FabSwingers.com forum: Women wanting to get pregnant on here??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why the hell would a woman want to get pregnant off a random guy on here?!

I've seen several women's status with this being asked! What the f??k!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why the hell would a woman want to get pregnant off a random guy on here?!

I've seen several women's status with this being asked! What the f??k! "
Perhaps they want a child but not a man? It happens...........

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Some women choose that way to get pregnant because they.don't want a relationship, haven't got the time or inclination to meet a guy any other way and if you approached a guy in a pub or club and asked him to impregnate you you'd probably be seem as a little odd. It's not for me nor ever would have been and I don't understand it but I'm fast learning that it really does take all sorts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why the hell would a woman want to get pregnant off a random guy on here?!

I've seen several women's status with this being asked! What the f??k! "

Child support maybe?

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Has any woman really post that stuff here???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why the hell would a woman want to get pregnant off a random guy on here?!

I've seen several women's status with this being asked! What the f??k! "

I really can't understand why someone would want to make a kink out of brining a child into this world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I have seen it all now!! Well, heard it I mean because I havent seen a status like that - this site continues to amaze me every day!!

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By *insfordcoupleCouple
over a year ago

winsford cheshire

My fella and i think its up to the lady if they want it that way then so be it.

Leave them alone its their life and choice xx

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?"

The not claiming benefits is very good but I'm not to sure it's good for either the child or the man.

So what happens when the kids old enough to start asking where it's Father is or who he was ? not the best of things to say to them he shagged me from a sex site and never seen him since

Also if the women later decided to take the guy to the cleaners for support and the guy knew nothing about it then that's not exactly good either is it.

So on the whole, I think there's a lot wrong with it

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?"
this is shocking. cant understand how some people can see this as acceptable if the guy has fathered a child he has every right to know and medical roulette is a dangerous game, hereditary diseases organ match to father if things go wrong shocking that fems have done this never mind shocking that people think it is acceptable

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

But at least on here they're stating their intention, so the guy should have some idea... If they went out to a nightclub and picked someone up and shagged them without saying anything then the guy would never know

It's life. It's their choice

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

cheaper that ivf

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?"
And do you think thats fair to the child?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?And do you think thats fair to the child?"

To me it's very selfish of a woman to get pregnant and then never telling the father. That child is as much his as hers abd regardless of wanting child support or not he has the right to know about the child. It should be his choice if he is part of the child's life. Just like the child has right to have a father in their life if the father wants to be.

I'd hate to learn I was a child conceived off a swing site or from a one night stand. No matter how much my Mum loved me I'd still feel left out snd cheated. That's just me though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well why not? there are some attractive inteligent men on here.

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

The women doing this might think its the right thing to do at the time but I think it will cause more problems in later life when the kids start asking questions about why havent i got a daddy or when they are eighteen and go looking for their real father only to find he knew nothing of them.

Good question though what did they put on the birth certificate as the fathers name (surely its was not the guys fab user name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lots of people dont know who their real dad is and never will.

he is just a sperm doner.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"My fella and i think its up to the lady if they want it that way then so be it.

Leave them alone its their life and choice xx "

It so isn't! There is more than just one life involved.

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

"lots of people dont know who their real dad is and never will.

he is just a sperm doner."

I thought the law had changed on sperm donors and the kids could chase them up?? could be wrong on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lots of people dont know who their real dad is and never will.

he is just a sperm doner.

I thought the law had changed on sperm donors and the kids could chase them up?? could be wrong on this.

yes they can. i mean some women dont know who the daddy is or they dont realy care.

lots of men dont know they are not the father do they, also some men dont mind anyway.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Who are we to judge what anyone wants from here???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?

The not claiming benefits is very good but I'm not to sure it's good for either the child or the man.

So what happens when the kids old enough to start asking where it's Father is or who he was ? not the best of things to say to them he shagged me from a sex site and never seen him since

Also if the women later decided to take the guy to the cleaners for support and the guy knew nothing about it then that's not exactly good either is it.

So on the whole, I think there's a lot wrong with it

That's your opinion to which you are entitled .

How do you feel about lesbian or gay parents ?

Or parents who acrimoniously split when the child is still too young to understand ?

Both these ladies have very well adjusted children and it really is their choice

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

my motto

count your sperm out

count your sperm in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

reading this while watching jeremy kyle. woman was abdament her ex was her daughters father as she knew the dates.. oops he wasnt!

so how many people out there beleiving someone to be their father and he isnt?

atleast the woman r being honest on here.. and any guy choosing to meet them have to face the consequences of it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i read an article in the newspaper that said women who get sperm from a sperm doner dont know anything about them, not sure if i got that right though.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"well why not? there are some attractive inteligent men on here."
on that one you are defo right

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By *londeandbrownCouple
over a year ago

taunton

Incredible !!

Has society reached a level where parent hood is no longer something cherished, I'm a father of 2 children with my wife and call me old fashioned but maybe I'm in the minority but I still think the sanctity of a loving home and parents .

How do you explain to a child in the future that they were conceived by a stranger on a sex site.

Shaking my head in disbelief

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

Well, at one end of swinging is cuckolding, and cuckold-based pregnancy is a fantasy some people have.

It's pretty much the ultimate display of the cuckolding humiliation - your partner not only being filled by some other man whilst you get nothing, but even being impregnated by him.

Obviously creating another person is a pretty major side-effect for a night or two of kink, and not something I'd be interested in, but I can understand why some people would be into it.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I'm not judging people's decision to conceive a child this way (although I think it's hardly ideal).

However, do you seriously think they'd actually tell their child, when asked about their absent father, that they were conceived with the help of a stranger off a sex site?

Or is it more likely they'd say something like they were conceived after a wonderful night with a nice guy but it didn't work out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?"

How about..... the father carries a gene for a serious hereditary illness? How she going track him down should it show up in the child, so the medical profession can decide the best course of treatment??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?

The not claiming benefits is very good but I'm not to sure it's good for either the child or the man.

So what happens when the kids old enough to start asking where it's Father is or who he was ? not the best of things to say to them he shagged me from a sex site and never seen him since

Also if the women later decided to take the guy to the cleaners for support and the guy knew nothing about it then that's not exactly good either is it.

So on the whole, I think there's a lot wrong with it

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totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why the hell would a woman want to get pregnant off a random guy on here?!

I've seen several women's status with this being asked! What the f??k! "

I'm the opposite... I love sex too much to even think of getting pregnant.

