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By *ptimusD OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Just came across yet another profile that says "Only interested in white guys - Sorry not racist"

I've seen this in different forms loads of times on profiles & meet listings, mostly from white swingers, and I always wonder why on earth they feel the need to qualify their racial preference with an apology & a clarification that they're not racist.

I think society has moved on quite a bit & people should be more comfortable talking about racial preferences.

On the other hand, profiles that say "black guys only", hardly ever follow this with an apology & are more comfortable, proud & bullish in expressing their preference.

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By *londeandbrownCouple
over a year ago

taunton

You know why it's a can off worms scenario

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

Because this day and age you cannot sneeze without someone thinking you have just said the wrong thing.

the other trouble is it is written down so no one can see how its been said.

We have a black guy at work and I can take the piss out of him and call him alsorts in jest, but I have been out on a night out and seen someone call him a name not in jest and boy does the fireworks start.

Its all how its said not what is said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately some people get mail specifically from ppl that they dont want, especially when its regarding white,asian, black play.

Theres nothing wrong in apologizing, I think it is more being courteous in their eyes, than apologetic.

Lots of profiles have the same , the angry arsed ones are the ones I dont like.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Nothing wrong with that and as a black guy i dont take it as racisim. It save everyone some precious time.

Plenty of ladies put on their profile BLACK ONLY...Nobody ever see them as being racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your right this is a hard topic to comment on without someone accusing you one way or other of racism

Our sexual partners are our choices and we all have to accept that some might like - thick/thin/young/old/tall/short and yes black 0r white - but its just that ...a preference and we should not get hung up on the politics that surround such choices

We are all different and we make choices; but we all don't have to agree with each other ; its a democracy

Jon ..steps off soap box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on the site i find guys, i put no blacks or asians and got abuse.. one guy even said that having no blacks or asians was asking for abuse to be sent to me! sad huh ive never felt liek sending abuse to someone who states they dont like bbw :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other thing to add its all about discrimination....take me for instance..

I been looking for a female with one leg (preferably left one) and one eye (right one)to match mine so that we can at least chance each other in same direction and not in circles.... do you know how hard it is to find someone like that lol hehehehe

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"The other thing to add its all about discrimination....take me for instance..

I been looking for a female with one leg (preferably left one) and one eye (right one)to match mine so that we can at least chance each other in same direction and not in circles.... do you know how hard it is to find someone like that lol hehehehe "

WHTF..... Let me know when you find one

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Just came across yet another profile that says "Only interested in white guys - Sorry not racist"

I've seen this in different forms loads of times on profiles & meet listings, mostly from white swingers, and I always wonder why on earth they feel the need to qualify their racial preference with an apology & a clarification that they're not racist.

I think society has moved on quite a bit & people should be more comfortable talking about racial preferences.

On the other hand, profiles that say "black guys only", hardly ever follow this with an apology & are more comfortable, proud & bullish in expressing their preference."

You may think society has moved on but I have received several messages from men that I have turned down (because I wasn't attracted to them) who go on to accuse me of being racist it asking me 'is it because I am black/Asian etc

They were the ones who bought the race issue into our exchange, not me. Seems that they were trying to shame me into meeting them just so I wasn't classed as a racist.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Just came across yet another profile that says "Only interested in white guys - Sorry not racist"

I've seen this in different forms loads of times on profiles & meet listings, mostly from white swingers, and I always wonder why on earth they feel the need to qualify their racial preference with an apology & a clarification that they're not racist.

I think society has moved on quite a bit & people should be more comfortable talking about racial preferences.

On the other hand, profiles that say "black guys only", hardly ever follow this with an apology & are more comfortable, proud & bullish in expressing their preference.

You may think society has moved on but I have received several messages from men that I have turned down (because I wasn't attracted to them) who go on to accuse me of being racist it asking me 'is it because I am black/Asian etc

They were the ones who bought the race issue into our exchange, not me. Seems that they were trying to shame me into meeting them just so I wasn't classed as a racist. "

I've had that even though I have had veris from guys of different races. Some of them have disappeared though when they left.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


" ..........

