FabSwingers.com forum: 3 years no meet

By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

I don’t know what to say lool. I’ve been on here for 3 years. I’ve been active. Regularly update my status. I even posted a recent pic. I message girls/couples they don’t bother opening or replying. Anyone got any advice on how I can start a conversation with someone because I tried every card in the book and nothing works lmao. Any advice would be appreciated

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Try going to a club and getting properly meet verified, more people will take you seriously then.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Very young try clubs were it does not matter.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

You didn't ask for profile advice put yours comes on very strong, and the status is quite off putting

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Again I suggest going to a club, or a social. Easiest way to get verified. Plus you actually meet real people! For the most part they’re a friendly bunch too

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

"Again I suggest going to a club, or a social. Easiest way to get verified. Plus you actually meet real people! For the most part they’re a friendly bunch too

I’ve been to clubs to socialise it does work but I haven’t been verified and the parties that I went to on her well there’s more men than girls. Everyone gets occupied and eventually turns out to be a waste of my time. Any advice on messaging people?

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

Honestly, your profile comes off a bit Jay from Inbetweeners. Too many tall stories which are made even more implausible by the fact you look fresh out of junior school. Just dial it all back a notch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s the way I’m going

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Again I suggest going to a club, or a social. Easiest way to get verified. Plus you actually meet real people! For the most part they’re a friendly bunch too

When you met at clubs did you ask if someone would be nice enough to verify you?

Just because you have been once clubs and social events are still your best route.

As for being a waste of your time... Well if you want guaranteed sex fab may not be the place for you.

Try looking at it as expansion of your social circle

I agree the profile could benefit some tweaking

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

I’ve never actually thought about asking someone in clubs or social events for a verification. I just vibe with everyone. That never came to my head but would you mind helping me out with my profile. Maybe some advice that I could tweak?

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"Can’t really dial the way I look “back a notch” especially. Was looking for advice not a reason to delete this platform but with that being said note taken. I don’t think this is for me. So thanks for your “advice”"

Sorry but you need to change your approach. Like me and other posters have said you're coming across way to strong and tinder swindler esque.

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

Can’t really dial the way I look “ back a notch”

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

"I don’t know what to say lool. I’ve been on here for 3 years. I’ve been active. Regularly update my status. I even posted a recent pic. I message girls/couples they don’t bother opening or replying. Anyone got any advice on how I can start a conversation with someone because I tried every card in the book and nothing works lmao. Any advice would be appreciated

Go to a social or visit a club

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Your profile set alarm bells ringing....

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

As for the “tall stories” comment care to elaborate on that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly, your profile comes off a bit Jay from Inbetweeners. Too many tall stories which are made even more implausible by the fact you look fresh out of junior school. Just dial it all back a notch."

God bless you

I'm having to check you haven't got in first as its usually pretty much on point.

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

How do you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy told us he'd been here 4 years and hardly anyone repsonds to his contacts.

This may not be the place for you.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Nothing to do with looks it's the ill fly you abroad to have kinky fun when you barely look like you're out of college, will definitely set alarms ringing

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

Okay well I mean that’s fair enough. I’m just looking for friendly advice. Not a dig on my personal looks because I “look too young”

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Again I suggest going to a club, or a social. Easiest way to get verified. Plus you actually meet real people! For the most part they’re a friendly bunch too

Did you not ask the club staff to verify you?

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

Okay yeah that I can probably agree is a strong approach. Thanks though I’ll reconsider my profile

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

I wasn't referring to how you look, I was referring to all the unsubtle, crude references to how much monopoly money is in your wallet. In the real world, women aren't actually impressed by that kind of thing. The only men who think we are tend to be raging misogynists.

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

Not really I’d socialise with everyone and me being me with a couple of drinks asking for a verification doesn’t really come to the top of my head i just go out for a good time haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Again I suggest going to a club, or a social. Easiest way to get verified. Plus you actually meet real people! For the most part they’re a friendly bunch too

You have a verification.

If the profile text didn't put us off, the last line would.

*picks up book a clichés......

Writes profile.

Winston

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

You mention Daddy/baby girl on your profile but your only 24 , your too young for that. Best advice is to get to a social and network/talk to people ask them politely if they would verify your account.

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

Okay well then I apologise if I offended you in that way just from my approach. I was just looking for advice and that’s all.