Been a parent without giving birth and did it for a friend who was had an hysterectomy... Even her children stated they wanted me to be their guardian if anything happened to their mum...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they are not tricking anyone then can't see what problem is

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in my experience on here alot of women arn't women at all! so take any really dirty status/profiles with a pinch of salt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't understand why people need to get randomly pregnant when there are kids waiting to be adopted?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I am rarely judgemental but will make an exception. I've worked with vulnerable youngsters for years. Not knowing who they were, where they came from was the hardest thing to bear for some.

This isn't just getting pregnant and having a baby. This is being responsible for every aspect of another human being's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't understand why people need to get randomly pregnant when there are kids waiting to be adopted?"

Because they want to experience it all. I so loved being pregnant and although hard giving birth is an experience too.

So guessing that's why. I think it's no different to one night stands.

Cali

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Don't understand why people need to get randomly pregnant when there are kids waiting to be adopted?

Because they want to experience it all. I so loved being pregnant and although hard giving birth is an experience too.

So guessing that's why. I think it's no different to one night stands.

Cali"

As I said before, its more that just getting pregnant and giving birth. What about all the years which follow? I know first hand how hard it is to be a lone parent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I said before, its more that just getting pregnant and giving birth. What about all the years which follow? I know first hand how hard it is to be a lone parent. "

I know how hard it is too. I have 6 kids and one I have told him I have no idea who his dad is. I would never tell him either. It's as much of an issue as you make it

I to be honest would consider this if I really wanted another baby. As simply I wouldn't want anyone involved. I know for a fact I can cope as done it before.

Think some people worry to much about others lives. I know my parents lied to me about my dad. I know my dad isn't biologically my dad but why would I want to chase the sperm donor. I don't. So I can see it from both sides.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"I am rarely judgemental but will make an exception. I've worked with vulnerable youngsters for years. Not knowing who they were, where they came from was the hardest thing to bear for some.

This isn't just getting pregnant and having a baby. This is being responsible for every aspect of another human being's life. "

Ditto - not having the knowledge of where you come from or who you look like or who's little oddties you have inherited can be a huge issue and cause massive identity crisis as children hit adolescence and beyond despite having a stable and secure upbringing from loving parents!!

And as someone who works with looked after children and is an adoptive parent I can speak from first hand experience too!!!

It is selfishness at the highest level I believe!!!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I am rarely judgemental but will make an exception. I've worked with vulnerable youngsters for years. Not knowing who they were, where they came from was the hardest thing to bear for some.

This isn't just getting pregnant and having a baby. This is being responsible for every aspect of another human being's life.

And as someone who works with looked after children and is an adoptive parent I can speak from first hand experience too!!!

It is selfishness at the highest level I believe!!!"

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

"Don't understand why people need to get randomly pregnant when there are kids waiting to be adopted?"

Adoption is hard. We considered it but gave up. The problems, to name a few:

* Because we have abortion in the UK, there are almost zero babies available for adoption

* Rules regarding race means a surplus of children of one race, and a a surplus of parents of a different race, but adoption agencies do not permit mixed-race adoption

* Many adoption agencies won't even talk to you unless you already have a child. I guess you're meant to practice on your own, then adopt once you know what you're doing

* The second part of the "abortion in the UK" issue is many many kids available for adoption are there because they were taken from their parents. They may have severe emotional problems as a result of bad parents.

I completely understand your argument, but honestly, adoption is MUCH harder work than just having your own, assuming any degree of physical capability. And it doesn't really answer the original question either, where sex is the aim, not parenthood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't understand why people need to get randomly pregnant when there are kids waiting to be adopted?

Because they want to experience it all. I so loved being pregnant and although hard giving birth is an experience too.

So guessing that's why. I think it's no different to one night stands.

Cali"

Working in a job where I see what happens when people give no thought beyond pregnancy and then expect unconditional love from the child to fulfill their own attachment issues from childhood makes me think if those people gave a thought to adoption, perhaps they would be more successful in parenting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A child needs both parents about weather they are together or not .

My real father never bothered with me or my brother for years.

But I was lucky as my mum remarried a wonderful man I call my dad.

Getting pregnant And having a child is the small part of a commitment that lasts your whole life ,a commitment which should involve both parents if possible .

Coming on a sex site and asking to get pregnant by a total stranger will come back and bite you in the arse years later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If this is true then they also will be wanting/needing unprotective sex. How many men are they sleeping with "bareback" ?

The rise in sexually transmitted diseases is still going through the roof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

_olfcartweasel...

*I understand that the chances of getting a baby are slim. There are people on waiting lists for years.

*The rules around mixed adoption are very soon to be relaxed. This government wish to remove the part about race from the Children Act 1989 as they wish for more children to be adopted irrespective of the race of people wishing to adopt.

* Many adoption agencies have their own rules so it can be a bit of a lottery.

* Children that have been taken into care can be hard work, but can also be rewarding as well.

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By *atinaBabeCouple
over a year ago

casa caliente

disgusting how some women lost the respect for herselfs a kid needs mom and dad a loving family ,bloody low life slutys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how do you know their not married and their hubbys cant get them pregnant though? maybe the hubby is in agreement with it.

or maybe they have plenty of money so could afford to be single parents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't understand why people need to get randomly pregnant when there are kids waiting to be adopted?

Because they want to experience it all. I so loved being pregnant and although hard giving birth is an experience too.

So guessing that's why. I think it's no different to one night stands.

Cali

If someone wants a child then they will love them regardless. I think it's rubbish that you need both parents.

These women aren't going to love a child less because of how they chose to get it. Some people seem to think everything is black and white. It's not.

I think accidental pregnancies are often harder. Where people don't want the baby but feel that they have to keep it. Rather than those that want a baby just not the relationship.

But then I have children from various reasons. From unwanted to well planned and a few inbetween. As long as a child is loved and cared for I don't care. And as for std issues. I've never ever had a partner tested before we tried for a baby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"disgusting how some women lost the respect for herselfs a kid needs mom and dad a loving family ,bloody low life slutys! "

I must be off of them then. And you know what don't really care either. Oh and I also have utmost respect for myself and my children

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"disgusting how some women lost the respect for herselfs a kid needs mom and dad a loving family ,bloody low life slutys! "

My sons dad isn't around. Life isn't always perfect you know!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't understand why people need to get randomly pregnant when there are kids waiting to be adopted?

Because they want to experience it all. I so loved being pregnant and although hard giving birth is an experience too.

