FabSwingers.com forum: Does the lady in the couple really enjoy swinging??

By *orderboyblue OP Man
over a year ago

Scottish Borders

Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

some will do it to please partner but plenty do it because they enjoy it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I preferred having a couples profile to be honest. Felt safer, and I enjoyed the build up with chatting beforehand both with another cpl, and between ourselves. Throw in the voyeurism during a meet and it was beyond lovely

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By *hors fantasyCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

I met gemma through here, and we continue to swing so I guess she likes it

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By *ercuryMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Many years ago, I walked out of a meet, when it was clear that the wife wasn't happy being part of a swinging couple.

Some men browbeat their partner into "trying it".

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By *ilf71Couple
over a year ago

Fareham

I absolutely love it

A x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We as a couple have a simple rule - we don't go further than a social meet unless we are both comfortable with whoever we have engaged with.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

We had a woman burst into tears because of being pressurised to meet

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

Well I'm staying at home tonight looking after the kids while she goes out, so I guess she does.

It's a great question though, and one we talk about often. We are very fortunate that we met on here, we've never had a traditional relationship, so we never have that niggling doubt of "are you just entertaining my perverted ideas". I am not sure I could be 100% comfortable in a vanilla relationship turned swingers, as I think you'd always be questioning things.

Just my thoughts though.

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We had the opposite experience of another couple the last time we visited a club.

We got speaking to the couple and within minutes, it was crystal clear that F wanted to be there but M absolutely did not. It wasn't explicitly said but there was no mistaking the energy/vibe that was there.

We decided to thank them for a good chat and then spoke to others for the rest of the night.

C x

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Well without going into detail but the way C goes 100% into every meet and doesn’t hold back whether it be male or female then I’d say she loves it

I wouldn’t be doing this if it was solely for my benefit at all…seeing C enjoying herself is the sexiest sight.

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By *orderboyblue OP Man
over a year ago

Scottish Borders

I'm sure that's right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a woman burst into tears because of being pressurised to meet

Oh dear! That's grim

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By *orderboyblue OP Man
over a year ago

Scottish Borders

"We as a couple have a simple rule - we don't go further than a social meet unless we are both comfortable with whoever we have engaged with.

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good rule that x

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By *astlincscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Tinsel Town

Yes I do, but that doesn't mean we are looking to meet at the drop of a hat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The wife has played with plenty of people while I've been at work etc and on her own in clubs so I'm guessing she enjoys it..

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya

Mrs here! I’m the instigator lol

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By *orderboyblue OP Man
over a year ago

Scottish Borders

"Mrs here! I’m the instigator lol "

You little minx, you!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met both... Couples where F seems thoroughly uninterested, and also where the F was going hard to meet solo & the M was feeling its gone way beyond original agreement. Played with neither.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We wouldn't do it if both of us didn't enjoy it.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Some may do it for their partners ,I can only speak for me

I met my partner here 7 years ago and we decided we both wanted to carry on this lifestyle .

We rarely use our joint profile much ,its easier to go to a club if we want a meet together.

I'd never do anything I didn't want to just to make my other half happy and he wouldn't expect me to.That goes both ways too.

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By *tranger swings 69Couple
over a year ago

cheshire

Of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

That would be forcing her into it and quite weird if you made your wife do it against her will

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

Of course I enjoy it and have my own separate profile too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're both as perverted as each other.

I enjoy it as much as him and we met through the site

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Joint hobby for us

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By *orderboyblue OP Man
over a year ago

Scottish Borders

"We're both as perverted as each other.

I enjoy it as much as him and we met through the site "

Great story

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

Often the other way around actually, older guys having lower sex drives than wifey. Maybe with younger couples it’s the other way around?

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Very much so

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It's probably more me (Mrs) who does the fab side of things not that the Mr complains

Although he does tell me I'm too picky!

But yes I'm here because I want to be.

Mrs

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

She enjoys it more than me I reckon

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By *arried BifemWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the midlands

I wouldn’t be here if I didn’t enjoy it

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By *ambiandThumperCouple
over a year ago

up near the top

"We had a woman burst into tears because of being pressurised to meet

That is just so wrong

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By *iquid GoldCouple
over a year ago

gloucestershire

It was my idea to start swinging (Mrs) and I run the FAB account but we equally enjoy the thrill of this adventure. Neither of us would agree to a meet (social or naughty) if we though the other wasn’t 100% happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant speak for others, but we definitely both enjoy it.

