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Females/couples having an issue with guys into transgirls

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’d love to hear genuine views from

females / couples that take this approach with guys.

Some guys don’t have tv/ts as their preference, nor do they show verifications from transgirls on their profiles as apparently it “puts some couples and females off“.

You would have to be delusional to think these guys aren’t shagging everything and anything on here regardless, so just trying to understand the issue these couples and females have with their preferences?

It’s clearly stopping these spineless, pathetic men being open and relaxed about their preferences, even on a sex site where you’d think people would be quite open minded towards every group. It’s also offensive to us girls who at times are made to feel unworthy of a total presence like everyone else.

There are of course plenty of guys on here who are relaxed about all their preferences but the fact that others don’t, just because of narrow minded views from some, is a little sad.

He’ll still be pounding you after he’s been with me - you just don’t know about it, so what’s the real reason by the stance?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

They look down on bisexual men is why. Think they are high risk for sti

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

I love a slim smooth t girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d love to hear genuine views from

females / couples that take this approach with guys.

Some guys don’t have tv/ts as their preference, nor do they show verifications from transgirls on their profiles as apparently it “puts some couples and females off“.

You would have to be delusional to think these guys aren’t shagging everything and anything on here regardless, so just trying to understand the issue these couples and females have with their preferences?

It’s clearly stopping these spineless, pathetic men being open and relaxed about their preferences, even on a sex site where you’d think people would be quite open minded towards every group. It’s also offensive to us girls who at times are made to feel unworthy of a total presence like everyone else.

There are of course plenty of guys on here who are relaxed about all their preferences but the fact that others don’t, just because of narrow minded views from some, is a little sad.

He’ll still be pounding you after he’s been with me - you just don’t know about it, so what’s the real reason by the stance? "

Fab can be great or absolutely crap, trans-phobic and bi-phobic people everywhere.

Some people will change their profile just to suit, and fab doesn't give the option of pansexual either, so foe a male like myself I have to put bi-curious because I find women and trans women attractive.

G&C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of very judgemental people on here! Most users happy to try and play the percentages whilst secretly keeping their options open. How many “straight guys” are suddenly happy to dabble with cock, as long as it’s not common knowledge. If you like it you like it, no shame!

Stunning photo by the way xx

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

To be fair, if a guy has straight on his profile and he’s sleeping with trans women then he is straight so I don’t see the problem. I do hate the category restrictions on here though, there should be a clear distinction between TV and trans because they aren’t the same and having simply bi or bicurious isn’t enough either, I’m Pansexual so gender and sex don’t come in to it.

If a guy feels he can’t disclose his full preferences/sexuality on here then he owes no one anything although he may be missing some opportunities. And equally, as a couple if we interact with someone we aren’t owed a full background of everyone they’ve ever been with.

OP, you’re absolutely stunning!

C x

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair, if a guy has straight on his profile and he’s sleeping with trans women then he is straight so I don’t see the problem. I do hate the category restrictions on here though, there should be a clear distinction between TV and trans because they aren’t the same and having simply bi or bicurious isn’t enough either, I’m Pansexual so gender and sex don’t come in to it.

If a guy feels he can’t disclose his full preferences/sexuality on here then he owes no one anything although he may be missing some opportunities. And equally, as a couple if we interact with someone we aren’t owed a full background of everyone they’ve ever been with.

OP, you’re absolutely stunning!

C x"

And it’s great to see that and that you’re also a part of a couple proudly embracing your preferences on here.

Maybe send some feedback to fab about the pansexual option. Just feels like fab hasn’t moved with the times on a lot of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They look down on bisexual men is why. Think they are high risk for sti "

Can you imagine being on a swingers site and actually thinking that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And it’s great to see that and that you’re also a part of a couple proudly embracing your preferences on here.

Maybe send some feedback to fab about the pansexual option. Just feels like fab hasn’t moved with the times on that

"

Fab really does need to get with the times attraction is attraction there's no grey area there

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"They look down on bisexual men is why. Think they are high risk for sti "

Clearly we play with bi guys, so I feel in a place to state this, but the fact is, bi men are a much higher STI risk than straight men.

Personally I don't have a problem with women not wanting to play with bi guys. They know they can't give them everything they need and the added STI risk.

Consent is freely given and removed, judging or shaming people about their sexual choices is eliminating a key aspect of "freely given".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair, if a guy has straight on his profile and he’s sleeping with trans women then he is straight so I don’t see the problem. I do hate the category restrictions on here though, there should be a clear distinction between TV and trans because they aren’t the same and having simply bi or bicurious isn’t enough either, I’m Pansexual so gender and sex don’t come in to it.

If a guy feels he can’t disclose his full preferences/sexuality on here then he owes no one anything although he may be missing some opportunities. And equally, as a couple if we interact with someone we aren’t owed a full background of everyone they’ve ever been with.

OP, you’re absolutely stunning!

C x"

This is the open minded and accepting views everyone should adopt, but it’s a shame these men feel it’s ok to make others feel less worthy, because of their own insecurities.

Thank you for the compliment and likewise, you’re fire!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't because it puts off women and couples. It's because these men are bigoted and think they'll be judged for it.