So guessing that's why. I think it's no different to one night stands.

Cali

If someone wants a child then they will love them regardless. I think it's rubbish that you need both parents.

These women aren't going to love a child less because of how they chose to get it. Some people seem to think everything is black and white. It's not.

I think accidental pregnancies are often harder. Where people don't want the baby but feel that they have to keep it. Rather than those that want a baby just not the relationship.

I never said that you needed both parents around to be able to raise a child. It was the complete lack of planning women who are asking men to get them pregnant because their body clock is "baby, baby, baby" that I object too, Its the same mentality as Paris Hilton with her handbag dog.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am rarely judgemental but will make an exception. I've worked with vulnerable youngsters for years. Not knowing who they were, where they came from was the hardest thing to bear for some.

This isn't just getting pregnant and having a baby. This is being responsible for every aspect of another human being's life. "

Worked in a youth hostel on mother's day and it broke my heart how much the young people there hated their birth parents... Not all parents are like that... Most are very loving... If the woman chooses to get pregnant from here, I would say really take the feelings of the child into consideration... They do grow up into adults in the end...

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By *rummy 2012Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Count me in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's your opinion to which you are entitled .

How do you feel about lesbian or gay parents ?

Or parents who acrimoniously split when the child is still too young to understand ?

Both these ladies have very well adjusted children and it really is their choice

My personal _iew is that children should have a Mother figure and a Father figure present in their lives where possible.

If that isnt possible then I have no problem with lesbian or gay couples adopting children.

Also there isnt much you can do if parents split acrimoniously too but at least it started out on the right track but bringing children into the world knowing and not wanting a Father will be present is a totally different matter.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

What of the SAFE SEX?????

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

I was approached and asked awhile ago, at the time i was shocked, but after thinking about it for awhile i actually found it to be wrong.

Though divorced, my 2 girls are the best thing in my life and always will be, they were (at the time) concieved out of love - To get a stranger to impregnate you is like going to a AI animal farm.

I didnt see the lady again, but she's obviously still trying as she's still on here

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By *n need of helpCouple
over a year ago

hull

fake name and address is the way

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By * starr -Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

no way! i use condoms and if i ever had the misfortune of one breaking and getting pregnant, i wouldnt/couldnt keep a child who's dad i only shagged for a quick shag.children are for life, not just for a quickie.

i dont agree with abortion myself, but in certain circumstances i do agree with it.but deliberately getting pregnant from here, no way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of a woman who is after this. She has an online Questionnaire which she gets men to fill out. She then goes through them to see who she will then spend the next 3-4 weeks breeding with.

If after this time she doesn't fall pregnant she will take a 2 week break and then select another male to try with.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"What of the SAFE SEX?????"

I'm just going out on a limb with this so don't quote me but I'm guessing that using condoms isn't really an option in this situation

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Can't honestly remember if it's on here or the fishy dating site but I've seen a profile looking for someone to impregnate them, so it definitely does happen.

Personally I don't think I'd be able to distance myself if I knew someone I'd fathered was alive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never seen that on a profile, but hell it's no different to pulling random's in a pub. father unknown is already on lots of birth certificates.

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By *in4sumMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Excuse me, when did safe sex regarding sti's stop being an issue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the flip side I've had 3 guys ask me to have their baby :o

As for both parents being around... Rubbish! My sons father wants nothing to do with him and its prob best that way! My son is no less loved or cherished for only having me!

His father would cause nothing but problems for him again! I'm sure my son will realise this when he is older too

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"As for both parents being around... Rubbish! My sons father wants nothing to do with him and its prob best that way! My son is no less loved or cherished for only having me!

His father would cause nothing but problems for him again! I'm sure my son will realise this when he is older too"

I agree with that as a single parent too with a wanker of an ex who always puts his daughter at the bottom of the priority list but its not necessarily about both parents being around but having access to knowledge about both maternal and paternal family history!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excuse me, when did safe sex regarding sti's stop being an issue?"

ask those that are happy with bareback and not want to get pregnant

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By *rummy 2012Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I dont see what all the fuss is about, I would gladly help a woman out with getting pregnant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't think I'd be able to distance myself if I knew someone I'd fathered was alive."

I met a lady a couple of years ago and a couple of months after she plastered all over her profile "im pregnant, safe sex from now on I have to think of baby "

I questioned this , she was abusive and vile and blocked me and left the site.

I have had to live now not knowing if I have a child out there in the big wide world and I often think about it but absolutely nothing I can do about it, its a very slim chance its mine as she was swinging for an Olympic gold medal. She might even have been lying but as soon as she posted that on her profile she started playing with peoples minds and lives. Some men wouldn't give a stuff , out of sight out of mind and all that but im not like that.

To be honest it got me really down at the time

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I must be really old fashioned but to be honest I don't mind being seen as such after reading this.

Whats wrong with making a baby in a loving and committed relationship nowadays?

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over a year ago

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?"
because a child needs there father to!!!!! And it's not fair a women makes that decision for the child

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for both parents being around... Rubbish! My sons father wants nothing to do with him and its prob best that way! My son is no less loved or cherished for only having me!

His father would cause nothing but problems for him again! I'm sure my son will realise this when he is older too"

You're missing the point and also taking it personal.

Its bringing a child into the World fully knowing you have no intention of having the Father around before even getting preggers.

Thats the main issue I think.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Fucking excellent post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never seen that on a profile, but hell it's no different to pulling random's in a pub. father unknown is already on lots of birth certificates."

This is my _iew and to be honest I think it's a little safer via here. As most guys I know outside of swinging wouldn't ever get tested. At least I'd hope more people would be testedon here

Cali

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over a year ago

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?"

what's up with that? Deliberately denying that child its right to have a father. Personally, I think its awful

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Never seen that on a profile, but hell it's no different to pulling random's in a pub. father unknown is already on lots of birth certificates.

This is my _iew and to be honest I think it's a little safer via here. As most guys I know outside of swinging wouldn't ever get tested. At least I'd hope more people would be testedon here

Cali"

lol I wouldnt count on 'swingers being safer because they get tested more' its a bit like saying 'Im a good d*unk driver as I do it regularly'.

The last thing on my mind if I was lookiing to get preggers would be if someone has an STI. It'd be more like, do I love them, are they in a secure job and will they stick around to support me to say the least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ? because a child needs there father to!!!!! And it's not fair a women makes that decision for the child"

But if the woman is not decieving the man and has it in her profile then the man is making that decision too is he not??