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By *urreyNotSoNewbiesCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Hell yes!

(Mrs here)

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

No, we're all held against our will as obviously everyone knows women don't even like sex

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

Like anything in life there's a real mix, lots of couples where one of them is much more involved and enjoying it than the other, we see it a lot in clubs...

BUT for us, vix enjoys is just as much, if not more than hound... hes mostly there for my enjoyment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No point if Mrs don't enjoy it!! And if it's only Makin hubby happy it's not fun

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

you'll be suprised how many couples are bullied into swinging and its not always the male doing the bulling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

If you think that may be the case wouldn’t you be taking advantage of the situation?

You haven’t thought this through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely happy with our situation as is Mr.

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By *nked_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We both definitely enjoy it equally

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

We have seen this on more than one occasion, where it has actually backfired on the male. She has initially just gone along with it, but then discovered she liked it. In fact the male has created a monster. She enjoyed it more than he was anticipating and he wasn`t happy with what he created.

There`s no putting the genie back in the bottle after this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious.

There`s no putting the genie back in the bottle after this."

Open Pandoras Box

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY

Open Pandoras Box

Exactly. Be careful what you wish for too.

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By *anny Boy31Man
over a year ago

Belfast all over the Uk and Ireland

I had a meet where the lady definitely was going against her Will so I just made my excuses and split.

I think 95% of women are into it and if any half decent man thought otherwise he would call it off by putting the blame on himself in case it could cause issues between the couple

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Can honestly say that it was a 60/40 decision with hub being the 60% but I really am excited by it all I just wish that people would read our profile instead of the random friend requests as blocking them all is a shame as there were some fantastic chances in them but they wasted there chance. Anyway we are both very involved with our profile and very keen to explore

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

I love it, it's me that goes on meets with other guys while V stays at home

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We've met couples where it's obvious the woman isn't keen and couples where it's obvious the man isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."
I've met plenty that just go along with it in couples.. male and female but it's not a long term thing.. something will inevitably give..

Plenty of women however are the driving force behind a couples swinging life .. so yes many do. I loved sharing my ex with other women and playing while he watched..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wife here, we are both very much into the lifestyle and both thoroughly enjoy it! We never go further with a meet unless we are both 100% in agreement. Hubby tends to do all the chatting on here, but final say tends to come down to me whether it's yes or no.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

We are in to swinging as a lifestyle and not just the sex alone. We have both played before we met and after a few months we just started talking about swinging as a cpl and here we are

. Some will just go along with it for the other partners sake but you can tell that even from just chatting in a social meeting with them.

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By *irebrand 1263Man
over a year ago

near you

The hotwives on here are amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotwives are the ultimate … the best … sexy, passionate and in total control x

They are to be treated with respect, consideration, shown desire and most of all pleased …

Thank you to the generous Husbands to share such an amazing experience… letting their sexy Hotwives taste,swallow and enjoy new cock

Love Hotwives x ??

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By *lecom1Couple
over a year ago

Stornoway

It was my wife who told me to rejoin fab after the last couple of years away

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are here because of her!

She loves it, she comes out her shell and turns into some sex goddess.

It's weird because she is so quiet in our vanilla life, but get her in a swingers club, it's like she becomes another person and the real her comes out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well without going into detail but the way C goes 100% into every meet and doesn’t hold back whether it be male or female then I’d say she loves it

I wouldn’t be doing this if it was solely for my benefit at all…seeing C enjoying herself is the sexiest sight.

This. I think in most cases, women decide the power dynamic. But we all know narcissists and sociopaths who manipulate people into acquiescence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it for me, and for us but certainly not to please anyone but myself - never coerced into anything

I do get what you’re saying though, met a few women who look bored with it, not horny at all and who spoil the dynamic

It’s very difficult to get 4 people to click

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I have only ever met one couple where I thought she didn’t want to be there - she got very d*unk on a social and I made my excuses and left because it didn’t feel right.

Every other meet, it is safe to say, the wife was more than a willing partner

I always ask why couples get into it and almost universally I am told that it is because she enjoys the liberation of doing what she wants to and he enjoys watching her. Wives can definitely make up their own minds in my experience.

