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By *msmith OP   Woman
over a year ago

bristol

when getting messages from people, what do you look at? whats your 'screening' process?

for me:

1) height (personal preference)

2) face pic (either attached with the message or a public pic in the profile, i dont add friend just to see private pic. Friends are only for people i've met in real life)

3) any verifications on the profile, and the profiles of those who left the verifications are also checked..

4) content of the message. interesting and/or creative messages usually gets a reply.

getting through all that, gets my attention. i usually dont like too much messages back and forth, prefer meeting right up SOCIALLY, much easier to get to know people in real life.. only then i decide if i want to play or not, because from experience, pictures can be deceiving and guys almost always dont know how to measure..

but this means that i wont meet people who is not local to me since i wouldnt want to travel far only to meet and there's not mutual attraction. and similiarly, i wouldnt want others to travel just to meet only for me to say, sorry, you're not my type..

take away message from this:

face pic!

happy swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when getting messages from people, what do you look at? whats your 'screening' process?

for me:

1) height (personal preference)

2) face pic (either attached with the message or a public pic in the profile, i dont add friend just to see private pic. Friends are only for people i've met in real life)

3) any verifications on the profile, and the profiles of those who left the verifications are also checked..

4) content of the message. interesting and/or creative messages usually gets a reply.

getting through all that, gets my attention. i usually dont like too much messages back and forth, prefer meeting right up SOCIALLY, much easier to get to know people in real life.. only then i decide if i want to play or not, because from experience, pictures can be deceiving and guys almost always dont know how to measure..

but this means that i wont meet people who is not local to me since i wouldnt want to travel far only to meet and there's not mutual attraction. and similiarly, i wouldnt want others to travel just to meet only for me to say, sorry, you're not my type..

take away message from this:

face pic!

happy swinging!"

Exactly the same and in the same order as you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile content and message content are equally important. Most don't get past that stage.

After that it's a combination of pictures and verifications.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Much the same . If profile is all cock pics I just close .So very boring..I like to see photos with humour..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My down fall is not knowing what to say as an ice breaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks/pics mostly. you can get a jist of what someones like from the pro aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the message,if its text speak just Delete and block.

Then pics (no pics delete it)

Then veris

We will reply if we think there a chance of meeting

Had a few messages off some stunning Irish couples but we are never going there.

Actually don't get that many messages so will reply to most haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when getting messages from people, what do you look at? whats your 'screening' process?

for me:

1) height (personal preference)

2) face pic (either attached with the message or a public pic in the profile, i dont add friend just to see private pic. Friends are only for people i've met in real life)

3) any verifications on the profile, and the profiles of those who left the verifications are also checked..

4) content of the message. interesting and/or creative messages usually gets a reply.

getting through all that, gets my attention. i usually dont like too much messages back and forth, prefer meeting right up SOCIALLY, much easier to get to know people in real life.. only then i decide if i want to play or not, because from experience, pictures can be deceiving and guys almost always dont know how to measure..

but this means that i wont meet people who is not local to me since i wouldnt want to travel far only to meet and there's not mutual attraction. and similiarly, i wouldnt want others to travel just to meet only for me to say, sorry, you're not my type..

take away message from this:

face pic!

happy swinging!"

I dont look at veris to be honest. I like a nice classy photo a cheeky profile and honesty x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Content of message

Profile

Pics

I would not hesitate to hit the block button if the message is dire, whether he looks like a Greek god or hung like a horse or not!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I hate txt speak. I tend not to interact much with txt messagers.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

location anywhere than Carstairs or Broadmoor

VWE or VVWE

cock pics

not looking for LOVE

you don't need to text or call

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My down fall is not knowing what to say as an ice breaker "

50 ton polar bear!

(You can have that one on me!)

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

You lost me at the point where you say "when reading messages" lol - single man syndrome......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good thread

For me its ;

How they come across in their profile and if their Personality stands out

Content of profile; ie more than a one liner

Pictures -but fed up of genitalia; give me nice body shot any day

Length of time on site vs Verifications; I think both should be linked in some way

Last thing; being what is said when they contact me -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Much the same . If profile is all cock pics I just close .So very boring..I like to see photos with humour..

"

You haven't seen my cock have you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been a while since I got a message but if I remember rightly

Read the message, if it's dull - delete

If it's not too dull, look for a face-pic - if none attached, check the profile - if none on show - delete

If it's really NOT dull, and still no face pic, but a decent profile, I will answer, asking for a face pic.

I'm not toooo bothered about the veris, and I always forget to check the height! but if I fancy them, and they can actually chat without me losing the will to live then I would try to arrange a social meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Read the message, if it's dull - delete

If it's not too dull, look for a face-pic - if none attached, check the profile - if none on show - delete

If it's really NOT dull, and still no face pic, but a decent profile, I will answer, asking for a face pic.

I'm not toooo bothered about the veris, and I always forget to check the height! but if I fancy them, and they can actually chat without me losing the will to live then I would try to arrange a social meet. "

This for me

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By *msmith OP   Woman
over a year ago

bristol

safe to say, that the take away message is: FACE PIC..

almost all the people i've met were based on face pic. some were based on veris, the veris tells me that they have done few meets and have enjoyed the lifestyle and not just here for a quick fix.. some i chatted on the phone and they seem nice. one guy i met through fab webcam chat (still seeing this one)..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"safe to say, that the take away message is: FACE PIC..

almost all the people i've met were based on face pic. some were based on veris, the veris tells me that they have done few meets and have enjoyed the lifestyle and not just here for a quick fix.. some i chatted on the phone and they seem nice. one guy i met through fab webcam chat (still seeing this one)..

"

agreed...now can I send u a message?..but wait till I change my height on the profile first

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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago

Northwood

Usually too excited and bouncing up and down in my chair clapping my wee handies to care much beyond reading the message.

I'll check out all the above at leisure while chatting like you would in normal conversation - stays in my mind better with associated conversation rather than 'Hi I'm Mrs Lady Body and here's my CV' Hate the inter_iew technique. LOL

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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago

Northwood

Agree with face pic though ... need that to know who I'm chattering to and yes ... friend requests after chattering long term, talking or meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at face pic (hopefully attached to message)...read profile to see if we are suitable and there isn't a huge list of "don't contact us if's and we delete if not's..check verification's....we have been very lucky on the site and we meet the same people quite regularly so we generally don't bother with new meets...

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