I'm not taking anything personal, I knew when I fell pregnant that his father wouldn't stick around and that I would be the one raising him, my point is it doesn't make him any less wanted or cherished! It doesn't mean he is missing out on anything in life. Is it not just as bad for a child to be in a situation with 2 parents who after having them clearly don't want to be together?

I know plenty of people who are quite glad not to have one of their parents in their life. Its a bit like children who r adopted and have no desire to seek their birth parents as they feel they have all the parents they need.

Same for single parents. If u raise them right and they don't feel they have missed out why would they feel they have been let down in anyway?

If the single parent bleets on about how the absent parent is doing their part etc then the child will feel resentful of not having the other parent there.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I think the issue of bringing a life into the world without any regard for its future is what is evident here.

Comments have been posted .. one of which I like is that it is a similar vein to that of Paris Hilton and her newest fashion teacup doggie.

People have better respect when there is so much at stake. And not do it out of ones own selfishness

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

people should have better respect)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a couple on here and it states on their profile that thry bareback every meet and if it happens it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ? because a child needs there father to!!!!! And it's not fair a women makes that decision for the child

But if the woman is not decieving the man and has it in her profile then the man is making that decision too is he not??

Same for single parents. If u raise them right and they don't feel they have missed out why would they feel they have been let down in anyway?

If the single parent bleets on about how the absent parent is doing their part etc then the child will feel resentful of not having the other parent there."

I'm a single mom with no dad on the scene (his choice, not mine) and although my son is very much loved and cherished and knows it, it is still heartbreaking trying to explain when he asks "why haven't I got a dad?" or "I wish I could meet my dad". I didnt know my ex husband would be absent, it was a complete shock, we were married, baby was planned etc so to deliberately set out to deny your child the right to have a father is, in my personal _iew, as wrong as choosing to be an absent father.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really can't see how wanting a baby is selfish but that's just me.

I kept a child everyone told me I should abort.Was that selfish too?

Children can be born of two parents that don't want them so what does it matter. I also disagree that not knowing who your father is is selfish. My dad may not be my biological father but I don't wish to find out who really is.

I would have loved to have planned to have children instead of just ending up with them abut I love them no less

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

What would happen if the child never new their father and when had grown up found a partner. For all they knew it could be a half sibling. I've seen this on telly before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What would happen if the child never new their father and when had grown up found a partner. For all they knew it could be a half sibling. I've seen this on telly before"

This can happen anyway. I wonder how many guys have children from their youth they have no knowledge of. D*unk quickies in toilets at night clubs. We know it happens.

I'm happy to refuse to tell my child who his father is. I don't know works a lot better for me. I also moved 200miles away from where I used to be

I see that as long as everyone is consenting and the woman wants the child that it's not really my place to judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she was gangbang, would be a lottery who the father was lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I just say also that I have only once been asked if I'm taking precautions. As condoms are not 100%

So I think that it's something that amusingly once horny most men don't seem to care about.

These women are at least giving people the chance to avoid them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What would happen if the child never new their father and when had grown up found a partner. For all they knew it could be a half sibling. I've seen this on telly before

This can happen anyway. I wonder how many guys have children from their youth they have no knowledge of. D*unk quickies in toilets at night clubs. We know it happens.

I'm happy to refuse to tell my child who his father is. I don't know works a lot better for me. I also moved 200miles away from where I used to be

I see that as long as everyone is consenting and the woman wants the child that it's not really my place to judge. "

Forgive me if I've misread but you refuse to tell your child who is father is when he asks?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

we live it a ' I want, I must get" world so any people thinking that the women who want it, will not get it... WRONG !!!!!

at least the ones who say... then you know what the outcome may be.

same as the mums to be who smoke and drink... they know the risks to the child, they want fag and/or drink... they will have it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some woman will do what ever to have a baby if the clocks ticking away and normal ways not working IVF can take time and money .. it may not be right but they may look for just the sperm .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgive me if I've misread but you refuse to tell your child who is father is when he asks?"

I'll message privately why but yes. When asked I told him I was very foolish and didn't know. Or have any recollection. He has never asked past that. In my case I will always believe this is for the well being of my son.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgive me if I've misread but you refuse to tell your child who is father is when he asks?

Cali"

You have no need to message me privately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't anyway as you have blocked all of my sex. But it would have made it clear why it's a case of a lie being a million times better than the truth.

I actually wish the lie was the truth as much easier to live with.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"I really can't see how wanting a baby is selfish but that's just me.

I kept a child everyone told me I should abort.Was that selfish too?

I would have loved to have planned to have children instead of just ending up with them abut I love them no less

And you think this is reason enough for someone to breed just because they have a vagina?

It is selfish as the life and/or future prospects of the unborn child arent taken into consideration. Instead a need or want or a desire takes over for the sake of selfish reproduction.

A similar comparison is why you see animal shelters. Mostly due to the efforts of Back Yard Breeders who realise little or even care about the effort or responsibility involved in bringing life into the world. Propped up by donations and charities... similar to tax payers bailing out welfare cases for people who have no regard for the child they 'need' so much.

Welfare is a benefit to life, not a duty, as is made by some.

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over a year ago

"Couldn't anyway as you have blocked all of my sex. But it would have made it clear why it's a case of a lie being a million times better than the truth.

I actually wish the lie was the truth as much easier to live with."

one of my friends once suggested that I told my son his dad was dead. I was horrified. I couldn't do that. I've told my son that when he is 16 I will help him look for his dad and then he can make his own mind up about it. Take care x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My children's futures are my main concern in life. I've chosen to keep a child and not tell him his parentage. I can't even say why on here without my post being pulled. So my reasons are just.

I don't see the link to animal shelters at all. As we are not talking unwanted pregnancies. These women want children. They just don't want a man to complicate it. To be honest I know lots of people that wish they didn't know.

It's hard work to have a child without a father. But it's easier than having one with a father that resents the child.

I sometimes wish I had done the whole loving relationship and plan for a baby but never happened. I don't regret my children or my choices. And until my other kids dad passed away I was best of friends with him. We didn't need to be together to be good parents.

Cali

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By *azzasheeneMan
over a year ago

kent

Is there any women out there who will help me get pregnant.

I think my womb has dried up but am willing to try and get a baby in my tummy.

I think that's how it works anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree...and call me crazy...but hello condoms!...Sex makes people do crazy/stupid things...and this is one of them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must be really old fashioned but to be honest I don't mind being seen as such after reading this.

Whats wrong with making a baby in a loving and committed relationship nowadays?

