FabSwingers.com forum: Where am I going wrong?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would really appreciate any help especially from couples and single women as to where I might be going wrong in getting a social/fun meet.

Anything I need to change/add to my profile?

Body pics I haven't posted as not that confident with body but have in private to share.

Please let me know what you think of my profile good & bad points.

Thanks.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Guys outnumber women & couples on here by a good 100-1 so you've got to stand out and a profile of dick pics is never going to get you anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your honesty. Not great at taking pictures but will give it ago and upload some other pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly manage your expectations 3 weeks is a relatively short time.

Make your profile the best it can be.

Get yourself out there attend socials and mix with people in person.

Try clubs and get a feel being around others learning and watching if you’ve not swung before…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for your honesty. Not great at taking pictures but will give it ago and upload some other pics.

An album full of cock pics isn’t going to attract many I am afraid

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Dick pics don't impress any woman. We all know you have one, and however good you think yours is, there's photos on here somewhere of better. Standing out against the other 99 out of 100 men doesn't mean having more pics of dick standing out.

My recommendation is just to be an interesting person, get known by making intelligent and perceptive or perhaps amusing comments in the lounge forum, without being aggressive or attacking minorities. After a while see if you can manage an invitation to something like the Manchester lounge social party (*other social parties are available), which gives a chance to meet and mingle with fab folk in person.

[Note: social party = party where people socialise, not shag. Think continuing the type of chats that occur in the forums, but with human people not phone screen.]

Eventually you will make friends, and just possibly might find yourself invited for more private kinds of interactions with some of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

swinging is not a golden ticket to sex...

simple as that.....

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Would really appreciate any help especially from couples and single women as to where I might be going wrong in getting a social/fun meet.

Anything I need to change/add to my profile?

Body pics I haven't posted as not that confident with body but have in private to share.

Please let me know what you think of my profile good & bad points.

Thanks."
omg you like tall women then somebody 4'11" would be no good for you, profile seems to be about what you want as opposed to what they might like about you, nice variation of pics dressed as well helps, good luck

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Nothing exciting about your profile and your pictures are inflating. I would start again and maybe go to clubs and organised socials

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By *lutWithAButtWoman
over a year ago

At the end of the day there are hundreds of 30 odd year old guys on this sight so I can pick whoever I want to meet.

Obviously I'm going to pick the fittest, handsomest, largest guys. That means that people with average dicks and a bit of extra weight are not going to get chosen as often.

In order to maximise your chances, you should consider face photos, put what kinks you're into, and try to get cam verified as a nice person. That will increase your chances from 0% to 1%, but that's the life of a single male on fab I'm afraid

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Everything from your username to pictures and text show someone, it’s all about you.

Do some research, look at other guys profiles, get ideas but don’t copy.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Been said before and will be said again but having a dick pic front and centre puts most couples/females off so you are then just appealing to a small minority on here and so reduce your chances ...

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

"At the end of the day there are hundreds of 30 odd year old guys on this sight so I can pick whoever I want to meet.

Obviously I'm going to pick the fittest, handsomest, largest guys. That means that people with average dicks and a bit of extra weight are not going to get chosen as often.

Pretty much what she said. And clean your mirror haha.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Honestly manage your expectations 3 weeks is a relatively short time.

Make your profile the best it can be.

Get yourself out there attend socials and mix with people in person.

Try clubs and get a feel being around others learning and watching if you’ve not swung before…"

Thanks for the feedback. Iv been on here a few times before but end up coming back hoping I get somewhere haha.

Will make some changes and take onboard all comments.

Thanks again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you for your honesty. Not great at taking pictures but will give it ago and upload some other pics.

An album full of cock pics isn’t going to attract many I am afraid "

Your absolutely right. Will make changes and take some new pics over the weekend.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying why not message me?

I doubt many ladies or couples are going to do that - you need to understand the male to female ratio in here.

Couples and ladies are swamped with messages day to day so they are unlikely to send a message to another standard guy with a very ordinary profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dick pics don't impress any woman. We all know you have one, and however good you think yours is, there's photos on here somewhere of better. Standing out against the other 99 out of 100 men doesn't mean having more pics of dick standing out.

[Note: social party = party where people socialise, not shag. Think continuing the type of chats that occur in the forums, but with human people not phone screen.]

Eventually you will make friends, and just possibly might find yourself invited for more private kinds of interactions with some of them."

Much appreciated. Thanks for the comment. Will give that a shot

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Neither of us can be bothered to open your profile to look, mainly it as your profile pic is just a dick. Is it yours? Is it someone else's? Why do we care? Is that really all you have to say?

Treat profiles like first impressions, and meeting someone in the street. Would you just stand there with your cock out and wave it around a bit? Would anyone come and speak to you if you were?

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

last line in your profile " can accommodate day times " will make many think "attached and his mrs is at work in day" Even if that ISN'T the case

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would really appreciate any help especially from couples and single women as to where I might be going wrong in getting a social/fun meet.

