FabSwingers.com forum: Getting quite ridiculous

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

(It is Thursday isn't it? Am I allowed just one rant oh please oh please?)

This has now happened to me a couple of times recently in different ways, I have met people (in some cases more than once), had a nice time whether playing or not, get verified, and then for one reason or another (and unjustifiably in my opinion) I get blocked and lose the veri.

In the first case, I met someone 3 times in a short space of time. She wanted to date me, I didn't want that. No animosity or anything, then she blocks me.

Second case, I met someone recently for just a drink. She verifies me, I hadn't verified her by that point but certainly was going to. We both decide there wasn't much spark between us and move on. The next day blocked, again no animosity.

I find this all a bit "toys out of the pram" if I'm honest. I've done nothing wrong in my opinion in either of these situations (unless someone can point something out?). Starting to feel like you have to be best friends and close fuck buddies for a veri to stand, which I don't believe to be right.

I'm not overly worried about the verification system myself, but others seem to demand/require a meet in person to even consider you, so it'd be nice to not lose them like this. On my old profile I had meets where we met, had fun, and never spoke again, yet the veri stayed there for years, and were nice little memories too.

Should I be feeling a little miffed about this? I know nothing can be done now, just wondering what others thoughts were?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No one with any opinions on this?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Don't worry about it. If they think you're not their type they can block you so you don't waste your time contacting them and they don't waste their time saying 'no'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't worry about it. If they think you're not their type they can block you so you don't waste your time contacting them and they don't waste their time saying 'no'. "

I'm not talking about people I've only messaged, they can do what they like.

I'm talking about people I've met, and had no issues with. Just that I didn't wan't to date, or meet them again.

This justifies blocking, as if I never met them, when in fact I did, and was a a perfectly nice guy the whole time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of a pig, but just carry on and you'll get more verifs and you will get ones that stay on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think they are blocking you so you don't contact them again which is a bit odd though but hey their choice.

If I meet someone and there is no mutual attraction whether its one sided or both, I always leave a verification and I don't block, simply because I leave a note to say something like 13/12/12: met tonight, not interested in meeting again that way, if I come across them in a year's time, I can see what happened so I personally don't see the point in blocking now we have the note facility.

I am more likely to block persistent friendship requesters and those who arrange to meet who I find out have no intention of meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that they both blocked you suggests to me that while you say there was no animosity they may not agree.

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

Oooh! Unlucky!

Fingers crossed for the 3rd time....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bit of a pig, but just carry on and you'll get more verifs and you will get ones that stay on your profile

Thanks

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I didn't know about the note facility! Am gonna look.

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By *kywatcherMan
over a year ago

Southwick

Some people copy and paste their verifications into the main body of text. That way they stay on your profile no matter what your meets do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The fact that they both blocked you suggests to me that while you say there was no animosity they may not agree.

Ok, so agreed actually... there must be animosity I guess, on their part. As there's certainly isn't any from me.

I know at the end of the day they can do what they want so it won't change anything. Just seems quite harsh as to why those people wanted to do that.

Personally in those situations I'm happy to carry on in which ever way suits. Some people don't stay in contact, some do as friends. I went for a coffee with someone I met years ago quite recently. She has a boyfriend now, not on the site any more etc etc, we just decided to keep in touch.

In either of those situations I don't see any need to block though. I'll know who she is, I wouldn't forget and message her again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just think they are blocking you so you don't contact them again which is a bit odd though but hey their choice.

I am more likely to block persistent friendship requesters and those who arrange to meet who I find out have no intention of meeting"

Not that I have any intention in doing so, but I could easily contact them I have their phone numbers.

How you do it is how I feel it should be done. Though the note facility is only a site supporter extra I think? I just don't see the need for the blocking, it comes across a childish retaliation.

If I met someone, and they decided they didn't want to meet me, sure no one likes rejection, but you've got to have respect for them being honest. I wouldn't be annoyed with them, and would happily verify and say we met because we did.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Aw don't let it get you down sweet cheeks!! Sure there will be plenty more veri's for you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Aw don't let it get you down sweet cheeks!! Sure there will be plenty more veri's for you xx "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oooh! Unlucky!

Fingers crossed for the 3rd time...."

3rd time on this profile

but thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does them blocking you mean there must be a bad feeling? Perhaps there is, but it could also just be that since neither of you has any interest in seeing the other again, the easiest thing to do is to block and avoid confusion. Perhaps the woman who wanted to date you just didnt want to see what you were getting up to (if she had feelings for you).

You still keep the tick dont you? I can understand being miffed that you dont get the "meeting in person" badge though.

Lucy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn't be miffed because whether they met you or not, whether there was, in your opinion, animosity or not, they are entitled to block you because they don't want you looking at their profile. Why should they be worried about your profile and verifications. They won't care two hoots if you lose their veris, they've blocked you and don't want to be associated with you.

And the lady you had coffee with, she was thoughtful enough to leave a single guy a veri, but you couldn't be arsed to write a few positive lines for her. You told her you wouldn't meet for a play meet and so I feel that she was within her rights to block you.

People are not here to do you a favour.

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