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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do any swinging couples here go by the 'no kissing' rule with people they meet? And if so, why?

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

We don’t have that rule. Kissing is a key part of sex for us, and we really enjoy it. Each to their own, of course.

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By *euve4usCouple
over a year ago

Teddington

We did when we first joined the scene in 2013 as we felt that was more between us. Moving on we have become more discerning so when we feel a connection we like the intimacy of fun and now we do kiss others.

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By *nsatiablebutfussyCouple
over a year ago

Stoke

We like kissing, all part of the foreplay and build up for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of some that do. I think some find it too intimate. Each to their own. I love kissing

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Do any swinging couples here go by the 'no kissing' rule with people they meet? And if so, why?"
I don't have a rule... if I'm in a couple I like my partner to kiss but I very rarely do as it can and does make me feel very uncomfortable and turn me off.. as someone may get quite offended if I stopped playing after someone kissed me.. I tend to avoid kissing where possible. Easy in gangbang play. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, we both love it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know of some that do. I think some find it too intimate. Each to their own. I love kissing "

I get that but as someone above said, I personally think it's so key to have hot intimate sex personally.

Also I used to love watching my ex kiss hard with other people. In some ways it's more sexy than sex itself haha!

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By *atinocoupleCouple
over a year ago

SF, NY, London (in that order)

Kissing is pretty much essential for us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Follow up added question to, do some couples kiss the same sex swinger, despite identifying as heterosexual?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must for us.

Nikki x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

It always amuses me how many say kissing is a must. Yet in over 20 years of not kissing guys on meets its only been an issue a handful of times. ..to be fair it's rare people even seem to notice.

I'll kiss cheeks, throat, neck, shoulders, back etc...and other parts... just not a proper kiss

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

If someone won't kiss me then nothing else happens as far as I'm concerned. Kissing is what let's me know we have chemistry it's a big turn on for me and without kissing I won't want anything else to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is essential! Or nothing can happen beyond that for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing is essential! Or nothing can happen beyond that for me "

Agreed. Kissing is key!! A bad kiss can tell you everything.

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By *entleman Blue EyesMan
over a year ago

Saffron Walden

Kissing elevates the whole experience. Sure a good time can be had without but kissing is the direct connection that really triggers all the other pleasure receptors to a higher level.

No guessing which side of the fence I sit on then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it very affectionate, and love kissing. However I'm not here for that so I'm a non kisser

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I find it very affectionate, and love kissing. However I'm not here for that so I'm a non kisser"
I think that's part of it for me.. I don't really do affectionate with random people

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

We have a no kissing on the lips rule simply because we like to keep one area which is intimate just to us.

Kissing elsewhere including on the neck is no proble, but on the lips No!

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

Pointless. Lips are intimate and the arse, mouth, pussy aren't. Stupid!

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By *utForAdventure26Couple
over a year ago

St Neots

We've had a meet with a couple with this rule, and not for us. Kissing is such an important part of the build up and act of sex. Passion is whats it's all about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing or not kissing distinguishes those looking for superficial sex that is purely for the novelty orgasm, from those looking for sex that is part of seeking a deeper connection.

Some couples seem to have 3rds as a human sex toy (in the nicest possible sense) and others describe people they have as a 3rd as a fwb type connection.

Not something to take lightly either way, whether you are in the couple or the 3rd.

Feelings + sex is messy business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pointless. Lips are intimate and the arse, mouth, pussy aren't. Stupid!"

true that said like that it sound ridiculous.

But I do get what some ppl means by being more intimate that the rest.

To some kissing connects all the sense as well as the soul, so not that extent they prefer keeping the soul to some reserved individuals.

I do love kissing mouth, neck, ears, pussy and ass, well basically any exposed flesh.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Do any swinging couples here go by the 'no kissing' rule with people they meet? And if so, why?"
its the intimacy thing, they see kissing as too intimate...... They want shag n go

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By *handlerMonicaCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We're definitely kissers, wouldn't have it any other way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is an essential part for us. It’s so underrated. A good kiss turns me on a lot! (Mrs).

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Pointless. Lips are intimate and the arse, mouth, pussy aren't. Stupid!"

Why so rude about other people's preferences?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't kiss our casual partners on the mouth. Why? Nobody else's business but our own and the people we meet.