You may think society has moved on but I have received several messages from men that I have turned down (because I wasn't attracted to them) who go on to accuse me of being racist it asking me 'is it because I am black/Asian etc

They were the ones who bought the race issue into our exchange, not me. Seems that they were trying to shame me into meeting them just so I wasn't classed as a racist. "

Some people simply can't handle rejection and need it to be about something they have no control over - like the colour of their skin or their race.

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By *ornishBiLoverMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Black, white, asian... Its the same as straight, gay, bisexual. It's a sexual preference and there should be no need for apology.

If there is a backlash then it is the acuser who should be ashamed of not understanding. For me, very large women dont do it for me. Thats not to say they arnt wonderful people with excellent characters, its merely a sexual preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just makes it easy for me to block there ass ! They dnt want me so won't waste my time it really is as simple as that ..... Lets not make it it to something it's not !!! YAWN lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


" ..........

You may think society has moved on but I have received several messages from men that I have turned down (because I wasn't attracted to them) who go on to accuse me of being racist it asking me 'is it because I am black/Asian etc

They were the ones who bought the race issue into our exchange, not me. Seems that they were trying to shame me into meeting them just so I wasn't classed as a racist.

Some people simply can't handle rejection and need it to be about something they have no control over - like the colour of their skin or their race."

Couldn't agree more! It's a frequent occurrence: someone is rejected, rather than accept they are not the persons type, they attribute the rejection to race/maritial status/sexuality etc.

All rather sad and pathetic in my _iew.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

justify fuck all on here, just do what you want to do in a respectful way...

disclaimer: as long as what you want to do is within the site rules.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I like guys of any nationality, colour or creed. But i have to like them as a person. I despise people playing the race card. There may be a black guy that i really dont like but it would be because of his personality nothing to do with looks

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Black...white....what about 'nicely tanned'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, i guess its better than those profiles who appear to be what your looking for. But once you message them, your the one on the receiving end of such abuse.

I have had quite a few of those messages, even if im just on cam. I get abuse sent to others lol i find it quite funny. They spread abuse to women or people im talking to about me. Hahaha what a wally!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No labels = no problems

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By *i015Man
over a year ago

Millbrook, Southampton

When I see "whites only" I don't take it as racist, I take it as someone's preference, if their interested in me then they'll either add me as a friend or contact me. I have a preference for plus size ladies but if someone smaller catches my eye then I'm not going to say no to them.

At the end of the day everybody has a preference but if they like you and your profile catches their eye then you never know, you might be in with a chance.

Though saying that not many ladies seem to want Asians but I'm still here and hoping someone will want to meet me.

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By *lirty and dirtyCouple
over a year ago

ashford

I think you are taking this a bit personally. I have seen sorry we don't meet smokers, just our preference! I have actually seen ads asking for slim people only again with the sorry just our preference. Just because you are black you feel the need to bring it up and make a fuss. We have on our profile, sorry we don't meet black guys. It doesn't mean I am racist, not at all. I just know what I do and don't like. You are luckier than some in the sense that there are so many who are looking for blacks only. I have never seen a profile asking for smokers only!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not sure why the op should be bothered he has loads of verifications

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By *lirty and dirtyCouple
over a year ago

ashford

Oh and not interested in picture collectors either. Surely that is his preference. Some people may love picture collectors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are taking this a bit personally. I have seen sorry we don't meet smokers, just our preference! I have actually seen ads asking for slim people only again with the sorry just our preference. Just because you are black you feel the need to bring it up and make a fuss. We have on our profile, sorry we don't meet black guys. It doesn't mean I am racist, not at all. I just know what I do and don't like. You are luckier than some in the sense that there are so many who are looking for blacks only. I have never seen a profile asking for smokers only!!"

