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By *ady Curvaceous OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Hi, I'm wondering if I'm over thinking something, so any input from other larger women would be appreciated.

So, I've been messaged by several guys, hundreds even who say they love a larger woman. Of course, there are guys out there who do love voluptuous ladies. Often, if the guy is a young, chiseled 6 pack adonis, I usually straight out ask him why he's interested in a fat wobbly old lady and the response is that they love fat girls, older women bbw, curves etc.

So, intrigued, I then look at their profile and verifications and every single verification they have is from a size 10, which then gets me suspicious. I've had plenty of guys tell me that they want to "have a go on a fat woman" to see what it's like. Had a few say that fat girls are easier to meet because they're less fussy. Even had one or two tell me I should be grateful that they were willing to swing their cock my way being as fat as I am.

So a few days ago, another message, another guy saying "it's not about the size it's the connection, I love ladies of all sizes and especially curves", yet 85 verifications, yes EIGHTY FIVE verifications on his profile and not a single one over a size 10 or 12.

When I pointed this out, I obviously didn't hear from him again. Am I over thinking this? What do you think about it? I feel like I would be on the back foot from the moment we met, knowing that every other woman he met was slim or a gym bunny, I'd feel nervous and inferior or like I was being used because they couldn't get a better offer from their preferred body type.

Obviously I'm projecting my own body confidence issues all over this, I don't have the highest self esteem and am self conscious of my height and size, but I still don't understand why 20 and 30 something guys who obviously sculpt their bodies to the max, say a fat middle-aged wobbler like me is "their ideal meet" when their verifications tell a completely different story?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I'm wondering if I'm over thinking something, so any input from other larger women would be appreciated.

So, I've been messaged by several guys, hundreds even who say they love a larger woman. Of course, there are guys out there who do love voluptuous ladies. Often, if the guy is a young, chiseled 6 pack adonis, I usually straight out ask him why he's interested in a fat wobbly old lady and the response is that they love fat girls, older women bbw, curves etc.

So, intrigued, I then look at their profile and verifications and every single verification they have is from a size 10, which then gets me suspicious. I've had plenty of guys tell me that they want to "have a go on a fat woman" to see what it's like. Had a few say that fat girls are easier to meet because they're less fussy. Even had one or two tell me I should be grateful that they were willing to swing their cock my way being as fat as I am.

So a few days ago, another message, another guy saying "it's not about the size it's the connection, I love ladies of all sizes and especially curves", yet 85 verifications, yes EIGHTY FIVE verifications on his profile and not a single one over a size 10 or 12.

When I pointed this out, I obviously didn't hear from him again. Am I over thinking this? What do you think about it? I feel like I would be on the back foot from the moment we met, knowing that every other woman he met was slim or a gym bunny, I'd feel nervous and inferior or like I was being used because they couldn't get a better offer from their preferred body type.

Obviously I'm projecting my own body confidence issues all over this, I don't have the highest self esteem and am self conscious of my height and size, but I still don't understand why 20 and 30 something guys who obviously sculpt their bodies to the max, say a fat middle-aged wobbler like me is "their ideal meet" when their verifications tell a completely different story? "

OK first off all can I just say wow! You look absolutely amazing !

Secondly I get what you're saying. I actually put off joining here because I kept saying to my husband "shur who'd pick me like". It's totally a self confidence issue.

I'm slowly getting over it but I still feel suspicious when I get messages from people like you've described. Some days I feel like a complete sex goddess and then other days I feel like a potato.

If you like the look of the person and hit it off chatting , I'd suggest just going for it.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

your over thinking it but i do understand where you are coming from ... i do the same with guys who say on there profile that they are into bbw and all there veris are with bbw i think why me im a size 8/10 ??

and i think you look wonderful i would not call you a bbw either

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Have you considered that larger ladies are all refusing to meet these guys so the only women they can meet are size 10/12?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah! I'm fat! Ain't no getting away from the fact I'm fat but some folk like it, some do not?... Just chat with those that do, no?

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Ah! I'm fat! Ain't no getting away from the fact I'm fat but some folk like it, some do not?... Just chat with those that do, no? "

I like fat lol

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Hi, I'm wondering if I'm over thinking something, so any input from other larger women would be appreciated.

So, I've been messaged by several guys, hundreds even who say they love a larger woman. Of course, there are guys out there who do love voluptuous ladies. Often, if the guy is a young, chiseled 6 pack adonis, I usually straight out ask him why he's interested in a fat wobbly old lady and the response is that they love fat girls, older women bbw, curves etc.

