FabSwingers.com forum: Profile openness

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been exchanging messages with a nice couple on here for a few days, and they suggested a phone call, which is always encouraging

Lovely couple, clearly genuine as I spoke to both of them

To their credit they mentioned this straight away, but if a meet was to happen it’d cost money as they’d started a business on AW and had bought equipment/outfits etc

Now I’m all for enterprise and entrepreneurship, but can’t help thinking that it would have been nice to have that mentioned in their profile on here

What are your thoughts? Would you pay for a meet arranged through here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is AW.. Why do you have to pay because they bought outfits?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would pay shared fees for a hotel but I ain’t paying for a meet.

Watch out they may just want your money

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is AW.. Why do you have to pay because they bought outfits? "

Adultwork… it’s a site for sex workers to advertise and arrange bookings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is AW.. Why do you have to pay because they bought outfits?

Adultwork… it’s a site for sex workers to advertise and arrange bookings "

Ohhh.. I think you should report the profile.. I think it is against site rules to ask for money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They sound like sex workers using this site to get more clients. It’s up to you what you do with that information.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is AW.. Why do you have to pay because they bought outfits?

Adultwork… it’s a site for sex workers to advertise and arrange bookings

Ohhh.. I think you should report the profile.. I think it is against site rules to ask for money "

That’s the thing, it’s not mentioned anywhere on the profile, it’s only on the phone call!

Got me all excited when they showed interest and replied to my message (unsurprisingly I don’t get a lot of interest on here

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"What is AW.. Why do you have to pay because they bought outfits?

Adultwork… it’s a site for sex workers to advertise and arrange bookings

Ohhh.. I think you should report the profile.. I think it is against site rules to ask for money

That’s the thing, it’s not mentioned anywhere on the profile, it’s only on the phone call!

Got me all excited when they showed interest and replied to my message (unsurprisingly I don’t get a lot of interest on here

I am all for sharing hotel costs but I can’t see why you would ever pay for a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is AW.. Why do you have to pay because they bought outfits?

Adultwork… it’s a site for sex workers to advertise and arrange bookings

Ohhh.. I think you should report the profile.. I think it is against site rules to ask for money

That’s the thing, it’s not mentioned anywhere on the profile, it’s only on the phone call!

Got me all excited when they showed interest and replied to my message (unsurprisingly I don’t get a lot of interest on here

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I am all for sharing hotel costs but I can’t see why you would ever pay for a meet."

Couldn’t agree more

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

They can't be open about that in their profile because it's against site rules.

If I wasn't having much luck here and suddenly someone wanted to chat on the phone that would be a red flag straight away and I wouldn't be giving out my number

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By *eed.a.signalMan
over a year ago

Local

Get yourself out there in the clubs and have a good time being social. The fun isn’t a given but it will happen at the right time.

Relying on fab alone is a crazy running circle.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

They don't mention it on their profile or in messages because it's against site rules to ask for money.

That's why they want to communicate off site so you have no proof of what they're doing.

You can report them but as they're not actually doing it on fab admin don't have any evidence to warn them.

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

Fuck no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow.

At least they told you up front before you were in the 11th hour, think yourself lucky there.

No, paying for meeting someone is close to hiring an sex worker. And I’m not in Fab or talking to swingers for that.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Huge red flag.

That’s why it’s always a good idea to keep all the communication on here and nobody will ever convince me otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Huge red flag.

That’s why it’s always a good idea to keep all the communication on here and nobody will ever convince me otherwise."

With you on this one

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"To their credit they mentioned this straight away, but if a meet was to happen it’d cost money as they’d started a business on AW and had bought equipment/outfits etc"

Not sure why they would need money to cover outfits and equipment, unless you specifically asked for them?

Either way, its a bit disingenuous to ask for money when you think they want to meet you for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never pay for a meet through this site or any other, unless it's something like AW. It's against the rules on most.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To their credit they mentioned this straight away, but if a meet was to happen it’d cost money as they’d started a business on AW and had bought equipment/outfits etc

Not sure why they would need money to cover outfits and equipment, unless you specifically asked for them?

Either way, its a bit disingenuous to ask for money when you think they want to meet you for you."

I guess as it’s a business expense it’d be tax deductible against their gross profits

However something tells me HMRC won’t be involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Huge red flag.

That’s why it’s always a good idea to keep all the communication on here and nobody will ever convince me otherwise."

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Just because they are starting up a business why should you pay to meet them ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just because they are starting up a business why should you pay to meet them ? "

My thoughts exactly… if I were less modest I’d say they should be honoured to meet me

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It would be a huge red flag and against the rules of the site to actually charge for meets off here. If you are willing to pay to meet thats up to you but they are not swingers it's a business to them.

Paying half for a hotel meet etc I have no issue with but paying to actually just meet someone would not be anything I would do.I prefer people to actually want to meet me than them just doing it for money.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

and this is why i do everything via the site .... admin are not responsible for any thing off site there for the moment you took it away from the site they are doing no wrong .. admin can do nothing

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

Profiles like these make me laugh…

Along with the ones who demand you bring ‘presents’ to a meet..

All for sharing a hotel cost, but why am I doing to bring you a litre bottle of your favourite spirt

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Tell them you bought a new suit and aftershave for your meets and want them to pay towards the cost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been exchanging messages with a nice couple on here for a few days, and they suggested a phone call, which is always encouraging

Lovely couple, clearly genuine as I spoke to both of them

To their credit they mentioned this straight away, but if a meet was to happen it’d cost money as they’d started a business on AW and had bought equipment/outfits etc

Now I’m all for enterprise and entrepreneurship, but can’t help thinking that it would have been nice to have that mentioned in their profile on here

What are your thoughts? Would you pay for a meet arranged through here?"

For starters single males are toys for others on here and are chosen as and when another profile wants them.sending out multiple messages to profiles and getting very little in return is a very noticeable pattern.

So now knowing this and then suddenly a couple wants a conversation with another male explaining costs etc is a massive Red flag for anyone. Asking more questions will rouse their suspicions and probably get you blocked as they won't like getting found out. Your dammed if you do and dammed if you don't. If they block you then it's a bullet dodged and they have done you a favour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just counted 7 profiles either selling underwear, seeking generous friends and venue contributions.

I have offered to sell my three day old boxers but so far no takers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and this is why i do everything via the site .... admin are not responsible for any thing off site there for the moment you took it away from the site they are doing no wrong .. admin can do nothing "

Admin do nothing anyway

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Report inappropriate behaviour to Admin, who will always investigate and help appreciate action.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

It’s not allowed that’s why. Report the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have just counted 7 profiles either selling underwear, seeking generous friends and venue contributions.

I have offered to sell my three day old boxers but so far no takers!"

What colour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is AW.. Why do you have to pay because they bought outfits?

Adultwork… it’s a site for sex workers to advertise and arrange bookings

Ohhh.. I think you should report the profile.. I think it is against site rules to ask for money

That’s the thing, it’s not mentioned anywhere on the profile, it’s only on the phone call!

Got me all excited when they showed interest and replied to my message (unsurprisingly I don’t get a lot of interest on here

Too good to be true??

It always ,is just that!

Never pay for fun knowingly or unknowingly.

Bet if you told them to pay you for your time and body.

You would get tons of abuse, named shamed!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"and this is why i do everything via the site .... admin are not responsible for any thing off site there for the moment you took it away from the site they are doing no wrong .. admin can do nothing

Admin do nothing anyway "

Admin always take action if a report is verified

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.

******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above).

Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.

Admin

PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.

Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:

Your feedback has been saved.

A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning.

By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.******

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