It's our choice,its on our profile. Simply avoid us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Kissing or not kissing distinguishes those looking for superficial sex that is purely for the novelty orgasm, from those looking for sex that is part of seeking a deeper connection.

Some couples seem to have 3rds as a human sex toy (in the nicest possible sense) and others describe people they have as a 3rd as a fwb type connection.

Not something to take lightly either way, whether you are in the couple or the 3rd.

Feelings + sex is messy business"

I would disagree with your opinion

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

some do some dont it all comes under the heading of "personal choice"

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By *eniandMikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

For us, we wouldn’t feel comfortable with MF kissing this would be both ways with, however FF would be fine.

This might seem daft or strange, but it’s what we personally feel comfortable with. Just something about the intimacy of it. Again strange as that might seem as we would literally be having full sex with another person.

But each to their own as they say!! It’s all good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must for me & also my partner when we play as a couple. It's far to mechanical otherwise. Each to their own though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I wouldn't want a meet without kissing tbh I do love to kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is an absolute must

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

Kissing is a big part of it for us.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But off putting if they're a shit kisser tho

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By *ackandsashaCouple
over a year ago

West Dublin

We love to kiss, but have a regular fwb who keeps his kisses for gfs only. Seems strange to us, but we respect his wishes.

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"We don’t have that rule. Kissing is a key part of sex for us, and we really enjoy it. Each to their own, of course."

We are the same. Kissing is a real turn on for us.

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

No kissing is a deal breaker here. We talked about it early on as I Mr thought it might be something we keep for each other but apparently I was wrong, who knew?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Some do some font, every couple has boundaries and it's about respecting that.

Personally couldn't meet without kissing.

Mrs

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Some guys who contact me say they don’t kiss as it’s a bit too gay. FFS !

Love it, no kissing no meeting

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

As a single I prefer no kissing x

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

No kissing = no meet.

That applies on single meets and in my couples profile.

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

Same as the above no kissing no meet. You will put my cock in your mouth but dont want to kiss???

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Same as the above no kissing no meet. You will put my cock in your mouth but dont want to kiss???"

The mouth carries far more bacteria than the genitals so yes! X

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By *eybert77Man
over a year ago

Ramsey

I would struggle with a no kissing rule

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By *arleycplCouple
over a year ago

Leyburn

Kissing is a must for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, we love a good old snogging

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By *allen Angels CplCouple
over a year ago

North East leicestershire

Our first meet was no kissing, since then every meets involved kissing.

We found kissing helps ease me into the meet and its always the start of being turned on before hands and mouths start wandering x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Still always the same. People getting quite rude about those of us that don't like to kiss during sexual encounters. I didn't even used to kiss my ex husband.

You see the same things about it being mechanical or passionless... something that has never been said to me during or after meets. As I've said most don't even notice that I dont.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Critical for us. Its what drives passion and intimacy. But each to there own. We have met people who don't kiss in the past and not enjoyed it. So now kissing is a must do xxxx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Still always the same. People getting quite rude about those of us that don't like to kiss during sexual encounters. I didn't even used to kiss my ex husband.

You see the same things about it being mechanical or passionless... something that has never been said to me during or after meets. As I've said most don't even notice that I dont. "

I don't know why I respond on these threads really. I wouldn't dream of being rude or saying bad things about people who seek intimate connections vis casual sex because I genuinely understand that people have different ideas of what intimacy is and different ways of expressing it.

I only want to kiss people I love.

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By *haznsteCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We like kissing. Not the same without

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gets the fun started.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

We haven't swapped yet, but I suspect we'd both only want it if a connection was established. Which of course is the ideal outcome of interaction on fab

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

I admit, I do like a good kiss, goes so much for ramping up the emotions and the passion.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

It's only myself (mrs) who kisses but even then it's only with another woman

It's just something both of us want to keep for just us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses

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By *andyandrickCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We never set any rules on it but Sandy never the first two times and then nature took its cause and Sandy started kissing the guy.

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By *elshcouple4000Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Snog my missus. She loves kissing

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses "

No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.

I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses

No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.

