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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do so many people on fab just fuck you around?

Swinging never used to be like this when contact mag adverts and replies took way more effort.

Getting so fed up of people who don't seem to know what they want. Thinking of packing it in for good.

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x


"Why do so many people on fab just fuck you around?

Swinging never used to be like this when contact mag adverts and replies took way more effort.

Getting so fed up of people who don't seem to know what they want. Thinking of packing it in for good."

You've been here 4 months try and try again until your here like 2+ years you might get lucky ..need lots more verifications and maybe more pics may help ya out!

No one likes a moaner really unless moans of delight ?? your profile covers every chat opportunity so that's probably why most aren't chatting or replying if you send messages...

Unless your 100% what people are looking for you'll get next to no effort made to reply...

The joys of single males on here is its like 100 men to one women and she's allowed to be fussy...

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By *rblue38Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

It is tough for men I will not lie. I been here for many years and it does not get any easier. I find being your self and not being pushy helps. There is literally 100s of men chase every woman profile so you need to do something different that stands out. Verification’s help a lot.

Attend some socials, get verified best way to meet people is at socials and parties. Get out there and you will soon enjoy your self more .

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants

Fab became overloaded with people during the lockdowns. Seems a lot of them have no interest in the lifestyle at all or are fakes.

Having said that, we've always found lots of time wasters with our dynamic. Lots of ladies seem to get off on the idea, but then go AWOL.

There are clearly a lot of picture hunters here now too. So many profiles (single ladies included) just ask us for nudes of ST(her) but if they read our profile they'd quickly realise that's not what we are about.

We've more or less given up now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fab became overloaded with people during the lockdowns. Seems a lot of them have no interest in the lifestyle at all or are fakes.

Having said that, we've always found lots of time wasters with our dynamic. Lots of ladies seem to get off on the idea, but then go AWOL.

There are clearly a lot of picture hunters here now too. So many profiles (single ladies included) just ask us for nudes of ST(her) but if they read our profile they'd quickly realise that's not what we are about.

We've more or less given up now. "

Thanks for the reply. Read your profile and if you were looking for males, we'd get on really well. Typical!

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

It's easy to be a keyboard warrior buddy, lots like the thought of the lifestyle but can't bring themselves to actually follow it through.

Lockdown and boredom have brought lots of these people to the site, insisting on a social early on in conversations should make the fakes disappear and save wasting time on them.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Oddly enough it was a lot easier in the late 90s, you rock up at your local swingers club and just talk to people. Then the Internet came along and it just went crazy with people trying to commercialise sex as a product. Keep it simple, go back to the clubs and use this site to chat.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Why do so many people on fab just fuck you around?

Swinging never used to be like this when contact mag adverts and replies took way more effort.

Getting so fed up of people who don't seem to know what they want. Thinking of packing it in for good."

What do you class as a time waster?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have to be in the mood to have sex"

Just stud servicing then. Not sure that would attract many, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people on fab just fuck you around?

Swinging never used to be like this when contact mag adverts and replies took way more effort.

Getting so fed up of people who don't seem to know what they want. Thinking of packing it in for good."

In what way has someone wasted your time? I’m genuinely curious as I see this said all the time on here.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Why do so many people on fab just fuck you around?

Swinging never used to be like this when contact mag adverts and replies took way more effort.

Getting so fed up of people who don't seem to know what they want. Thinking of packing it in for good.

You've been here 4 months try and try again until your here like 2+ years you might get lucky ..need lots more verifications and maybe more pics may help ya out!

No one likes a moaner really unless moans of delight ?? your profile covers every chat opportunity so that's probably why most aren't chatting or replying if you send messages...

Unless your 100% what people are looking for you'll get next to no effort made to reply...

The joys of single males on here is its like 100 men to one women and she's allowed to be fussy..."

I have pictures and verifications and have as much luck as a fly in a Venus fly trap so I can sympathise.

Ut like it or not women on here have an abundance of choice and use it. Average stands no chance whatsoever a fact I have accepted and nowadays I am less likely to answer any profiles and come straight to the forums. Much less disappointing.

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff


"Why do so many people on fab just fuck you around?

Swinging never used to be like this when contact mag adverts and replies took way more effort.

Getting so fed up of people who don't seem to know what they want. Thinking of packing it in for good."

