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By *enith OP Woman
over a year ago

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I have spoken with swinger friends and vanilla friends about this on a few occasions .... I can find no reasonable explanation, but why do I think that married women cheating on their partners is worse than married men cheating?

Perhaps I'm just jealous that I never did it when I was married lol

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

I guess only you know the answer to that.

I think its no different for either, however I do think that people only cheat when there's something wrong/missing from a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's life it has happened down the generations and always will. If people did not cheat lie or any of the other bad things we do as humans we would be all perfect and boring. I'm not saying these things are right. Just it's human nature.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

This is going to sound incredibly sexist but here goes...

If a man admits to cheating then I often feel sympathy for the wife and for some reason think she was innocent... because us blokes are arseholes generally and tend to think with our dicks rather than our brains.

If a woman admits to cheating then I don't tend to have much sympathy for the husband, as I feel that a woman wouldn't have cheated without a reason and definitely not because she'd had a bit too d*unk and was using what's between her legs rather than her brain as her moral compass.

This, I should say, is despite being on the wrong end of an unfaithful wife.

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By *orkieMan
over a year ago

Who knows

Quite an interesting take on things, however until someone knows the reasons behind it, an informed choice cannot be made. Who is anyone to judge another.

As Jesus once said at a public stoning of a woman with questionable morals, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone" When a stone the size of a housebrick came from the back of the crowd, his next words were "Mother, you really piss me off at times"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess only you know the answer to that.

I think its no different for either, however I do think that people only cheat when there's something wrong/missing from a relationship.

I have to disagree with that statement, sorry. People cheat just because they can and are weak as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because he isnt very good in bed and she is bored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think men cheat on their wives because men are like stallions, its just the way they are but if a woman cheats on her hubby she probably has a very good reason to.

He just isnt good enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think men cheat on their wives because men are like stallions, its just the way they are but if a woman cheats on her hubby she probably has a very good reason to.

He just isnt good enough."

Most women surely cheat on their husbands because they are emotionally not sexually neglected?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I have a very strange angle on it.

if people cheat, that is their business not mine but I do think worse of people who are 'stay at home' and cheat whilst their partner is out working and knocking his/her pan in a job for the family income.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think men cheat on their wives because men are like stallions, its just the way they are but if a woman cheats on her hubby she probably has a very good reason to.

He just isnt good enough.

Most women surely cheat on their husbands because they are emotionally not sexually neglected?

No some women need a lot more sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

see im the other way round, there are some many guys on here playing away that when i see a woman doing it i think, good on you about time men got to know how it feels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad the OP thinks that married women cheating is worse than married men. The truth is their both as bad as each other but some women play up the victim/emotionally deprived role in order to gain sympathy once they've been caught cheating. Claims of being pushed into the arms of another man because she felt that her husband was being distant and cold.

I'm sure if a guy tried to explain that his wife's coldness pushed him away and into the arms of another woman, he'd be called a liar and a dog without hesitation because "men don't have feelings and think with their dicks"

Equality always: if he's a dog, she's a tramp!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a very strange angle on it.

Everybodies motives for being on this site will be personal and different. It is not really our business what our playmates personal circumstances are. As long as both are honest and declare if they are secretly playing away then it is up to those involved to decide whether to continue or not. It is not a dating site so members are unlikely to be looking to enter a romantic relationship with each other. Folks who join a swinging site have probably already worked out the difference between lust and love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As Jesus once said at a public stoning of a woman with questionable morals, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone" When a stone the size of a housebrick came from the back of the crowd, his next words were "Mother, you really piss me off at times"

This needs more love!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are both just as bad cheating can happen because of needs not being met, or plainly because the person is horny

Both me and amy meet solo with permission because we are both horny as fuck and still want to fuck when we dont see each other. In a normal relationship if one person wants that and not the other it would be cheating but just through randyness not anything else

The women only cheat because of emotional neglect is BULLSHIT it beggars belief people say this it makes it almost acceptable to cheat for a woman and makes her the victem and the guys fault!

If a guy tried to pull that shit it wouldnt wash cheating is cheating both sexes can do it because of needs nt being met or jus cos they are horny but it does not make it acceptable regardless of the cause

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have spoken with swinger friends and vanilla friends about this on a few occasions .... I can find no reasonable explanation, but why do I think that married women cheating on their partners is worse than married men cheating?

Perhaps I'm just jealous that I never did it when I was married lol

Its probably because it has more possible repercussions deception/pregnancy/baby wise. I read a while back as many as 1 in 5 men were brining up children they didn't know was not theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They are both just as bad cheating can happen because of needs not being met, or plainly because the person is horny

The women only cheat because of emotional neglect is BULLSHIT it beggars belief people say this it makes it almost acceptable to cheat for a woman and makes her the victem and the guys fault!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a very strange angle on it.

Absolutely as they are obviously bored, maybe they should get jobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps I'm just jealous that I never did it when I was married lol

Its that false perception that with men, its almost expected and acceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am kind of in agreeance with CL Rogue who said:

'The truth is their both as bad as each other but some women play up the victim/emotionally deprived role in order to gain sympathy once they've been caught cheating. Claims of being pushed into the arms of another man because she felt that her husband was being distant and cold'

From my point of _iew, my Dad, so my mother says, cheated on her with her best friend, she then cheated on him and took my brother and I to go an live with this man. Tit for tat really isn't a good reason to cheat but she would ring my Dad at work, moaning about her lot, how this man was treating her. My Dad then met a very nice lady and got married again, she felt that when my mum rang my dad, she was waiting for him to ask her to come home. Luckily he didn't.

