FabSwingers.com forum: I had no idea

By *uv2kiss OP Man
over a year ago

fenland

I saw a forum post earlier which said the following

MMF, 3some guys playing with each other as well as the woman

MFM, 3some and both guys just playing with the woman.

Is that true, because I've been on fab since 2010 and I've never heard that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it's bollocks.

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By *histlerMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Technically yes. But it’s quite pedantic to make people use them properly like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some it's a free-for-all.

But some people do arrange the letters when arranging meets to indicate who is the desired 'middle'. Some will be straight guys only and only mfm is an option. Others will involve bi guys and they may not have boundaries of who is in the middle as such.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit despite being in the scene as it were for over twenty years I only recently realised there was a difference - had been blithely using MMF without knowing I was saying I'd been in bi situations. Hopefully didn't mislead anyone

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"I saw a forum post earlier which said the following

MMF, 3some guys playing with each other as well as the woman

MFM, 3some and both guys just playing with the woman.

Is that true, because I've been on fab since 2010 and I've never heard that."

Thats correct

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"Technically yes. But it’s quite pedantic to make people use them properly like that. "

We're the ones who said this, happy to stand on the hill!

And I did admit it was probably overly pedantic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some 4somes or moresomes also get written as MFMF for two couples as opposed to MMFF for all singles and so on.

It's like a code if you care enough.

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By *histlerMan
over a year ago

Guildford

"Technically yes. But it’s quite pedantic to make people use them properly like that.

We're the ones who said this, happy to stand on the hill!

And I did admit it was probably overly pedantic."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Technically yes. But it’s quite pedantic to make people use them properly like that. "

No one is writing a rule book.

Some find it helpful to illustrate their wishes or likes

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"Technically yes. But it’s quite pedantic to make people use them properly like that.

We're the ones who said this, happy to stand on the hill!

And I did admit it was probably overly pedantic.

We didn't make anyone use it, and we don't. It really is a technicality but it was 'unwritten rules' advice a couple were asking for.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We only look for bi men and we have always used mmf to let others know the men will be playing together..I probably have to tell them also just incase they don’t know .

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By *eventhheaven2022Couple
over a year ago

accrington

It makes sense, but could get a little confusing as you add more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It makes sense, but could get a little confusing as you add more.

Yeah, at some point it'd be open season

MFMFFFMMFFFMMMFFFF = ORGY

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I only found this out about a year ago but use MMF when writing because 1) it's quicker to type 2) that's what comes up on my predictive text from my I'll informed days (got to be a bit careful when messaging friends n family) and 3) if it ends up being a MMF rather than a MFM then that is a Brucey Bonus.

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By *eventhheaven2022Couple
over a year ago

accrington

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By *eventhheaven2022Couple
over a year ago

accrington

"It makes sense, but could get a little confusing as you add more.

Yeah, at some point it'd be open season

MFMFFFMMFFFMMMFFFF = ORGY"

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I saw a forum post earlier which said the following

MMF, 3some guys playing with each other as well as the woman

MFM, 3some and both guys just playing with the woman.

Is that true, because I've been on fab since 2010 and I've never heard that."

I thought mfm and mmf were the same ?

1 girl with 2 guys ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes sense but yeah they’re the same lol FMM mean girl playing with 2 guys? And they play together without the F

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We thought that was correct but there does seem to be some confusion regarding this here

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

Perhaps there's stronger distinction within different sex positive communities and lifestyles.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

It's a fairly new thing, not universally known. I get how it can be a useful distinction, but it's not strictly true that one configuration of the letters "means" on specific type of play.

After all, few people distinguish between FFM and FMF.

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

So what's MMMF then? Two gay guys, a bisexual guy and a woman?

Not something we've ever gave much thought over...if you're organising something you'd be making it clear from the outset what you want

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By *edstockings2Couple
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I have been swinging for about 10 years and have always the following

MMF 2 bi men and 1 female

MFM 2 straight men and 1 female

FFM 2 bi females and 1 male

FMF 2 straight females and 1 male

Group fun to be a mix of more than 4

Gangbang 1 female/male and more than 6

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't bother with all that. I write bi mmf or mmf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been swinging for about 10 years and have always the following

MMF 2 bi men and 1 female

MFM 2 straight men and 1 female

FFM 2 bi females and 1 male

FMF 2 straight females and 1 male

Group fun to be a mix of more than 4

Gangbang 1 female/male and more than 6 "

What is MFFM Categorised as?

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

It's probably as reliable as a pineapple or a woman wearing an anklet. I'd say that if you're relying on the ordering of 3 letters in an abbreviation to determine the rules of play, you're severely under communicating!

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

If you have an MMF, can the first M interact with the F? And if the F walks round the bed to pick something up, does it become an FMM?

The problem with these apparently more precise abbreviations is that unless everyone is aware and agrees on the Letters, you might assume they know e.g. no Bi play, but they know nothing of the sort.

