FabSwingers.com forum: Last min cancelled meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Last night I was going to meet a MF couple at there place. I live 30 mins drive away, before getting in the car I checked we were still on and they said yes,

When I parked up in their street I waited for a message for the house number.

I then got a message saying the meet was off

Anyone else had a similar experience ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

As a general rule we wouldn't set out without a full address. I've seen people say they've had the same experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had similar once. Incredible. Uncertain newbies, had an argument. But why go without knowing full address?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Always wise to do a social first half way between where you both live.

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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago

Kent

One of the reasons we only do group meets. If one doesn’t turn up, fun is still on the cards! It’s still really frustrating when people let you down though especially considering all the time and effort we put in to arranging it.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Cpls are bad at this. We had two mess us around like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me a few times it's so frustrating

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

It seems very common on here. We would assume many of the profiles that do this aren't actually couples. Many of the fakes have some verifications, so be savvy. We go to clubs, then if a couple don't turn up (only once), we'll have a bloody good night.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Seems common.

I got a couple of guys who “forgot” we were supposed to meet.

Glad I checked before boarding the train.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"It seems very common on here. We would assume many of the profiles that do this aren't actually couples. Many of the fakes have some verifications, so be savvy. We go to clubs, then if a couple don't turn up (only once), we'll have a bloody good night. "

This

Clubs are the best option, lots of really nice people to socialise with, safe and warm environment with like minded people and if your "date" doesn't turn up then still have an amazing time.

I can see the above has on their bio they are going Attic Xmas party, if you run into my band of misfits, tap us for a drink, we are impossible to miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reason we started to use clubs, zero messing around.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

This

Clubs are the best option, lots of really nice people to socialise with, safe and warm environment with like minded people and if your "date" doesn't turn up then still have an amazing time.

I can see the above has on their bio they are going Attic Xmas party, if you run into my band of misfits, tap us for a drink, we are impossible to miss."

If you hang around with PonyMad she's impossible not to hear

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

Our experience is that single guys are bad for this

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Social first is always a good way to establish a connection

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Always wise to do a social first half way between where you both live."

This totally

Seen so many threads like this

If it's a social not too far from you ,you won't waste too much time or petrol if they cancel last min.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sure there are people who just want to see what you look like in person before deciding to go through with it.

I’ll be honest I’ve given a wrong address before, or not given my door number. Because I wanted see out my window and ensure I hadn’t been catfished before meeting them.

It’s worked in my favour a few times. Though I think the days of inviting someone straight to my place are long gone

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"I’m sure there are people who just want to see what you look like in person before deciding to go through with it.

I’ll be honest I’ve given a wrong address before, or not given my door number. Because I wanted see out my window and ensure I hadn’t been catfished before meeting them.

It’s worked in my favour a few times. Though I think the days of inviting someone straight to my place are long gone "

Why not just save your self the hassle and have a quick 5min video call prior to meeting to validate everyone is whom they claim to be .. this is what I do with everyone .. if people dont want to do it then I just say bye .... not going to get upset over not meeting a stranger in any remote way ... always more people to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I/ we've been chatting and planning a meet for tonight, oh the things we were going to do, (I'm scared to say this, I'll probably get banned) but just had a message, he's cancelled

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I/ we've been chatting and planning a meet for tonight, oh the things we were going to do, (I'm scared to say this, I'll probably get banned) but just had a message, he's cancelled

He spunked up at the naughty chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I/ we've been chatting and planning a meet for tonight, oh the things we were going to do, (I'm scared to say this, I'll probably get banned) but just had a message, he's cancelled

He spunked up at the naughty chat "

It wouldn't have been the first time we've met

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"Last night I was going to meet a MF couple at there place. I live 30 mins drive away, before getting in the car I checked we were still on and they said yes,

When I parked up in their street I waited for a message for the house number.

I then got a message saying the meet was off

Anyone else had a similar experience ? "

Our experiences of meets sadly are great either. 1st one was a few years ago go, we went to the guy's house he was absolutely nothing like his description/photo so that was bad and very awkward. The 2nd meet we messaged him on the night even though he had messaged us the day before as in he was looking forward to meeting and we were just ready to go out the door and guess what he said he had forgotten and cancelled.

