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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Must be the taboo nature of it

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Just say no, and move onto the couples that play safe.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

It's an incredible amount. There's a lot secret bare friendly peeps on here. I've been asked loads and the couples are the worst for it

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford

Must be hell them putting a gun to your head and forcing you to do something rather than just let you except not everyone thinks the same as you and move on

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Everyone to their own if they like bareback is their own business and no else's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they want to. It’s their decision, and you can pass them by.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Everyone to their own if they like bareback is their own business and no else's "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are you complaining and judging for? How does it affect you? Just say 'no thanks' and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s up to them surely. You can just say no thanks.

Is this getting you the type of attention you’d hoped for more importantly?

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By *usktilDawnCouple
over a year ago

York


"It’s up to them surely. You can just say no thanks.

Is this getting you the type of attention you’d hoped for more importantly? "

Well called.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's an incredible amount. There's a lot secret bare friendly peeps on here. I've been asked loads and the couples are the worst for it"

I concur...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho. "

Each to their own, not everyone is going to do things that everyone else likes….

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho.

Each to their own, not everyone is going to do things that everyone else likes….

Mrs"

Exactly...

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Assume everyone is barebacking and just carry out your own risk assessment.

Get tested.

Ask for their recent test results.

Ask about their sexual health.

If people won’t share, you can then make your mind up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something we would do. And if there a lot of couples diubg this, we'll quite possibly end up in a situation that won't end up fun.

We just wouldn't risk out health and I couldn't risk pregnancy in the slightest. That would be an awful situation to get into. It would actually upset me greatly if someone was wanting to risk that.

T

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho. "

In the UK th we risk is surprisingly low but yes, no fucker is coming in my wife on her tits is cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your not into cream pie. Just move on. Nobody is wrong here. Trust me there are many people in the world that think we're ALL JUST PERVERTS. Each to there own xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your not into cream pie. Just move on. Nobody is wrong here. Trust me there are many people in the world that think we're ALL JUST PERVERTS. Each to there own xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assume everyone is barebacking and just carry out your own risk assessment.

Get tested.

Ask for their recent test results.

Ask about their sexual health.

If people won’t share, you can then make your mind up. "

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho. "

Is it the couples that are obsessed, or just the men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho.

Each to their own, not everyone is going to do things that everyone else likes….

Mrs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho. "

If you don’t like it… go elsewhere. Don’t judge others by your own preferences. This site is about finding like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho.

Each to their own, not everyone is going to do things that everyone else likes….

Mrs

Exactly..."

Life’s too short to get hung up on what others do or don’t do - if it’s not something you’re into then scroll on. That’s how I feel about things these days

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho.

If you don’t like it… go elsewhere. Don’t judge others by your own preferences. This site is about finding like minded people."

Exactly this!

Mrs

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By *ifeCouple66Couple
over a year ago

Fife

Just because it's not for you doesn't mean other people can't enjoy it. We're all hear for different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because it's not for you doesn't mean other people can't enjoy it. We're all hear for different things."

My thoughts entirely, it’s something I enjoy

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

Could be a breeding fantasy

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

We as a couple will always be safe play with others.

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By *atureFem4FunWoman
over a year ago

Petts Wood

Not a day goes by on these forums that this habit of shaming and judging doesn't rear it's ugly head.

No-one is either forcing or attempting to change the sexual habits of anyone else, they are simply expressing their personal sexual preferences.

If you ain't interested just delete and block them, but spare us from acting all holier than thou.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id only go bareback with someone once recent tests had been proven, and even then it's still a risk because they could have unprotected sex in between that test and having sex with me, I wouldn't do it unless a proper trust had been gained on both sides

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I can understand the worry if the couple or indeed single person has safe sex only on their profile and then actively looks for bareback

What about unprotected oral sex for instance if they have an STI.

