FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies mailing men

By *ay40x OP Man
over a year ago

Bromley

Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?"

I wink

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

If they don't wink back but I really want them, I might say hi or just move on

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By *ay40x OP Man
over a year ago

Bromley

"If they don't wink back but I really want them, I might say hi or just move on"

So a wink to start with, good to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only been mailed off 1-2 fems since ages, pretty appalling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?"

I have done x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?

I have done x"

That’s good to hear. I think anyone that finds a profile that appeals to them should reach out. No reason not to

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By *tirlingshire matureMan
over a year ago

falkirk

Not enough women make the first move ,I get they are fussy etc.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'd message them. I've no issue making first contact with someone if I like the look of their profile.I mean the worst that can happen is the delete the message or say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd message them. I've no issue making first contact with someone if I like the look of their profile.I mean the worst that can happen is the delete the message or say no. "

Exactly. Worse to not do anything, how will they know you liked what you saw otherwise?

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By *eterandJaneadventuresCouple
over a year ago

Sutton

We get both men and women wink, peek or message our profile. In turn we will peek at their profile, if there is a common interest we will message back. We totally appreciate there has to be some for of an appeal even before a social meet up hello.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women message men first on Fab..??

What kind of secret sorcery is this..?!?!

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By *ay40x OP Man
over a year ago

Bromley

"Women message men first on Fab..??

What kind of secret sorcery is this..?!?! "

Haha… I know, crazy right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?

I have done x

That’s good to hear. I think anyone that finds a profile that appeals to them should reach out. No reason not to

Exactly. And sometimes I’ve messaged without hubby knowing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dora has asked me to message guys on her behalf before that she likes the look of.

She goes all shy with her messaging personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?

I have done x

That’s good to hear. I think anyone that finds a profile that appeals to them should reach out. No reason not to

Exactly. And sometimes I’ve messaged without hubby knowing lol

Ooof. Steady now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dora has asked me to message guys on her behalf before that she likes the look of.

She goes all shy with her messaging personally. "

I’ve had that recently with a couple. The husband messaged to pass on his wife’s compliment. I was taken a little aback

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?"

I have messaged many men for various reasons.

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By *eeling0880Man
over a year ago

Pennines

Please! I have to manage my expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dora has asked me to message guys on her behalf before that she likes the look of.

She goes all shy with her messaging personally.

I’ve had that recently with a couple. The husband messaged to pass on his wife’s compliment. I was taken a little aback"

A nice change for you hopefully.

I do suggest that Dora can message anyone, anytime she likes but she’s still uncertain about the whole business so I guess if she sees I’m happy to message on her behalf it square things for her morally?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's 2022, equality and all that of course they should but don't have to try too hard, they are the prize after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?

I wink

I actually prefer a wink.

#not a hint.

I think for a guy (or maybe females too) it gives an opportunity to look and see their profile before you commit to opening a conversation which can sometimes mislead, if that makes sense.

I’m always disappointed if some I like messege me, and then gets talking to me and then I realise after they asked for face pics they then disappear. But I suppose that’s the nature of this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dora has asked me to message guys on her behalf before that she likes the look of.

She goes all shy with her messaging personally.

I’ve had that recently with a couple. The husband messaged to pass on his wife’s compliment. I was taken a little aback

A nice change for you hopefully.

I just think it’s great that you have a way that works for you both. If Dora like too have your support it’s not a bad thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message or wink, I'm not shy.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

If I see a profile I like I will always message as long as I/we fit into what they are looking for. Sadly nowadays I am foiled by age ranges

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?

I wink

I actually prefer a wink.

#not a hint.

I think for a guy (or maybe females too) it gives an opportunity to look and see their profile before you commit to opening a conversation which can sometimes mislead, if that makes sense.

I’m always disappointed if some I like messege me, and then gets talking to me and then I realise after they asked for face pics they then disappear. But I suppose that’s the nature of this site.

Some men offer face pics in their intro messages which saves time instead of chatting then ask face pic and don't like the face. I need like the face as much as the cock to be able to enjoy fucking him.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Not enough women make the first move ,I get they are fussy etc."

