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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I've always loved to watch my fella with other women and also really love hearing what he gets up to, I want to be able to increase his chances of meeting on his own as even though our profile says I'm happy to let him meet solo we get very few asking about it. Do I get him to make his own profile aswell, I'm not sure if it would help at all as I know how hard it is for men on here. Any one have any advice

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

it will be just as hard for him as it is for any other male ..being part of a swinging couple will make very little difference on here ..unless he works out how to stand out ...also there alot of women /couples who wont meet a male half of a swinging couple you see this often on these forums with male half asking why

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"it will be just as hard for him as it is for any other male ..being part of a swinging couple will make very little difference on here ..unless he works out how to stand out ...also there alot of women /couples who wont meet a male half of a swinging couple you see this often on these forums with male half asking why"

Yeah I'd imagine it would be very difficult, it's more my own selfish reasons as he doesn't mind just sticking with a couple profile but he also knows how much I enjoy him being used by another woman, i play with myself over the thought of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd not be keen on being used vicariously tbh. Idea of him going home telling you all about it would feel uncomfortable like anything he did was more for your benefit than mine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd not be keen on being used vicariously tbh. Idea of him going home telling you all about it would feel uncomfortable like anything he did was more for your benefit than mine. "

I know it seems like a vicarious thing but it's more hearing about him and he'd I'd always make sure he's paying the full amount of attention to anyone he meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get him to make his own profile and mention your couple profile so people can compare.

Maybe try separate room swap with couples.

Many women don't want to be a couple's plaything or perform for someone else to watch. Men don't seem to care as long as their dick gets wet.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'd not be keen on being used vicariously tbh. Idea of him going home telling you all about it would feel uncomfortable like anything he did was more for your benefit than mine. "

I want a married man for one night but definitely don't want to be filmed, watched etc so wouldn't fit with me very well. Only one couple said he could play without any real terms and conditions

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd not be keen on being used vicariously tbh. Idea of him going home telling you all about it would feel uncomfortable like anything he did was more for your benefit than mine.

I want a married man for one night but definitely don't want to be filmed, watched etc so wouldn't fit with me very well. Only one couple said he could play without any real terms and conditions "

I wouldnt expect him to film or have any conditions to be honest, I just love hearing about what he does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd not be keen on being used vicariously tbh. Idea of him going home telling you all about it would feel uncomfortable like anything he did was more for your benefit than mine.

I know it seems like a vicarious thing but it's more hearing about him and he'd I'd always make sure he's paying the full amount of attention to anyone he meets "

You're missing my point but wish you luck in finding what you're after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet married people if the other person isn't aware. I'm not some fuck toy for them to chat about after and get off on.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'd not be keen on being used vicariously tbh. Idea of him going home telling you all about it would feel uncomfortable like anything he did was more for your benefit than mine.

I want a married man for one night but definitely don't want to be filmed, watched etc so wouldn't fit with me very well. Only one couple said he could play without any real terms and conditions

I wouldnt expect him to film or have any conditions to be honest, I just love hearing about what he does"

Then if it's that the case , more women would be interested maybe. All you can do is try and see what happens. Fab is a mindfield but doesn't mean you can't find fun on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im in a similar situation I play on my own and find using a singles guys profile just as difficult arranging meets as using mine and my wifes profile, it does help though having our couples account available for people to see the verifications so they can see I'm not just playing away without permission, my wife also can play on her own but will only play with a mail half of another couple she doesn't like the idea of playing with single guys for some reason so having a couples profile still for him to meet on his own will appeal to others like my wife possibly.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

If fab is too tricky. Maybe let him go to swinger clubs on his own or you guys seperate and do your own thing. You may find a lady who will let you watch in a club?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"So I've always loved to watch my fella with other women and also really love hearing what he gets up to"

Did he find these women through Fab or somewhere else ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If fab is too tricky. Maybe let him go to swinger clubs on his own or you guys seperate and do your own thing. You may find a lady who will let you watch in a club?"

Thats a good idea as we've recently started going to a club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I've always loved to watch my fella with other women and also really love hearing what he gets up to

Did he find these women through Fab or somewhere else ?"

he's been on here before in the past so had a couple of friends but they no longer get a chance to meet up anymore as they've moved on from the lifestyle

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I'd not be keen on being used vicariously tbh. Idea of him going home telling you all about it would feel uncomfortable like anything he did was more for your benefit than mine. "

Are you saying if you met a man who you knew was from a couple, you’d expect him not to tell his partner all about it when he got home?

That seems even more odd really. Is he supposed to keep it a secret?

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Don't bother and why are you really?

You've a profile already, use that one to vet the crazies.

Sounds just like a bloke using a couples profile, using the usual 'I have my missuss permission'.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We both have individual profiles too. I think from a point of view lone adventures a single profile would help. It helps people specifically looking for lone guys search and find him. It allows him his own clear visibility and expression in role of a lone guy.