Are you sure you understood what the OP was saying, because you're totally missing the point in everything you've said. And I don't see what the OP's colour has got to do with anything or why you say he is lucky. He hasn't said you shouldn't shag who you want.

The gist of what the OP is saying, from what I and I'm sure the other 20 posts above yours understand, because nobody else has been so far off the mark as you have, is that you should feel comfortable saying you only fancy white guys without feeling people will think you're racist. Those that say "black guys only" don't go on and say "I'm not racist, just my preference". At least I've personally not seen any. So why do most profiles that say "white guys only" go on and say "I'm not racist, just my preference"

You're an example of one of the profiles the OP was referring to, so maybe you can tell us, rather than being overly sensitive and confrontational.

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By *i015Man
over a year ago

Millbrook, Southampton


"I think you are taking this a bit personally. I have seen sorry we don't meet smokers, just our preference! I have actually seen ads asking for slim people only again with the sorry just our preference. Just because you are black you feel the need to bring it up and make a fuss. We have on our profile, sorry we don't meet black guys. It doesn't mean I am racist, not at all. I just know what I do and don't like. You are luckier than some in the sense that there are so many who are looking for blacks only. I have never seen a profile asking for smokers only!!

Are you sure you understood what the OP was saying, because you're totally missing the point in everything you've said. And I don't see what the OP's colour has got to do with anything or why you say he is lucky. He hasn't said you shouldn't shag who you want.

The gist of what the OP is saying, from what I and I'm sure the other 20 posts above yours understand, because nobody else has been so far off the mark as you have, is that you should feel comfortable saying you only fancy white guys without feeling people will think you're racist. Those that say "black guys only" don't go on and say "I'm not racist, just my preference". At least I've personally not seen any. So why do most profiles that say "white guys only" go on and say "I'm not racist, just my preference"

You're an example of one of the profiles the OP was referring to, so maybe you can tell us, rather than being overly sensitive and confrontational."

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By *ukus 62Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"The other thing to add its all about discrimination....take me for instance..

I been looking for a female with one leg (preferably left one) and one eye (right one)to match mine so that we can at least chance each other in same direction and not in circles.... do you know how hard it is to find someone like that lol hehehehe "

hehehehehehe!!!!!

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"I think you are taking this a bit personally. I have seen sorry we don't meet smokers, just our preference! I have actually seen ads asking for slim people only again with the sorry just our preference. Just because you are black you feel the need to bring it up and make a fuss. We have on our profile, sorry we don't meet black guys. It doesn't mean I am racist, not at all. I just know what I do and don't like. You are luckier than some in the sense that there are so many who are looking for blacks only. I have never seen a profile asking for smokers only!!

Are you sure you understood what the OP was saying, because you're totally missing the point in everything you've said. And I don't see what the OP's colour has got to do with anything or why you say he is lucky. He hasn't said you shouldn't shag who you want.

The gist of what the OP is saying, from what I and I'm sure the other 20 posts above yours understand, because nobody else has been so far off the mark as you have, is that you should feel comfortable saying you only fancy white guys without feeling people will think you're racist. Those that say "black guys only" don't go on and say "I'm not racist, just my preference". At least I've personally not seen any. So why do most profiles that say "white guys only" go on and say "I'm not racist, just my preference"

You're an example of one of the profiles the OP was referring to, so maybe you can tell us, rather than being overly sensitive and confrontational."

you sure as hell got told

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I apply the same tests as many others mention above - I just don't feel the need to specify which tests I use on my profile.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Just came across yet another profile that says "Only interested in white guys - Sorry not racist"

I've seen this in different forms loads of times on profiles & meet listings, mostly from white swingers, and I always wonder why on earth they feel the need to qualify their racial preference with an apology & a clarification that they're not racist.

I think society has moved on quite a bit & people should be more comfortable talking about racial preferences.

On the other hand, profiles that say "black guys only", hardly ever follow this with an apology & are more comfortable, proud & bullish in expressing their preference."

