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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just for a change….

Keep the faith guys and please keep coming along to the clubs.

Some couples appreciate the effort that you make and your are most definitely wanted.

The weekend is approaching and we look forward to seeing you out and about

Best wishes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just for a change….

Keep the faith guys and please keep coming along to the clubs.

Some couples appreciate the effort that you make and your are most definitely wanted.

The weekend is approaching and we look forward to seeing you out and about

Best wishes! "

I haven't really done clubs as a single (did with my ex) but always enjoyed the social side

Think I definitely need to get back on it

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By *n080971Man
over a year ago

Newbury

I have a single guy space booked at a club next week. I quite like going on my own and have never been without finding someone to chat with, or more !

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By *histlerMan
over a year ago

Guildford

My experiences haven’t been great on my own. Need to make more of an effort to get chatting to people but can be quite intimidating in your own.

My last visit I was the only one left at midnight!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My experiences haven’t been great on my own. Need to make more of an effort to get chatting to people but can be quite intimidating in your own.

My last visit I was the only one left at midnight!!"

Bear in mind that the couples who attend in the nights that single guys are welcome aren’t generally there by accident.

Make that extra little effort and go say Hi

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By *histlerMan
over a year ago

Guildford


"My experiences haven’t been great on my own. Need to make more of an effort to get chatting to people but can be quite intimidating in your own.

My last visit I was the only one left at midnight!!

Bear in mind that the couples who attend in the nights that single guys are welcome aren’t generally there by accident.

Make that extra little effort and go say Hi "

Noted!! Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experiences haven’t been fantastic, I have mostly been ignored or told to go away when I’m in clubs and not successful on here. It’s refreshing to see couples like the OP willing to give us a chance.

Most of us are lovely guys who want to have the same chance of chat and fun as ladies and couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My experiences haven’t been fantastic, I have mostly been ignored or told to go away when I’m in clubs and not successful on here. It’s refreshing to see couples like the OP willing to give us a chance.

Most of us are lovely guys who want to have the same chance of chat and fun as ladies and couples."

There’s someone for everyone.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been wanting to go but I don’t know what the reception is to a young lad like my self. A little daunting

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

Thankfully I have no issues attending clubs on my own. On my humble experience a friendly smile followed by a good evening or hello is enough to break the ice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve been wanting to go but I don’t know what the reception is to a young lad like my self. A little daunting "

The majority of clubs have a minimum 25 age limit buddy but check the websites.

Any reception you get will depend upon who’s present that night and how you conduct yourself.

Perhaps you can find a couple to introduce you or find a female friend to take along.

Wouldn’t suggest you go with another male though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thankfully I have no issues attending clubs on my own. On my humble experience a friendly smile followed by a good evening or hello is enough to break the ice. "

Works well for us

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"My experiences haven’t been great on my own. Need to make more of an effort to get chatting to people but can be quite intimidating in your own.

My last visit I was the only one left at midnight!!"

Ooh! I beat you there! The last club I went to was Club Play in Blackpool, and I left at 10:45 after being in there since opening at 8pm……

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We actively avoid club nights/events that are couples/single women only. Because of how we like to play, we *need* single guys at clubs.

Just wish more of them would start a conversation and do less of the constant circling, head poking in every room

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We actively avoid club nights/events that are couples/single women only. Because of how we like to play, we *need* single guys at clubs.

Just wish more of them would start a conversation and do less of the constant circling, head poking in every room

(Bry)"

Same.

We avoid the couples nights too.

Given that so many guys are regularly rebuffed we now make an effort to engage first with guys in the hope of restoring some faith.

It has lead to a couple of misunderstandings but open communication has usually put things straight.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"We actively avoid club nights/events that are couples/single women only. Because of how we like to play, we *need* single guys at clubs.