So, intrigued, I then look at their profile and verifications and every single verification they have is from a size 10, which then gets me suspicious. I've had plenty of guys tell me that they want to "have a go on a fat woman" to see what it's like. Had a few say that fat girls are easier to meet because they're less fussy. Even had one or two tell me I should be grateful that they were willing to swing their cock my way being as fat as I am.

So a few days ago, another message, another guy saying "it's not about the size it's the connection, I love ladies of all sizes and especially curves", yet 85 verifications, yes EIGHTY FIVE verifications on his profile and not a single one over a size 10 or 12.

When I pointed this out, I obviously didn't hear from him again. Am I over thinking this? What do you think about it? I feel like I would be on the back foot from the moment we met, knowing that every other woman he met was slim or a gym bunny, I'd feel nervous and inferior or like I was being used because they couldn't get a better offer from their preferred body type.

Obviously I'm projecting my own body confidence issues all over this, I don't have the highest self esteem and am self conscious of my height and size, but I still don't understand why 20 and 30 something guys who obviously sculpt their bodies to the max, say a fat middle-aged wobbler like me is "their ideal meet" when their verifications tell a completely different story? "

This is fab and guys will say anything to stroke their own ego. I genuinely do prefer a curvaceous woman, it just what I prefer but I think that's come with age

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

There is no doubt some men are more attracted to bigger girls. There is also no doubt others see us as low hanging fruit. So yes if all veris are from slim girls it is likely to be the latter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7yrs ago I was very much a slim, gym bunny in a miserable relationship with no sex. These days I'm fat, happy, and getting some with folk I like... I know which I prefer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Based on the logic that he has a load of meets, was it 85 yes, then not sure why you'd think he'd only be interested in you because hes struggling to get meets. He's clearly attracted to you and why not, you look great!

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"7yrs ago I was very much a slim, gym bunny in a miserable relationship with no sex. These days I'm fat, happy, and getting some with folk I like... I know which I prefer "

You look stunning

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"7yrs ago I was very much a slim, gym bunny in a miserable relationship with no sex. These days I'm fat, happy, and getting some with folk I like... I know which I prefer "

Why no sex, we’re you knackered after the gym ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I was as fat as you think you are

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If he had no veries and was struggling I'd think he was swinging the lead a little .

However he's clearly not struggling for meets ,so why not think he's genuinely attracted to you.As said by others you look great op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"7yrs ago I was very much a slim, gym bunny in a miserable relationship with no sex. These days I'm fat, happy, and getting some with folk I like... I know which I prefer

Why no sex, we’re you knackered after the gym ? "

No, the at the other half at the time didn't want to know

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"There is no doubt some men are more attracted to bigger girls. There is also no doubt others see us as low hanging fruit. So yes if all veris are from slim girls it is likely to be the latter."

I was going to write the same.

Plenty of blokes like curvy women, some don’t put it as important (the confidence from your photos is attractive enough) and some are trying it on.

Trust your instincts

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

In my book any lady less than a size 22 is anorexic and I have her permission (instruction) to say so!

Physical perfection for me is a 55+ year old lady who just squeezes into a size 20 dress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my book any lady less than a size 22 is anorexic and I have her permission (instruction) to say so!

Physical perfection for me is a 55+ year old lady who just squeezes into a size 20 dress. "

Ridiculous comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You made me look at your profile and it really made me giggle, what with your preferences (I hate beards too, ugh!),plus the comments you've received, omg, lol!

I'm a lot bigger than you and older too(damnit!), so I guess I may have a wee bit more self confidence and certainly never let daft comments get to me. If they say they like curvy, by god they're gonna get it!

Btw, I don't post much here (I use twitter more tbh)

Try not to overthink it.x

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By *ady Curvaceous OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"There is no doubt some men are more attracted to bigger girls. There is also no doubt others see us as low hanging fruit. So yes if all veris are from slim girls it is likely to be the latter."

Yes, and in response to some of the other comments saying with 85 verifications he isn't doing too badly so must like me to message, he hasn't had a verification for over 3 years, I don't know why, or what happened. Obviously this site has grown hugely over the last few years so meets are harder to get for single guys, which as you say, may send them to the lower hanging fruits?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you considered that larger ladies are all refusing to meet these guys so the only women they can meet are size 10/12?"

I thought the exact same thing.

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By *ady Curvaceous OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"Hi, I'm wondering if I'm over thinking something, so any input from other larger women would be appreciated.