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By *reen as JadeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Yes I do. All this was my idea and husband liked the idea and agreed x

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

100 percent yes, I do. I'm just lucky that I have someone that likes sharing me. He enjoys sharing me, as much as I like being shared.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With one meet we had chatted on the internet and had arranged a meet. One thing we always do before committing is to get the ladies to talk on the phone. (Believe it or not there are fakes out there).

As my wife was chatting to the other woman she started crying saying she only did it because he wanted to.

We cancelled before the date to make it look like it was us cancelling and not because his partner was just going along.

So yes, some women do just go along with it but I suspect some men may do the same.

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Most of us do.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

We’re only in this for Mrs CT to explore her bi side so she has the final say on everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are mild dom/sub couple,

Sub wouldn't swing on her own but likes not having a choice her enjoyment of meets is most important aspect for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I constantly ask Lucy if she’s having fun for me or for us and she answers if she didn’t like it she wouldn’t do it, she’s currently away in the canaries at the moment without me and she’s arranged a social for this afternoon so I guess she loves it lol, ( we all know it won’t just be a social though ) x

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By *poolfunswingcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

For us, it’s always been about the two of us playing as a couple. We won’t do solo meets or play in separate rooms. Mrs Lpool loves the flirting with others on the build up to a meet and our reclaim sex, after a meet, is always the best.

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By *lean_CutMan
over a year ago

Rasen area

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

Likely both..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

What makes you ask?

Do you think there might be some men who are just going along with their partner to keep her happy?

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

we both love it i wood not just do something to keep the hubby happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I preferred having a couples profile to be honest. Felt safer, and I enjoyed the build up with chatting beforehand both with another cpl, and between ourselves. Throw in the voyeurism during a meet and it was beyond lovely

Exactly how I felt (when with my ex). I'm was (still am) always conscience of the safety issue. I'd love to find a women who was interested in building trust then further experience threesomes, foursome and moresomes...alas...

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

Come on, do you really think us women don’t enjoy the sex ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love it equally I love watch wifey being pleasured as much as I enjoy receiving it so works well for us and reclaiming your wife after any meet is amazing for both..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play lots more than my hubby because it really makes me happy

If you play without really wanting to just to make someone happy in my opinion there is something wrong in your relationship

Just my opinion pls don't bite my head off

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

Mr S&S pushed us into making the first steps. I was cautious at first, now I love the freedom it gives me.

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By *udere.Couple
over a year ago

South West

It’s very much a joint venture, but possibly more so than the male in our relationship!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

I’ve always been curious about sex and my sexuality, and it’s all been very vanilla for me until I met J, and realised that we both wanted to explore the whole swinging/ethical non-monogamy thing together. Finally I now know that there’s nothing wrong with me - there’s a whole world out there that I just never knew existed. For the relationship to work there has to be mutual trust, mutual respect and open communication. If one partner is being coerced into swinging, that’s not right

Mrs

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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago

Romford

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious.

Mrs"

DITTO ! This is us to a tee, perfectly said

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By *sian_pairCouple
over a year ago

Sutton

"It was my wife who told me to rejoin fab after the last couple of years away"

Amazing pictures.

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By *euve4usCouple
over a year ago

Teddington

Definitely a joint thing for us. Both access Fab and agree on play partners. Equally we agree when we both want to play without any pressure on one or the other. Our own relationship is the most important one.

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By *pen to offers!Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

I met a couple a few yrs ago and I could clearly see that the lady looked uncomfortable and was being pressured into it by her partner. I let the guy know that I didn’t think she was comfortable and I left.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

Lol Cherry is the one who got me into swinging

. We've met others though where one is clearly under pressure (usually the woman but in one case the man !)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely

Women enjoy sex just as much as guys not sure why anyone would assume otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

Absolutely love it

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By *amson4DelilahCouple
over a year ago

ballina

This one sure does

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By *iercedCplCouple
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

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By *iercedCplCouple
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

Definitely not for male led for us, it was Mrs P that started the conversation about swinging and introduced me to fab. She doesn't come on fab as much now, because fab annoys her, but swinging very much 50/50 for us, we both love it.

