FabSwingers.com forum: Bi guys straight profiles

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Before the bitching begins, this isn't a witch hunt(just wanted to clear that up.... )

All I want to say is after a few "meet" messages from bi guys I noticed a lot of their profiles said " straight".

When I enquired as to why I got this reply " Because most straight cpls/guys find bi on a profile off putting."

Now what I find hard to believe is that not only in this day and age but more so in this game that some people assume that a bi guy is gonna jump a straight guy...this isn't the case and I speak from experiance as the fem half of a bi cpl.

All comments gratefully recieved and no offence intended.

C x

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Not to invalidate the topic, however this was touched on (briefly) not long ago:

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/6293

Like I said.. was touched on briefly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive seen single females profile state they not after bi guys

If your a woman looking for a one on one with single guys what the difference does it make? but some women just dont like the idea of being with a guy that plays with other men

I must admit i wont meet couples if the females bi for the reason that i dont want some women to make a move on me while im in the throws of stuff, ive had it happen to be before where a couple messaged me and i stated i wasnt bi and the women said im happy just to watch, so i met them and she was far from happy just to watch, i ended up leaving because i was sick of her pushing herself on me

its not ment offensive to anyone its just a personal prefference

some people are just more respectful of your wishes than others problem is on here you dont know which ones which

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By *eicsbimaleMan
over a year ago

loughborough

Has a bi guy i prefer people to be straight forward and honest, i get a lot of messages from str8 guys saying they are bi but dont want people to find out they are bi and guys from "couples" saying they dont want wife to know they are bi. I never push myself on anyone, i need to know they are comfatable first, i just want relaxing times. If you cant be honest what you doing swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest Ive found a lot of people very dishonest, liers and cheats.....oooo and on a swinging site too lol ....and you know who you are....bi guys often hide it due to the small mindedness of some cpls/singles on this site and others ...personlly i think some people shouldnt even be on this site...but thats my opinion :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im bisexual and it stats that on my

tag line too,

and yes it does put cpls/girls off,

but im being honest unlike all the "straight" men that want to suck my cock blah blah blah. lol

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

As a MM couple I'm bi my OH is Gay, we've meet numerous couples on here for both social / sex even though their profile state the male being “straight” when we've enquired why they state the male as being “straight” we've been informed they like to choose who they'd like to meet, rather than be pestered for “Bi” meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am bi curious and I am no more sucessful for being honest lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as you have posted the same topic word for word on another swinging site your making it become a witch hunt!.

let people decide who they want to play with and what sex. this is now really boring.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Does it matter?

If men want to admit they are bi, let them. If they want to keep it quiet until they actually get in touch with someone....... let them.

It's no bugger else's business....... is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does it matter?

If men want to admit they are bi, let them. If they want to keep it quiet until they actually get in touch with someone....... let them.

It's no bugger else's business....... is it?"

correct.

why do people have to be labelled.

facists do that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not alone lol x

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By *umpingJackFlashMan
over a year ago

Somewhere near you?

As a free site this MUST be an honest site for REAL swingers.

I see it this way, I am Bi and it says so on my profile. I would never hit on a straight guy in a mmf situation. But if he had put Bi curious in his profile then its down to the situation. Bi curious is just that...Curious, It doesnt mean he would nesseseraly actually do (or have done to him) anything bi. But it would be nice to know before hand.

Most Men wont put Bi on a profile as it limits the number of girls who potentially contact him. But I say, so what. I wouldnt like to be in the position of a woman meeting a guy for sex, who doesnt admit up front he's bi.

In a swinging life its all about trust and honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as we are a bi couple we get it all the time guys saying there bi but profile saying str8 dont get many contacts fron couples we think its the bi tag that puts them of or maybe my partner also being a tv lol but we have met a few people on fab who are str8 but we are good friends we have always belived that better to be honest with people and they see you for who you are just our wee bit lol

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By *itchfieldMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Does it matter?

If men want to admit they are bi, let them. If they want to keep it quiet until they actually get in touch with someone....... let them.

It's no bugger else's business....... is it?

correct.

why do people have to be labelled.

facists do that!"

As do all totalitarian governments. However just because bad people do something doesn't make it bad.

Labels can also be useful, in this case provided you accept that it's not giving you much detail as it encompasses a whole range of behaviour.

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By *icekatCouple
over a year ago

north east

"Does it matter?