So, I've been messaged by several guys, hundreds even who say they love a larger woman. Of course, there are guys out there who do love voluptuous ladies. Often, if the guy is a young, chiseled 6 pack adonis, I usually straight out ask him why he's interested in a fat wobbly old lady and the response is that they love fat girls, older women bbw, curves etc.

So, intrigued, I then look at their profile and verifications and every single verification they have is from a size 10, which then gets me suspicious. I've had plenty of guys tell me that they want to "have a go on a fat woman" to see what it's like. Had a few say that fat girls are easier to meet because they're less fussy. Even had one or two tell me I should be grateful that they were willing to swing their cock my way being as fat as I am.

So a few days ago, another message, another guy saying "it's not about the size it's the connection, I love ladies of all sizes and especially curves", yet 85 verifications, yes EIGHTY FIVE verifications on his profile and not a single one over a size 10 or 12.

When I pointed this out, I obviously didn't hear from him again. Am I over thinking this? What do you think about it? I feel like I would be on the back foot from the moment we met, knowing that every other woman he met was slim or a gym bunny, I'd feel nervous and inferior or like I was being used because they couldn't get a better offer from their preferred body type.

Obviously I'm projecting my own body confidence issues all over this, I don't have the highest self esteem and am self conscious of my height and size, but I still don't understand why 20 and 30 something guys who obviously sculpt their bodies to the max, say a fat middle-aged wobbler like me is "their ideal meet" when their verifications tell a completely different story?

OK first off all can I just say wow! You look absolutely amazing !

Secondly I get what you're saying. I actually put off joining here because I kept saying to my husband "shur who'd pick me like". It's totally a self confidence issue.

I'm slowly getting over it but I still feel suspicious when I get messages from people like you've described. Some days I feel like a complete sex goddess and then other days I feel like a potato.

If you like the look of the person and hit it off chatting , I'd suggest just going for it. "

Ui

You are gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your body is the most amazing thing I've seen on this site. I'd take all the compliments at face value.

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By *ady Curvaceous OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"You made me look at your profile and it really made me giggle, what with your preferences (I hate beards too, ugh!),plus the comments you've received, omg, lol!

I'm a lot bigger than you and older too(damnit!), so I guess I may have a wee bit more self confidence and certainly never let daft comments get to me. If they say they like curvy, by god they're gonna get it!

Btw, I don't post much here (I use twitter more tbh)

Try not to overthink it.x

"

Hah hah I got another "will you be my mummy, breastfeed me, discipline me" type message a couple of hours ago, quite a long message too. Went to reply and he'd blocked me. Some very very strange people on here.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield


"There is no doubt some men are more attracted to bigger girls. There is also no doubt others see us as low hanging fruit. So yes if all veris are from slim girls it is likely to be the latter.

Yes, and in response to some of the other comments saying with 85 verifications he isn't doing too badly so must like me to message, he hasn't had a verification for over 3 years, I don't know why, or what happened. Obviously this site has grown hugely over the last few years so meets are harder to get for single guys, which as you say, may send them to the lower hanging fruits? "

Covid happened in the past three years which caused a blip in the sexy time continuum I suspect.

In all seriousness tho, many guys like bums and boobs and the soft feel of un gym toned flesh. Also you have on your interests anal which I find grabs the attention of many men but they don’t admit that in the first couple of messages. It’s hard to avoid the overthinking, I do it too and it sounds like you and I ask similar questions. Just enjoy the chats and see where it takes you. Each person is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you are absolutely stunning and have a beautiful figure, some of those messages you have been getting are truly horrendous It just goes to show the idiocy of some of the guys on here

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

To OP: first you are very sexy (male part of the couple here). Second, some men have a type, some men don't. I don't. I like curvaceous and thin. But I am particular about sexiness. If a woman is confident in her sex appeal it makes me hot. The way she smiles and flowers and looks at me. If she is self conscious and does not think much of her self that's a turn off.

No, you are not overthinking it, is good you are cautious but don't deny yourself a great time and fun because of that. You'll get a lot of lemons asking the way, but when you get a sweet orange it makes it up for all the lemons.

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I always prefer a woman to be at least a size 14. To me they feel just so much nicer. Curves are big visual stimulus for me, and the feel of our flesh together feels so good. I don't know if it's a throwback to woman's figures in films and tv in the past.

Could even be Freudian. I'm not going down that road though!

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By *weetsmellingtreatsWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"You made me look at your profile and it really made me giggle, what with your preferences (I hate beards too, ugh!),plus the comments you've received, omg, lol!

I'm a lot bigger than you and older too(damnit!), so I guess I may have a wee bit more self confidence and certainly never let daft comments get to me. If they say they like curvy, by god they're gonna get it!