Mr P

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

Interesting thread. From chatting, and looking around on here it is clear that many profiles are male-led [or indeed, entirely male, with an oblivious, or non-existent partner!],but that said, many couples profiles are female-led, and many are equal. From my [the male] perspective, I don't believe that Mrs Vanilla-sin does anything for me, and I make sure that I allow her to suggest any possible meet, or club visit, so that way I feel sure that she wants to do it. We also regularly check in and make sure that we both know that we are happy.

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By *incs_TiggerMan
over a year ago

Ask me

Only play when it’s clear that all parties are into it. grim otherwise.

Have walked from meets where it’s been clearly one party not wanting it, consent is essential and enthusiasm needed to add pizazz.

Couldn’t imagine being able to go through with it without that. X

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By *iercedCplCouple
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

"Only play when it’s clear that all parties are into it. grim otherwise.

Have walked from meets where it’s been clearly one party not wanting it, consent is essential and enthusiasm needed to add pizazz.

Couldn’t imagine being able to go through with it without that. X"

Misread that as pizza, pizza does makes everything better!

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Only play when it’s clear that all parties are into it. grim otherwise.

Have walked from meets where it’s been clearly one party not wanting it, consent is essential and enthusiasm needed to add pizazz.

Couldn’t imagine being able to go through with it without that. X"

Good to see morals still exist. X

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By *incs_TiggerMan
over a year ago

Ask me

"Only play when it’s clear that all parties are into it. grim otherwise.

Have walked from meets where it’s been clearly one party not wanting it, consent is essential and enthusiasm needed to add pizazz.

Couldn’t imagine being able to go through with it without that. X

Misread that as pizza, pizza does makes everything better!

Well of course, can you imagine no pizzas? Makes me shudder.

(And the pineapple is supporting my swinging…)

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By *incs_TiggerMan
over a year ago

Ask me

"Only play when it’s clear that all parties are into it. grim otherwise.

Have walked from meets where it’s been clearly one party not wanting it, consent is essential and enthusiasm needed to add pizazz.

Couldn’t imagine being able to go through with it without that. X

Good to see morals still exist. X"

Absolutely essential. Can you imagine how much the alternatives would prey on your mind? Standards and morals are the foundations on which filthy fun and sexy memories are built!

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

We met on here and decided to continue our journey on here. And only because we both want to, there was no talking me into it or doing it to please at all

Tg x

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
over a year ago

Scarborogh

Whilst it was Mr NH who suggested exploring this area of our lives, I really enjoy the liberation of the lifestyle and having a secret adventure. I wish I could devote more time to thinking about it and socialising on here. Organisational tasks in a vanilla world, both work and home, often fill my head.

We definitely both have to be happy with the couple we talk to and meet and ensure their boundaries match ours at that time in order to progress things to where we can all have fun. Some meets he will enjoy more, some meets I’ll get more from them but with our agreed dynamic, we’d both come away if we felt it wasn’t right and unsettled/upset either of us. Who knows where the adventures will lead…. Mrs SW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both enjoy immensely. We have met where the woman is doing it for the man or visa versa. Its very easy to tell. Jealousy comes up and has ended in arguments. Do it coz you both want to, then it's wonderful. Fantasy is one thing reality can feel very different.

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

"some will do it to please partner but plenty do it because they enjoy it!

Wow what a beautiful enjoyable team they most certainly do make

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

"some will do it to please partner but plenty do it because they enjoy it!

Wow what a beautiful enjoyable team they most certainly do make

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By *arleycplCouple
over a year ago

Leyburn

Marie here, I am the one who finds our playmates so yes I enjoy swinging x

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross

"Well without going into detail but the way C goes 100% into every meet and doesn’t hold back whether it be male or female then I’d say she loves it

I wouldn’t be doing this if it was solely for my benefit at all…seeing C enjoying herself is the sexiest sight.

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By *orkshireDrifterMan
over a year ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

"Many years ago, I walked out of a meet, when it was clear that the wife wasn't happy being part of a swinging couple.

Some men browbeat their partner into "trying it"."

But also the other way around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm part of a couple, we play together and solo. I'm probably more active than my partner is these days

Jess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play a lot more than him so yesss I guess d

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We joined together. We play together. And we only love it when we both love it.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Mrs here! I’m the instigator lol "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mrs here! I’m the instigator lol "

The Instigator!

