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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Hi all,

I'm frequenting a club tomorrow night for the first time (as a member)

I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady to play.

My "getting ready plan" is.

1- purchase condoms

2- purchase lube.

3- Iron clothes (shirt trousers etc)

4- gym

5- shower, shave etc

Now once there I don't want to come across as a pest, but I'm a little unsure how to as a couple or a lady if they'd like company.

Any advice please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe most clubs supply condoms and lube

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go there with no expectations

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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I believe most clubs supply condoms and lube "

Yes this one does but I might get latex free incase the lady is allergic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't hang around in a corner letching and expect women or couples to come to you.

Dress well.

Start a conversation.

Smile.

Don't be a dick.

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

Just relax and enjoy

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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Don't hang around in a corner letching and expect women or couples to come to you.

Dress well.

Start a conversation.

Smile.

Don't be a dick. "

Thank you,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe most clubs supply condoms and lube

Yes this one does but I might get latex free incase the lady is allergic "
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That's a thoughtful touch. But once you strip down you also don't want to be the 'weirdo' carting around condoms in his hand expectantly? If a lady is latex allergic I'm fairly sure she'll supply her own

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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Go there with no expectations"

I'm not but, I also want to be prepared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't hang around in a corner letching and expect women or couples to come to you.

Dress well.

Start a conversation.

Smile.

Don't be a dick.

Thank you, "

Honestly the first part is so important. We go to some clubs and all the guys do is just sit there looking like someone has died and just stare all night. It's really off-putting

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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I believe most clubs supply condoms and lube

Yes this one does but I might get latex free incase the lady is allergic .

That's a thoughtful touch. But once you strip down you also don't want to be the 'weirdo' carting around condoms in his hand expectantly? If a lady is latex allergic I'm fairly sure she'll supply her own "

This made me chuckle, walking around with an aldi bag for life full, shouting "COME AND GET IT LADIES"

On a serious note I was going to put them in a locker and have 1 hidden under my watch.

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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Don't hang around in a corner letching and expect women or couples to come to you.

Dress well.

Start a conversation.

Smile.

Don't be a dick.

Thank you,

Honestly the first part is so important. We go to some clubs and all the guys do is just sit there looking like someone has died and just stare all night. It's really off-putting "

So how would I approach and start a conversation off

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Don't hang around in a corner letching and expect women or couples to come to you.

Dress well.

Start a conversation.

Smile.

Don't be a dick.

Thank you,

Honestly the first part is so important. We go to some clubs and all the guys do is just sit there looking like someone has died and just stare all night. It's really off-putting

So how would I approach and start a conversation off"
have you got undressed at that point or still clothed?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Don't go for sex. It's great that you always are prepared for it, where it might happen. But, it's probably not good for you to have expectations that could pressure or disappoint you, when you're about to explore something new and when meeting new people.

Go for the new experience. Go for the social interaction. Meet and get to know new people. People may prefer you to be settled down and to have seen you around a few times. Your trip is an investment.. Not a get sex quick rich scheme.

Relax and enjoy yourself

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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"have you got undressed at that point or still clothed? "

At what point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't hang around in a corner letching and expect women or couples to come to you.

Dress well.

Start a conversation.

Smile.

Don't be a dick.

Thank you,

Honestly the first part is so important. We go to some clubs and all the guys do is just sit there looking like someone has died and just stare all night. It's really off-putting

So how would I approach and start a conversation off"

Come on really? Don't want to sound too harsh but it completely depends on the situation and that's up to you to read it.

You could introduce yourself and make a compliment. Being a gent is always a good start

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I just get in the jacuzzi easy to start conversations there

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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Don't go for sex. It's great that you always are prepared for it, where it might happen. But, it's probably not good for you to have expectations that could pressure or disappoint you, when you're about to explore something new and when meeting new people.

Go for the new experience. Go for the social interaction. Meet and get to know new people. People may prefer you to be settled down and to have seen you around a few times. Your trip is an investment.. Not a get sex quick rich scheme.

Relax and enjoy yourself "

Thank you.

I went to the open evening and just chatted to people,

I did go in the hot tub,

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By *haggydogMan
over a year ago

Brooklands/London

I haven't been to a club since pre lockdown. But when I did go I had low expectations. But always had an amazing time,every time.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Me too always enjoyed myself at clubs but then I'm chatty

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"

I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady to play.

Any advice please"

Only advice I have is, don't go to a club hoping anything.

If you're going, expecting to play on your first club visit, I'm going to be a little harsh, and say you're not the type of person anyone in that club wants to be there.

It's like entering athletics race as a new comer and expecting to get a medal. You should be going for the experience.

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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"

Only advice I have is, don't go to a club hoping anything.

If you're going, expecting to play on your first club visit, I'm going to be a little harsh, and say you're not the type of person anyone in that club wants to be there.

It's like entering athletics race as a new comer and expecting to get a medal. You should be going for the experience. "

Thanks I appreciate the honesty,

When I say play, to me playing is also watching not just joining in

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By *ovelyLady21Couple
over a year ago

Bury St Edmunds


"Hi all,

I'm frequenting a club tomorrow night for the first time (as a member)

I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady to play.

My "getting ready plan" is.

1- purchase condoms

2- purchase lube.

3- Iron clothes (shirt trousers etc)

4- gym

5- shower, shave etc

Now once there I don't want to come across as a pest, but I'm a little unsure how to as a couple or a lady if they'd like company.

Any advice please"

We would say just be yourself. Come across as friendly and confident, but not arrogant. Approach people, make polite, interesting conversation but never expect to play. We hope you have fun xx

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By *umbiyaMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I have nothing but respect for the single men who go to these places and deal with rejection every time. I personally wouldn't dare go to a club as I know people there would be very judgemental and probably view me as shit.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

How did it go

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"I have nothing but respect for the single men who go to these places and deal with rejection every time. I personally wouldn't dare go to a club as I know people there would be very judgemental and probably view me as shit. "

I've never seen anyone be judged based purely on appearance in a club. I'm fat and definitely not what you'd consider a good body image but I feel more than comfortable sitting around in a towel.

You should try it.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"

When I say play, to me playing is also watching not just joining in"

Ah OK. I played football yesterday, well I turned the TV on

In all seriousness, I don't think anyone would include watching as playing, so maybe make sure your language is clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing but respect for the single men who go to these places and deal with rejection every time. I personally wouldn't dare go to a club as I know people there would be very judgemental and probably view me as shit.

I've never seen anyone be judged based purely on appearance in a club. I'm fat and definitely not what you'd consider a good body image but I feel more than comfortable sitting around in a towel.

You should try it. "

Exactly this . Being a bigger man myself I thought I’d feel uncomfortable and out of place in a club full of naked ‘sexy’ people but i don’t feel any of that .

In fact , I feel more comfortable walking around in a club half naked than I do walking around the supermarket fully clothed

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