3rd one to go to his place gave us the address and arranged for some time after a few weeks chatting and he messaged literally 2 hours before to say sorry busy for a few weeks and promptly blocked us. 4th one was a cam meet who again said he was looking forward to meeting and disappeared an hour before we were meant to meet on cam.

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"Last night I was going to meet a MF couple at there place. I live 30 mins drive away, before getting in the car I checked we were still on and they said yes,

When I parked up in their street I waited for a message for the house number.

I then got a message saying the meet was off

Anyone else had a similar experience ?

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we totally get it is a free site but I don't and we don't I should say understand people that fantasise about meeting and then just don't bother but actually a lot of time and effort goes into getting ready to end up disappointment after disappointment which is why we say on our profile we will only meet at clubs because we've had her fingers burnt too many times

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

If you hang around with PonyMad she's impossible not to hear

She's one of my best mates

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

"I/ we've been chatting and planning a meet for tonight, oh the things we were going to do, (I'm scared to say this, I'll probably get banned) but just had a message, he's cancelled

always a massive red flag when they start to tell you what they are going to do instant end of contact for me ...

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

People messing you about wasting your time sucks.

Its hard to not be disappointed as you were expecting some fun, but just consider it a lucky break, go home and have a wank. It will likely be better than what was on the cards anyway.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

If you hang around with PonyMad she's impossible not to hear

How do you know Ponymad? Are you OK to PM me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I/ we've been chatting and planning a meet for tonight, oh the things we were going to do, (I'm scared to say this, I'll probably get banned) but just had a message, he's cancelled

always a massive red flag when they start to tell you what they are going to do instant end of contact for me ..."

As I've already said, we've met before, he was the one asking to meet again, I'm feeling quite upset actually,I know I shouldn't be, but I am

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By *ee1967Man
over a year ago

watford

I've had several meets arranged and boom. Cancelled.

So many fakers

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By *ee1967Man
over a year ago

watford

I've had several meets arranged and boom. Cancelled.

So many fakers

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By *arc36508Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

Had a guy say he wasn’t coming 30 mins before we had booked a hotel and was just about to arrive

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

We do live in a world where emergencies happen for whatever reason or people can change their minds and often people do especially regarding sex. I do give people the benefit of doubt but if they are repeat no shows and cancel too often then maybe its a sign of they are not right for the meet.

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

This is why I stick to clubs

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We had arranged a meet with a guy we had been chatting to. We booked and paid for a hotel travelled an hour and half and he cancelled as we pulled into the car park of the hotel...so we went to Chams instead and had loads of fun..

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"I/ we've been chatting and planning a meet for tonight, oh the things we were going to do, (I'm scared to say this, I'll probably get banned) but just had a message, he's cancelled

He spunked up at the naughty chat

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that or his wife wanted to go out...

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Last night I was going to meet a MF couple at there place. I live 30 mins drive away, before getting in the car I checked we were still on and they said yes,

When I parked up in their street I waited for a message for the house number.

I then got a message saying the meet was off

Anyone else had a similar experience ? "

Sadly I had to cancel a meet as I was driving to meet her. The clutch went on my car on the way to the meet and I had to call out the AA.

The woman I was meeting was not impressed and called me a timewaster. Cus a long story short I got my clutch repaired the following morning and we met in the evening. A day late but we met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't go anywhere without a shared location anymore whether that's through WhatsApp or Snapchat, just receiving an address is not good enough for me...

FAR too many strange time wasting people online

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By *inkysubmissive84Woman
over a year ago

Telford

I’ve been messed around/stood up by 6 guys now in 3 weeks I only meet with people who are verified by a meet too so you would think it would be ok.

Back to club meets for me, at least that way I don’t get messed around

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Our experience is that single guys are bad for this

I know from experience there are guys who like the idea of swinging but bottle when given the chance.

Also, a lot of single guys are not single. they arrange a meet then a wife/girlfriend gets in the way and they have to cancel.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Social first is always a good way to establish a connection "

This.