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

We joined together, we play together,we die fucking together. Naughty fuckers for life.

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By *estonfuncoupleCouple
over a year ago

weston super mare

"you'll be suprised how many couples are bullied into swinging and its not always the male doing the bulling"
wish a woman would bully me into it

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By *uckoldDesiresMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

In my experience its normally the guy who initiates it but usually the woman who enjoys it more longer term.

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By *asons_CarounnCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Mrs here! I’m the instigator lol

Same here

a danger illustrated

Shocked no-one else went for the Firestarter ref!

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By *exySwitches203Couple
over a year ago

Felixstowe

We were both here as singles before our couple profile so yeah.. we both love to play

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By *ornado69Man
over a year ago

Princess Risborough

My ex wife used to go out swinging on her own so i would say yes women enjoy sex as much as men. I also like to tell what she got up to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

Mrs NW absolutely loves it, loves meeting new partners of both sexes,

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious.

In my experience its normally the guy who initiates it but usually the woman who enjoys it more longer term."

I think this will be the case with us! - Xeno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our case it was actually my idea (Mrs here) and not the Mr, but he's not gonna complain about having some extra fun

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By *incs_TiggerMan
over a year ago

Ask me

"Mrs here! I’m the instigator lol

Same here

I just had a look at your profile, young lady, oh, my word!

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By *retha1212Man
over a year ago

Haslemere

Mrs here and we are equally into it but I led the initial foray

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

You aren't swinging if one of you doesn't enjoy it at that point it's kinda toxic

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

Why should she enjoy swinging any less than her partner enjoys it? Seems like the sort of question someone might have asked 50 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only play when it’s clear that all parties are into it. grim otherwise.

Have walked from meets where it’s been clearly one party not wanting it, consent is essential and enthusiasm needed to add pizazz.

Couldn’t imagine being able to go through with it without that. X"

No we couldn’t go through with anything if it wasn’t obvious the other couple weren’t both up for it

Mrs

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious.

Why should she enjoy swinging any less than her partner enjoys it? Seems like the sort of question someone might have asked 50 years ago."

I thought the same, but then thought... Given the ratio of men to women on here it seems a perfectly reasonable question.

So many men on here who are asking how to get their partners into this. We meet a surprising amount of people in clubs who've never heard of fab, so I think it's a fairly balanced question.

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By *eepgliderMan
over a year ago

Chacewater

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

Usually it's the lady who is strong and confident as a "sociable" sexual type and the guy is the sensitive shy timid often too-nervous-to-participate one.

eg. one partner - where every other guy wanted to go second - or later! - we had to send him in first with both ladies (which suited the rest of us males just fine

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

"We had a woman burst into tears because of being pressurised to meet

Blimey, passion killer !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fascinating insights into how different people are in different situations..

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By *eepgliderMan
over a year ago

Chacewater

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

You want to explain what you mean when we have a lady at a swinging venue who has left her children with her husband and come out to have some fun in proportion to her sexual appetite and what she has done as a sexual being?

I'm not getting the point ?!

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I met a lady as a single who’d split up from her hubby. He’d insisted on taking her to clubs and she liked it a lot more than he was comfortable with. Found out what she’d been missing etc

Careful what you wish for….

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By *orderboyblue OP Man
over a year ago

Scottish Borders

"I met a lady as a single who’d split up from her hubby. He’d insisted on taking her to clubs and she liked it a lot more than he was comfortable with. Found out what she’d been missing etc

Careful what you wish for…."

That is a bit of a concern to be honest

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

When I was in a couple. Yes I did. Why wouldn’t “the lady” enjoy it any more or less than either half of a couple. Strange to think that it might just be the women being led into things we are not happy with.

V x

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Opposite for me, he only does it to please me.

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By *itty_gizmoCouple
over a year ago

Mordor

It was my idea to start

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

Yes I do. It was my suggestion at first which was mainly to satisfy my bi side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To bloody right I do xxx

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By *xcited99Couple
over a year ago

omagh

I certainly do.

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By *andkCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

They all love it but pretend their only doing it for the partner. My gf claims she only has sex with other women to please me, well if thats the case how come iam never invited lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"They all love it but pretend their only doing it for the partner. My gf claims she only has sex with other women to please me, well if thats the case how come iam never invited lol"

Erm...

