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How long before you moved on to the next stage?

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By *ernameisREO OP   Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Hello, my partner and I are new to this lifestyle. We visited a club and had an opportunity to go further but nerves stopped us. My question is how long did it take you to move to the next level?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about

Take it at your own pace

Do what feels

This game is vast and diverse. You'll bed in and find your norm soon enough. Don't rush and do something that upsets your personal equilibrium

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weird - it trimmed the end off all my sentences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes just got to take a leap, a club was for us both in agreement there would be no pressure x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take your time and do it when you’re both ready. There’s no need to rush into something and later regret it.

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

Everyone is different you do you and when your ready you will know it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who said you have to go further? Go at whatever pace you feel comfortable with. Even if it means just visiting the club a couple times.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Whenever you’re ready to, this is your journey no one else, enjoy it at your own pace.

The mr

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP I think you just need to do what you want to do and do it at your pace. I know people who have leapt in, feet first, right at the start. I know others who have taken ages. Both are fine.

I think you will know when you are ready. It is quite overwhelming the first time and most people probably sit and watch on their first club visit. Maybe the next time you just play between yourselves and let people watch. Then, if you want, you can invite them in when you are ready. Just play your own game.

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By *ernameisREO OP   Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Thanks for taking the time, I appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience. We jumped in feet first, (no longer together) we should have talked a lot more about things first. But that’s only hindsight.

Go at the speed your comfortable with as a couple, and not with one person making the decisions.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Hello, my partner and I are new to this lifestyle. We visited a club and had an opportunity to go further but nerves stopped us. My question is how long did it take you to move to the next level? "
same visit getta hold of them nerves and take the plunge lol

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

We took the plunge early on then it took a few months before we plucked up the courage to go to a club. Even then, it took a few visits to do anything more than just have a drink

Perhaps find someone you want to meet first then arrange a club visit with them for a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello, my partner and I are new to this lifestyle. We visited a club and had an opportunity to go further but nerves stopped us. My question is how long did it take you to move to the next level? "

I think you will both know when your ready as others have said no rush just take it at your own pace . I told my wife a year and a half ago about my fantasy we both really want to take the jump but we are still holding back a little we have to get on here together first for a start before making it a reality stage by stage

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By *ritIndianCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Hello, my partner and I are new to this lifestyle. We visited a club and had an opportunity to go further but nerves stopped us. My question is how long did it take you to move to the next level? "

We have been discussing the possibility of visiting a club however not quite ready. We keep talking about it and will take the next step when both are ready. I guess the main thing is that you both keep communicating and make sure that it’s right for you both. Sounds like your doing the right thing and not rushing into anything.

Mr

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