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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi,

I know that several of you like to keep your verifications hidden for lots of different reasons. Whilst other folks prefer to show them.

I also know that even when hidden, the profile will still state something along the lines of 'Verified Genuine' which seems helpful to show that...well..you're 'genuine'

I am curious to know, do any of you actually refuse to have verifications at all? Would you actually NOT accept any veris given and prefer to have no sign of them whasoever on your profile, hidden or otherwise?

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We know one guy who 'doesn't do veris' - either receive or give them out. Exception rather than the rule though...

Wolf

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

As far as I know the tick appears as soon as someone writes a veri for you, so all anyone can do is ask people not to write one.

If someone chooses to write one anyway the tick will automatically be there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies. I didn't appreciate that the tick appeared as soon as you got one whether displayed or not - I must've known that really, just didn't think it through

So, Wolf...does your friend actually ask meets NOT to verify him?

Does anyone else do this? and why would you?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"As far as I know the tick appears as soon as someone writes a veri for you, so all anyone can do is ask people not to write one.

If someone chooses to write one anyway the tick will automatically be there. "

That's what I thought too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies. I didn't appreciate that the tick appeared as soon as you got one whether displayed or not - I must've known that really, just didn't think it through

So, Wolf...does your friend actually ask meets NOT to verify him?

Does anyone else do this? and why would you? "

Yes he does, and its a two-way confidentiality thing I think... it's unusual to say the least.

Wolf

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

We been chatting on here to a guy like that.Must say we only meet guys we can read the veris, for a 3sum meet!Unless we attend same party or Club we rather stick to our rules for 3sum meets,esspecially since we never had a bad one

...same goes for cpl's by the way!They could just be webcam veri's after all + that doesn't tell us they actually DO MEET!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies. I didn't appreciate that the tick appeared as soon as you got one whether displayed or not - I must've known that really, just didn't think it through

So, Wolf...does your friend actually ask meets NOT to verify him?

Does anyone else do this? and why would you?

Yes he does, and its a two-way confidentiality thing I think... it's unusual to say the least.

Wolf

"

Thanks, I did think it would be pretty unlikely but clearly not unheard of after all

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We been chatting on here to a guy like that.Must say we only meet guys we can read the veris, for a 3sum meet!Unless we attend same party or Club we rather stick to our rules for 3sum meets,esspecially since we never had a bad one

...same goes for cpl's by the way!They could just be webcam veri's after all + that doesn't tell us they actually DO MEET!"

maybe you've been chatting to Wolfs friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like the option to display "anonomous" verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I have hidden mine from Day 1, I never say no to verifications, as they are for my private enjoyment and ego boost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would like the option to display "anonomous" verifications."

Had this facility on the site I was on as a single guy - much, much better as people viewing them couldn't exploit the names of those providing the veris for their own 'ends'...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I asked people not to verify me on here, I hoped it would reduce the emails. Then someone at a club (that I didn't play with, verified me anyways).

Once the cat was out of the bag, I left veris for those Id played with recently.

When I was on this site before, I was given grief for 'playing with them & declining us; we're clearly a better couple'

I kid you not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't ask for or give out veris unless its a first veri for a guy then I will but I still ask them not to do me one as I don't show them anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi,

I know that several of you like to keep your verifications hidden for lots of different reasons. Whilst other folks prefer to show them.

I also know that even when hidden, the profile will still state something along the lines of 'Verified Genuine' which seems helpful to show that...well..you're 'genuine'

I am curious to know, do any of you actually refuse to have verifications at all? Would you actually NOT accept any veris given and prefer to have no sign of them whasoever on your profile, hidden or otherwise?

Cheers "

I wouldn't say we would refuse but we don't go out of our way to give them out with people as it almost seems with some to be the equivalent as a bedpost notch.

What always seems strange is that you can have them showing or not but no option to only have them visible to friends and so avoiding the nosey parkers who don't really need to know who you have met or not.

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By *azzaahhWoman
over a year ago

north wales / chester


"I would like the option to display "anonomous" verifications.

"

me too great idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I asked people not to verify me on here, I hoped it would reduce the emails. Then someone at a club (that I didn't play with, verified me anyways).

Once the cat was out of the bag, I left veris for those Id played with recently.

When I was on this site before, I was given grief for 'playing with them & declining us; we're clearly a better couple'

I kid you not

"

You have the option not to show any veri left for you by anyone. We've had a few veris which we will not show, for reasons of our own, but the one thing we would like to able to do is either delete them OR show them without a profile name attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i sometimes show them.sometimes hide them.

doesnt matter.tick is there.

thats that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I show mine now, but did hide them at one point as one of them was messaged asking questions about me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I show mine now, but did hide them at one point as one of them was messaged asking questions about me! "

i understand that.

as ive seen some profiles saying they wil not meet people who have met so and so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ur sorta dammed if u do and dammed if u dont.For single guys, its pretty hard(ahem), having nothing on ur profile can make others very suspicious of the time on the site and how they have been using it.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I show mine. Good or not so good. I always write them if the guy was nice and it went well which is most of the time. And if the guy had fun I expect the same courtesy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I show mine. Good or not so good. I always write them if the guy was nice and it went well which is most of the time. And if the guy had fun I expect the same courtesy."

ive had some not write me one but i dont worry about it.just turn them down when they ask to meet again

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I show mine. Good or not so good. I always write them if the guy was nice and it went well which is most of the time. And if the guy had fun I expect the same courtesy.

ive had some not write me one but i dont worry about it.just turn them down when they ask to meet again "

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I show mine now, but did hide them at one point as one of them was messaged asking questions about me!

i understand that.

as ive seen some profiles saying they wil not meet people who have met so and so."

Yes but they were asking things like "is she married, does she do this, does she do that" etc...

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By *arry_UkMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I will show mine but if a person who verified me leaves the site the verifications just disappears which is frustrating

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I will show mine but if a person who verified me leaves the site the verifications just disappears which is frustrating "

I've had 5 disappear lately. That's life.

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