There is nothing wrong with that !

Who said there was ?

Of course that's the best way , no one has suggested otherwise have they ?

The fact of the matter is that the topic arose and having had experience from knowing women who have chosen to do this I put the other side out there .

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

As is your right....but my post referred to the whole thread and title rather than your post.

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By *incs-cpl1Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

The term "Breeding" doesn't necessarily refer to actual conception, just the fantasy maybe.

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Incredible !!

How do you explain to a child in the future that they were conceived by a stranger on a sex site.

Shaking my head in disbelief "

You're shaking your head in disbelief because you have the perfect little set up (aren't you the lucky one) and can't put yourself in anyone elses shoes for one second.

The single lady who desperately wants a baby before it's too late but can't find a manwho will stick around long enough.

The loving couple who have longed for a baby and tried for years and have almost bankrupted themselves paying for IVF and now there is no more money and no hope. They don't want to be in their 70's and alone at Christmas with no family of their own but what choice do they have?

Can these 2 examples not provide a loving, stable home for a child?

No we're not all as fortunate as you so peek out of your perfect little life occasionally and realise that everyone has different circumstances and you should consider yourself lucky to be able to have what you have and take it for granted.

I'm shaking my head in disbelief at your ignorance.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think I have gone thru the entire thread.. and if it has been mentions then I'll say sorry now....

but just from the stance of any medical history it just sounds wrong doing it this way and that is the main difference between this and IVF/Sperm Donors.... at least they can be screen to know if there may be any possible medical issues in the future...

and that goes before we even talk about the fathers right to know, the issue of child support ect ect ect....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never seen a profile from a woman saying she wants to get pregnant, I have had, however, twice messages from two different men asking if they could impregnate me. They got a short sharp no, followed by block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"disgusting how some women lost the respect for herselfs a kid needs mom and dad a loving family ,bloody low life slutys! "

All well and good making a statement like this!!!

What about when the child's father walks out. Has nothing to do with child, won't even pay maintenance.

Not talking about a random guy from here, talking about a guy I lived with for many years.

So does that make me a slut???

Get real, plenty single parents out there through no doing of their own, and I bet none of them are sluts.

Lets hope you never have a kid to have dad walk out and ignore kid, then again, if it did happen, your _iews would miraculously change, I bet word slut wouldn't be used then !!!

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By *londeandbrownCouple
over a year ago

taunton

"Incredible !!

How do you explain to a child in the future that they were conceived by a stranger on a sex site.

Shaking my head in disbelief

You're shaking your head in disbelief because you have the perfect little set up (aren't you the lucky one) and can't put yourself in anyone elses shoes for one second.

The single lady who desperately wants a baby before it's too late but can't find a manwho will stick around long enough.

Can these 2 examples not provide a loving, stable home for a child?

I'm shaking my head in disbelief at your ignorance. "

Might have touched a nerve , however this is our opinion you have yours.

So we are happy , we are a good family unit , so what !

Okay I understand the your examples and agree to an degree but surely the said offspring of a sex site insemination is gonna feel a little miffed when he/she finds out the truth of conception .

It's strange how it can offend people when as a couple, we like many others on here are happy and in a good place

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over a year ago

"Incredible !!

How do you explain to a child in the future that they were conceived by a stranger on a sex site.

Shaking my head in disbelief "
. Same as you explain the ivf clinic or the meat market of a local night club I guess. Society isn't perfect nor is life your very lucky nice wife 2.4 children but some are not that lucky. I'm in that position I'm desperate for a child more than you could ever possibly know. But think about this 15 years ago did u ever think you would be on a site looking to swing??? Life changes things become more sociably acceptable 15 year ago this site would have been banned but now it's accepted. Much in the same way as generations ago it wasn't apripriate to have a child out of wedlock. So if a lady chose to 'trap sperm' on here who isn't to say that in 15 years time that will be accepted and easy to such child to explain. It's no different to young girls going out on a Friday in a club pulling never seeing the guy again. I used to think the same way as u and would love a little perfect life to live like darling buds of may but for me it's not an option, having said that I'm not on here to trick,trap, or deceive any guy either because I do still have my dream.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

There is a difference between someone having a one night stand and falling pregnant by accident to a woman actively seeking a man to make her pregnant on a swinging site.

Imagine the conversation in a few years time....who is my dad?....well he was from Dudley ( or said he was anyway) and he was a clean living man ( well he said he was anyway ) his name was Dave ( well he said it was anyway) and when I advertised for someone to make me pregnant and he sent me a message so we chatted a bit, met up and had sex a few times and bingo, here you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Incredible !!

How do you explain to a child in the future that they were conceived by a stranger on a sex site.

Shaking my head in disbelief

You're shaking your head in disbelief because you have the perfect little set up (aren't you the lucky one) and can't put yourself in anyone elses shoes for one second.

The single lady who desperately wants a baby before it's too late but can't find a manwho will stick around long enough.

Can these 2 examples not provide a loving, stable home for a child?

I'm shaking my head in disbelief at your ignorance. "

Well looking at your example if a couple want children just so they won't be lonely when they get old are doing it for all the wrong reasons. The one thing you can't be with your kids is selfish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?"

For starters the fact that a man has every right to know if he's got a child out there. Plus that some children could grow up to think they weren't wanted by the father. Doesn't seem right one but to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was reading in one of my Mags lots of woman are coming on sites like this to have badys ... and not after a lover or help from the man after , lol its even more like a candy shop here pic and mix and you never know what you may get .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that more and more women are choosing to do it this way. I think as long as they aren't trying to trick guys then it's fine.

I know if I chose this way that I would be honest about it to my child. Tell them that I really wanted a baby and didn't want a relationship. So I chose anonymous guy. Bit like sperm donor only a lot more fun and connected

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that more and more women are choosing to do it this way. I think as long as they aren't trying to trick guys then it's fine.

Cali"

That's just selfish. Thinking of your own needs and not of the child.

I can't believe women would even think about doing this never mind actually carrying it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that more and more women are choosing to do it this way. I think as long as they aren't trying to trick guys then it's fine.

Cali"
your right some woman not looking for love nothing from the man But have a need and its strong to have a baby is it selfish or just fulfilling a need?

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over a year ago

"I think that more and more women are choosing to do it this way. I think as long as they aren't trying to trick guys then it's fine.

Cali

That's just selfish. Thinking of your own needs and not of the child.