Is oral without protection in that category especially 2 cocks in one mouth

Do people that go bareback get tested as often as those that play safe

However as others have said if its not for you block and move on

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Given how many people in the “vanilla” world judge the living fuck out of swingers, can we perhaps not make judgement part of our own community too?

We play safe but if couples want to bareback, so fucking what? Everyone’s choice is their choice and you’re always at some kind of risk regardless. It’s entirely not for anyone else to judge them.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Also, to add… this sort of sounds like a “look at me, I get loads of offers…” kind of post, veiled in a “I’m shocked” shroud :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given how many people in the “vanilla” world judge the living fuck out of swingers, can we perhaps not make judgement part of our own community too?

We play safe but if couples want to bareback, so fucking what? Everyone’s choice is their choice and you’re always at some kind of risk regardless. It’s entirely not for anyone else to judge them."

no judgement from me, promise if thats what someone chooses then thats their choice, im no saint I just have a thing about trust

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho. "

Most likely to be just a fantasy but asking to covering up anyway.

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By *69meMan
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

I love to clean up after bareback sex and have met couples that fuck bareback between themselves, followed by me cleaning up the mess. If anyone else us there at the meet, they normally play safe and the cum usually ends up on the lady's tits - which, if she wants, she usually asks me to clean too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could be a breeding fantasy"

Definitely

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Ok I am advocate of playing safe but if couples or singers want to play with out a condom that is down to them

At the end of the day if I was planning on meeting and they said no condoms, I would say thanks but no thanks, happy swinging and move on.

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By *izzmonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

The fantasy always gets us going but the reality just isn't worth it

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Also, to add… this sort of sounds like a “look at me, I get loads of offers…” kind of post, veiled in a “I’m shocked” shroud :P"

Ha ha , clearly rattled a few cages on another thread. Pathetic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given how many people in the “vanilla” world judge the living fuck out of swingers, can we perhaps not make judgement part of our own community too?

We play safe but if couples want to bareback, so fucking what? Everyone’s choice is their choice and you’re always at some kind of risk regardless. It’s entirely not for anyone else to judge them."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s crazy to think some like natural sex without a condom…… oh, no it’s not op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho. "

That's your preference. Everyone's different. We definitely want to do bareback when we do it and a cream pie that's the whole part of the fun. Providing they are sti clear and do a 24hr test

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they want to. It’s their decision, and you can pass them by. "

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho. "

I would say at least half of the "want you to fuck my wife bare and cum inside her" approaches that I get are from guys with 'single male' profiles - and, strangely enough, not one of those has ever led to anything...

....meanwhile, I assume that those along the same lines which come from couples (and occasionally single females) are because they've read my profile and viewed my pics, and seen that that's the way I play...

....for some, bareback and cum inside is either simply something which they enjoy, or is even an essential aspect of the way they choose to play - and if that's what they want, that's entirely their decision to make, regardless of your or anyone else's "humble opinion"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also, to add… this sort of sounds like a “look at me, I get loads of offers…” kind of post, veiled in a “I’m shocked” shroud :P"

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Also, to add… this sort of sounds like a “look at me, I get loads of offers…” kind of post, veiled in a “I’m shocked” shroud :P "

LOL !! Like I need it

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Also, to add… this sort of sounds like a “look at me, I get loads of offers…” kind of post, veiled in a “I’m shocked” shroud :P "

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Also, to add… this sort of sounds like a “look at me, I get loads of offers…” kind of post, veiled in a “I’m shocked” shroud :P

"

Lol!! The saltiness against guys who do manage to be successful on fab is so palpable. I guess showing respect to someone’s health by having unprotected sex with a new play partner is not that important to some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho. "

Hell, no. It is lunacy.

We always check to see that people we meet don’t meet people who bareback. Seems safest.

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire


"Lol!! The saltiness against guys who do manage to be successful on fab is so palpable. "

I think you're forgetting that all single males are by definition second class citizens who should remember their place and be grateful for any crumbs of attention they get, and not disturb their betters with their own opinions. We couples will tell you what to think.