If men want to admit they are bi, let them. If they want to keep it quiet until they actually get in touch with someone....... let them.

It's no bugger else's business....... is it?"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a free site this MUST be an honest site for REAL swingers.

In a swinging life its all about trust and honesty.

Great post,if only all bi guys on the site were as honest as you.

Respect to you.

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By *exyChat100Man
over a year ago

The Hamptons

wow quite heated this isnt it.

so i have a slightly different angle.

well i have struggled with my bi side. i actually would prefer to be straight (i know that sounds odd) but i can't resist.

my profile says bi curious, as i dont consider myself fully bi, even though i went anal for the first time recently. social convention has taught me that bi is bad, but my friends here are helping me see a better side.

There will always be things people want to hide or for some reason are ashamed of (right or wrong). but in this scene youre only going to reap what you sow.

so if you hide something then you'll only recoil or get defensive if it is probed by a third party.

so those str8 guys that view my profile, i would probably never meet if they asked as i know they will probably bolt as that's how i felt when exploring my bi side first time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes me smile the most about this type of thread.

Do Bi people really jump onto straight people during meets/plays?

Do people not talk a bit about what they want from meets/plays?

I love women, but enjoy some bi fun now and again, I wouldn't dream of trying some bi fun if it was a straight meet.

I also suspect that some just say about being touched up by the Bi person...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hink it is an issue - we have met a few single bi fems that werent really bi but have also played with straight couples and had lots of fun. As for bi guys we may think it would be a bit frustrating if we met them as my other half isnt bi at all and we tend to get a bit frustrated with soft swap as you always have to hold something back. Would imagine it would be the same and in essence we are on here because we like being utterly filthy -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read this with interest

i think to expect people just to be honest and open because they are swingers is a little optimistic

we try to be, im sure most do anyway, but as in normal life we lie cheat and remain in denial - we dont become perfect people just because we swing

besides we started out wanting one thing from this and have progressed on to more things as we continue to experiment

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know a few bi guys that don't admit it. Cpls do find it off putting.

I doubt it's because they think the bi guy is going to pounce on the straight man. Maybe they just find bi guys a turn off. The thought of another man looking at you and thinking your lovely is prob off putting for some guys.

I know L isn't into bi guys or gay guys one little bit. She has gay friends that fall out with her when she says that it's wrong but everyone has there opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Know a few bi guys that don't admit it. Cpls do find it off putting.

I know L isn't into bi guys or gay guys one little bit. She has gay friends that fall out with her when she says that it's wrong but everyone has there opinion. "

Strange someone who describes herself as bi-curious thinks it wrong when it involves the opposite sex?? We’re both straight and DON’T think its wrong, its just not our cup of tea but we’ll never think of it as wrong, each to their own and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha knew someone would come out with the "strange" comment

yes I find the idea of two woman a turn on

I find the idea of two men getting it on a major turn off

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"She has gay friends that fall out with her when she says that it's wrong"

Strange statement to make from someone who classes themselves as Bi

Very hypercritical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's more socially acceptable for two woman to have sex or be in a relationship. Look at the media, espec glamour mags and red top news papers. Even s lot of tv shows and films. Not to mention porn films mainly cater to the folk that like to see woman get it on

is it equally as "strange" for a man to like seeing two woman get it on yet not find seeing two men get it on a turn on as it is for me???

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

Were not discussing whether it's a turn on / turn off, were discussing what you posted:

"she says that it's wrong"

How can it be wrong considering she's Bi, is that not hypercritical?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange statement to make from someone who classes themselves as Bi

Very hypercritical."

if only you took the time to read our profile

straight male. Bi curious female. Curious being the big word there

have one really good gay friend that I love to pieces. Just don't wanna know about his sex life and especially don't wanna see it

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"if only you took the time to read our profile"

We've not read your profile because your not what we're looking for, you posted your GF said it's wrong for 2 guys, yet she has no problem with girl on girl.

You still haven't answered why she believes it's wrong for 2 guys but not for 2 girls!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"if only you took the time to read our profile

We've not read your profile because your not what we're looking for, you posted your GF said it's wrong for 2 guys, yet she has no problem with girl on girl.

You still haven't answered why she believes it's wrong for 2 guys but not for 2 girls!"