We have to agree. We hark back to those days when you wrote a letter, enclosed a photo (non-digital and risking the wrath of your chosen film developer!)) and a SAE, sent it with forwarding fee to Silk Swingers or Experience Magazine, then waited for a reply. The very fact that you did not know when a letter would come through your letter box stopped most dreamers, cheaters, time-wasters from replying and wow, did that have an affect on the quality of response! We're still friends with some of the folk we met in that way all these years later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile reads a little like your cheating which will put some people off

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By *ueen of beesCouple
over a year ago

North West

It depends what you class as a time wasters. We have had some great meets and on some occasions arranged a meet but have had to cancel this is purely down to childcare falling through, but we would always contact the meet to make them aware and not ghost.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What I'd class as a time waster is something like...

You send a message to a couple's profile. A reply comes back. Messages move in both directions for an hour or two. The guy tells you he's totally up for them meeting you. He's sent you pictures of his wife and says he's interested in watching her with another man. You've both explored "rules" on what they are both looking for.

Multiple messages (maybe 40) later and what seems like a great chat he says he's going to chat with her about you and that he's off for now. Then he says he'll delete the images for the moment. Minutes later everything's gone, the profile is deleted and they vanish.

That to me is wasting my time. Clearly a lone guy wanting to either fantasize about having a wife, or you fucking his, when it's crystal clear he just gets off on wanking while another guy talks about fucking his wife. Then when he's emptied his nuts he "wakes up" and deletes the profile.

This happens loads on FAB and is a bigger fucking ball ache than a size 20 women in stilettos standing on your nuts!

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"What I'd class as a time waster is something like...

You send a message to a couple's profile. A reply comes back. Messages move in both directions for an hour or two. The guy tells you he's totally up for them meeting you. He's sent you pictures of his wife and says he's interested in watching her with another man. You've both explored "rules" on what they are both looking for.

Multiple messages (maybe 40) later and what seems like a great chat he says he's going to chat with her about you and that he's off for now. Then he says he'll delete the images for the moment. Minutes later everything's gone, the profile is deleted and they vanish.

That to me is wasting my time. Clearly a lone guy wanting to either fantasize about having a wife, or you fucking his, when it's crystal clear he just gets off on wanking while another guy talks about fucking his wife. Then when he's emptied his nuts he "wakes up" and deletes the profile.

This happens loads on FAB and is a bigger fucking ball ache than a size 20 women in stilettos standing on your nuts!"

erm thats proberly not a couple sounds very much like a day dreamer guy having a wank whiles teasing and talking

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"What I'd class as a time waster is something like...

You send a message to a couple's profile. A reply comes back. Messages move in both directions for an hour or two. The guy tells you he's totally up for them meeting you. He's sent you pictures of his wife and says he's interested in watching her with another man. You've both explored "rules" on what they are both looking for.

Multiple messages (maybe 40) later and what seems like a great chat he says he's going to chat with her about you and that he's off for now. Then he says he'll delete the images for the moment. Minutes later everything's gone, the profile is deleted and they vanish.

That to me is wasting my time. Clearly a lone guy wanting to either fantasize about having a wife, or you fucking his, when it's crystal clear he just gets off on wanking while another guy talks about fucking his wife. Then when he's emptied his nuts he "wakes up" and deletes the profile.

This happens loads on FAB and is a bigger fucking ball ache than a size 20 women in stilettos standing on your nuts!"

Although annoying, I think tou probably need to be more diligent. Check that the wife is part of the conversation up front, check she's seen your photos. Why would you put so much effort into a conversation where only one part of the couple is involved.

We only meet guys, but a great promising guy can be instantly blocked because of something they say. We don't need to give anyone second chances and it may not even be that they've done anything wrong, it's just not what we want or thought we were getting.

The language used is sometimes a massive offput. You've been chatting nicely for an hour, and then they say something like "I'll dump my load down your/her throat" or "you'll love me pounding her" etc, that's an instant block for us.

The reality is, as a couple, we also have to deal with so many guys who have no interest in meeting, and we have so many options that if you're not exactly what we want, or if you give any tiny hint about being someone we don't want to play with we will stop engaging. Sadly, saying thanks but we've changed out mind, usually results in abuse so we just block.

All that said, I think the scenario you described is very clearly a guy having a wank.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"What I'd class as a time waster is something like...

You send a message to a couple's profile. A reply comes back. Messages move in both directions for an hour or two. The guy tells you he's totally up for them meeting you. He's sent you pictures of his wife and says he's interested in watching her with another man. You've both explored "rules" on what they are both looking for.