Or in this case, you're not being allowed to forget...

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Also, to add… this sort of sounds like a “look at me, I get loads of offers…” kind of post, veiled in a “I’m shocked” shroud :P

Lol!! The saltiness against guys who do manage to be successful on fab is so palpable. I guess showing respect to someone’s health by having unprotected sex with a new play partner is not that important to some "

No one likes a bragger lol. And for your information I never ever go bareback

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley


"Also, to add… this sort of sounds like a “look at me, I get loads of offers…” kind of post, veiled in a “I’m shocked” shroud :P

Ha ha , clearly rattled a few cages on another thread. Pathetic "

What are you on about? Lol.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley


"Also, to add… this sort of sounds like a “look at me, I get loads of offers…” kind of post, veiled in a “I’m shocked” shroud :P

Lol!! The saltiness against guys who do manage to be successful on fab is so palpable. I guess showing respect to someone’s health by having unprotected sex with a new play partner is not that important to some "

We are glad when people are doing well. It was just how you wrote the post that sounded a bit like that.

Doesn’t matter tho. Glad you’re doing well! Nothing salty about the responses. As it happens, we agree that playing safe is the best way. But your post came across as judgemental and didn’t have much more content around your own thoughts on the subject. So, no need to get all upset :P

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"The fantasy always gets us going but the reality just isn't worth it "

Same here, its a hot fantasy but that's all.

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By *izzmonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"The fantasy always gets us going but the reality just isn't worth it

Same here, its a hot fantasy but that's all."

Very hot fantasy though!

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Chance of just an offer would be a fine thing

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Also, to add… this sort of sounds like a “look at me, I get loads of offers…” kind of post, veiled in a “I’m shocked” shroud :P

Lol!! The saltiness against guys who do manage to be successful on fab is so palpable. I guess showing respect to someone’s health by having unprotected sex with a new play partner is not that important to some

No one likes a bragger lol. And for your information I never ever go bareback "

What exactly am I bragging about in my OP??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's an incredible amount. There's a lot secret bare friendly peeps on here. I've been asked loads and the couples are the worst for it"

Just curious - do you only play safe or do you play BB too ? Just that you don’t mention safe sex on your interests and the wording you’ve chosen (“worst for it”) appears quite negative ?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Worry less about how other people are fucking, and more on who you are fucking.

Swingers have a wide range of interests. Some of which aren’t for you. Both things are okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a day goes by on these forums that this habit of shaming and judging doesn't rear it's ugly head.

No-one is either forcing or attempting to change the sexual habits of anyone else, they are simply expressing their personal sexual preferences.

If you ain't interested just delete and block them, but spare us from acting all holier than thou.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given how many people in the “vanilla” world judge the living fuck out of swingers, can we perhaps not make judgement part of our own community too?

We play safe but if couples want to bareback, so fucking what? Everyone’s choice is their choice and you’re always at some kind of risk regardless. It’s entirely not for anyone else to judge them."

This We’ve always found it ironic that people who would complain that non-swingers would judge swingers for their choices, will then in turn judge fellow swingers for their choices.

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Given how many people in the “vanilla” world judge the living fuck out of swingers, can we perhaps not make judgement part of our own community too?

We play safe but if couples want to bareback, so fucking what? Everyone’s choice is their choice and you’re always at some kind of risk regardless. It’s entirely not for anyone else to judge them.

This We’ve always found it ironic that people who would complain that non-swingers would judge swingers for their choices, will then in turn judge fellow swingers for their choices. "

Before jumping on the bandwagon maybe you should read my OP again. Not complaining at at 1. I was asking a question which no one has yet answered. 2. I was expressing my personal opinion that it’s not for me . Never shamed anyone.

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By *xcited99Couple
over a year ago

omagh

It certainly is one of our fantasties however due to health risks will probably just remain that.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Given how many people in the “vanilla” world judge the living fuck out of swingers, can we perhaps not make judgement part of our own community too?