I would say from the male perspective you still need to be realistic about results. Granted good guys will always do better but it's tough out there for all single profiles. The lady privilege points and visibility guys de facto get on a couples profile go right out of the window on a singles profile. Plus sometimes harder when people know your the male half of a couple. Because despite having your other half's blessing and us all being swingers some people just don't want to be with some else's man. So I would say an individual profile will help for solo adventures but don't expect it to be a silver bullet.

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By *lue_eyes86Man
over a year ago

London


"So I've always loved to watch my fella with other women and also really love hearing what he gets up to, I want to be able to increase his chances of meeting on his own as even though our profile says I'm happy to let him meet solo we get very few asking about it. Do I get him to make his own profile aswell, I'm not sure if it would help at all as I know how hard it is for men on here. Any one have any advice"

Absolutely no point… for single guys doesn’t matter if your good looking/part of a couple/ have a desirable donkey cock etc

It’s pot luck if your message makes it through the thousands women and couples get sent, then more luck if they answer and more if possible to meet.

Best thing is to go to clubs togther meet people and work out ability to play single like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You also might find some stage and vixen couples that will allow you to watch with the Stag,

Finding single women on here that will allow you to watch is normally quite difficult, and is why I don't seek it out, it's hard enough finding a single woman that would even consider meeting my wife so as I can accommodate when my wife isn't at home, the easiest way around all this I've found is just go to a club you won't find it every time you go but it's by far the easiest to find what you are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd not be keen on being used vicariously tbh. Idea of him going home telling you all about it would feel uncomfortable like anything he did was more for your benefit than mine.

Are you saying if you met a man who you knew was from a couple, you’d expect him not to tell his partner all about it when he got home?

That seems even more odd really. Is he supposed to keep it a secret?"

I'm saying he can do as he wants and they can discuss what they want but it wouldn't be me.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I'd not be keen on being used vicariously tbh. Idea of him going home telling you all about it would feel uncomfortable like anything he did was more for your benefit than mine. "

This makes zero sense tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd not be keen on being used vicariously tbh. Idea of him going home telling you all about it would feel uncomfortable like anything he did was more for your benefit than mine.

This makes zero sense tbh"

That's fine, makes sense for me so it's all good

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"If fab is too tricky. Maybe let him go to swinger clubs on his own or you guys seperate and do your own thing. You may find a lady who will let you watch in a club?

Thats a good idea as we've recently started going to a club"

We go to clubs together, but occasionally we go to separate. Or sometimes one of us will meet the other up in the club later in the day/night. For us going to clubs alone is more down to mismatched opportunity/free time that a deliberate desire to go alone. But you find you get a different experience in a club solo than with your other half because the dynamic is different. We much prefer to go together but it's really good to have the freedom to experience a club solo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it when the single ladies all say that they won't want someone going back to there wifes telling them about their meets especially when I know dam well all the single guys go back to there mates and brag about the girls they meet I've heard so many of them in the club all talking together about all the different women they have been with, surely the thought of one wife knowing is better then a group of lads knowing

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington


"I love it when the single ladies all say that they won't want someone going back to there wifes telling them about their meets especially when I know dam well all the single guys go back to there mates and brag about the girls they meet I've heard so many of them in the club all talking together about all the different women they have been with, surely the thought of one wife knowing is better then a group of lads knowing "
not all single guys some have some sense of discretion and respect for the ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it when the single ladies all say that they won't want someone going back to there wifes telling them about their meets especially when I know dam well all the single guys go back to there mates and brag about the girls they meet I've heard so many of them in the club all talking together about all the different women they have been with, surely the thought of one wife knowing is better then a group of lads knowing "

I don't think it's the talking about it, as you say, that's going to happen. For me it's the concept of that being a specific driver if you see what I mean.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love it when the single ladies all say that they won't want someone going back to there wifes telling them about their meets especially when I know dam well all the single guys go back to there mates and brag about the girls they meet I've heard so many of them in the club all talking together about all the different women they have been with, surely the thought of one wife knowing is better then a group of lads knowing

I don't think it's the talking about it, as you say, that's going to happen. For me it's the concept of that being a specific driver if you see what I mean. "

I get what you mean about the whole point of the meet is to just to talk about it, which isn't exactly what I meant, I'd want him to be able to meet who he wants and then if he wants to tell me then he can but he knows that I love hearing about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it when the single ladies all say that they won't want someone going back to there wifes telling them about their meets especially when I know dam well all the single guys go back to there mates and brag about the girls they meet I've heard so many of them in the club all talking together about all the different women they have been with, surely the thought of one wife knowing is better then a group of lads knowing

I don't think it's the talking about it, as you say, that's going to happen. For me it's the concept of that being a specific driver if you see what I mean.