I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's. "

That's absolutely your prerogative. I'm interested in why you think that it's kissing or cock and nothing else. There's such a wide range of activities that come under the heading 'erotic' I understand that for you kissing is one of the most important in that category but because it's not to us it doesn't mean we view the men we meet as disembodied cocks.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses

No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.

I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's.

That's absolutely your prerogative. I'm interested in why you think that it's kissing or cock and nothing else. There's such a wide range of activities that come under the heading 'erotic' I understand that for you kissing is one of the most important in that category but because it's not to us it doesn't mean we view the men we meet as disembodied cocks."

Because I'm speaking from personal experience. I've never chatted to a single woman with a no kissing rule but I have to a number of couples.

I have no issue at all if that is their preference but we won't be meeting because we won't be compatible.

The cock comment is a reference to what I have been told by those couples.

"We have a no kissing rule so don't make any attempt to kiss the missus. She's only interested in your cock".

If that was a one off I would dismiss it but when it has been said a number of times it's difficult to separate the link.

I need kissing to gauge and adjust the intensity so without it sex becomes nothing more than functional.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses

No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.

I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's.

That's absolutely your prerogative. I'm interested in why you think that it's kissing or cock and nothing else. There's such a wide range of activities that come under the heading 'erotic' I understand that for you kissing is one of the most important in that category but because it's not to us it doesn't mean we view the men we meet as disembodied cocks.

Because I'm speaking from personal experience. I've never chatted to a single woman with a no kissing rule but I have to a number of couples.

I have no issue at all if that is their preference but we won't be meeting because we won't be compatible.

The cock comment is a reference to what I have been told by those couples.

"We have a no kissing rule so don't make any attempt to kiss the missus. She's only interested in your cock".

If that was a one off I would dismiss it but when it has been said a number of times it's difficult to separate the link.

I need kissing to gauge and adjust the intensity so without it sex becomes nothing more than functional. "
I'm a single woman and I don't kiss as it can and has turned my stomach and sent me off into a blind panic. It got that bad that I no longer will do 121 and just do group play where my choice won't be questioned or me accused of being functional or robotic ... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn’t meet anyone with knowing they didn’t kiss and were dead against it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a super intimate & emotional experience for us, so we keep the intense affectionate kissing to just us, but equally we don't limit ourselves on meets with no kissing, just go light with what's natural.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Love the kissing bit! (Lips)

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Kissing is a huge turn on and a build up a bad kiss could be a flop but a good kisser leave you wet

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We can kiss the same sex but not the opposite. We save that just for us. That seems to work for us at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love the kissing bit! (Lips) "

The lips is a good place to start

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses

No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.

I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's.

That's absolutely your prerogative. I'm interested in why you think that it's kissing or cock and nothing else. There's such a wide range of activities that come under the heading 'erotic' I understand that for you kissing is one of the most important in that category but because it's not to us it doesn't mean we view the men we meet as disembodied cocks.

Because I'm speaking from personal experience. I've never chatted to a single woman with a no kissing rule but I have to a number of couples.

I have no issue at all if that is their preference but we won't be meeting because we won't be compatible.

The cock comment is a reference to what I have been told by those couples.

"We have a no kissing rule so don't make any attempt to kiss the missus. She's only interested in your cock".

If that was a one off I would dismiss it but when it has been said a number of times it's difficult to separate the link.

I need kissing to gauge and adjust the intensity so without it sex becomes nothing more than functional. "

As I said I respect your choices and decisions. I think the comments made to you are disrespectful, imagine if similar was said to a woman by a couple.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses

No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.

I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's.

That's absolutely your prerogative. I'm interested in why you think that it's kissing or cock and nothing else. There's such a wide range of activities that come under the heading 'erotic' I understand that for you kissing is one of the most important in that category but because it's not to us it doesn't mean we view the men we meet as disembodied cocks.

Because I'm speaking from personal experience. I've never chatted to a single woman with a no kissing rule but I have to a number of couples.

I have no issue at all if that is their preference but we won't be meeting because we won't be compatible.

The cock comment is a reference to what I have been told by those couples.

"We have a no kissing rule so don't make any attempt to kiss the missus. She's only interested in your cock".

If that was a one off I would dismiss it but when it has been said a number of times it's difficult to separate the link.