Multiple messages (maybe 40) later and what seems like a great chat he says he's going to chat with her about you and that he's off for now. Then he says he'll delete the images for the moment. Minutes later everything's gone, the profile is deleted and they vanish.

That to me is wasting my time. Clearly a lone guy wanting to either fantasize about having a wife, or you fucking his, when it's crystal clear he just gets off on wanking while another guy talks about fucking his wife. Then when he's emptied his nuts he "wakes up" and deletes the profile.

This happens loads on FAB and is a bigger fucking ball ache than a size 20 women in stilettos standing on your nuts!

Although annoying, I think tou probably need to be more diligent. Check that the wife is part of the conversation up front, check she's seen your photos. Why would you put so much effort into a conversation where only one part of the couple is involved.

We only meet guys, but a great promising guy can be instantly blocked because of something they say. We don't need to give anyone second chances and it may not even be that they've done anything wrong, it's just not what we want or thought we were getting.

The language used is sometimes a massive offput. You've been chatting nicely for an hour, and then they say something like "I'll dump my load down your/her throat" or "you'll love me pounding her" etc, that's an instant block for us.

The reality is, as a couple, we also have to deal with so many guys who have no interest in meeting, and we have so many options that if you're not exactly what we want, or if you give any tiny hint about being someone we don't want to play with we will stop engaging. Sadly, saying thanks but we've changed out mind, usually results in abuse so we just block.

All that said, I think the scenario you described is very clearly a guy having a wank. "

this is very good advice the amount of times im talking to someone on this account or our joint account where the guys hot and we've been chatting and things looking really good for then to say something thats totally off putting is unreal its not the few its the many ...and as said easier just to drop out and block rather than face the abuse or the pleading ..

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I think if you consider messaging people and it not ultimately leading to a meet time-wasting you are probably goung to have a fairly miserable time on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people on fab just fuck you around?

Swinging never used to be like this when contact mag adverts and replies took way more effort.

Getting so fed up of people who don't seem to know what they want. Thinking of packing it in for good."

In what way have you had your time wasted? In what way do people not know what they want? You do know everyone is entitled to change their minds?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think if you consider messaging people and it not ultimately leading to a meet time-wasting you are probably goung to have a fairly miserable time on fab"

And that's your view.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"I think if you consider messaging people and it not ultimately leading to a meet time-wasting you are probably goung to have a fairly miserable time on fab

And that's your view."

Most conversations will go no where, not because people are fake but because that's the nature of the site and conversations fizzle out for a myriad of reasons.

If you can't accept that then yes my view is that your time here will be pretty miserable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you consider messaging people and it not ultimately leading to a meet time-wasting you are probably goung to have a fairly miserable time on fab

And that's your view.

Most conversations will go no where, not because people are fake but because that's the nature of the site and conversations fizzle out for a myriad of reasons.

If you can't accept that then yes my view is that your time here will be pretty miserable

"

I think some people believe that if someone replies and starts a convo then it has to lead to a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I'd class as a time waster is something like...

You send a message to a couple's profile. A reply comes back. Messages move in both directions for an hour or two. The guy tells you he's totally up for them meeting you. He's sent you pictures of his wife and says he's interested in watching her with another man. You've both explored "rules" on what they are both looking for.

Multiple messages (maybe 40) later and what seems like a great chat he says he's going to chat with her about you and that he's off for now. Then he says he'll delete the images for the moment. Minutes later everything's gone, the profile is deleted and they vanish.

That to me is wasting my time. Clearly a lone guy wanting to either fantasize about having a wife, or you fucking his, when it's crystal clear he just gets off on wanking while another guy talks about fucking his wife. Then when he's emptied his nuts he "wakes up" and deletes the profile.

This happens loads on FAB and is a bigger fucking ball ache than a size 20 women in stilettos standing on your nuts!"

You’re having a dig at a fake profile cause you thought you were onto something (hard-lines there eh lol), but then you have a dig at a woman’s size..why ?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I agree op that the example you have was a man pretending to be a couple

Ask to speak to the wife also early on,don't engage in dirty chat as that's all some want .

Ask to meet socially early on as if they have no intention of meeting they'll have excuses or reasons why not and you can move on .

I class a real time waster as someone who arranges a meet & doesn't turn up or contact you before hand to cancel.