I always felt it odd that my Dad was the bad one but she didn't feel she did anything wrong. The thing is that my mum never takes responsibility for her wrongs so I guess she blames my Dad.

People will cheat, the reasons are of no interest to me, I don't care why, its the fact that they do that is a reason I won't meet them but to me, they are as bad as each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps I'm just jealous that I never did it when I was married lol

Its that false perception that with men, its almost expected and acceptable"

Agree there, as I have not married, aside from not meeting anyone, it is the worry that he WILL cheat on me that makes me not want to marry, even having a relationship is just a pointless exercise but then my parents cheating isn't really a good example of the so called happy marriage that it is supposed to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why does every one slagt off married men and yet go in any of the chat rooms, get a naked married lady playing on her own and you get swarms of men egging her on, probably the same ones slagging off married men but because there's a bit of female flesh on display, all their morals then fly out the window....

live and let live

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

"I guess only you know the answer to that.

I think its no different for either, however I do think that people only cheat when there's something wrong/missing from a relationship.

I have to disagree with that statement, sorry. People cheat just because they can and are weak as well."

I'm sure you are right in some cases, however if everything was hunky dory in a relationship why would anyone cheat?

People change, fall out of love, grow apart and want different things as years go by.

Sometimes its strength not weakness that makes you take a look at your life and realise you are not where you want to be, and sometimes cheating is the only way to end a doomed relationship which then allows all to move on with their individual lives.

Sometimes people won't accept the end unless there is a good reason and I speak from experience after being in a 22 year relationship with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree to some degree about the cheating because they can, but people also cheat for the attention. I don't agree that most who cheat are doing so because there's something missing from their relationship.

Well actually I do....TRUST

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess only you know the answer to that.

I think its no different for either, however I do think that people only cheat when there's something wrong/missing from a relationship.

I have to disagree with that statement, sorry. People cheat just because they can and are weak as well.

I'm sure you are right in some cases, however if everything was hunky dory in a relationship why would anyone cheat?

People change, fall out of love, grow apart and want different things as years go by.

Sometimes people won't accept the end unless there is a good reason and I speak from experience after being in a 22 year relationship with someone.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

"I think men cheat on their wives because men are like stallions, its just the way they are but if a woman cheats on her hubby she probably has a very good reason to.

He just isnt good enough.

Most women surely cheat on their husbands because they are emotionally not sexually neglected?

I think that's a common _iew and might be true in many cases, but I don't think it's gender specific. People of both sexes will seek the comfort of others because they feel emotionally neglected.

I think historically/traditionally women have been homemakers or have had the primary responsibility for raising children and even though much of that has changed a cheating women is regarded harshly because it threatens the fabric of a settled home life..my belief for that reason, is they tend to be more discreet about it than males who perhaps hang on to the macho perception that sexual conquests endorse their masculinity.

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By *its The Spot AlotMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Well I believe there both as bad as eachother excuses are daft who can judge

But ive known couples were both are cheating and it's the guy who's getting all the bad comments with the wife far better at keeping it quiet with friends even helping.

Think it's far better to talk and be honest with eachother move on or have a open relationship like me and my other half great fun !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I(D) cheated on my ex after he had 3 affairs and started to become physically abusive. We grew apart but neither of us would move out. He always told me i was ugly and no other guy would want me!. The affair gave me the courage to end my marriage and realise that i could have a life without him. I met P through swinging 5 years ago and have been married almost 2 years now, have never been happier and would never feel the need to cheat again

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By *ondering_yorkshiremanMan
over a year ago

Somewhere near NE Derbyshire/S Yorkshire/Nottinghamshire border

Im married guy with a single guy profile!!

Now before the barrage of abuse, im in a open marriage my OH isnt on this site but on others as single female, sometimes theres more to it when people are married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone is in the evolution school of thought they may know the following.

Men are gentically breed with the desire to 'spread there seed' due to back in the times of humans/monkeys living in the savannah men wanted as many kids as they could so that they had more heirs living on as lots would die - women back then would look for a strong man who can look after her a protect her from the dangers of the savannah.

There is a lot more to it but from it I believe that women cheating is worse as they are genetically breed to get a man who makes them feel safe and stay by there side but men are breed to go out and fuck essentially so it is a mans natural urge to sleep with as many people as possible - this isn't my thoughts I fenuinly think it is even but this is a _iew that some people have xx

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By *enith OP Woman
over a year ago

closer than you think

Thank you all for your comments and _iews on this subject. There are things I agree with and others I don't !!!

Don't think I will ever get to the bottom of why I feel like this but I'm not going to loose any sleep over it ..... live and let live!!

Merry Christmas to you all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women surely cheat on their husbands because they are emotionally not sexually neglected?

I cheated on all but one of my relationships. Some I was emotionally okay. But mostly because I needed sexual excitement. To be honest I liked the thrill and I needed sex a lot more than my previous partners.

How ever once I met a man that satisfied me in every way. I no longer had the urges to cheat.

I to be honest know that people will do it and I don't really find it any of my business. I think lots of women cheat. It's just we tend not to get caught as often

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However, there are plentiful couples out there who have been together longterm who are contented and have never strayed... not saying some of them never contemplated the idea..

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