I need kissing to gauge and adjust the intensity so without it sex becomes nothing more than functional.

As I said I respect your choices and decisions. I think the comments made to you are disrespectful, imagine if similar was said to a woman by a couple. "

I'm sure they would get a similar response to mine from the woman.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses

No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.

I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's.

That's absolutely your prerogative. I'm interested in why you think that it's kissing or cock and nothing else. There's such a wide range of activities that come under the heading 'erotic' I understand that for you kissing is one of the most important in that category but because it's not to us it doesn't mean we view the men we meet as disembodied cocks.

Because I'm speaking from personal experience. I've never chatted to a single woman with a no kissing rule but I have to a number of couples.

I have no issue at all if that is their preference but we won't be meeting because we won't be compatible.

The cock comment is a reference to what I have been told by those couples.

"We have a no kissing rule so don't make any attempt to kiss the missus. She's only interested in your cock".

If that was a one off I would dismiss it but when it has been said a number of times it's difficult to separate the link.

I need kissing to gauge and adjust the intensity so without it sex becomes nothing more than functional.

As I said I respect your choices and decisions. I think the comments made to you are disrespectful, imagine if similar was said to a woman by a couple.

I'm sure they would get a similar response to mine from the woman. "

I'm sure.

For the record we would never think it leave alone say it. Still won't kiss though.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

just do doggy style no kissing involved,,

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"just do doggy style no kissing involved,,"

Yup ! Win win for me as fave position x

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By *otally BenettonCouple
over a year ago

shropshire

We wouldn’t want any kind of meet where there was no kissing. Why would you rule out something that’s potentially so sensual.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

my fav position too x

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Do any swinging couples here go by the 'no kissing' rule with people they meet? And if so, why?"

We did with our very first meet. Soon changed our minds!

Not only do we love kissing, but it's also a natural and easy way to kick things off.

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Sadly, I have met this. I think it shows insecurity on the part of the husband in my 3some context. I love kidding and do think it adds a lot, so a shame when people don't allow it - they are missing out too.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

It's not a rule as such as boo loves kissing I just ask her to use as little tongue as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly, I have met this. I think it shows insecurity on the part of the husband in my 3some context. I love kidding and do think it adds a lot, so a shame when people don't allow it - they are missing out too."

It's got zero to do with insecurity.

It's a physical boundary linked to an emotional one.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Kissing is part of foreplay for us. We do not meet others who dont kiss.

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By *edHeelsCplCouple
over a year ago

Kenilworth

I really can’t have foreplay without kissing

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Do any swinging couples here go by the 'no kissing' rule with people they meet? And if so, why?"

Hell no .. the lady likes sensual so kissing is part of it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Sadly, I have met this. I think it shows insecurity on the part of the husband in my 3some context. I love kidding and do think it adds a lot, so a shame when people don't allow it - they are missing out too."

how is it missing out ?

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

I mentioned this in a conversation earlier in the week - if you can have intimate sex without kissing you’re probably a serial killer and you should turn yourself in immediately- if we met and you wanted a shag with no kissing id be nipping to the loos to tell the police I’ve probably just apprehended a serial killer by the bins at the back of the fox & frog pub. Then id nip back with handcuffs and handcuff you to the bin until the police arrived.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Not that it makes a great deal of difference, given that I've only had one meet here and it was for social cocktails, but I couldn't be sexually intimate without kissing. I completely accept it's possible for some, and no judgement here! Just couldn't personally do it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I mentioned this in a conversation earlier in the week - if you can have intimate sex without kissing you’re probably a serial killer and you should turn yourself in immediately- if we met and you wanted a shag with no kissing id be nipping to the loos to tell the police I’ve probably just apprehended a serial killer by the bins at the back of the fox & frog pub. Then id nip back with handcuffs and handcuff you to the bin until the police arrived. "

noted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The judgement tones, wow. In the same way those that find it a big deal on a meet for sexual intimacy, its a big deal to others as emotional intimacy. Each to their own kinks/ preferences, just because you don't get it, doesn't make it weird or wrong, as long as everyone is up front & no one is getting harmed in the process. We are somewhere in the middle with how we play, so can see both sides.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don’t have that rule. Kissing is a key part of sex for us, and we really enjoy it. Each to their own, of course."