Just wish more of them would start a conversation and do less of the constant circling, head poking in every room

(Bry)"

Or the following you around. Be better if they just came up to us and started a general convosation instead of getting straight on to what are you both after/in to sex wise.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

To be fair it was only the very old guys who creeped me out a bit on our first club visit. They were late 70's and followed the ladies everywhere. They would also constantly stare at you which i found unnerving. The younger guys were great to be fair.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Our experiences have been mixed but generally positive! We felt sorry for one guy who was alone at the bar for a bit so we went over to say hi. Got chatting to him for half an hour or so and introduced him to some friends. We thought nothing more of it.

Then a couple of years later he messages us on here to say he remembered us from that night and wanted to thank us for taking the time to make him feel welcome.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"Just for a change….

Keep the faith guys and please keep coming along to the clubs.

Some couples appreciate the effort that you make and your are most definitely wanted.

The weekend is approaching and we look forward to seeing you out and about

Best wishes! "

This is a great post in appreciation for the genuine single men who make an effort.

I wouldn’t go to the clubs if it wasn’t for the guys!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Our experiences have been mixed but generally positive! We felt sorry for one guy who was alone at the bar for a bit so we went over to say hi. Got chatting to him for half an hour or so and introduced him to some friends. We thought nothing more of it.

Then a couple of years later he messages us on here to say he remembered us from that night and wanted to thank us for taking the time to make him feel welcome. "

That’s a lovely positive outcome.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Our experiences have been mixed but generally positive! We felt sorry for one guy who was alone at the bar for a bit so we went over to say hi. Got chatting to him for half an hour or so and introduced him to some friends. We thought nothing more of it.

Then a couple of years later he messages us on here to say he remembered us from that night and wanted to thank us for taking the time to make him feel welcome. "

Thats a very nice guy. Shows respect and good moral values. Good on you all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Our experiences have been mixed but generally positive! We felt sorry for one guy who was alone at the bar for a bit so we went over to say hi. Got chatting to him for half an hour or so and introduced him to some friends. We thought nothing more of it.

Then a couple of years later he messages us on here to say he remembered us from that night and wanted to thank us for taking the time to make him feel welcome. "

We’ve seen this also with the very old guys but without having a chance to speak with them we wondered if they may have been married for many years in a vanilla relationship and now as they near the end of their lives that want to see what they’ve been missing?

Obviously we could be very wrong but we dont mind them watching in any case if they don’t try for a grope.

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By *9funboyMan
over a year ago

Harrogate


"I’ve been wanting to go but I don’t know what the reception is to a young lad like my self. A little daunting "

I think you'd go down very well! With the girls and guys, but that's another story. ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Our experiences have been mixed but generally positive! We felt sorry for one guy who was alone at the bar for a bit so we went over to say hi. Got chatting to him for half an hour or so and introduced him to some friends. We thought nothing more of it.

Then a couple of years later he messages us on here to say he remembered us from that night and wanted to thank us for taking the time to make him feel welcome.

We’ve seen this also with the very old guys but without having a chance to speak with them we wondered if they may have been married for many years in a vanilla relationship and now as they near the end of their lives that want to see what they’ve been missing?

Obviously we could be very wrong but we dont mind them watching in any case if they don’t try for a grope. "

Sorry we responded to the wrong quote.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"My experiences haven’t been great on my own. Need to make more of an effort to get chatting to people but can be quite intimidating in your own.

My last visit I was the only one left at midnight!!

Bear in mind that the couples who attend in the nights that single guys are welcome aren’t generally there by accident.

Make that extra little effort and go say Hi "

This is so true. In our opinion there are never enough single guys in the club!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's actually really sweet to hear. I've recently been to my local club for the first time having out it off for so long as the thought of going as a single guy really overwhelmed me. Just saying Hi to people was really tough but there are lovely people there who I really enjoyed chatting to and who I hope to meet again in future

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Lovely thread

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By *yphodMan
over a year ago

London

As a single guy it can be a little intimidating, what to say what not to say, how to initiate something without coming across as creepy, reading the body language of people you don't know.

