FabSwingers.com forum: Anticipation of a meet

By *eybert77 OP Man
over a year ago

Ramsey

Good morning fellow fabbers.

Like most single guys at the start of my journey here I was mostly ruled by the little chap and would always log on and try and seek out people straight away when ever the horn got hold of me.

As my journey has progressed and perhaps it’s getting older or maturing sexually I much prefer the planned meet. 2 or three weeks in the planning seems to be more erotic. The countdown, the odd message leading up to the meet itself.

Don’t get me wrong, spontaneous meets are still good too, but the simmer of a planned meet is right for me at this time.

What are your thoughts? Planned or spontaneous? Discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simmering one’s are wonderful, you get to know someone and that can work in bothe your favour. Excitement can build a lot.

But also a 4 text ‘let’s do this!’ Also has a good track record too.

Swings and roundabouts, and all that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely do spontaneous assignations these day.

I think the build up to a meeting is part of the fun.

3 shredded wheat for breakfast, Personal grooming removing ear and nasal hair along with a good trimming of the eyebrows. A nap from 2pm until 4 followed by a good flannel wash in the tin bath whether I need it or not. On with my flares and Ben Sherman pulling shirt splash of Brut in all the strategic places...........sorted

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

"Good morning fellow fabbers.

Like most single guys at the start of my journey here I was mostly ruled by the little chap and would always log on and try and seek out people straight away when ever the horn got hold of me.

Don’t get me wrong, spontaneous meets are still good too, but the simmer of a planned meet is right for me at this time.

What are your thoughts? Planned or spontaneous? Discuss

I like the planned 1s. Can really get your mind and juices working x

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

We like to have a short chat first then a social if we all seem attracted to each other we follow that with a play date. The messages between the meet and the date often set the scene and are heavyly flirtatious, we have to be honest turns basque on more than boxers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the build-up, it gets the mind working, and as its our biggest sexual organ it's important to engage it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the excitement and anticipation of a planned meet.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I’ve never had a spontaneous meet - always planned for me and yes I do love the build up.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I love the build up and anticipation of a planned meet.

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By *histlerMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I love planning a meet… just need someone who wants to plan one with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Planned, I can play with my toys thinking about what's going to happen xx

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Both have their pros and cons and both are as susceptible to you being let down.

Spontaneous meets at clubs are great. You never know who's attending and it's pot luck but it's great when you click with others confident enough to venture into the club scene.

Planned meets offer the potential to discuss planned activities well in advance to establish boundaries and ideas, but too much pre-meet activity can mean there's less of the excitement you get from meeting someone new.

And spontaneous? When it all goes well its great, but it's equally likely to be less fulfilling and you can occasionally be disappointed in the reality of what looks appealing online.

There's no right answer.

Mixing it up a bit can balance the books.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I definitely need to plan due to RL commitments, plus the build up to it can be so exciting.

Have only ever done a spontaneous meet with those I've met previously if the opportunity arises x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I like them all, for different reasons, though the planned ones can be more reliable.

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By *aby.girlWoman
over a year ago

St albans

100% planned get to know what we both like get the juices flowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Planned meets are dreadfully stressful i find,the slow counting down all the while hoping things will be OK but dreading the ...hi,I'm really sorry but... message

Maybe I'm just really unlucky but it always seems to happen to me!

Even had people up and leave in the middle of a social meet!

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By *hoenix CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northallerton

We prefer spur of the moment, but agree that the anticipation is very exciting.

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By *eybert77 OP Man
over a year ago

Ramsey

Some great comments, and it’s great to read pros and cons for both sides of the coin

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over a year ago

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I definitely need to plan due to RL commitments, plus the build up to it can be so exciting.

Have only ever done a spontaneous meet with those I've met previously if the opportunity arises x"

I think Sparkle and I are on the same page about this.

I like the anticipation. The butterflies in the stomach are part of the fun. And the fireworks when you do eventually get together can make any wait worthwhile.

But once you’re friends and you’re relaxed around each other … sometimes the spur-of-the-moment text can lead to a fast, frantic fuck against a wall. And who doesn’t enjoy that?

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I have had a couple of spontaneous meets with ladies id spoken to for a while.

One day I was messaging a lady and it got so damn horny I wrote..."I'm on my way".

2.5 hrs later I walked in...we said hi and then just went to bed. Amazing.

Usually I pre-plan meets with ladies because they need safety protocols and we all have lives to work around.

Sometimes, the most anticipated can unsurprisingly not be as good as hoped. Too much expectation can be a bad thing.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

On a level of pre meet excitement.

121 - Not so much now as they can be a disappointment.

Social group / pub meets - get excited a day or two before.

Club meet - about the same as a social meet.

Private Party - a week or so before, getting up there in the excitement rating.

Gran Canaria swinging holiday - weeks of excitement from booking the flights, trying on sexy clothes, shopping for all sorts.

Going this month so all dresses are out and being sorted.

Cap D'Agde Holiday - Now this is another level of excitement, lasts for months and you are never disappointed. The place, the people, it's inclusively, the sexual crackling in the air, the disgusting, immoral, filthy behaviour within the village, its brilliant.

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