There are fantasists on this site ,but if you're vigilant you can just pass them by.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I ignore the ones where its the guy half of the couple asking you to fuck the wife. If there even is a wife, chances are she doesn't feel the same way. I've had a few of these lead to nothing so I don't bother anymore. It's far simpler and more reliable to chat to single women, I've never had a problem with timewasters there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk shite for ages then as soon as you ask for a phone chat they ignore or block you I don't understand why wank when you can have sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talk shite for ages then as soon as you ask for a phone chat they ignore or block you I don't understand why wank when you can have sex "

Well dont reply if they talk shite.. your keeping a convo going and if you believe to be talking shit then end the convo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talk shite for ages then as soon as you ask for a phone chat they ignore or block you I don't understand why wank when you can have sex "

Not everyone wants a phone chat.

They probably think you’re the one wanting a wank so that’s why they block you.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Why do so many people on fab just fuck you around?

Swinging never used to be like this when contact mag adverts and replies took way more effort.

Getting so fed up of people who don't seem to know what they want. Thinking of packing it in for good."

Being the person I am, I am polite and will respond most of the time with a chit chat and a no thank you.

The amount of abuse I receive for being polite is disgusting.

This maybe why some people don't even bother to respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP..

"Multiple messages later""40"

You have wasted your own time there mate by continuing the conversation so long.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"What I'd class as a time waster is something like...

You send a message to a couple's profile. A reply comes back. Messages move in both directions for an hour or two. The guy tells you he's totally up for them meeting you. He's sent you pictures of his wife and says he's interested in watching her with another man. You've both explored "rules" on what they are both looking for.

Multiple messages (maybe 40) later and what seems like a great chat he says he's going to chat with her about you and that he's off for now. Then he says he'll delete the images for the moment. Minutes later everything's gone, the profile is deleted and they vanish.

That to me is wasting my time. Clearly a lone guy wanting to either fantasize about having a wife, or you fucking his, when it's crystal clear he just gets off on wanking while another guy talks about fucking his wife. Then when he's emptied his nuts he "wakes up" and deletes the profile.

This happens loads on FAB and is a bigger fucking ball ache than a size 20 women in stilettos standing on your nuts!"

Wait until your at a hotel waiting for your meet to message you with a hotel number... nothing... ghosted...

Not just the time wasted on messages, but also the time taken to arrange childcare,time taken to get ready and get to the hotel..

I've had more of your explanation of time wasters than I've had hot dinners!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

So you spent ages talking to a man who claims he's a couple and yet you didn't think at any point it was a bit suss at all that the woman wasn't involved in chatting at any point. That would have been a massive red flag to me. And I would have stopped interacting with him .

Yes there are some timewasters on here but it's up to people to spot them early.

I am not meeting anyone new for the foreseeable future due to personal reasons. It says it on my profile and if anyone wants to chat I make it clear from the first message that I won't be meeting them.But in many cases it didn't stop them expecting me to anyhow and later on when I point it out again they get pissed off and I have been called a timewaster. No they were told from the very start so the only time they wasted was their own.

There has been on two occasions when I have planned on meeting people but things they said or they got very pushy leading up to the meet really put me off them and I cancelled it.I won't meet anyone if I start to feel uneasy about them .

I also won't do sex talk sharing pics with people as a lot of them are just looking for wank material.

People can only waste your time on here if you let them.And if it happens regularly you need to have a good look at your vetting process and stop ignoring the signs that others give out.

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By *astlincscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Tinsel Town

For us, it's seems if single guys see us online, then we must be looking to meet.

This tied in with the expectation that the women will just let any man fuck them just because they are on here is astounding.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"For us, it's seems if single guys see us online, then we must be looking to meet.

This tied in with the expectation that the women will just let any man fuck them just because they are on here is astounding.

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Agree 100%

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Average stands no chance whatsoever ..."

That's really not the case at all

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people.

You start with a long list of people and will filter that down to a tiny few, due to preferences and lack of attraction etc. That effort invested will help you to question the veracity and objectives of others, when you were also just seeing lack of compatibility, perhaps as others realised this and you reached dead ends.

If you don't make the effort, you are guaranteed to not progress. Realistic expectations will keep you afloat.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Why do so many people on fab just fuck you around?

Swinging never used to be like this when contact mag adverts and replies took way more effort.

Getting so fed up of people who don't seem to know what they want. Thinking of packing it in for good."

You were also much younger then. you think fab equals less effort than contact mags.

Two reasons for your angst off the top of my head

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