I agree with what you say about how important kissing is ,

I would find it really hard to get turned on fully if kissing wasn't allowed. that would be frustrating I can imagine

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

There is much polarising debate about this subject, and indeed I bear no ill-will towards those who prefer not to.

For me - personally - it's a deal breaker. Sex/intimacy without kissing is hollow and meaningless.

It's intrinsic and satisfies my basorexic tendencies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some are posting from the perspective of a single fabber.

Others are posting from the perspective of a couple.

It's hard to know until you are in a relationship exactly what the needs and wants will be of each as individuals and again as partners.

But I am sexually very possessive.

As a single I'd have one set of boundaries. Within a couple it would be very different.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

On our meets? Fox does, I don't.

Her choice who she'll kiss (male or female) and my choice entirely that I don't. I want one thing that I do to keep just between us.

Some may think that's odd given that I have no issue with her Kissing others.

My answer to that? I couldn't give a toss.

Strangley it's never been an issue on any meet. Nobody has complained. Nobody has walked away. Nobody has quizzed me on why not. They've accepted it and we've all had a good time without my lips making contact with anyone else's bar Fox.

They do make contact elsewhere of course.

Why should Kissing be seen as being different to any other physical contact? Plenty of people are soft swap and there's no PIV. Some will never entertain anal. Some have strict boundaries re bodily fluids. Some will insist on condoms for oral. It's just another personal preference folks.

You can either respect it, or not. But you're unlikely to ever change someone's mind

A

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

We both kiss, in fact I loved seeing him kiss another woman. But it's not something that's a deal breaker, some people don't like to and that's fine

Tg x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"On our meets? Fox does, I don't.

Her choice who she'll kiss (male or female) and my choice entirely that I don't. I want one thing that I do to keep just between us.

Some may think that's odd given that I have no issue with her Kissing others.

My answer to that? I couldn't give a toss.

Strangley it's never been an issue on any meet. Nobody has complained. Nobody has walked away. Nobody has quizzed me on why not. They've accepted it and we've all had a good time without my lips making contact with anyone else's bar Fox.

They do make contact elsewhere of course.

Why should Kissing be seen as being different to any other physical contact? Plenty of people are soft swap and there's no PIV. Some will never entertain anal. Some have strict boundaries re bodily fluids. Some will insist on condoms for oral. It's just another personal preference folks.

You can either respect it, or not. But you're unlikely to ever change someone's mind

A"

In a (quite large) nutshell

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Why should Kissing be seen as being different to any other physical contact? "

Nerve endings? Societal constructs?

We kiss others, but I totally get those who don't.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Sadly, I have met this. I think it shows insecurity on the part of the husband in my 3some context."

In my experience, it cannot be blamed on the husband, or the wife. And I've never encountered it as an expression of insecurity.

I'm not sure where this statement comes from.

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By *itty HoodooCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"Sadly, I have met this. I think it shows insecurity on the part of the husband in my 3some context. I love kidding and do think it adds a lot, so a shame when people don't allow it - they are missing out too."

This is a typical statement from single guys. We had this rule and still do. However recently we met a couple went for drinks and half way through the night the ladies were kissing each other and us guys much to the delight of others in the bar. But this only happened because we all shared the same values, trust and connection. A single guy who expects everything is like a man walking into a casino, playing with my chips and winning then gives nothing back. Takes his winnings and strokes his ego. Single people who expect the full experience from couples whilst risking nothing are the most entitled, cowardly, selfish, lazy, undeveloped characters I’ve ever met. Prepared to sacrifice nothing. And then complain, as if our relationship owes them something. Sit down, shut up and be respectful of people who are achieving and growing something more special than you’ve ever done.

Rant over

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By *0IAN00Man
over a year ago

Dumfries & Galloway

"What's wrong with a kiss boy"?....."Before you go diving for the clitoris"

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I like kissing, for me it's as important as the sex itself. If the other person didn't, I'd respect that, but doubt we would have a repeat meet.

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

Rach kisses and I encourage her too, it's the very beginning of foreplay, you wouldnt start reading a book 3 chapters in would you?

