still have an age limit choice on fab.

age is just a number

Profile pics can be deceiving, good and bad

People that have age range 30 to 45 are missing out

We don’t have the ability to search by body type so why age"

No I'm not. If I see someone over 45 I'm interested in I'll message them. No point in getting hundreds of messages from 30s and 45s if you're not interested in them.

Age is definitely not just a number. I look and move nothing like I did when I was 30 and i wouldn't expect any man to fuck me who isn't into 57 year olds.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"Would you like to search by body type op?

Which would you prefer if you could only search for people on here by either of those two choices. Age or body type?

You know what I’d like? Body type definitions! For example “athletic: defined muscularity, body fat below xyz, complete regular excercise or sports”.

Something like that so that people know which body type to select on their profile.

I’m starting to get annoyed by catfish profile details.

The flaw in that suggestion is that my marathon runners physique ticks all those boxes while being very different to someone gymfit?

The descriptions are always going to be subjective

Someone better than me could write the descriptions. It removes a lot of the subjectivity.

I’ve seen so many “athletic” or “average” when the person is quite clearly obese. It would be much easier to call them out on their intentionally catfishing if there was a clear definition.

I know it’s a controversial subject but it’s one that annoys me. I’m always getting blank profiles messaging me and when they eventually send a photo they are not as described at all"

Do yiu think descriptions would stop people ticking the box they think describes them and somehow make them tick the box you think is appropriate?

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"It isn't discrimination though. My body isn't a public space and I am entitled to exclude people based on whatever criteria I personally choose.

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Hallelujah Sister!!

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

I don't want to fuck people who are old enough to be my parents...

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By *thletic_cuckMan
over a year ago

Here and there

What I find funny on FAB is the amount of women that say they are only looking for tall or muscley, fit and handsome men, but if a man mentions anything about he only meets a certain body type he gets reported

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my thoughts…18-99 is kinda pointless..the “age is just a number “ debate goes out the window when looking at someone’s verifications and they tend to be meets with people in a fairly similar age range…

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm not missing out on anything. I couldn't care less how someone looks or acts if they are outside my chosen age preferences.

I'm not attracted to women the same age as my daughters so I will continue to be ageist and not feel even slightly guilty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, by your argument OP, does the fact that I am only attracted to women mean that I am sexually discriminating against men?

This isn't a job application or a public service

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

So fed up of the 'age is just a number' argument. Limits are whatever we choose them to be. Having someone telling us that our limits are wrong is frankly tiresome and insulting.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

people like what they like ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After visiting clubs and having the pleasure of meeting some really nice people I’m surprised especially with age discrimination we still have an age limit choice on fab.

age is just a number

Profile pics can be deceiving, good and bad

People that have age range 30 to 45 are missing out

We don’t have the ability to search by body type so why age"

How does age discrimination come into it? Are you paying for a service?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So fed up of the 'age is just a number' argument. Limits are whatever we choose them to be. Having someone telling us that our limits are wrong is frankly tiresome and insulting."

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