Because sadly women who have said there preference is for white guys only have experienced abusive email from non white people calling them a racist. They cannot win either way.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Plenty of ladies put on their profile BLACK ONLY...Nobody ever see them as being racist.

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Perhaps that's because it's usually coming from white females, the _iew might be a different one if the woman was also black and the 'apology' might be appropriate in such circumstamces.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands


"I think you are taking this a bit personally. I have seen sorry we don't meet smokers, just our preference! I have actually seen ads asking for slim people only again with the sorry just our preference. Just because you are black you feel the need to bring it up and make a fuss. We have on our profile, sorry we don't meet black guys. It doesn't mean I am racist, not at all. I just know what I do and don't like. You are luckier than some in the sense that there are so many who are looking for blacks only. I have never seen a profile asking for smokers only!!

Are you sure you understood what the OP was saying, because you're totally missing the point in everything you've said. And I don't see what the OP's colour has got to do with anything or why you say he is lucky. He hasn't said you shouldn't shag who you want.

The gist of what the OP is saying, from what I and I'm sure the other 20 posts above yours understand, because nobody else has been so far off the mark as you have, is that you should feel comfortable saying you only fancy white guys without feeling people will think you're racist. Those that say "black guys only" don't go on and say "I'm not racist, just my preference". At least I've personally not seen any. So why do most profiles that say "white guys only" go on and say "I'm not racist, just my preference"

You're an example of one of the profiles the OP was referring to, so maybe you can tell us, rather than being overly sensitive and confrontational."

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

Well we put the following..

ENGLISH/WELSH WHITE MALES ONLY.. getting fed up with foreigners and broken English.. our choice if you dont like it tough..

We did apologize before we re did the profile... but tbh.. people still called us racist and homophobic (we have no bi etc too.. our preference that says).

People need to realize personal preference is just that.. racist is something completely different.. i see a racist as someone who hates blacks etc.. not someone who has a preference not to play with them.

Thats the same as large, small, tall, short, black, white, bi, straight etc.. you should be able to express your preference without need to apologize..

We all find different things in a person attractive .. so should we apologize for not finding everyone attractive.. no that would be silly and colour and ethnic origin also come into what we do or dont find attractive.. we are not calling anyone names or insulting them which would be very wrong but as we aren't we don't see a problem.

But then op has pickec up on profiles apologizing for colour pref. yet one profile we spotted the other day went to town on woman who use the term curvy in a very abusive manner.. uet the ones who have polite preferences and apologize we are discussing.. you shouldnt need to apologize but is it a problem if you do.. not as much as it is to some if you don't basically.

Basically we used to apologize until we realized we were still being called racust.. so thought bugger it just tell it like it is.. if the people we are referring to don't like it and take offence tough they weren't what we wanted to play with anyway.. only chance we will ever bump into them might be at a fab social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer white men and I get abuse from black or Asian guys asking why I don't like my own. I don't need to justify myself to anyone we all have preferences, people should respect them

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Cannot understand why when being rejected on the basis of your colour you start becoming abusive... Get over it, not everyone likes black people and you should be ok with that if you're black. To the people that have to qualify their statement by adding that they are not racist, it's so stupid because more often than none they usually are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cannot understand why when being rejected on the basis of your colour you start becoming abusive... Get over it, not everyone likes black people and you should be ok with that if you're black. To the people that have to qualify their statement by adding that they are not racist, it's so stupid because more often than none they usually are."

i have had no black/asians - sorry just my prefernece not racist. and im not racist, ask my mix raced son?? or the black guy who i met through work years ago and had a fling with?

i am on this site for NSA and cos i just dont find blacks and asians attractive to look at as much.. i have an abundance of choice and choose those i deem most attractive to play with.. is that not how this site works??