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

I wouldn't be able to bond with anyone if there is no kissing involved.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde


""What's wrong with a kiss boy"?....."Before you go diving for the clitoris""

"This is for your benefit, would you kindly wake up - I have no intention of going through this all again!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single female, but I don't kiss. It isn't something I enjoy doing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Never been with a girl and not kissed, what can I say it's these irresistible lips of mine...

1 couple before said no kissing when I joined though and you have to respect couples wishes! I did ask them to though while she rubbed me because not seeing or kissing myself I just couldn't get through I don't think!

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By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

We have been unexpectedly hit with the no kissing rule when meeting a couple, such a shame as it’s a big must for us. Nothing like a good snog and fumble to get things started

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

I've played both with wives where kissing was not allowed/wanted, and with those where it was, and even encouraged...

....kissing is possibly the most common thing which some couples like to 'reserve' as an act that only occurs between them...

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By *rs spicyCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield near centre

It's the kissing that gets me going!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Me too Mrs spicy, me too x

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By *0IAN00Man
over a year ago

Dumfries & Galloway


""What's wrong with a kiss boy"?....."Before you go diving for the clitoris"

"This is for your benefit, would you kindly wake up - I have no intention of going through this all again!""

That's the one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always said no kissing at the start as we felt it was too intimate and for us to keep for ourselves. That was until our first meet with another couple, we quickly realised that it was actually an important part of that too, in fact now we couldn’t imagine not kissing others during a meet

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By *rmrs95Couple
over a year ago

Chester

We have the opposite rule, kissing is a must for us, makes it so much more sensual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think kissing so such a turn on and would be difficult without kissing

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By *rmrs95Couple
over a year ago

Chester


"Follow up added question to, do some couples kiss the same sex swinger, despite identifying as heterosexual?"

We do, better when everyone in a threesome can just kiss and play with each other

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

No way would it be as much fun without Good kissing but lots' of people have forgotten how to kiss well.

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By *oshblueyedmanMan
over a year ago

hereford


"We have the opposite rule, kissing is a must for us, makes it so much more sensual "

Totally right and a huge turn in mmf fun x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We always said no kissing at the start as we felt it was too intimate and for us to keep for ourselves. That was until our first meet with another couple, we quickly realised that it was actually an important part of that too, in fact now we couldn’t imagine not kissing others during a meet "

Looking at your profile I would find it SO HARD (not in good way) to not kiss the miss in your couple! X

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By *oshblueyedmanMan
over a year ago

hereford


""What's wrong with a kiss boy"?....."Before you go diving for the clitoris"

"This is for your benefit, would you kindly wake up - I have no intention of going through this all again!""

Great Monty Python sketch reference here too and mightily funny n true !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always said no kissing at the start as we felt it was too intimate and for us to keep for ourselves. That was until our first meet with another couple, we quickly realised that it was actually an important part of that too, in fact now we couldn’t imagine not kissing others during a meet

Looking at your profile I would find it SO HARD (not in good way) to not kiss the miss in your couple! X"
Thanks, that’s kind of you to say!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We always said no kissing at the start as we felt it was too intimate and for us to keep for ourselves. That was until our first meet with another couple, we quickly realised that it was actually an important part of that too, in fact now we couldn’t imagine not kissing others during a meet

Looking at your profile I would find it SO HARD (not in good way) to not kiss the miss in your couple! X Thanks, that’s kind of you to say! "

Is it kind or is it just me lusting? Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".....

I don't know why I respond on these threads really. I wouldn't dream of being rude or saying bad things about people who seek intimate connections vis casual sex because I genuinely understand that people have different ideas of what intimacy is and different ways of expressing it.

I only want to kiss people I love."

Yes, I agree with you.

Lucy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love kissing and think it adds a lot to the eroticism of sex. Sadly, the couple I meet don't allow me to do so. I think they are missing out but can't convince them of that.

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By *ubmissive Cuckold CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Watching my wife and bull get lost in each other while kissing is an amazing sight

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I love kissing and think it adds a lot to the eroticism of sex. Sadly, the couple I meet don't allow me to do so. I think they are missing out but can't convince them of that."

But they evidently don't think they're missing out as its a boundary they've decided between themselves.

Keep trying to convince them and they may well decide to find someone else to join them.

If its a dealbreaker for you and an essential part of any meet, then why do you meet them?

A

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