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Views on women instigating contact

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By *orny1-4u OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Not a sexist post how many men have had a woman message them 1st im just being curious ive had abt 3 in the time I've been a member 2 turned into great meets and still chat and meet for some fun the 3rd was a chat and was not for me.

Not forgetting you women what are your views on it

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I have and we've been together for 4 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a single one to be honest, always me messaging first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

A few. Its always a pleasure.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Had a few, always a nice surprise

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Haven't sent a first contact message in 3 years so every conversation since has been started by a woman including the woman who has been my fwb for most of those 3 years.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

The 3 women I've met most recently all messaged me first. My new tactic is to sit back and let them come to me... seems to work far better than me sending out the first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^^^Shagger

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

A few.

Two of them evolved in to brilliant D/s relationships for P.

And one (just L) was very intense, yet rather short lived.

A number have grown with us being approached in clubs.

Confidence in all parties is paramount.

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
over a year ago

IPSWICH

Not for a long time. But the one time it did happen we met a couple of times.

It should happen more often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had 2 message me first since the dawn of my time on here. Many TV/TS and a handful of guys.

But let's face it, it rarely happens because they are swamped going through their own horrendous inboxes

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe


"^^^Shagger"

Gatorade not only quenches your thirst better, it tastes better too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"^^^Shagger

Gatorade not only quenches your thirst better, it tastes better too"

*tackles Phil*

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

It's rare but when it happens you at least know you're off to a good start as they have chosen to contact you and remain in charge, I've had better connections with people who contacted me first, not many but it's always worked out better.

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By *eekin NSAMan
over a year ago

Ireland /Kilkenny areas

Never complain about a woman ask or message me anytime

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By *mightyMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

Had my 1st today off young lady m/f she wants good seeing to whilst hubby watches don’t mind if i do

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

As the female half of the couple.

It is actually bizarrely more difficult approaching first on here than in real life. Because men outnumber women so much, and because we receive a fair few messages - I just assumed that if we weren’t approached first is was due to lack of interest.

That said - I have I initiated contact twice. And it was terrifying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Half my day spent deleting messages, ladies give me a break

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Half my day spent deleting messages, ladies give me a break "

Brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my 1st today off young lady m/f she wants good seeing to whilst hubby watches don’t mind if i do "

Be careful. Might just be a man wanking and his wife doesn't exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much all of my meets and chats on here have been made through them contacting me first

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

Happens occasionally usually cos they’ve spotted me at a social or through our couples profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that women get so inundated and completely overwhelmed with messages on here, that its next to pointless sending out that first message yourself.

From the 4 women who have taken the initiative and messaged me first, I've ended up meeting 3 of them, and those 3 meets were really fun and I stay in touch with 2 of them as pals. Pretty good going I'd say. Now compared that to the god knows how many messages I've sent out first but haven't even had opened, let alone read or acknowledged lol.

But I guess that's to be expected when the men outnumber the women on here by a factor of something like a trillion to one haha.

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By *eorgejamMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Not that lucky. Love Woman to contact me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think maybe 2 in @10 years on here. Neither came to anything..In the real World It's not uncommon for me to be approached first, usually by younger women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't have a view other than it's never happened!

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By *arried BifemWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the midlands

I message first if I’m looking for something specific, otherwise I leave it to see if people can read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. It does happen sometimes

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Had a few

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Feel free to double my success rate, with a nice message

x

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By *taffs243Man
over a year ago

Durham

Not once in the twice I have been on here I must be shrek or something

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat

You can count the number of times I have messaged guys first on one hand. Would love to be able to initiate more first contact but most guy's profiles give us so little to work with (dick pics, no bio etc).

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

It's extremely rare, but wonderful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to send out messages. Sometimes it evolves, sometimes not. Unfortunately I did have someone I ended up blocking then jump on me saying I message first in a thread. That felt a little uncomfortable as it's still not offering anything beyond a 'hello' when either sex send that intial contact out

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Think I've had about 4/5 women message me first. No meets have come from them as they're either too far away or just wanting a chat. It makes a lovely change from all the dudes though. Wish it happened more often

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I've messaged a number of people first. Never found it unusual personally, but I know many women who would never be the first to contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose my age doesn’t scream, god I want to talk to him he’s a very mature individual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never had an issue messaging a profile I like the look of.

Nothing ventured…..

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I'm all for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had my 1st today off young lady m/f she wants good seeing to whilst hubby watches don’t mind if i do

Be careful. Might just be a man wanking and his wife doesn't exist."

True,true very true.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I’ve had women message me first, here, and on other sites. Some more forward than others. I like when they know what they want and don’t beat around the bush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the bi fem half of us - I send messages when I find someone interesting that I/we may be keen to meet

Probably more often than my man, who says all our fun is about my needs not his

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

London

I’ve had a few ladies message me first after commenting on a forums thread. The forums seem a better way of interacting than actually messaging after reading a profile.

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By *ddfellowMan
over a year ago

Newferry, wirral

on various sites over the years I have had quite a few tbh, but over 80% of these were single men pretending to be cpls or girls, trying to get me to meet the man on his own, some of these I probably would have met if they had been honest about it, a few I met for socials, and a few turned in to much more 1 was a relationship for about 18months, and another just a fuck buddy thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me. A couple of times. Those 2 times led to meeting up.

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