I can't believe women would even think about doing this never mind actually carrying it out. "
. Why can't you believe it?? Why is what Cali saying selfish??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that more and more women are choosing to do it this way. I think as long as they aren't trying to trick guys then it's fine.

Cali

That's just selfish. Thinking of your own needs and not of the child.

I can't believe women would even think about doing this never mind actually carrying it out. . Why can't you believe it?? Why is what Cali saying selfish??"

Because it is selfish to think of there own needs to have a child and not the needs of the child while growing up. Even if the child is told they don't know who the father is and there loved by the mother there could always be the feeling of something being missing.

I've seen some one become ill and couldn't cope when something similar was done to them and found out about it when they were a teenager

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say there is a lot written on this thread that is pretty awful. Society is crumbling!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get how it's selfish. As long as you love and provide for a child then it's not. I think what is selfish is when people try to use children in games to try make people stay. Now that's selfish. Or keep them from a loving parent. In this case both adults know the score.

I think it depends how you deal with it. But I know my children would understand. I won't be having another child presently as broody as I am because right now I'm not financially in the best situation but mostly because it wouldn't be fair on my other children.

My daughter actually asked me if I would have another child because she would like another baby in the house. I said I was single now. She told me I know lots of guys. Couldn't one of them help. I said no because now wasn't the right time.

Cali

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over a year ago

"I think that more and more women are choosing to do it this way. I think as long as they aren't trying to trick guys then it's fine.

Cali

That's just selfish. Thinking of your own needs and not of the child.

I can't believe women would even think about doing this never mind actually carrying it out. . Why can't you believe it?? Why is what Cali saying selfish??

I've seen some one become ill and couldn't cope when something similar was done to them and found out about it when they were a teenager"
Like it or not there's woman doing this ... some been let down with men in there life ... some have there own money and life and don't need a man ... some think it will make them hole having a child ... see things have changed some may have a wish list of what they are looking for and find it here. Right or wrong i dont think thay care .. its there life. And thay will live it how thay wish there rules.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Personally, I found it a struggle bringing up children with 100% support from my husband. Why any one would choose to do so alone beats me.

I'm trying to imagine how a child would feel knowing their dad was a random stranger their mother shagged just to have them...can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to say there is a lot written on this thread that is pretty awful. Society is crumbling!"
its changing ... and woman becoming more powerfull and can do what thay wish if in a good place in life with work and things,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to say there is a lot written on this thread that is pretty awful. Society is crumbling!its changing ... and woman becoming more powerfull and can do what thay wish if in a good place in life with work and things,"

If women were genuinely being empowered by this I would agree. But I doubt most in this position really are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why the hell would a woman want to get pregnant off a random guy on here?!

I've seen several women's status with this being asked! What the f??k! "

It's nothing more than a fantasist's dream, usually a bloke posting it, as I'm sure it would be rare to find a woman wanting to fill her womb with some stranger's seed. Her natural instincts are to find the best possible mate to father her children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that more and more women are choosing to do it this way. I think as long as they aren't trying to trick guys then it's fine.

Cali

That's just selfish. Thinking of your own needs and not of the child.

I can't believe women would even think about doing this never mind actually carrying it out. . Why can't you believe it?? Why is what Cali saying selfish??

I've seen some one become ill and couldn't cope when something similar was done to them and found out about it when they were a teenagerLike it or not there's woman doing this ... some been let down with men in there life ... some have there own money and life and don't need a man ... some think it will make them hole having a child ... see things have changed some may have a wish list of what they are looking for and find it here. Right or wrong i dont think thay care .. its there life. And thay will live it how thay wish there rules."

But It's not just there life it's the life of the child aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If women were genuinely being empowered by this I would agree. But I doubt most in this position really are."
Alot doing this in the USA too .. been seeing things on tv about it and just think its going to be away of life to some woman.Some woman love work and being in control .. thay give that away having a man around at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With so many factors involved, it's about making sure you've thought it through and it's what you want: Man and Woman.

My _iew is that there are people who have brought children into this world after marriage, good careers and such yet are cruel, incompetent or just plain awful parents. So it's not how the child gets here but how the life of the child is after that concerns me.

As long as that child is loved, raised with care and attention to their needs then all I hope for is the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that more and more women are choosing to do it this way. I think as long as they aren't trying to trick guys then it's fine.

Cali

That's just selfish. Thinking of your own needs and not of the child.

I can't believe women would even think about doing this never mind actually carrying it out. . Why can't you believe it?? Why is what Cali saying selfish??

But It's not just there life it's the life of the child aswell"
Right or wrong thay see it as there child ..Woman .. some need to be in control and of there life and that everything in there life. And the man gets in the way ... sad i know but for some its how thay wish to live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that more and more women are choosing to do it this way. I think as long as they aren't trying to trick guys then it's fine.

Cali

That's just selfish. Thinking of your own needs and not of the child.

I can't believe women would even think about doing this never mind actually carrying it out. . Why can't you believe it?? Why is what Cali saying selfish??

I've seen some one become ill and couldn't cope when something similar was done to them and found out about it when they were a teenager"
. I disagree to be honest, it's all about how you bring the child up!! And the majority of single mothers do a dam fine job of bringing children up on there own. I don't think I'm selfish by wanting a child and bringing it up on my own, and there would be nothing wrong with my parenting skills either. I wouldn't come on here to 'trap sperm' but fully understand the desire of women that would do that. It's there choice rightly or wrongly it doesn't mean they are selfish or would make them a bad parent at all. Having a child isn't about the parents to me what they need its about how you grow the child into a adult, I've seen far more 'damaged children' from broken homes than from a child who is unaware of paternal father. Society is changing as I said in my pervious post nothing we can do to change it however much we try.

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By *londeandbrownCouple
over a year ago

taunton

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By *londeandbrownCouple
over a year ago

taunton

Society is changing that's a fact.

Do I like it ? No

Should I except it? Not my major problem but all I care about is my family and close friends so if I can give my kids all the things they need emotionally as well as material then I will in a loving 2.4 family middle class way, we come from nothing and its up to us as parents, like mine did to work hard ,not look to place blame on someone else for your mistakes and move forward

So if this woman wants to get pregnant by a man on here good luck to her she has her reasons but lets put the sky plus on for 18 years in the future because that's gonna be a good Jeremy Kyle show

Btw this is my opinion so if you don't line my moral high ground, not bovvered !!!!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a woman meet a man had sex after a night out .. not a swinger and he was not her boy-friend she was told she would never had children and to her surprise she end up pregnant ... she did find his number told him and said up to him if he wish to be in the babys life and asked him for nothing and now 8 months after no hard a thing from him, She has a good job and a nice house and she is so happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There r some strange People around! Take the shooting in the U.S.A at a school! Sad & Mad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wow she sounds just right for me?? age,location still single+pic of her if so?