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"Cannot understand why when being rejected on the basis of your colour you start becoming abusive... Get over it, not everyone likes black people and you should be ok with that if you're black. To the people that have to qualify their statement by adding that they are not racist, it's so stupid because more often than none they usually are.

i have had no black/asians - sorry just my prefernece not racist. and im not racist, ask my mix raced son?? or the black guy who i met through work years ago and had a fling with?

i am on this site for NSA and cos i just dont find blacks and asians attractive to look at as much.. i have an abundance of choice and choose those i deem most attractive to play with.. is that not how this site works??"

i suppose so, and it's very fair that you don't find certain people attractive, if anything it shows you have standards. No need to qualify it though, one should state their preference and leave it a that, at least on my opinion.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

I think the threads spun away from the OP, some posters seem to be venting their spleens over their right to express their preferences in any way they choose and are becoming defensive about it, even though no ones said they don't have that right..a case of being defensive about something that noone's actually objecting to!

People have every right to express a racial preference, whether the reasoning behind it is because they're racist is entirely a matter for them..they have the right to be racist too...but they're not the kind of people I'd want to socialise with in any event!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Just being curious here... would anybody consider as offensive a statement such as "no French" or "No Spanish" or "no Dutch" or "No German" ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally people on here who use race as a preference put me off seeing them would rather play with someone regardless of their race...but that's just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally people on here who use race as a preference put me off seeing them would rather play with someone regardless of their race...but that's just my opinion "

Personal taste is not something to judge others on.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Just being curious here... would anybody consider as offensive a statement such as "no French" or "No Spanish" or "no Dutch" or "No German" ? "

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That's a good point Aphrodite, I think wherever subjective preferences are stated then it's likely that the person who's excluded by those preferences will be 'offended', after all we're only human and whatever our personal qualities are we don't really want to believe they don't have universal appeal, or people would find us 'unattractive' purely due to our nationality or ethnic status.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Personally people on here who use race as a preference put me off seeing them would rather play with someone regardless of their race...but that's just my opinion

Personal taste is not something to judge others on."

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Isn't the poster merely stating his own 'personal taste'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeahh...the posts are getting more about the preference issue, this is about people apologizing for who they dont want to play with, then justifying this by a statement that its nothing essentially personal.

I dont find it a bad thing, I dont find it a good thing.Its what they feel they should write on their profile.

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"Just being curious here... would anybody consider as offensive a statement such as "no French" or "No Spanish" or "no Dutch" or "No German" ? "

very true we have english/welsh only.. no foreigners.. thats because we have had a run of then who have such bad english that we couldn't understand.. mind you i struggle with some englush and welsh people lol.. but we won't meet them as we like a bit of conversation and that won't happen if we don't understand people... that might offend some ..probably foreign people.. But no point to us if we cant understand each other..

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Just being curious here... would anybody consider as offensive a statement such as "no French" or "No Spanish" or "no Dutch" or "No German" ?

very true we have english/welsh only.. no foreigners.. thats because we have had a run of then who have such bad english that we couldn't understand.. mind you i struggle with some englush and welsh people lol.. but we won't meet them as we like a bit of conversation and that won't happen if we don't understand people... that might offend some ..probably foreign people.. But no point to us if we cant understand each other.."

I can understand completely that you would not want to meet somebody if you cannot understand them. I would agree to that. What I was more thinking of.. suppose some people havea profile on here in good English... and you know they speak the language well enough. Would anybody consider it it offensive to make a statement that they dont wish to meet certain nationalities if the langauge was not a problem... that was where I was coming from really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a british born indian lad... it annoys me when guys complain they aren't getting meets just because of their race.

It's purely preference, nothing more in it! I feel for most guys it's an easy argument to make, when in fact all guys know it's not massively easy to find a meet.

swinging's all about attraction and being comfortable. it's the same as having an age preference, and how many people on here complain about others being ageist...?

