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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When meeting for the first time and they are not what you expect how do you say no without being rude (after all some people drive miles) it can be very difficult not to upset people.

when I meet as a couple with the wife, we had a situation where they turned up which to be honest was a first lol. but they were minging not clean at all. it was an awkward situation but near the end of the evening I just had to say it wasn't working for us but appreciated them driving for an hour to meet, I wasn't rude or abrupt but they got the right hump and at one point thought I might get hit.

To say the least its an experience we both would not like to repeat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always say a first meet will be social only to see how we get on in person.

If we really get on we will often take it further straight away, but setting expectations for social only means you can avoid unpleasentness.

Also find this s out a lot of guys who are just looking for a quick fuck, I've had a run of them lately who say "I am here to fuck not to chat" My response is "fine put your hand in your pocket and pay for a prostitute"

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

If it is a private meet we always make sure the first meet is on neutral ground so we can walk away if needs be.

However we have found that lately we have been preferring to play in clubs much more. Meeting lots of people that have a very similar outlook to other genuine couples. With no expectations makes things a hell of a lot more relaxed and fun for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When meeting for the first time and they are not what you expect how do you say no without being rude (after all some people drive miles) it can be very difficult not to upset people.

when I meet as a couple with the wife, we had a situation where they turned up which to be honest was a first lol. but they were minging not clean at all. it was an awkward situation but near the end of the evening I just had to say it wasn't working for us but appreciated them driving for an hour to meet, I wasn't rude or abrupt but they got the right hump and at one point thought I might get hit.

To say the least its an experience we both would not like to repeat. "

Be polite, be honest, don't be rude and explain your issues. People on the whole wouldn't want to play with someone who is reluctant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your'e a pair of filthy smelly mingers, get the fuck off our property" would work, at the risk of you receiving GBH.

Alternatively, tell them the first meet is a social before they agree to meet...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


""Your'e a pair of filthy smelly mingers, get the fuck off our property" would work, at the risk of you receiving GBH.

Alternatively, tell them the first meet is a social before they agree to meet..."

pmsl...

we have learned the hard way social first for def.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why we do socials first, if we don't like, we don't meet a second time

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