It's probably more like they don't need to as they usually get tons of messages to sift through

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By * plus SCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

Ours is a couples profile, but only I (female) use it. I have no problem messaging first if someone catches my eye or is attending a club event I’m going to x

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?"
they'll come Flocking after this you mark my words

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By *y AmoreMan
over a year ago

london

So exciting getting a message from a lady and even more so if your both close and know you fancy each other

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I love getting a message from a lady, shows she’s confident and knows what she wants.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I might get a wink every blue moon yeah mostly leads nowhere. I have never been contacted by a woman on here. It would be a nice suprise if I ever did. Wony be hopding my breath

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

I usually let Be know if there’s someone that takes my fancy and I’ll either wink or fab pics and see if there’s a reply.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

I'm happy to have been the recipient of both first messages and winks from ladies - both single and married ones - on here, and elsewhere...

....there's absolutely no reason why women shouldn't initiate contact with anyone...

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I have been known to on occasion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I like the look of you I will send you a message"

Said no woman ever! Lol.

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent

"I love getting a message from a lady, shows she’s confident and knows what she wants.

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone is waiting for me to message double check filters or green arrow me

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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago

London/ South West (Devon, Somerset).

It’s always nice to receive something that’s totally unsolicited!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

It is at the end of the day the only way you have of meeting, if a woman likes the look of you she either messages or hasn't noticed you until you messaged

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I'll send a first msg if I like the look of a profile.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

""If I like the look of you I will send you a message"

Said no woman ever! Lol."

I get messages from women all the time so dunno what you are on about

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?"

Shouldn’t this be in the fantasy forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does happen from time to time OP

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Only if they had a face pic on show, as that's what I need to be attracted to first off.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Message or wink

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

If I found a profile that sparked interest first thing I'd probably do is faint!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's how I roll. I only really message those where I've instigated it. Life is too short to sit around and wait... besides it isn't the 1950s

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I've always messaged. Nothing ventured, nothing gained x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I found a profile that sparked interest first thing I'd probably do is faint!"

Then wake up from your dream/delirium?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always messaged. Nothing ventured, nothing gained x"

We have to take a chance on the things we like

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

Wait a minute..... Women actually sometimes message first??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm lucky I get a few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?"

Yep

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By *ritishAsianMan
over a year ago

Leeds

90% women or couple’s tend to wink

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By *022YoungFunMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Yeah not many women message, or maybe I just don’t have a lot of luck lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?

I wink

Rosie does too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having an intial message or even a wink from a lady .. Rocking horse shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone takes my fancy then of course I’ll message them.

This is 2022 and I’m on a swinging site. No point in being shy

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By *issMBWoman
over a year ago

North

Yep I have no problem messaging first. Done it a lot!

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Rare event for me but hope springs eternal !

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

I’ve never been messaged by a woman first - i think it’s probably because they get nervous that i might be out of their league and bottle it…… probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep I have no problem messaging first. Done it a lot! "
go on I dare you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site bans them from doing it to save on bandwidth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We message guys if we see and read that someone maybe suitable. Doesn't always come to something, but you never can tell.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

"The site bans them from doing it to save on bandwidth "

So given this and me being out of most of their league… no wonder i never get a message!!!

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By *ooDeNimMan
over a year ago

Nuneaton, also London and Wiltshire

"I'd message them. I've no issue making first contact with someone if I like the look of their profile.I mean the worst that can happen is the delete the message or say no. "

I think any sort of gentleman would respond to your message with a polite reply, either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll let you know if it ever happens! Fingers crossed.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Never happens

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By *ooDeNimMan
over a year ago

Nuneaton, also London and Wiltshire

"I'll let you know if it ever happens! Fingers crossed. "

If what happens?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll let you know if it ever happens! Fingers crossed.

If what happens?"

If a profile sparks my interest enough to message them

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By *osh blokeMan
over a year ago

hereford

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?