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By *rummy 2012Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Any women need a donor just send me a message

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By *ickiemintMan
over a year ago

Somewhere NW London

"Why the hell would a woman want to get pregnant off a random guy on here?!

I've seen several women's status with this being asked! What the f??k! "

I couldn't stand the thought of there being a child of mine out there without me being able to love and look after it. Maybe that sounds a bit soft and a bit corny coming from a bloke, but thats just the way it is. I don't understand how anyone can impregnate a woman then just walk away and not know the child. Maybe i'm old fashioned in taking this _iewpoint, but hey, thats the way it is. Rich.

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By *londeandbrownCouple
over a year ago

taunton

"Why the hell would a woman want to get pregnant off a random guy on here?!

I've seen several women's status with this being asked! What the f??k!

With you 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had an email asking me if I want to get pregnant when I said no he bloked me. So it's not only women apparently haha

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

"I've had an email asking me if I want to get pregnant when I said no he bloked me. "

I guess it might have been difficult to get you pregnant if he 'bloked' you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had an email asking me if I want to get pregnant when I said no he bloked me.

I guess it might have been difficult to get you pregnant if he 'bloked' you!

Looooool! Just choked on my Earl Grey! Made my day thanks!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am rarely judgemental but will make an exception. I've worked with vulnerable youngsters for years. Not knowing who they were, where they came from was the hardest thing to bear for some.

This isn't just getting pregnant and having a baby. This is being responsible for every aspect of another human being's life. "

So a single parent makes vulnerable youngsters ? They came from their mother so what you are basically saying is find a man and have a relationship or don't have kids !

And secondly don't split up or your kids will be vulnerable haha I'm an only child brought up by my mother I don't give a shit about my dad nor do I want to meet him everyone is different put down your gavel judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most on this thread condemning it I'm pretty amused at as they are probably parents themselves and I think it's wrong to be a percent being fucked, gangbanged, bukakkeed , threesomes lesbian

Think about if your kids friends found out you (mum) like getting gangbanged !

Or you get caught with dad having a threesome

That would traumatise any child they would be bullied and taunted for life !!

Think about this before any of you pass judgement because if I'm honest you are fucked up !! Older children above 18 fair enough but below YOU ARE A BAD PARENT ! Sorry my personal opinion

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

There was a similar thread some weeks or maybe even months back. What I saw there and what are see on here now is not all that different - it is still pretty awful stuff to read.

I am not saying that children of single parents cannot become happy, well adjusted children, however, anybody who has ever worked with children or young people and as a modicum of understanding of child psychology and development will know that early attachment is one of the key influences that may determine a person's mental and emotional health in later life.

As Rugby said earlier - it is one thing falling pregnant by accident (not ideal but I am realistic enough to know it can and does happen). Going out to become pregnant by somebody, anybody... and then to bring the child up alone means denying the child the possibility of attachment, role model and so much more. It is at best a bit naive and at worst rather self-focussed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I found it a struggle bringing up children with 100% support from my husband. Why any one would choose to do so alone beats me.

I'm trying to imagine how a child would feel knowing their dad was a random stranger their mother shagged just to have them...can't."

Its been much easier for me since my sons father hasn't been around, so maybe u struggled cos u didn't do it alone

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By *ursevampsWoman
over a year ago

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im a single mum i didnt plan on becoming pregnant but i choose to give my unflung a chance and i now have a 8 year old boy who i love to bits i cvant have anymore children for now he knoews daddy and mummy wernt together but he has a mummty that loves him and thats all that natters i wouldnt change how i became regnant ws a wild night lots alcahol even tho i was on pill and we used condoms i still became pregnant i love my beast i dont meet new eople with him at home i refuse had a load of shit for it e knows i have a male friend and all he sees is a cuddle and a kiss we have discussed it and he happy i wouldnt hide it from him but if ut became a issue i would stiop swinging beastie is more important my sons father knew he had a child i wouldnt ever ask him for anythign i choose to keep the baby not him im responsible form him no one enlse but advertising you want to become [regnant no way that mental i can understand why it done but immoral al same

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By *ursevampsWoman
over a year ago

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"im a single mum i didnt plan on becoming pregnant but i choose to give my unflung a chance and i now have a 8 year old boy who i love to bits i cvant have anymore children for now he knoews daddy and mummy wernt together but he has a mummty that loves him and thats all that natters i wouldnt change how i became regnant ws a wild night lots alcahol even tho i was on pill and we used condoms i still became pregnant i love my beast i dont meet new eople with him at home i refuse had a load of shit for it e knows i have a male friend and all he sees is a cuddle and a kiss we have discussed it and he happy i wouldnt hide it from him but if ut became a issue i would stiop swinging beastie is more important my sons father knew he had a child i wouldnt ever ask him for anythign i choose to keep the baby not him im responsible form him no one enlse but advertising you want to become [regnant no way that mental i can understand why it done but immoral al same

uflung was my bumb name btw

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I would like to add for all those single mums (and dads) on here that it can be extremely tough being a single parent. I have been one myself for about 10 years and it means a lot of sacrifices at times.

I have nothing but repsect for those who manage to raise children single handed.

My issue is not with single parents per se or with somebody falling pregnant despite precautions.

My issue is solely with the idea (and I really dont care whether this is considered a fetish, a fantasy or whatever other misguided name it might be given) of going out to find a cock to produce a child.

My usual stance of sitting on the fence on most things (and I genuinely can see more than one side in any debate) is compromised on this topic... for me it is simply wrong on so many levels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry I can understand where this girl is coming from but surely it would be better to wait until she is in a stable relationship first...

People have rights and her trapping a man in to getting her pregnant is taking his rights of wanting to become a father or not. Also what is she going to tell the poor kid when he/she gets older and wants to no where and who the father is.

Another thing I have come across on here is the majority of these older single males on here are married and are just simply looking for a bit of extra spice.

#baffled

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Most on this thread condemning it I'm pretty amused at as they are probably parents themselves and I think it's wrong to be a percent being fucked, gangbanged, bukakkeed , threesomes lesbian

Think about if your kids friends found out you (mum) like getting gangbanged !