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

Thank you for your advice I appreciate it

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By *ittle-Miss-Cunty-1Woman
over a year ago

Your basement, Cuntsville

"I’ve never actually thought about asking someone in clubs or social events for a verification. I just vibe with everyone. That never came to my head but would you mind helping me out with my profile. Maybe some advice that I could tweak?"

Remove the book a flight, sugar daddy/girl, and the part that you say you've videos of girls you've bedded, that's all off putting (for me anyway), but good luck at least you have 1 veri albeit a webcam one

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Profiles that talk of prowess really turn me off - that could just be personal preference however!

Couples are more guilty of this than anything though

- Xeno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I don’t give messaging advice because everyone is different in what they like.

What I will say is don’t put all your hopes on here. At your age you should be out talking to people face to face in bars and clubs. That will give you better life experience than (possibly) not getting replies to your messages and giving your confidence a kicking on here.

Whatever you do in the future I wish you every success

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

Thank you so much! I totally agree with you in that sense of me going out more and socialising face to face rather than hoping for the best on here

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

Note taken thank you for the advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tree year try going to socials and clubs get yourself out there

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

Thank you so much for the advice I can agree that line is abit too much but to be honest who doesn’t love a good holiday haha but I’ve removed it now and to everyone thinking I’m just floating my cash out it’s not like that I’m just one of those guys that likes to make things special

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By *ittle-Miss-Cunty-1Woman
over a year ago

Your basement, Cuntsville

"Thank you so much for the advice I can agree that line is abit too much but to be honest who doesn’t love a good holiday haha but I’ve removed it now and to everyone thinking I’m just floating my cash out it’s not like that I’m just one of those guys that likes to make things

special"

If you use the reply + quote we'll know who you're replying too

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

special

If you use the reply + quote we'll know who you're replying too

Yeah I’m still kind of new to using the forum section but for future references I’ll be sure to quote the individual. :^D

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

i thought it was bad for me after 7 months , no meet ! 3yrs , if you cant bring yourself to go to a club then forget it and try to move on to something else

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

Women can afford to pay for our own holidays. To be honest, letting a man I don't know fly me out to god knows where just sounds like a brilliant way to get trafficked, ra ped or killed.

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By *lfiesinss OP Man
over a year ago

Uxbridge

Women can afford to pay for our own holidays. To be honest, letting a man I don't know fly me out to god knows where just sounds like a brilliant way to get trafficked, ra ped or killed. "

I’ve just amended it. I can see why it could come across as triggering

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

It's reading better now. I'd maybe remove the line about your job and being good at cooking. Save that for Tinder.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

My friendly advice is to pop your dick pic in friends only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Only message people that are attracted to you... Almost guarantees success then... Almost... Unless you're a dick!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s a good profile pic

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'd say your age... Alot of us don't meet anyone under 25/30 as we've got kids close to that age.

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By *rownBear365Man
over a year ago

city

Maybe you are being too picky.

I'm still waiting for that magical day when a woman sends me a message first....someday

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"I'd say your age... Alot of us don't meet anyone under 25/30 as we've got kids close to that age. "

In fairness, he's not looking for folks old enough for that

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Again I suggest going to a club, or a social. Easiest way to get verified. Plus you actually meet real people! For the most part they’re a friendly bunch too

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don't you think clubs or socials are a bit daunting for a young person especially socials where most people huddle together in groups of people they already know and don't interact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being Asian doesn't help, we have a bad reputation

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Hi - I think a poster above said, at 25 you should be really being out there in the real world with your friends chatting up girls in bars and clubs. Rather than being online only - maybe you do this as well? Anyway, good luck.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

I'm just lucky I guess

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

I have just reread your profile after commenting on it the other day.... Its 100% better

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"I have just reread your profile after commenting on it the other day.... Its 100% better

Yes I totally agree!

Good luck OP.

As for advice on messages, I personally enjoy those that just want to chat about random stuff. I and probably a large percentage of women on here are so bored with anything relating to sex.

You seem intelligent, able to converse. Your age and your ethnicity do work against you, but at least you can age!

I don’t agree with those that have racial preferences, but it would be dishonest to say that many don’t have them.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

There's london socials pretty much every month

Get on the guest list for one of those, it's a great way to meet local likeminded people

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