Anything I need to change/add to my profile?

Body pics I haven't posted as not that confident with body but have in private to share.

Please let me know what you think of my profile good & bad points.

Thanks.omg you like tall women then somebody 4'11" would be no good for you, profile seems to be about what you want as opposed to what they might like about you, nice variation of pics dressed as well helps, good luck

Thank you for your comment. Will change profile and take some new pics over the weekend.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Get your dick out of my face!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nothing exciting about your profile and your pictures are inflating. I would start again and maybe go to clubs and organised socials "

Thank you for your honesty

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Agree with the other points made, but lots of ladies don't like the BBW/milf/cougar labels, you reference these several times and it makes some women feel like a porn category

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock profile picture and surprise, surprise all of your public pictures are also of your cock

Your profile is perfect for your expected target audience of presumably cock starved women with absolutely no standards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At the end of the day there are hundreds of 30 odd year old guys on this sight so I can pick whoever I want to meet.

Obviously I'm going to pick the fittest, handsomest, largest guys. That means that people with average dicks and a bit of extra weight are not going to get chosen as often.

Thanks for your comment and honesty. Will change it all up and also try and get cam verified

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At the end of the day there are hundreds of 30 odd year old guys on this sight so I can pick whoever I want to meet.

Obviously I'm going to pick the fittest, handsomest, largest guys. That means that people with average dicks and a bit of extra weight are not going to get chosen as often.

Pretty much what she said. And clean your mirror haha. "

Haha cheers mate. Will give it a better clean next time

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By *eniandMikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Also, coming away from just pics.

Get involved in some forums, chat rooms, have interesting profile updates. Not just, “what can I do get better”, just join in, be funny, have a personality to go along with cock pics!!

I know I tend to only amuse myself, well that’s what Jeni tells me, but one of your pics is crying out for the comment of two rain jackets! The one your wearing and the large foreskin covering the end of your cock!!!

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

So OP, you'd much rather have a pic (or pics) of your cock for everyone to see rather than a pic of your body? It's strange logic, in my opinion.

Have a read through your bio, does it read ok and is it showing you in the best light it can?

Why can you only accommodate during the day?

As others have said, manage your expectations- some men go for months without a meet off here.

Have you thought about clubs or organised socials?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a dick pic as your avatar.

Your pics are mostly dick

Your bio is a bit generic, it doesn’t really give a great idea of what you’re like.

It’s not bad, just not great.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you to everyone who has commented. I'm going to delete this profile and start all again. Better profile name and new pics.

Thanks again

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

"Thank you to everyone who has commented. I'm going to delete this profile and start all again. Better profile name and new pics.

Thanks again "

You can change your name, and delete/upload pics etc. No real need to delete profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you to everyone who has commented. I'm going to delete this profile and start all again. Better profile name and new pics.

Thanks again "

I wouldn’t delete the profile just make the changes you wish to…

You’ll have to wait 2 weeks before you can use the forum again if you do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you to everyone who has commented. I'm going to delete this profile and start all again. Better profile name and new pics.

Thanks again

You can change your name, and delete/upload pics etc. No real need to delete profile?"

Oh right, didn't know you could change your name. How do I do that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you to everyone who has commented. I'm going to delete this profile and start all again. Better profile name and new pics.

Thanks again

I wouldn’t delete the profile just make the changes you wish to…

You’ll have to wait 2 weeks before you can use the forum again if you do "

That's is true. Thanks

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By *umbiyaMan
over a year ago

Halifax

"At the end of the day there are hundreds of 30 odd year old guys on this sight so I can pick whoever I want to meet.

Obviously I'm going to pick the fittest, handsomest, largest guys. That means that people with average dicks and a bit of extra weight are not going to get chosen as often.

Pretty much this. Fab is for the elite males and not worth wasting your time with if you're less than a 8/10.

I wouldn't take the site seriously or expect any sex. Just use the forums and watch porn instead.

Women have got plenty of good supply here so there's no point in trying truth be told.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At the end of the day there are hundreds of 30 odd year old guys on this sight so I can pick whoever I want to meet.

Obviously I'm going to pick the fittest, handsomest, largest guys. That means that people with average dicks and a bit of extra weight are not going to get chosen as often.

Pretty much this. Fab is for the elite males and not worth wasting your time with if you're less than a 8/10.

I wouldn't take the site seriously or expect any sex. Just use the forums and watch porn instead.

Women have got plenty of good supply here so there's no point in trying truth be told. "

Remember 80% of women want 20% of men, you have to be good looking, have to be tall, have to be this have to be that, treat it like a cv, but don't give away too much and hit the gym or get your running shoes on!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Don't try and appeal to everyone. Each couple and single will have different criteria and profiles that are made to appeal to all will usually end up raising (different) red flags for everyone.

Decide what you want and what you can bring to the table then create a profile based on that. It will come across as honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate just pay a few quid for a bang tidy piece, so much easier, and you can get a proper sort!

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