Everyone knows why we are there, just us Brits don't half beat about the bush sometimes compared to Europeans, who are far more direct with single blokes, either with rejection (nice to meet you but no interested), or welcoming (actually asking for single block to play). I was once in a German club, and a woman came up to me saying my dick looked a little flaccid (I was standing at the bar) and would I like some help, as she knelt down and gave me a BJ.

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley


"As a single guy it can be a little intimidating, what to say what not to say, how to initiate something without coming across as creepy, reading the body language of people you don't know.

Everyone knows why we are there, just us Brits don't half beat about the bush sometimes compared to Europeans, who are far more direct with single blokes, either with rejection (nice to meet you but no interested), or welcoming (actually asking for single block to play). I was once in a German club, and a woman came up to me saying my dick looked a little flaccid (I was standing at the bar) and would I like some help, as she knelt down and gave me a BJ.

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OP I hear you and also had a similar experience in Hamburg few years ago. However, the dynamics of swinging clubs here in the UK as you said is different, and in order to be successful you need to understand the etiquette.

I wonder by hearing similar stories some guys go to clubs expecting an easy ride. I am tired to see guys coming to clubs lurking into corners all night not making any effort to mingle and coming to open play areas thinking they are entitled to touch and play without consent.

By following the rules, being friendly and non pushy, on my personal experience quite often leads to an invite to play most times I go to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single guy it can be a little intimidating, what to say what not to say, how to initiate something without coming across as creepy, reading the body language of people you don't know.

Everyone knows why we are there, just us Brits don't half beat about the bush sometimes compared to Europeans, who are far more direct with single blokes, either with rejection (nice to meet you but no interested), or welcoming (actually asking for single block to play). I was once in a German club, and a woman came up to me saying my dick looked a little flaccid (I was standing at the bar) and would I like some help, as she knelt down and gave me a BJ.

"

Oh god that's just straight up excellent. I'd be turned on no end if a woman came on that strongly to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just for a change….

Keep the faith guys and please keep coming along to the clubs.

Some couples appreciate the effort that you make and your are most definitely wanted.

The weekend is approaching and we look forward to seeing you out and about

Best wishes! "

Loving this! It's definitely needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been wanting to go but I don’t know what the reception is to a young lad like my self. A little daunting "

If you pick the right club you'll be very welcomed. I much prefer club nights where single guys are on attendance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our preference is definitely for nights when single guys are allowed. And always receptive to a polite and friendly approach. Just make neutral conversation, and although compliments are always welcome don’t jump straight to sex, and if people chat with you don’t assume it means there’ll be play. We’re sure you’ll be fine

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I wouldn’t go if there wasn’t single guys

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Us greedy girls need the single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t go if there wasn’t single guys"

I wouldn’t go if there wasn’t single women

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Amen to that

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Looking forward to saying hello to the single males at Quest on Friday afternoon

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"We actively avoid club nights/events that are couples/single women only. Because of how we like to play, we *need* single guys at clubs.

Just wish more of them would start a conversation and do less of the constant circling, head poking in every room

(Bry)"

Couldn't agree more

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I really should get myself to a local club.

I confess to feeling like I would be an outsider peering in with a guide.

Constantly told I would be fine though.

Soon maybe.

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolves

I attend a couple of clubs occasionally.

The general rule for single guys if you have to make conversation. if you sit in the corner waiting for someone to come and speak to you it’s not going to happen. Just go ahead and chat as if you were in a normal bar, the only advantage being a lot of times the ladies are very sexually dressed and even if nothing happens you don’t feel like you’ve sat in the corner being Billy no mates.

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes please

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By *eepgliderMan
over a year ago

Chacewater


"Our experiences have been mixed but generally positive! We felt sorry for one guy who was alone at the bar for a bit so we went over to say hi. Got chatting to him for half an hour or so and introduced him to some friends. We thought nothing more of it.

Then a couple of years later he messages us on here to say he remembered us from that night and wanted to thank us for taking the time to make him feel welcome.

We’ve seen this also with the very old guys but without having a chance to speak with them we wondered if they may have been married for many years in a vanilla relationship and now as they near the end of their lives that want to see what they’ve been missing?