This gives us a bad name... stop complaining and just accept it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cannot understand why when being rejected on the basis of your colour you start becoming abusive... Get over it, not everyone likes black people and you should be ok with that if you're black. To the people that have to qualify their statement by adding that they are not racist, it's so stupid because more often than none they usually are.

i have had no black/asians - sorry just my prefernece not racist. and im not racist, ask my mix raced son?? or the black guy who i met through work years ago and had a fling with?

i am on this site for NSA and cos i just dont find blacks and asians attractive to look at as much.. i have an abundance of choice and choose those i deem most attractive to play with.. is that not how this site works??i suppose so, and it's very fair that you don't find certain people attractive, if anything it shows you have standards. No need to qualify it though, one should state their preference and leave it a that, at least on my opinion."

its was ur original statement that those who state they arent racist out that even tho they more than likely are..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a british born indian lad... it annoys me when guys complain they aren't getting meets just because of their race.

It's purely preference, nothing more in it! I feel for most guys it's an easy argument to make, when in fact all guys know it's not massively easy to find a meet.

swinging's all about attraction and being comfortable. it's the same as having an age preference, and how many people on here complain about others being ageist...?

This gives us a bad name... stop complaining and just accept it!

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"Just being curious here... would anybody consider as offensive a statement such as "no French" or "No Spanish" or "no Dutch" or "No German" ?

very true we have english/welsh only.. no foreigners.. thats because we have had a run of then who have such bad english that we couldn't understand.. mind you i struggle with some englush and welsh people lol.. but we won't meet them as we like a bit of conversation and that won't happen if we don't understand people... that might offend some ..probably foreign people.. But no point to us if we cant understand each other..I can understand completely that you would not want to meet somebody if you cannot understand them. I would agree to that. What I was more thinking of.. suppose some people havea profile on here in good English... and you know they speak the language well enough. Would anybody consider it it offensive to make a statement that they dont wish to meet certain nationalities if the langauge was not a problem... that was where I was coming from really. "

i think if anyone has a preference not to meet and play with anyone ie Germans..French .. or any other then that is completely their right.. and no one should complain about it.. if you prefer not to meet a certain nationality then why should people expect you to..

Its all supposed to be fun.. if it was done face to face you'd pick the people that were acceptable to you.. just because its on the net and to refuse unwanted mail you put it on your profile.. the select few you wont meet take offence... where as they wouldn't face to face as they would not hear the words probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with that and as a black guy i dont take it as racisim. It save everyone some precious time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just being curious here... would anybody consider as offensive a statement such as "no French" or "No Spanish" or "no Dutch" or "No German" ?

very true we have english/welsh only.. no foreigners.. thats because we have had a run of then who have such bad english that we couldn't understand.. mind you i struggle with some englush and welsh people lol.. but we won't meet them as we like a bit of conversation and that won't happen if we don't understand people... that might offend some ..probably foreign people.. But no point to us if we cant understand each other.."

Last time round I met an Eastern European girl - she had only minimal English ... It wasn't a problem at all .... We had a several hours of conversation in a different language altogether

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Just being curious here... would anybody consider as offensive a statement such as "no French" or "No Spanish" or "no Dutch" or "No German" ?

very true we have english/welsh only.. no foreigners.. thats because we have had a run of then who have such bad english that we couldn't understand.. mind you i struggle with some englush and welsh people lol.."

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You also exclude non whites, but not all non whites are 'foreigners' or have 'bad English'..I'm guessing 'englush' was an innocent typo

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When my dad went to live in london around 1960 (hes irish) apparently there where signs up in a lot of places saying no black and no irish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on a language barrier front?-no play?

why not use ur smartypants mobilees and have stuff translated??? lol..

well I do have to say I like a good laugh...but if language was an issue and I was attracted to someone...even just for a shag..I'd be thinking about bettering MY limitations more than theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol loving the responses here lol

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By *i015Man
over a year ago

Millbrook, Southampton

People don't apologise for saying "No smokers, No fat people, No hairy people" so why should they apologise for saying "No Blacks/Asians/Foreigners" or "Whites only". Anybody that takes offence to someone saying "No Blacks/Asians/Foreigners" or "Whites only" have got issues that they need to sort out before they come on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately some people get mail specifically from ppl that they dont want, especially when its regarding white,asian, black play.