I personally have no issue with who previous partners have engaged with.

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"I’d love to hear genuine views from

females / couples that take this approach with guys.

Some guys don’t have tv/ts as their preference, nor do they show verifications from transgirls on their profiles as apparently it “puts some couples and females off“.

You would have to be delusional to think these guys aren’t shagging everything and anything on here regardless, so just trying to understand the issue these couples and females have with their preferences?

It’s clearly stopping these spineless, pathetic men being open and relaxed about their preferences, even on a sex site where you’d think people would be quite open minded towards every group. It’s also offensive to us girls who at times are made to feel unworthy of a total presence like everyone else.

There are of course plenty of guys on here who are relaxed about all their preferences but the fact that others don’t, just because of narrow minded views from some, is a little sad.

He’ll still be pounding you after he’s been with me - you just don’t know about it, so what’s the real reason by the stance? "

I don't have any issues with whoever someone chooses I do have a preference.

I don't like bi guys and I don't want to eat a chic or her to eat me because I'm not bi not bi curious. I'm not afraid to play next to couples or be next to a couple whos's fucking a trans person..

So if a guy lies about WHO OR what he prefers I don't trust them to be honest about anything else sexually.

As far as it being my issue it isn't it's the guy you are proud to know that he fucks you in secret that you should take offense for. He rather not put he's bi or into TVs because HE WANTS to have his cake and more cake on the side. Sad part is you know you're the secret and are okay with it, others he chooses to fuck who don't know his preference didn't get the chance to make that choice because he lied about or hid his preference.

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By *ohn heaneyMan
over a year ago

kildare

I told the wife while d*unk snagging her that I like tv/ts and she is genuinely OK with it.i was shocked. I was ready for her to shout at me and maybe a right hook but quiet the opposite. We have discussed a few time but it's not her scene

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By *aulaxd2020TV/TS
over a year ago

Dudley

Men massively outnumber women on this site having the tv/ts option on their profile will massively reduce their odds of meeting a female..... we are the next best thing to real women so some are bound to try their luck with us. Some of those in our category look absolutely stunning, I get dozens of straight men messaging me I actually find it quite flattering tbh,

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"It isn't because it puts off women and couples. It's because these men are bigoted and think they'll be judged for it.

"

There are a large number of couple and single lady profiles that state no bi sexual men.

So they don't want to risk missing out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes bi men a higher risk? They don't necessarily have more sexual partners than others. I've come across plenty of profiles stating no bi men, and always wondered why

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"What makes bi men a higher risk? They don't necessarily have more sexual partners than others. I've come across plenty of profiles stating no bi men, and always wondered why"

https://www.yoursexualhealthmatters.org.uk/further-sexual-health-support/lgbt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What makes bi men a higher risk? They don't necessarily have more sexual partners than others. I've come across plenty of profiles stating no bi men, and always wondered why

https://www.yoursexualhealthmatters.org.uk/further-sexual-health-support/lgbt

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Oh I see, thank you for the information. I'm bi but honest about my preferences and get checked regularly, but I've been doing that since long before I even considered 'msm' as the site puts it

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"What makes bi men a higher risk? They don't necessarily have more sexual partners than others. I've come across plenty of profiles stating no bi men, and always wondered why

https://www.yoursexualhealthmatters.org.uk/further-sexual-health-support/lgbt

Oh I see, thank you for the information. I'm bi but honest about my preferences and get checked regularly, but I've been doing that since long before I even considered 'msm' as the site puts it"

Yip. One issue is secret bi men who are married etc as they don't get tested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your input, really interesting stuff.

I actually wasn’t aware that guys into transgirls were in the higher STI category but reading some of the information linked here and Google, it does appear to be the case.

It really is a shame for everyone involved in this lifestyle as;

1) the women / couples aren’t now fully aware of the guys real preferences as it’s all under the radar

2) transgirls are made to feel 2nd class at times as we’ve not adopted a similar stance where we won’t meet a guy cause of his preference in women etc

We’re a niche group and believe it or not, we are sometimes preferred over others. Maybe if all the trans girls adopted the same approach, men would start being more open and honest!

The most annoying part is that these men are still happily having their cake and eating it too.

I do however believe and Ive seen some scary bareback videos / pictures across the spectrum on here that regardless of people’s preferences, the risk of STi is high on a site like this for everyone. Creating an environment that is open and accepting of everyone’s preference will allow everyone to make an informed choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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He’ll still be pounding you after he’s been with me - you just don’t know about it, so what’s the real reason by the stance? "

Possibly the fact he's deliberately lying about it is a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They look down on bisexual men is why. Think they are high risk for sti

Clearly we play with bi guys, so I feel in a place to state this, but the fact is, bi men are a much higher STI risk than straight men.

Personally I don't have a problem with women not wanting to play with bi guys. They know they can't give them everything they need and the added STI risk.

*Consent is freely given and removed, judging or shaming people about their sexual choices is eliminating a key aspect of "freely given".*

"

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


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He’ll still be pounding you after he’s been with me - you just don’t know about it, so what’s the real reason by the stance?

Possibly the fact he's deliberately lying about it is a turn off. "

Definitely this...what else are they lieing about.

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