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By *uckypups1000Couple
over a year ago

peterborough

Oh I love it no point otherwise

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By *orderboyblue OP Man
over a year ago

Scottish Borders

I've not been in a club and ever thought a particular lady was not enjoying herself tbh

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We would never want the other to do something sexual they don't want to do. I'm always surprised how into this Hannah is, but she genuinely is. I'm a very lucky guy. Luke

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Should do she initiated the whole thing, I of course was dragged in kick and screaming......still love that special buzz of the preperation and build up to the meetings from socials to clubs and of course the play meets!!

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

Always have the radar switched on for this vibe and run a mile if I think it’s just to please hubby.

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By *aughty50sCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire - but we travel a lot

Yes I do.

Next!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not been in a club and ever thought a particular lady was not enjoying herself tbh"

There's always pissed up women in clubs. Drinking to take away the horrible feeling they have about not wanting to be there.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I've not been in a club and ever thought a particular lady was not enjoying herself tbh

There's always pissed up women in clubs. Drinking to take away the horrible feeling they have about not wanting to be there."

We never play with people who are obviously pissed, gene5rally though I've found that the women are "usually" having a load of fun and in charge of the swinging.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had the opposite experience of another couple the last time we visited a club.

We decided to thank them for a good chat and then spoke to others for the rest of the night.

C x

We have met a number of couples in clubs where it's clear the male doesn't want to be there and has been dragged along and just doing it to keep his Mrs happy.

It certainly goes both ways.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I enjoyed it for a few years, now I'm not bothered. I do what I want, I certainly would not meet to please anybody else. Fuck that shit

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By *ngelLordCouple
over a year ago

Newport

We partners in life and partners in crime for 20 years this weekend so no question a out it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not been in a club and ever thought a particular lady was not enjoying herself tbh

There's always pissed up women in clubs. Drinking to take away the horrible feeling they have about not wanting to be there.

We never play with people who are obviously pissed, gene5rally though I've found that the women are "usually" having a load of fun and in charge of the swinging.

Cal "

Sometimes it's the man who doesn't want to be there.

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By *ooDeNimMan
over a year ago

Nuneaton, also London and Wiltshire

It is immediately apparent if one or other partner in a couple is not as enthusiastic as the other. For me, that’s a red flag. If I get a sense that either partner is just there to please the other, rather than because they want to be there because they both enjoy it, then it’s a no from me. There’s no authenticity in that.

It also makes me immediately consider consent. If I’m questioning that in my mind then there is no chance that I’ll engage in anything. It’s just not right.

I have, in the past, politely removed myself from a conversation or a meet if I’ve felt that either partner isn’t in to it.

I think the most important aspect of being a single guy engaging with a couple is to understand their relationship dynamic, what they both enjoy, what they both want, and then working out how to best contribute to that, taking in to account everybody’s needs and enthusiasms, without undermining or marginalising anyone. One of the key things within this is understanding why they got in to it in the first place. As I said, it’s always immediately apparent if something isn’t quite right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

I absolutely love it! Being fucked silly is awesome !

J x

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By *orderboyblue OP Man
over a year ago

Scottish Borders

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious.

I absolutely love it! Being fucked silly is awesome !

J x"

That sounds so incredibly filthy.....

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By *roxhotwifecpl4funCouple
over a year ago

goffs oak

Yes, if not we wouldn’t be on here.

Kelly

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By *ornysquirtingcoupleCouple
over a year ago

somerset

Yep she does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep!

Mainly me who plays

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By *am and johnCouple
over a year ago

york

If you are on here then you are both up for it. But we have met couples where one or the other isn't wholly comfortable. That can include the male who's unsure about his wife's eagerness.

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By *am and johnCouple
over a year ago

york

If you are on here then you are both up for it. But we have met couples where one or the other isn't wholly comfortable. That can include the male who's unsure about his wife's eagerness.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Or does she just go along with her partner to keep him happy?

Curious."

There will be a good number of guys swinging to keep their lady happy too I would think.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

I love it

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

She's the one who does the fucking, so I'd assume so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

G loves it. Mmf is a regular pleasure for her lol

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By *D2015Couple
over a year ago

Wokingham

"I met gemma through here, and we continue to swing so I guess she likes it

Same with us!

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