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Should we let him move in ?

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By *inkyduokent OP   Couple
over a year ago

Swanley

We've got an ex play friend whose enjoyed Martine a few times over the years, and she certainly enjoyed him.

He's looking for somewhere to stay, and has gently asked if it could be with us.

It's risky but could be serious fun !

Thoughts ?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Never mix business with pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can not be serious

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

nope..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if its something you are seriously considering then Maybe have a written agreement made ups with signatures from you and him so that you have a bit more security?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will be fun for about 48 hours. Then the reality of living with someone will set in.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Sounds like an absolute disaster waiting to happen.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No definitely not .

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By *handlerMonicaCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Why not have him over for a weekend, see how it works out? If you do decide to go for it, I would definitely get a formal landlord/tenant agreement put in place. It might be a risky thing to do, but life would be dull if you always took the boring safe path!

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

Hell to the NO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a weekend?

Sure.

For longer?

Error.... nope.

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By *lder funCouple
over a year ago

tottenham

We had a friendly lodger once,turned into a nightmare

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a chance.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

What could possibly go wrong...

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"We've got an ex play friend whose enjoyed Martine a few times over the years, and she certainly enjoyed him.

He's looking for somewhere to stay, and has gently asked if it could be with us.

It's risky but could be serious fun !

Thoughts ?"

That's a good plot for a horror movie. At first it was fun. Now thay won't leave. The Lodger. Only in cinema.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've got an ex play friend whose enjoyed Martine a few times over the years, and she certainly enjoyed him.

He's looking for somewhere to stay, and has gently asked if it could be with us.

It's risky but could be serious fun !

Thoughts ?"

What does your partner think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"EX" play friend? Why is he an ex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t let him move in. I’d be weary of why he has no where else to stay… there must be a reason why nobody else will take him in

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"Sounds like an absolute disaster waiting to happen."

Agree with you there

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By *onaldandjacquelineCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Sounds amazing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disaster written all over this situation.

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

clear consensus here i think...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is me pulling up a chair, a large bucket of popcorn to watch how this develops...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds incredibly naive of you.

What could possibly go wrong?

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

As many others I think no.

Issue is you cannot escape it, also would he think every nights a play night! Would he get funny if you wanted to meet others and him not included. There are so many issues.

If your looking at polygamy with him and it’s a set up where you wife is in a relationship with you both it’s a different thing entirely

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Risky how?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Risky how?"

Its one thing to enjoy each others company for an evening, night etc but whilst there are households that do work it, having a permanent 'lodger' could create problems. It restricts what you may want to do in the future (for example move, entertain other 'guests' etc). Whilst I agree with the vast majority of the posts saying no, only you know if this dynamic could work as it depends on the nature of your relation and your relationship with this ex. I do know of couples where this works although even they comment now and again how frustrating it can be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Chances are you wouldn’t be able to get rid of him

A big fat no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never mix business with pleasure "

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a no from me.

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By *ake_holeMan
over a year ago

London

I think if you're going to invite a playmate over to live with you it's important you set strong boundaries and expectations. Also to be wary of how the living situation may change your dynamic

I was going to move in with a play partner a few months ago and even when we had all those chats we still figured out 'uh oh this isn't going to work is it'

Not saying that it can't work altogether, I really hope it does for you, just remember to he careful

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Some fantasies should remain as such.

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