We play safe but if couples want to bareback, so fucking what? Everyone’s choice is their choice and you’re always at some kind of risk regardless. It’s entirely not for anyone else to judge them.

This We’ve always found it ironic that people who would complain that non-swingers would judge swingers for their choices, will then in turn judge fellow swingers for their choices.

Before jumping on the bandwagon maybe you should read my OP again. Not complaining at at 1. I was asking a question which no one has yet answered. 2. I was expressing my personal opinion that it’s not for me . Never shamed anyone. "

Sorry because squabbling in the forum is a bit naff but for the sake of just being a little pedantic perhaps.

You say

1. I was asking a question which no one has yet answered.

Which says to me that either it’s a poorly worded question or based on a premise that’s not true.

Perhaps if you’d worded it differently then somebody could possibly answer the question.

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

[Removed by poster at 10/11/22 13:51:46]

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Given how many people in the “vanilla” world judge the living fuck out of swingers, can we perhaps not make judgement part of our own community too?

We play safe but if couples want to bareback, so fucking what? Everyone’s choice is their choice and you’re always at some kind of risk regardless. It’s entirely not for anyone else to judge them.

This We’ve always found it ironic that people who would complain that non-swingers would judge swingers for their choices, will then in turn judge fellow swingers for their choices.

Before jumping on the bandwagon maybe you should read my OP again. Not complaining at at 1. I was asking a question which no one has yet answered. 2. I was expressing my personal opinion that it’s not for me . Never shamed anyone.

Sorry because squabbling in the forum is a bit naff but for the sake of just being a little pedantic perhaps.

You say

1. I was asking a question which no one has yet answered.

Which says to me that either it’s a poorly worded question or based on a premise that’s not true.

Perhaps if you’d worded it differently then somebody could possibly answer the question. "

Ok Sir Lancelot have a look at my question and tell me how I should have worded it in your opinion!

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Given how many people in the “vanilla” world judge the living fuck out of swingers, can we perhaps not make judgement part of our own community too?

We play safe but if couples want to bareback, so fucking what? Everyone’s choice is their choice and you’re always at some kind of risk regardless. It’s entirely not for anyone else to judge them.

This We’ve always found it ironic that people who would complain that non-swingers would judge swingers for their choices, will then in turn judge fellow swingers for their choices.

Before jumping on the bandwagon maybe you should read my OP again. Not complaining at at 1. I was asking a question which no one has yet answered. 2. I was expressing my personal opinion that it’s not for me . Never shamed anyone.

Sorry because squabbling in the forum is a bit naff but for the sake of just being a little pedantic perhaps.

You say

1. I was asking a question which no one has yet answered.

Which says to me that either it’s a poorly worded question or based on a premise that’s not true.

Perhaps if you’d worded it differently then somebody could possibly answer the question.

Ok Sir Lancelot have a look at my question and tell me how I should have worded it in your opinion! "

Now that I can’t do because it’s your question.

Perhaps using some rather than many, although defining some and many is another conundrum.

By the way, Sir Lancelot has a nice ring to it, thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Folks,its obvious the op just wanted to stir up a Ruckus for his own jollies..

Its the same with every thread, if its for you do it,if its not don't.. its that easy!

I seriously doubt people are scanning the forums for informed, unbiased information

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Given how many people in the “vanilla” world judge the living fuck out of swingers, can we perhaps not make judgement part of our own community too?

We play safe but if couples want to bareback, so fucking what? Everyone’s choice is their choice and you’re always at some kind of risk regardless. It’s entirely not for anyone else to judge them.

This We’ve always found it ironic that people who would complain that non-swingers would judge swingers for their choices, will then in turn judge fellow swingers for their choices.

Before jumping on the bandwagon maybe you should read my OP again. Not complaining at at 1. I was asking a question which no one has yet answered. 2. I was expressing my personal opinion that it’s not for me . Never shamed anyone.