I get what you mean about the whole point of the meet is to just to talk about it, which isn't exactly what I meant, I'd want him to be able to meet who he wants and then if he wants to tell me then he can but he knows that I love hearing about it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it when the single ladies all say that they won't want someone going back to there wifes telling them about their meets especially when I know dam well all the single guys go back to there mates and brag about the girls they meet I've heard so many of them in the club all talking together about all the different women they have been with, surely the thought of one wife knowing is better then a group of lads knowing

I don't think it's the talking about it, as you say, that's going to happen. For me it's the concept of that being a specific driver if you see what I mean. "

When I look at it like that yea I see what you mean, and I can definitely say I'm doing this for my benefit, the only benefit my wife gets from it is knowing that I'm doing something that makes me happy and it allows her to do do what it is that makes her happy, no other hidden agenda here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it when the single ladies all say that they won't want someone going back to there wifes telling them about their meets especially when I know dam well all the single guys go back to there mates and brag about the girls they meet I've heard so many of them in the club all talking together about all the different women they have been with, surely the thought of one wife knowing is better then a group of lads knowing

I don't think it's the talking about it, as you say, that's going to happen. For me it's the concept of that being a specific driver if you see what I mean.

When I look at it like that yea I see what you mean, and I can definitely say I'm doing this for my benefit, the only benefit my wife gets from it is knowing that I'm doing something that makes me happy and it allows her to do do what it is that makes her happy, no other hidden agenda here x"

Understood

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I think as long as the profiles are linked and were transparent then it would be better to have a single guy account.

Doing it from a couples profile where it’s noted ‘I give permission for the male to play alone’ always sounds like it’s the guy who’s writing/driving it.

But I’d say the profile would have to stand out more than a normal single guy as a single female might as well select a single guy rather than a guy from a couple, unless she knew them well.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it when the single ladies all say that they won't want someone going back to there wifes telling them about their meets especially when I know dam well all the single guys go back to there mates and brag about the girls they meet I've heard so many of them in the club all talking together about all the different women they have been with, surely the thought of one wife knowing is better then a group of lads knowing "

Are you saying that all men on here are untrustworthy and a bit dickish? Good to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it when the single ladies all say that they won't want someone going back to there wifes telling them about their meets especially when I know dam well all the single guys go back to there mates and brag about the girls they meet I've heard so many of them in the club all talking together about all the different women they have been with, surely the thought of one wife knowing is better then a group of lads knowing

not all single guys some have some sense of discretion and respect for the ladies "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it when the single ladies all say that they won't want someone going back to there wifes telling them about their meets especially when I know dam well all the single guys go back to there mates and brag about the girls they meet I've heard so many of them in the club all talking together about all the different women they have been with, surely the thought of one wife knowing is better then a group of lads knowing

Are you saying that all men on here are untrustworthy and a bit dickish? Good to know. "

No definitely not there are some really great guys on here and also a lot at the clubs, but there are a what I hope to be a minority some real assholes about too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it when the single ladies all say that they won't want someone going back to there wifes telling them about their meets especially when I know dam well all the single guys go back to there mates and brag about the girls they meet I've heard so many of them in the club all talking together about all the different women they have been with, surely the thought of one wife knowing is better then a group of lads knowing

Are you saying that all men on here are untrustworthy and a bit dickish? Good to know.

No definitely not there are some really great guys on here and also a lot at the clubs, but there are a what I hope to be a minority some real assholes about too "

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I think as long as the profiles are linked and were transparent then it would be better to have a single guy account.

Doing it from a couples profile where it’s noted ‘I give permission for the male to play alone’ always sounds like it’s the guy who’s writing/driving it.

But I’d say the profile would have to stand out more than a normal single guy as a single female might as well select a single guy rather than a guy from a couple, unless she knew them well.

K

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So many single male profiles aren't linked to their couple ones...confuses me why the secrecy

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I think as long as the profiles are linked and were transparent then it would be better to have a single guy account.

Doing it from a couples profile where it’s noted ‘I give permission for the male to play alone’ always sounds like it’s the guy who’s writing/driving it.

But I’d say the profile would have to stand out more than a normal single guy as a single female might as well select a single guy rather than a guy from a couple, unless she knew them well.

K

So many single male profiles aren't linked to their couple ones...confuses me why the secrecy "

I have been here years on this profile. My couples profile is only a few months old and I'm currently not meeting on either.

Even if I was the target audience is not necessarily the same so but it's pretty obvious to anyone looking at both profiles who they are taking to.

Nothing to do with secrecy at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think as long as the profiles are linked and were transparent then it would be better to have a single guy account.

Doing it from a couples profile where it’s noted ‘I give permission for the male to play alone’ always sounds like it’s the guy who’s writing/driving it.

But I’d say the profile would have to stand out more than a normal single guy as a single female might as well select a single guy rather than a guy from a couple, unless she knew them well.

K

So many single male profiles aren't linked to their couple ones...confuses me why the secrecy "

Until recently mine wasn't linked as my wife wasn't playing and didn't want all her pictures on show so the profile was hidden, but now she is back on the scene we have un-hidden our couples profile and I've mentioned it in my bio for everyone to see, not sure if it has made much difference yet though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t read the replies above.

I would say yes. Make his own profile, and also state your couples profile on it clearly.

All the best…

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

He looks lovely so get him to have his own profile and time will tell how it will go. Good luck.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He looks lovely so get him to have his own profile and time will tell how it will go. Good luck.x"

Thank you, yeah I think I'll get him to make one lol

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