I wink

I've totally just winked at you. Lol. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be lovely if it happened to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever been messaged by guys first (outside of playing forum games that is). Would actually love to get a message first it’d brighten my day up but sadly not to be.

I do love the wink system too but sadly there’s not a lot of love for that either.

Oh well just keep trying I guess

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

If someone has tickled my fancy then I will send a nice message. Why wouldn’t I?

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

All of my best encounters have come from ladies messaging me first.

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By *ooDeNimMan
over a year ago

Nuneaton, also London and Wiltshire

"I'll let you know if it ever happens! Fingers crossed.

If what happens?

If a profile sparks my interest enough to message them"

Oh I see! Got it. I was being a bit slow then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll let you know if it ever happens! Fingers crossed.

If what happens?

If a profile sparks my interest enough to message them

Oh I see! Got it. I was being a bit slow then

No worries, my comment was a bit pointless. Sometimes I just like to be involved haha

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

i message if i see someone i like ..

i know loads of women and couples who message first however most men wont see that because there is a massive amount of men

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It does happen.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I've messaged guys who's profile has interested me, I don't often send the first message sometimes I stick them on my hot list for a while first or just wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message. Carpe diem, sexy bitches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I message. Carpe diem, sexy bitches

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By *jekimMan
over a year ago

Wigan

Iv had a few messages from straight talking woman haha it's better that way but then on the other hand you get men with fake couple profiles begin for pics aswel

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

Always wink first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?

I wink

I actually prefer a wink.

#not a hint.

I think for a guy (or maybe females too) it gives an opportunity to look and see their profile before you commit to opening a conversation which can sometimes mislead, if that makes sense.

I’m always disappointed if some I like messege me, and then gets talking to me and then I realise after they asked for face pics they then disappear. But I suppose that’s the nature of this site.

It makes sense if that’s the reason why you sent the message. Face picture 1st

and then everyone knows who they are trying to engage with.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I wink and sometimes message.

The profile has to be interesting in some way though.

If there’s great photos, but text says “will fill in later” for instance, I wouldn’t bother. I have to feel that the person has made some proper effort.

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By *arcteggMan
over a year ago

grays

Any kind of message what so ever would be nice … the amount of red blooded gagging males in here is a contest I lost as soon as I turned ..hmmm 50 … maybe 40 actually

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I generally message a guy if I was interested It’s Easier for me doing it this way rather than having option for men to message me i find

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Somebody on this thread used 'Reply Privately' to send me a message which I found this morning...

....my hopes were dashed, however, when it turned out to be from a guy, who I'm fairly certain meant to message someone else...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?"

I do it regularly

J x

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I message first if someone's profile interests me and usually get a great reaction.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I would definitely send a message first, if I was actively looking (I’m not though).

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

I don't get any unless it's some kind of scammer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a lady message me first the other day, she vanished into thin air when she saw my face

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By *ack 500Man
over a year ago

stafford

Nice having a woman take charge !!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I message, but it's exceedingly rare.

All of my meets since the beginning of the pandemic have been on the basis of me sending the first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?"

I have but I find it easier to respond to a status update than just write a message based on a profile x

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

On the rare occasion I see a profile I like, I always message. Even if it's just to compliment the profile, if for example it's clear we would never meet (different interests or whatever) - I'll still send something positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?"

I'd message them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?"

I've messaged men before

If defo happens if they find someone attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messages by single ladies and couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messages from couples the other end of the country (sweet) and have had a few single lady messages too but never once in a 'you look great meow' way, always linked to something on my bio or via forum

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Dora has asked me to message guys on her behalf before that she likes the look of.

She goes all shy with her messaging personally. "

Mrs FF is exactly the same, even in aclub she iz to shy to approach anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any time we've been messaged by a woman, there's been very little content to it, so we usually don't reply.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"I'd message them. I've no issue making first contact with someone if I like the look of their profile.I mean the worst that can happen is they delete the message or say no. "

^^^ same as this

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"Ladies if you saw a males profile on here that sparks your interest would you message them or wait for them to message you?"

I would fab their pic or possibly message if local enough

otherwise no point in texting if live miles away.

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