Sorry because squabbling in the forum is a bit naff but for the sake of just being a little pedantic perhaps.

You say

1. I was asking a question which no one has yet answered.

Which says to me that either it’s a poorly worded question or based on a premise that’s not true.

Perhaps if you’d worded it differently then somebody could possibly answer the question.

Ok Sir Lancelot have a look at my question and tell me how I should have worded it in your opinion!

Now that I can’t do because it’s your question.

Perhaps using some rather than many, although defining some and many is another conundrum.

By the way, Sir Lancelot has a nice ring to it, thank you. "

As I thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given how many people in the “vanilla” world judge the living fuck out of swingers, can we perhaps not make judgement part of our own community too?

We play safe but if couples want to bareback, so fucking what? Everyone’s choice is their choice and you’re always at some kind of risk regardless. It’s entirely not for anyone else to judge them.

This We’ve always found it ironic that people who would complain that non-swingers would judge swingers for their choices, will then in turn judge fellow swingers for their choices.

Before jumping on the bandwagon maybe you should read my OP again. Not complaining at at 1. I was asking a question which no one has yet answered. 2. I was expressing my personal opinion that it’s not for me . Never shamed anyone. "

It wasn’t aimed at you - it was a general comment based on experience. It’s not limited to BB play - there are regular posts on the forums which are “anti single men” and judgemental of people who play with single men. There have been a number of posts, and a number of swingers, who think clubs shouldn’t allow single guys and just be limited to couples and single women. Those are just a couple of what are no doubt a number of examples that people could probably highlight.

No doubt there are some people who may be judgemental about your preference to meet the female from a couple on your own, excluding their partner. That is, as is your right, your preference and you meet people who have similar interests. Although it wouldn’t work for us, if it works for you and people you meet then that’s fine - we’d never be judgemental personally… but no doubt there are some people who WOULD be.

So perhaps instead of levying a suggestion that we were “jumping on the bandwagon”, if our post wasn’t clear in its intent you could have asked for clarification (as we did with another poster in one of our posts prior to the one you’ve highlighted) ?

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Given how many people in the “vanilla” world judge the living fuck out of swingers, can we perhaps not make judgement part of our own community too?

We play safe but if couples want to bareback, so fucking what? Everyone’s choice is their choice and you’re always at some kind of risk regardless. It’s entirely not for anyone else to judge them.

This We’ve always found it ironic that people who would complain that non-swingers would judge swingers for their choices, will then in turn judge fellow swingers for their choices.

Before jumping on the bandwagon maybe you should read my OP again. Not complaining at at 1. I was asking a question which no one has yet answered. 2. I was expressing my personal opinion that it’s not for me . Never shamed anyone.

It wasn’t aimed at you - it was a general comment based on experience. It’s not limited to BB play - there are regular posts on the forums which are “anti single men” and judgemental of people who play with single men. There have been a number of posts, and a number of swingers, who think clubs shouldn’t allow single guys and just be limited to couples and single women. Those are just a couple of what are no doubt a number of examples that people could probably highlight.

No doubt there are some people who may be judgemental about your preference to meet the female from a couple on your own, excluding their partner. That is, as is your right, your preference and you meet people who have similar interests. Although it wouldn’t work for us, if it works for you and people you meet then that’s fine - we’d never be judgemental personally… but no doubt there are some people who WOULD be.

So perhaps instead of levying a suggestion that we were “jumping on the bandwagon”, if our post wasn’t clear in its intent you could have asked for clarification (as we did with another poster in one of our posts prior to the one you’ve highlighted) ?

"

Nice bit of back tracking there but you thumbed up a post that said I was being ‘ holier than thou’ . Perhaps you could have sought clarification about my OP before you joined the herd ?

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By *reedyKWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Wow, so the OP is not allowed to express an opinion that he personally wouldn't play bareback as that means he's being "judgemental". But everyone else us allowed to Judge him for having this opinion!?!