Obviously we could be very wrong but we dont mind them watching in any case if they don’t try for a grope. "

At a club there was a great "silver fox" guy there and not much action so they were having a wank looking on at a youngish couple who thought themselves special. We had all eaten and the ladies had other hungers so... Turning my settings up to the maximum I strode in there loudly asking "Ken, would you volunteer for clit duty?" and got a "Well, um - rather!!!".

He was duly most solicitous to the needs of the ladies...

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By *NTLovers2Couple
over a year ago

Warrington

It depends on the volume of single guys ...our last club visit had about 4/5 couples and about

20 plus single older guys all either Eastern European or Asian..following us round, banging on the private room door or just coming into the couples only room....someone actually burst the door open on our locked private room !! Needless to say our first time at said club will be our last

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just for a change….

Keep the faith guys and please keep coming along to the clubs.

Some couples appreciate the effort that you make and your are most definitely wanted.

The weekend is approaching and we look forward to seeing you out and about

Best wishes! "

ive been keeping an eye out for local clubs/events coming up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went to a club once think there was 2 couples couple ladies and about 50guys when I got chatting to a girl was surrounded by wanking dead put me off never been back

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By *ick_RyderMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

As a single guy, that has frequented a fair few clubs, I can honestly say that I am often found having fun with single girls, guys, and couples. I know I'm not the Brad Pitt type (closer to a tall, ginger, average sized Ron Jeremy) but it's not about looks, but personality: You have to genuinely enjoy conversations with others, join in the fun that isn't sexual, and rid yourself of all prejudices and judgements about others.

Also, don't take it personally if you get turned down; you are just not what those people are looking for.

The best advice I can give, along side the above text, is have fun in your clothes and you'll be more likely to have fun out of your clothes, but don't expect it. If you are one of those guys that identifies as InCel (Involuntarily Celibate) then get off your high horse, stop being a dick, and stop thinking that you are owed sex; you're not. Guys that are InCel, and it is only guys, give the rest of us single guys a really bad name. Stop. If you can't handle rejection, go home and change your ways, you're not wanted while you have such an attitude.

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By *usty KnightMan
over a year ago

Istanbul

Just being sociable is a start, the chemistry cums from the conversation, pun and fun intended.

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By *pice-meWoman
over a year ago

Home

We have appreciated a good chat with blokes in a club and getting used to being watched. We really only looked for a female in the club but we did end up having a fun 4some and that’s because the bloke was respectful.

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By *im and I 2021Couple
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead, Herts

Having been to a fair few clubs and running events I would say that guys that make the effort to talk to couples and single women are far more appealing then the wanking dead, there is nothing more off putting then seeing a group of single guys wondering around looking for an opportunity, when we host events I personally introduce single guys to couples and single females, and they get a lot further. Obviously you can lead a horse to water.. . But honestly single guys are welcome and we love having you there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been to a fair few clubs and running events I would say that guys that make the effort to talk to couples and single women are far more appealing then the wanking dead, there is nothing more off putting then seeing a group of single guys wondering around looking for an opportunity, when we host events I personally introduce single guys to couples and single females, and they get a lot further. Obviously you can lead a horse to water.. . But honestly single guys are welcome and we love having you there "

Your events sound like something I'd like to attend

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Just for a change….

Keep the faith guys and please keep coming along to the clubs.

Some couples appreciate the effort that you make and your are most definitely wanted.

The weekend is approaching and we look forward to seeing you out and about

Best wishes! "

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Just for a change….

Keep the faith guys and please keep coming along to the clubs.

Some couples appreciate the effort that you make and your are most definitely wanted.

The weekend is approaching and we look forward to seeing you out and about

Best wishes! "
thank you..... Appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As others have now said,

You made the big step going to the club so don’t falter at the last fence.

Talk to people, introduce yourself, be chatty and flirty.

Perhaps have some slips of paper with your Fab name on to give to people so you may get a verification or an invite later.

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