Btw, I don't post much here (I use twitter more tbh)

Try not to overthink it.x

Hah hah I got another "will you be my mummy, breastfeed me, discipline me" type message a couple of hours ago, quite a long message too. Went to reply and he'd blocked me. Some very very strange people on here. "

I love your profile!

I get similar message and yep that good block button comes in handy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I'm wondering if I'm over thinking something, so any input from other larger women would be appreciated.

So, I've been messaged by several guys, hundreds even who say they love a larger woman. Of course, there are guys out there who do love voluptuous ladies. Often, if the guy is a young, chiseled 6 pack adonis, I usually straight out ask him why he's interested in a fat wobbly old lady and the response is that they love fat girls, older women bbw, curves etc.

So, intrigued, I then look at their profile and verifications and every single verification they have is from a size 10, which then gets me suspicious. I've had plenty of guys tell me that they want to "have a go on a fat woman" to see what it's like. Had a few say that fat girls are easier to meet because they're less fussy. Even had one or two tell me I should be grateful that they were willing to swing their cock my way being as fat as I am.

So a few days ago, another message, another guy saying "it's not about the size it's the connection, I love ladies of all sizes and especially curves", yet 85 verifications, yes EIGHTY FIVE verifications on his profile and not a single one over a size 10 or 12.

When I pointed this out, I obviously didn't hear from him again. Am I over thinking this? What do you think about it? I feel like I would be on the back foot from the moment we met, knowing that every other woman he met was slim or a gym bunny, I'd feel nervous and inferior or like I was being used because they couldn't get a better offer from their preferred body type.

Obviously I'm projecting my own body confidence issues all over this, I don't have the highest self esteem and am self conscious of my height and size, but I still don't understand why 20 and 30 something guys who obviously sculpt their bodies to the max, say a fat middle-aged wobbler like me is "their ideal meet" when their verifications tell a completely different story? "

Definitely not over thinking it at all, since COVID struck a lot of guys have become very matter of fact and will say or do anything to get their leg over... Please don't take this as a negative because I am someone who has varifications from a variety of different shapes and sizes and believe that connection is a big part of this whole world... Xxxxx

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By *ady Curvaceous OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Just to say, I wasn't posting to get positive strokes regarding my appearance, but some of the replies I've received on here and messages I've received in private have been so supportive, helpful and really very lovely. Really appreciate your kind words and excellent advice x

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By *h_yes_please!Man
over a year ago

North Devon

I think you look super sexy in your photos! Over thinking it, perhaps!

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By *etsplay90Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Hi, I'm wondering if I'm over thinking something, so any input from other larger women would be appreciated.

So, I've been messaged by several guys, hundreds even who say they love a larger woman. Of course, there are guys out there who do love voluptuous ladies. Often, if the guy is a young, chiseled 6 pack adonis, I usually straight out ask him why he's interested in a fat wobbly old lady and the response is that they love fat girls, older women bbw, curves etc.

So, intrigued, I then look at their profile and verifications and every single verification they have is from a size 10, which then gets me suspicious. I've had plenty of guys tell me that they want to "have a go on a fat woman" to see what it's like. Had a few say that fat girls are easier to meet because they're less fussy. Even had one or two tell me I should be grateful that they were willing to swing their cock my way being as fat as I am.

So a few days ago, another message, another guy saying "it's not about the size it's the connection, I love ladies of all sizes and especially curves", yet 85 verifications, yes EIGHTY FIVE verifications on his profile and not a single one over a size 10 or 12.

When I pointed this out, I obviously didn't hear from him again. Am I over thinking this? What do you think about it? I feel like I would be on the back foot from the moment we met, knowing that every other woman he met was slim or a gym bunny, I'd feel nervous and inferior or like I was being used because they couldn't get a better offer from their preferred body type.

Obviously I'm projecting my own body confidence issues all over this, I don't have the highest self esteem and am self conscious of my height and size, but I still don't understand why 20 and 30 something guys who obviously sculpt their bodies to the max, say a fat middle-aged wobbler like me is "their ideal meet" when their verifications tell a completely different story? "

Firstly OMG you are stunning, I mean really stunning and those eyes, WOW

Secondly, I'll apologise on behalf of those W&NKERS, no one deserves to be treated like that

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By *uckypups1000Couple
over a year ago

peterborough

Well as a voluptuous lady my self I say be what you are lol

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Probably an element of you overthinking it a bit. Ultimately, trust your instincts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The truth is some guys would stick it into a un cooked chicken ,so if your fat ,thin ugly ,good looking it doesnt matter to them ,

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