I personally also find it mental the amount of people who post bareback photo or who are looking for bareback sex. That doesn't mean I'm judging those people it just means I don't agree with risking your health like that for me personally. Everyone is allowed an opinion and it doesn't mean its a personal attack against people who have a differing opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair to the OP he is within his rights as a part of a sexual encounter to protect himself from others in the pursuit of enjoyment and post meeting peace of mind.

I think if a couple prefers to have sex without protection then I am sure there are guys out there who would partake regardless of the potential consequences that may arise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be keen to know how often people get tested, as well as the frequency of STI’s among this community (this site).

A lot of people want bareback, and I never ever read anyone saying that they caught something (though I understand why it would be kept private).

Seems there’s an idea on here perpetuated that bareback is normal and that nobody ever has negative consequences from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d be keen to know how often people get tested, as well as the frequency of STI’s among this community (this site).

A lot of people want bareback, and I never ever read anyone saying that they caught something (though I understand why it would be kept private).

Seems there’s an idea on here perpetuated that bareback is normal and that nobody ever has negative consequences from it "

Sorry I should clarify. The idea isn’t promoted by this site itself at all. Just some users.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given how many people in the “vanilla” world judge the living fuck out of swingers, can we perhaps not make judgement part of our own community too?

We play safe but if couples want to bareback, so fucking what? Everyone’s choice is their choice and you’re always at some kind of risk regardless. It’s entirely not for anyone else to judge them.

This We’ve always found it ironic that people who would complain that non-swingers would judge swingers for their choices, will then in turn judge fellow swingers for their choices.

Before jumping on the bandwagon maybe you should read my OP again. Not complaining at at 1. I was asking a question which no one has yet answered. 2. I was expressing my personal opinion that it’s not for me . Never shamed anyone.

It wasn’t aimed at you - it was a general comment based on experience. It’s not limited to BB play - there are regular posts on the forums which are “anti single men” and judgemental of people who play with single men. There have been a number of posts, and a number of swingers, who think clubs shouldn’t allow single guys and just be limited to couples and single women. Those are just a couple of what are no doubt a number of examples that people could probably highlight.

No doubt there are some people who may be judgemental about your preference to meet the female from a couple on your own, excluding their partner. That is, as is your right, your preference and you meet people who have similar interests. Although it wouldn’t work for us, if it works for you and people you meet then that’s fine - we’d never be judgemental personally… but no doubt there are some people who WOULD be.

So perhaps instead of levying a suggestion that we were “jumping on the bandwagon”, if our post wasn’t clear in its intent you could have asked for clarification (as we did with another poster in one of our posts prior to the one you’ve highlighted) ?

Nice bit of back tracking there but you thumbed up a post that said I was being ‘ holier than thou’ . Perhaps you could have sought clarification about my OP before you joined the herd ? "

Not backtracking at all. And agreeing with somebodies comment doesn’t mean jumping on the bandwagon - actually again was a general “comment” but appreciate with the point that it might be perceived the way you appear to have.

There perhaps could be an argument that your responses to our posts could be perceived as being either judgemental (aka jumping on the bandwagon/nice attempt at backtracking etc.), or a persecution complex ? The key word is PERCEIVED (vis a vis we are SUGGESTING some may interpret it that way - we ourselves do not).

The written word is not a perfect communication method - vocal communication allows intonation to help in perception of what is being said, and of course then face-to-face allows non-verbals to be observed which again increases the chance that what is being said will misconceived

We wish you continued success and enjoyment in your swinging journey and preferences (basing the success comment on your verifications which are very complimentary).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worry less about how other people are fucking, and more on who you are fucking.

Swingers have a wide range of interests. Some of which aren’t for you. Both things are okay. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d be keen to know how often people get tested, as well as the frequency of STI’s among this community (this site).