Much more helpful to say Bi MMF or Straight MMF, IMO.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"I have been swinging for about 10 years and have always the following

MMF 2 bi men and 1 female

MFM 2 straight men and 1 female

FFM 2 bi females and 1 male

FMF 2 straight females and 1 male

Group fun to be a mix of more than 4

Gangbang 1 female/male and more than 6

What is MFFM Categorised as?"

First M is straight. First F is bi. 2nd F is bi-curious. Second M is straight, but doesn't object to a pegging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been swinging for about 10 years and have always the following

MMF 2 bi men and 1 female

MFM 2 straight men and 1 female

FFM 2 bi females and 1 male

FMF 2 straight females and 1 male

Group fun to be a mix of more than 4

Gangbang 1 female/male and more than 6

What is MFFM Categorised as?

First M is straight. First F is bi. 2nd F is bi-curious. Second M is straight, but doesn't object to a pegging.

So the FF may or may not play depending on how bi the second F is? Also second M is actually bi curious but is telling fibs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's probably as reliable as a pineapple or a woman wearing an anklet. I'd say that if you're relying on the ordering of 3 letters in an abbreviation to determine the rules of play, you're severely under communicating! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have an MMF, can the first M interact with the F? And if the F walks round the bed to pick something up, does it become an FMM?

The problem with these apparently more precise abbreviations is that unless everyone is aware and agrees on the Letters, you might assume they know e.g. no Bi play, but they know nothing of the sort.

Much more helpful to say Bi MMF or Straight MMF, IMO."

What if they have a 69 while 1 guy has a rest. Is it then M..WF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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MMF, 3some guys playing with each other as well as the woman

MFM, 3some and both guys just playing with the woman.

Is that true, because I've been on fab since 2010 and I've never heard that."

Apparently. But I just type any and it means the same thing to me. Some have ‘rules’ and know all the lingo.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"I saw a forum post earlier which said the following

MMF, 3some guys playing with each other as well as the woman

MFM, 3some and both guys just playing with the woman.

Is that true, because I've been on fab since 2010 and I've never heard that.

Thats correct

That's garbage. Any nomenclature that breaks down if you add just one more M clearly isn't correct. How would you write a totally straight MMMF? It is what's agreed between the three (or more) that's important, not the order of the letters.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't know that I just assumed it was however people put the letters.

Everything else negotiated when the letters become people

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I’ve only recently noticed people using these variations with specific meanings. I get it, I think it kinda makes sense, but I think it’s a relatively recent trend.

And yeah, much better to just talk openly about what you all want than to rely on everyone knowing the ‘code’.

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By *inkyBiBlackMaleMan
over a year ago

London

Learn something new everyday.

Makes sense.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

"I saw a forum post earlier which said the following

MMF, 3some guys playing with each other as well as the woman

MFM, 3some and both guys just playing with the woman.

Is that true, because I've been on fab since 2010 and I've never heard that."

That’s how we would look at threesomes/foursomes etc

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

We love a bit of three way never understood this lettering business. We are not into bi guys, they simply turn us both off. We simply delete those guys requests, they cant of read our profile. So indicate they are lazy as well as wrong for us both.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hopefully a full conversation takes place where everyone concerned expresses their wishes before getting naked!

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

We agree, normally setting social first for just that purpose Joan of Arc.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I saw a forum post earlier which said the following

MMF, 3some guys playing with each other as well as the woman

MFM, 3some and both guys just playing with the woman.

Is that true, because I've been on fab since 2010 and I've never heard that."
rubbish but hey some like abbreviations but abbr can be misinterpreted best to say what you mean and mean what you say

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

There seems to be some misunderstanding about some advice I gave. So to hopefully clear it up a but, because the last thing I want to do is muddy waters. Here's what I said.

"This maaaaaay be overly pedantic, but hopefully helpful? MMF implies the guys will be playing together, MFM implies no guy on guy. Its not so much unspoken, but definitely a distinction we didn't know about when we first had our threesome."

From what I've seen in this thread is that there seems to be a consensus that relying on a couple of letters to show what you're looking for is a mistake. Agreed!

Ironically in trying to be clear about being clear about what you're looking for... I did infact not make it clearer. So apologies, but there's been some good stuff come out of it. Sorry not sorry? - D.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"We agree, normally setting social first for just that purpose Joan of Arc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We thought your original post was nice and clear. It gave helpful information to the OP who had started that particular thread.

It’s also the way we’ve always understood the difference between MMF & MFM.

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By *uv2kiss OP Man
over a year ago

fenland

"I didn't know that I just assumed it was however people put the letters.

Everything else negotiated when the letters become people "

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By *uy4swingingMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I have been swinging for about 10 years and have always the following

MMF 2 bi men and 1 female

MFM 2 straight men and 1 female

FFM 2 bi females and 1 male

FMF 2 straight females and 1 male

Group fun to be a mix of more than 4

Gangbang 1 female/male and more than 6 "

I would always have a conversation and not rely on acronyms alone

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