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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

after reading another post about "paying for sex" i have in the past had guys wanting to buy me sexy lingerie but i have declined .....but as this is my 3rd time on fab and im more confident in what i want and dont want if the occasion arises again i might accept, is this wrong? also its bloody expensive too

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not sure if its wrong really if they want to buy it and you feel happy accepting.

A guy offered to buy me something on here once and it made me feel very uncomfortable so I refused but I'll happily accept a drink, so why do I feel that way?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not sure if its wrong really if they want to buy it and you feel happy accepting.

A guy offered to buy me something on here once and it made me feel very uncomfortable so I refused but I'll happily accept a drink, so why do I feel that way? "

im talking things that would benefit him as well , itoys, stockings etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes in my opinion it is wrong. It is no different from accepting money for sex, if you are using sex as a way of gaining items then its prostituting yourself, as is accepting work around the house, having a portfolio of photos taken, etc etc.

If you are happy to barter sex for a piece of lingerie then it is up to you and them, its your body.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

I would say its wrong ...very wrong ifsomeone was buying you things to have sex with you who you normally wouldnt entertain ....not wrong if sex was on the menu even without the gifts and playmate offered to buy these gifts off their own back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"after reading another post about "paying for sex" i have in the past had guys wanting to buy me sexy lingerie but i have declined .....but as this is my 3rd time on fab and im more confident in what i want and dont want if the occasion arises again i might accept, is this wrong? also its bloody expensive too "

Well it isn't great if its more than a bottle of bubbly a box of chocolates or some flowers but its up to you.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

If they offer the repsent with the goal of sleeping with you . it is wrong.

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By *a petite madameWoman
over a year ago

London / Essex


"after reading another post about "paying for sex" i have in the past had guys wanting to buy me sexy lingerie but i have declined .....but as this is my 3rd time on fab and im more confident in what i want and dont want if the occasion arises again i might accept, is this wrong? also its bloody expensive too "

I wouldn't say it's wrong but if they want to buy you a gift there shouldn't be any conditions on its use

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I was given a collar. Not quite the same as lingerie but it was bought specifically for me. So it's still special.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Personally for me a huge NO NO ...its the same as taking payment in cash.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP it's entirely up to you whether you do or not. Do whatever makes you happy. Just don't advertise the fact/ tell the forums.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP it's entirely up to you whether you do or not. Do whatever makes you happy. Just don't advertise the fact/ tell the forums..... "

agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had someone who wanted to buy me underwear, politely declined, didnt want the strings that may have been attached to it. The only bloke that buys me underwear is my hubby

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

If it's someone you would play with without the gift and you have told him the gift, though nice, is not necessary then it's fine.

If you are only playing to get the gift then it is a payment and you need to be ok with that and have established exactly what he will get in return. This is dodgy territory and he would be entitled to report you as seeking payment for sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it's someone you would play with without the gift and you have told him the gift, though nice, is not necessary then it's fine.

If you are only playing to get the gift then it is a payment and you need to be ok with that and have established exactly what he will get in return. This is dodgy territory and he would be entitled to report you as seeking payment for sex."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it's someone you would play with without the gift and you have told him the gift, though nice, is not necessary then it's fine.

If you are only playing to get the gift then it is a payment and you need to be ok with that and have established exactly what he will get in return. This is dodgy territory and he would be entitled to report you as seeking payment for sex."

in all my time on and off fab in the last 6 yrs ive only met 7 guys and all of them more than once ...so im not talking about a random guy saying "ill buy you some sexy undies if you shag me" its usually after a couple of meets . im a single girl if i have a vanilla date i always pay my way ....im very independant ...my point is... is it wrong to aceppt presents after uve established a fab freindship with the guy ....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

have you asked them why they feel the need to buy you presents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally would not consider accepting gifts from a playmate, and prefer to contribute towards the overall cost of the meet, either by paying for the hotel or meal etc...

I do not wish to come across as someone who would take advantage of another person's generosity or kindness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"have you asked them why they feel the need to buy you presents"

i was talking about years ago! im just now asking if the occasion arose again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't normally. But recently was sent a present. And it was nice.

I do tell people that offer that I wouldn't feel comfortable.

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By *erryDanCouple
over a year ago

exeter

I don't think its wrong at all....but... I do think its risky because even though they say its a gift they might have more expectations because you've accepted it. I think it depends on the relationship and level of trust you have with the person offering the gift

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"have you asked them why they feel the need to buy you presents

i was talking about years ago! im just now asking if the occasion arose again..."

I would ask them if it does 'why'

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

dont have an issue with it personally .. did have a regular guy once who bought me an outfit that he liked me wo wear whilst having sex .. seems perfectly reasonable to me and if that floats his boat then no harm done !

each to their own i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never accepted anything from guys i have met off here, infact most of the guys i meet from off here i pay for the hotel room so im usually the one that ends up spending on them not the other way round

Ive also met guys and paid for the drinks all night and been the one whos paid us into clubs

Ive never accepted anything from anyone off here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have you asked them why they feel the need to buy you presents

i was talking about years ago! im just now asking if the occasion arose again...

I would ask them if it does 'why'"

A lot of people cant just _iew this as just a fuck, i think because they would in the 'real world' buy a lady they was taking out a gift they feel they should on here, for some its just basic manners, not everything has a hidden gender behind it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have met men who bought me presants which was nice. so no i think its nice to meet somone generous.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"have you asked them why they feel the need to buy you presents

i was talking about years ago! im just now asking if the occasion arose again...

I would ask them if it does 'why'

A lot of people cant just _iew this as just a fuck, i think because they would in the 'real world' buy a lady they was taking out a gift they feel they should on here, for some its just basic manners, not everything has a hidden gender behind it"

'they were taking out'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have you asked them why they feel the need to buy you presents

i was talking about years ago! im just now asking if the occasion arose again...

I would ask them if it does 'why'

A lot of people cant just _iew this as just a fuck, i think because they would in the 'real world' buy a lady they was taking out a gift they feel they should on here, for some its just basic manners, not everything has a hidden gender behind it

'they were taking out'"

i know where your coming from

But i have met some really nice guys who i have met in a pub and had a drink and a chat with and they have spoken to me and treat me like any friend i was in a pub would treat me, and not just spoke about tits and arses and how they are going to fuck me all night

Of course ive also met some guys who have no interest in talking and just want to meet and me suck their cock straight off

not everyone does this the same, some treat you like humans and talk to you as such and maybe those type would feel it polite to take you a gift, it does not mean they are falling in love with you

You just have to remember we are all different in our way of thinking

theres no right or wrong and even tho i would never expect anything from anyone i met off here i would sooner meet the type of guy who would be happy to buy me a bottle of wine etc than someone who just wanted to dive me out in the middle of nowhere for a blow job then kick me out the car once he;d done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

drive*

can't spell lol

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