A lot of people want bareback, and I never ever read anyone saying that they caught something (though I understand why it would be kept private).

Seems there’s an idea on here perpetuated that bareback is normal and that nobody ever has negative consequences from it "

Monthly

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Since reading comprehension is apparently, difficult for some, let’s go through the OP’s original post here and decipher.


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? "

A question. The answer would be - “cos they enjoy the thrill, perhaps have a kink involving creampies, and it feels good to them.”

They can of course, choose how they want to have their fun with consenting, like-minded, adults.


"I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. "

A statement, based on the OP’s experiences so far. A glance at your profile text (at the time of wroting) doesn’t explicitly call out that you prefer to play safe only. You do have it ticked in your interests though, so couples reaching out to you looking for bareback play can be referred to that specifically. Or add text to your profile to the same effect.


"It’s Justin not worth the risk imho. "

Personal opinion, which is fair. Again how others play is entirely their own business. You remain in control of your own boundaries, and are free to accept or reject advances as you see fit.

Did this particular instance need yet another call out on the forums, given how frequently the topic is brought up? Probably not. But hey, not my circus.

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By *MabzeroMan
over a year ago

Mid-Ulster

People that do get tested regularly; how and where and how much does it cost, and how long does it take?

Last time I got a sexual health check was start of my last relationship.

Just curious how sexual health provision has changed over the decade? Can't imagine the NHS are coping well?

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

I don't see what the problem is here its no one's business what people are into only their own. If you don't like it so what don't do it don't be complaining about other people doing it, it has nothing got to do with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho.

Hell, no. It is lunacy.

We always check to see that people we meet don’t meet people who bareback. Seems safest."

Are you joking?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho.

Hell, no. It is lunacy.

We always check to see that people we meet don’t meet people who bareback. Seems safest.

Are you joking? "

Shhh i love a heaping dose of fallacy in the afternoon

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

been on this scene for alot of years now id say 80/85% of couples play bare and its their bodys their choice ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are many couples so obsessed with bareback? I would say at least half the “ come fuck my wife “ approaches are wanting me bare and also cumming inside the woman. It’s Justin not worth the risk imho.

Hell, no. It is lunacy.

We always check to see that people we meet don’t meet people who bareback. Seems safest.

Are you joking?

Shhh i love a heaping dose of fallacy in the afternoon "

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

testing is so important in todays world and a big worry is people who play safe think they are safe ... your not safe sex is safer sex you can still catch many std with a condom not forgetting where you mouth and hands go too ... safe sex is no sex ...

i do voluntary work with a sexual health charity and its shocking how many think condoms are the golden seal ... and the target crowd is still very much the youth 18 - 30 group especially bi groups..

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"If your not into cream pie. Just move on. Nobody is wrong here. Trust me there are many people in the world that think we're ALL JUST PERVERTS. Each to there own xx"

Exactly this

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By *heswingerMan
over a year ago

the steel city sheffield

Me an my pal host in Sheffield an can get a few select guys to join in breeding hot wives an dirty sluts then my pal eats the creampie, if this interests any ladies or couples then message me, clean safe respectful and genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also, to add… this sort of sounds like a “look at me, I get loads of offers…” kind of post, veiled in a “I’m shocked” shroud :P

Lol!! The saltiness against guys who do manage to be successful on fab is so palpable. I guess showing respect to someone’s health by having unprotected sex with a new play partner is not that important to some "

How kind of the OP to be looking out for us all so kindly by raising how much attention he’s (allegedly) getting.

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Also, to add… this sort of sounds like a “look at me, I get loads of offers…” kind of post, veiled in a “I’m shocked” shroud :P

Lol!! The saltiness against guys who do manage to be successful on fab is so palpable. I guess showing respect to someone’s health by having unprotected sex with a new play partner is not that important to some

How kind of the OP to be looking out for us all so kindly by raising how much attention he’s (allegedly) getting. "

Oh dear has it touched a nerve ? Pathetic

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