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By *rNightMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Yep, a guy messaged me, after a short back and forth he asked me to meet him at a particular road and he’d come to my car. I was in the area so arrives less than five minutes later.

He went quiet never responded to my message saying I was there. I waited 20 minutes then left.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"I/ we've been chatting and planning a meet for tonight, oh the things we were going to do, (I'm scared to say this, I'll probably get banned) but just had a message, he's cancelled

Did you sex/naughty chat with him? If you did once he had cum bye, bye to you sadly.

If he gave you plenty of notice and didn't cancel at the last minute I would consider giving him a second chance.

If he lets you down a second time I would ignore or block and ignore.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Social first is always a good way to establish a connection "

This. If you arrange to meet somebody in a pub or a cafe and they don't turn up you can still have a nice drink or something nice to eat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t understand why you would set out for a street when they wouldn’t give you a house number.

They’re already acting like twats at that point.

Hope springs eternal I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once upon a time, I thought couple who only did club meets were missing out. I totally understand now for this very reason

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Last night I was going to meet a MF couple at there place. I live 30 mins drive away, before getting in the car I checked we were still on and they said yes,

When I parked up in their street I waited for a message for the house number.

I then got a message saying the meet was off

Anyone else had a similar experience ?

Spend time getting to know potential meets online. This will hopefully get rid of chancers, idiots, timewasters, disrespectful guys, fake couples, etc.

Insist on a video chat before the meeting. This will hopefully get rid of people who have sent you fake photos or photos that are years out of date.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"We had arranged a meet with a guy we had been chatting to. We booked and paid for a hotel travelled an hour and half and he cancelled as we pulled into the car park of the hotel...so we went to Chams instead and had loads of fun.."

I had a close friend do the same to me sort of.

He know I was on here. He knew I had done MFM threesomes. He said he would love to do one.

I met a couple who wanted to have a MFM threesome as the husband filmed it. I asked my friend if he wanted to meet the couple. He said yes.

A Butlins weekend was booked.

30 minutes before I was due to pick my friend up he said it wasn't for him and canceled.

Luckily for me, the couple was OK with just me coming to Butlins.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"I’ve been messed around/stood up by 6 guys now in 3 weeks I only meet with people who are verified by a meet too so you would think it would be ok.

Back to club meets for me, at least that way I don’t get messed around "

How???

Any red blooded man within 30 miles of Birmingham would crawl on their belly across broken glass to get to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I/ we've been chatting and planning a meet for tonight, oh the things we were going to do, (I'm scared to say this, I'll probably get banned) but just had a message, he's cancelled

Did you sex/naughty chat with him? If you did once he had cum bye, bye to you sadly.

If he gave you plenty of notice and didn't cancel at the last minute I would consider giving him a second chance.

If he lets you down a second time I would ignore or block and ignore. "

He cancelled a few hours before the arranged time, I might give him another chance,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes had similar but it was me cancelling the meet. I genuinely injured my foot on the way to the car to set off.

But the key thing is communication. Yes, force majeure can happen to anyone and if it gets cancelled so be it. BUT. There is NO reason for not letting the other person know in this age of phones, texts, messengers and the like. Unless you're being defibbed in the back of a speeding ambulance etc...

Sure it cam be annoying, disappointing and even leave you out of pocket. But is the other party are transparent, honest and in contact then that is life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it happens quite often. Sometimes they cancel with 0lenty if warning, sometimes last minute and sometimes just don't show up. Hasn't happened on here. Yet lol

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

This is why I stick to clubs too, then my time is never wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a four hour round trip by bus for a meet. Messaged her when I reached the meet point and she said she was on her way but was running late. I said I would be in the bus station cafe. I waited for half an hour tried to message her again and she had blocked me. So I began the two hour journey home, feeling extremely annoyed.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

While they’re well within their rights to cancel at any point, it is very frustrating last minute.

Due to last minute cancellations happening we only meet at clubs if there’s any traveling involved now

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By *allMeLexMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Have had this from Couples and Single Females. Latest one was last week. It's incredibly frustrating, especially if you're traveling to them or getting a hotel or something.

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