I have to admit that I'm also interested in that myself - double standards or confusion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be honest that was typed wrong. Yes I tell him it's wrong. Just to wind him up. I don't think it's wrong. I do find it a turn off. Just as I wouldn't say it's wrong for a man to shag a sheep but I certainly find that a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im bisexual and it stats that on my

tag line too,

and yes it does put cpls/girls off,

but im being honest unlike all the "straight" men that want to suck my cock blah blah blah. lol"

at the female half here i have to say it doesnt put me off that guys are bi sexual but my guys not but id love it if he was

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

" be honest that was typed wrong. Yes I tell him it's wrong. Just to wind him up. I don't think it's wrong. I do find it a turn off. Just as I wouldn't say it's wrong for a man to shag a sheep but I certainly find that a turn off. "

well recovered that man! lol

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"my guys not but id love it if he was

Looking at your profile pics, so do we

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my guys not but id love it if he was

Looking at your profile pics, so do we

haha maybe he should spend time on the forums with you guys nudge nudge wink wink. id love to know how to convert him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats ba ba bad!

we're sure the sheep would disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd hope at least some sheep found it a turn on. Maybe that dog whisper guy in tv could try talking to sheep and find out

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

We meet bi guys......

Jason is totally straight.....

We tell them that male to male contact is a no no and they know where they stand.

AFter all, our profile states that Jason is straight......... so no bloke with half a brain cell is going to think he's gonna get off with both of us.

Like I said, why the feck does it matter if blokes don't put that they are bi?

Providing they don't try and 'cop a feel', it's totally immaterial whether or not they are bi.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"We meet bi guys......

Jason is totally straight.....

We tell them that male to male contact is a no no and they know where they stand.

AFter all, our profile states that Jason is straight......... so no bloke with half a brain cell is going to think he's gonna get off with both of us.

Like I said, why the feck does it matter if blokes don't put that they are bi?

Providing they don't try and 'cop a feel', it's totally immaterial whether or not they are bi."

Common sense prevails at last - don't get hung up on 'labels' deal with people as they are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not the fact that they're bi,it's the fact that they lie.

We like to meet honest people and if someone can't be honest about their sexuality, just because it might scupper their chance of a shag, what else are they keeping to themselves?

We hope to meet people we can trust.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Its not the fact that they're bi,it's the fact that they lie.

We like to meet honest people and if someone can't be honest about their sexuality, just because it might scupper their chance of a shag, what else are they keeping to themselves?

We hope to meet people we can trust.

XXXX"

True, but you may very well have met a couple where the guy is bi but hid it - he didn't act innappropriately towards the man in the couple so you were non the wiser! You could really tie yourself up in knots with some things, you just never really know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We understand what your saying but we like to talk to folk before we meet and can usualy pick up on certain things people do or say.

Also, varifications are helpful as are the profiles that say "no bi guys".

You can never be certain but you can be as certain as possible.

As for a guy making a move, thats not the problem, we just both prefer not to play with bi guys.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Its not the fact that they're bi,it's the fact that they lie.

We like to meet honest people and if someone can't be honest about their sexuality, just because it might scupper their chance of a shag, what else are they keeping to themselves?

We hope to meet people we can trust.

XXXX"

It is the fact that they are bi....... you've just admitted you won't meet bi guys.

Why not just ask people outright....

"Are you bi by any chance?" making it look like you may be up for a possibility.

I would suspect you will get a straight answer then.

But I still say, if they don't want to advertise it on their profile, it's nobody else's business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not the fact that they're bi,it's the fact that they lie.

We like to meet honest people and if someone can't be honest about their sexuality, just because it might scupper their chance of a shag, what else are they keeping to themselves?

We hope to meet people we can trust.

XXXX

It is the fact that they are bi....... you've just admitted you won't meet bi guys.

Why not just ask people outright....

"Are you bi by any chance?" making it look like you may be up for a possibility.

I would suspect you will get a straight answer then.

But I still say, if they don't want to advertise it on their profile, it's nobody else's business.

Your correct in what you say, while we're friends with several gay/bi guys we wouldn't want to meet them in a sexual situation.

That also goes for bi guys in general, we're just not interested.

Although our post about bi guys lying was more in reply to the O.P, we will say that anyone lying to get a meet with someone who they know wouldn't otherwise entertain them is just low and duplicitous.

As for asking the guy in a couple if he was bi, by making it sound as if I would be up for bi play as you suggest,would surely cast extreme doubt in his mind,even after I told him the reason and no doubt jeopardise the meet.

XXXX

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