Or you get caught with dad having a threesome

That would traumatise any child they would be bullied and taunted for life !!

Think about this before any of you pass judgement because if I'm honest you are fucked up !! Older children above 18 fair enough but below YOU ARE A BAD PARENT ! Sorry my personal opinion

does that make you fucked up for wanting to meet couples who possibly do the things you say are wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most on this thread condemning it I'm pretty amused at as they are probably parents themselves and I think it's wrong to be a percent being fucked, gangbanged, bukakkeed , threesomes lesbian

Think about if your kids friends found out you (mum) like getting gangbanged !

Or you get caught with dad having a threesome

That would traumatise any child they would be bullied and taunted for life !!

Think about this before any of you pass judgement because if I'm honest you are fucked up !! Older children above 18 fair enough but below YOU ARE A BAD PARENT ! Sorry my personal opinion

does that make you fucked up for wanting to meet couples who possibly do the things you say are wrong?"

You must be referring to yourself here then too as you are on this site for the exact same reason as the rest of us....!!

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"Why the hell would a woman want to get pregnant off a random guy on here?!

I've seen several women's status with this being asked! What the f??k!

I can assure you this is definitely NOT a dream. I have seen a single woman's profile on here string exactly that in black and white with my own two eyes..

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

"My fella and i think its up to the lady if they want it that way then so be it.

Leave them alone its their life and choice xx "
What about the child's life ??

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?this is shocking. cant understand how some people can see this as acceptable if the guy has fathered a child he has every right to know and medical roulette is a dangerous game, hereditary diseases organ match to father if things go wrong shocking that fems have done this never mind shocking that people think it is acceptable

I couldn't agree more. I feel exactly the same way it appalls and saddens me that a child's life can be so carelessly decided on a site like this. I had fertility problems and it wouldn't have crossed my mind in a nano second even when I was at my most desperate.

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

"Incredible !!

How do you explain to a child in the future that they were conceived by a stranger on a sex site.

Shaking my head in disbelief "

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By *rSinfulMan
over a year ago

mysteryville

I've held in my arms a tormented soul who did not know who their dad was. Children you may make children may be of your blood but children are individuals and no one owns them for they one their self. To decide you are ok with something and to then assume your child will grow to be I'm with it shows a massive lack of redpect and understanding for individuality freedom and sentience. We are all children my mum might have divorced my dad but I love my dad and glad I can see him.

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By *esmond70Man
over a year ago

tavistock

Im a single dad the kids mum up and left personaly its personal choice for the lady live and let live ther are sperm donors sites

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By *ussyonfireWoman
over a year ago

Windsor

"I know a couple of women who deliberately got pregnant from one off meets - both are very happy with having their child as neither wanted a full time fella in their life .

To be fair to the women , neither has let on to the father and neither clam benefits - both are in good jobs and it's what they wanted .

What's up with that ?And do you think thats fair to the child?

I'd hate to learn I was a child conceived off a swing site or from a one night stand. No matter how much my Mum loved me I'd still feel left out snd cheated. That's just me though.

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By *rummy 2012Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

So where are these women then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't exist. I thought this was an early April 1st joke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They don't exist. I thought this was an early April 1st joke."
lol Some woman only looking for the seed ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anybody who is gonna get pregnant while swinging must be a sick bastard and need there head checked what sick person would deprive there child on purpose from having a father what happens when the child says mummy who is my daddy ?????!!??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lifes not easy for single mums.

i know a few and see how down they get at times.

but back on topic.

yes people do approach you asking if youd get someone pregnant.

its not for me.

im not rude to them just politely decline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anybody who is gonna get pregnant while swinging must be a sick bastard and need there head checked what sick person would deprive there child on purpose from having a father what happens when the child says mummy who is my daddy ?????!!??"
. Oh get over it seriously people do all mannor of strange things when they have a burning desire to have a child doesn't warrant you name calling at all. It's a persons own choice weather you like it or not. Some women go to sperm donar clinics so how would they explain that, it doesn't take a mummy and daddy to raise a child infact some single parents do an amazing job. We shouldn't judge people for what they choose to do nor should we name call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anybody who is gonna get pregnant while swinging must be a sick bastard and need there head checked what sick person would deprive there child on purpose from having a father what happens when the child says mummy who is my daddy ?????!!??. Oh get over it seriously people do all mannor of strange things when they have a burning desire to have a child doesn't warrant you name calling at all. It's a persons own choice weather you like it or not. Some women go to sperm donar clinics so how would they explain that, it doesn't take a mummy and daddy to raise a child infact some single parents do an amazing job. We shouldn't judge people for what they choose to do nor should we name call."

correct.

everyone has different likes/dislikes.

what makes us human and they shouldnt be cast out because of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I respect everyone's opinion personally I don't know what the big deal is.

One of the reasons I'm on here is to find someone who will breast feed me.

Maybe the lady in question can PM me when she gets to the third semester

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By *antstoplaynowMan
over a year ago

uxbridge

Would help out but iv had the snip ........... Could help them practice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea,suppose it could be the want of a child but not a man.

But then there could come future health problems with no knowledge each to their own but i find it a little odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although I respect everyone's opinion personally I don't know what the big deal is.

One of the reasons I'm on here is to find someone who will breast feed me.

Maybe the lady in question can PM me when she gets to the third semester

Trimester. And most women's milk doesn't come in until they have actually had the baby. Nipple stimulation in later pregnancy *can* bring on early labour.

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By *r and Mrs SnogalotCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Although I respect everyone's opinion personally I don't know what the big deal is."

As adult we take informed risks everytime we have sex with a stranger. Even if, like me you practice safe sex the condom can split. An unborn child does not have a voice in this so you have to hope the mother woudl let common sense prevail.

Shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

faq , is it fair on the child ?(another example) is it fair on elton johns child having 2 gay parents ? that child might get riddiculed or bullied ? if the donor is tested and clean and both parties are happy with the situation , then so what ? let them crack on. saves a lot of money on ivf

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Don't understand why people need to get randomly pregnant when there are kids waiting to be adopted?"

Because the hoops you have to jump through to adopt are numerous and very difficult to get through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shy

best post of 2013 so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why the hell would a woman want to get pregnant off a random guy on here?!

I've seen several women's status with this being asked! What the f??k! Perhaps they want a child but not a man? It happens..........."
with all respect you wouldn't choose a guy off a swingers site as its fairly promiscuous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who are we to judge what anyone wants from here???"

It's a sex site site, not a child production unit,

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

well that was an interesting one

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