Theres nothing wrong in apologizing, I think it is more being courteous in their eyes, than apologetic.

Lots of profiles have the same , the angry arsed ones are the ones I dont like."

your right nothing wrong with being courteous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry to all that are gonna miss out on a shag because of it

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands


"People don't apologise for saying "No smokers, No fat people, No hairy people" "

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Well they do actually, I've seen such references on many profiles.

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By *efreeMan
over a year ago

North Staffs

The very fact that they are discriminating due to race means that they are actually being racist, but it is of course their choice and completely up to them.

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"Just being curious here... would anybody consider as offensive a statement such as "no French" or "No Spanish" or "no Dutch" or "No German" ?

very true we have english/welsh only.. no foreigners.. thats because we have had a run of then who have such bad english that we couldn't understand.. mind you i struggle with some englush and welsh people lol..

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You also exclude non whites, but not all non whites are 'foreigners' or have 'bad English'..I'm guessing 'englush' was an innocent typo "

pmsl yes of course.. mind you thats what you get typing on your phone whilst baking mince pies.. this multi tasking has its issues ... But the pies were worth it .. apparently lol

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Just being curious here... would anybody consider as offensive a statement such as "no French" or "No Spanish" or "no Dutch" or "No German" ?

very true we have english/welsh only.. no foreigners.. thats because we have had a run of then who have such bad english that we couldn't understand.. mind you i struggle with some englush and welsh people lol..

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You also exclude non whites, but not all non whites are 'foreigners' or have 'bad English'..I'm guessing 'englush' was an innocent typo

pmsl yes of course.. mind you thats what you get typing on your phone whilst baking mince pies.. this multi tasking has its issues ... But the pies were worth it .. apparently lol

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Forgive my pedantic nature!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't really bother me and shouldn't bother you either

Hey, their loss. You just missed out big time on the greatest night of your night tbh love

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By *aris23Woman
over a year ago

France

I make no apologies for my preferences and no respect for those who send me abusive racist messages because they feel excluded from the party...lol

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"The very fact that they are discriminating due to race means that they are actually being racist, but it is of course their choice and completely up to them."

When you look at it that way though, anyone who has an age preference is ageist, anyone who won't meet bi/gay people are homophobic, anyone who won't meet men/women/couples (delete as appropriate) are sexist, ect. - Do you see where I'm going with this?

Sexual preference is NOT racism. People seem to assume that just because we say no black/Asian men on our profile that we won't even talk to them but of course that isn't the case. There is no hatred there what-so-ever, there is just no sexual attraction, and hatred is what racism is in my eyes. x

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"The very fact that they are discriminating due to race means that they are actually being racist, but it is of course their choice and completely up to them.

When you look at it that way though, anyone who has an age preference is ageist, anyone who won't meet bi/gay people are homophobic, anyone who won't meet men/women/couples (delete as appropriate) are sexist, ect. - Do you see where I'm going with this?

Sexual preference is NOT racism. People seem to assume that just because we say no black/Asian men on our profile that we won't even talk to them but of course that isn't the case. There is no hatred there what-so-ever, there is just no sexual attraction, and hatred is what racism is in my eyes. x"

Exactly right... we see racism as hatred or strong dislike to... not that you woukd rather nit fuck them.. basically.. not sure there would be legal issues if you kindly said you didnt want to kiss or whatever someone because their colour didnt attract you... however if you said it and called them nasty names then yes you are being racist.

This world is becoming more than a joke with this attitude (ie if you wont meet because of colour you are racist).

It actually seems that it is more so the people calling others racist.. homophobic etc that have the issues not the rest of us..

For them to be thinking this it must be on their more that ours thats for sure.

We will more than happily socially all colours race sexuality but only socially..not for play meets.. if we were racist. etc we wouldnt do that either..

A little growing up and getting a backbone wouldnt go a miss really..

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