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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

here is a question, i am finding some very shallow people on here, who are put off by the fact i have a lazy eye, hence why i wear sunglasses in my pics. I have had this since birth and there is sod all i can do about it, however my eyesight is perfect, indeed at 40 years old, i still don't need glasses, and it has no effect on my nice(if i do say so myself!!) personality.

So would this put you off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn't but I also have a lazy eye, had it corrected when I was young so I don't understand why you haven't or do you use it as a talking point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I actually had seven operations when i was young which didn't work, and i am not going through that again, it is certainly not a talking point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a lazy eye. Its not always obvious thou. Except after a few drinks. Ignore them. I would suggest puting photo on without Sunglasses in that case so its not a surprise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u talkin to me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually had seven operations when i was young which didn't work, and i am not going through that again, it is certainly not a talking point!"

7!!! Oh dear, that's not good at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might put me off. I wouldn't know without knowing what you look like.

Perhaps it's shallow but attraction is important when meeting for no-strings sex! We can't help what and who we do or don't find attractive.

The fact I am a lardarse puts some people off and others just won't find me attractive. That's life. We can't appeal to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think a lazy eye would put me off if you had explained to me what it was. i am put off by men wearing sunglasses though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"here is a question, i am finding some very shallow people on here, who are put off by the fact i have a lazy eye, hence why i wear sunglasses in my pics. I have had this since birth and there is sod all i can do about it, however my eyesight is perfect, indeed at 40 years old, i still don't need glasses, and it has no effect on my nice(if i do say so myself!!) personality.

So would this put you off?"

Lots of things puts us off as well as lots of things turning us on. You can call it shallow but that just makes you sound bitter at people having choices on who they meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be the fact you play a guitar. It could be the length of your hair. It could be your height. It could be you're too far away.

Unless they specifically say what they don't like, you won't know for sure. It wouldn't put me off but it would some people. Meet the ones who like you for you.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

My dad has a false eye since the age of four (not that hes a swinger) but its never affected him. Hes had some very attractive women

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Im very shallow, its NSA sex, if someone isnt aesthetically pleasing to me, then it wont happen. If it were anything other than NSA sex i may less shallow, as its life partner stuff, as it isnt im not.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

It wouldnt bother me if I was attracted to the person in other ways..... Id do what was suggested above mate have a pic showing you as you are. Warts an all.... Work on your good atributes not your bad ones..... It sounds like youre not on your own with a lazy eye though.

I quite like sunglasses being worn but only in the right place

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Just tell people it's like Russell Howard.

I'm as shallow as a petrie dish - people can grow on me.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield


"Just tell people it's like Russell Howard.

I'm as shallow as a petrie dish - people can grow on me."

Id rather grow in you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure whether it would or not, but if we don't find someone attractive then we don't play and I refuse to consider it shallow.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

How do you know that it's your lazy eye that's putting people off you? Perhaps it's something else and not to do with your looks? Personally a lazy eye wouldn't be a problem to me in a swinging situation but it may very well put some people off. Oh, and we are pretty 'shallow' as we don't find very overweight or ugly people sexually attracitve and we aren't ashamed of that! Z

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

We wouldn't be put off by your eye, we wouldn't get to see it, all the shouting on your profile would stop us from getting to see you. Sorry but it just reads far too aggressive for us.

As others have said, what you call 'shallow' others see as just making choices on what they consider attractive or not.

I remember a couple from years ago, he being an amputee (one leg above the knee) and it was made perfectly clear on their profile 'if this is an issue for you don't contact us' or words that that effect but they still had a list of verification's a mile long.

If nothing else, the swinging hobby proves time and time again that we ALL have our likes and dislikes AND... there's someone out there for everyone.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I dont think it as shallow, because we all have preferences and know the things that turn us on or off. I am sure there are things about some people that you dont like, so its the same for them. If they dont like your lazy eye, you just have to accept that.

With sex being as intimate as it is, I dont meet anyone for sex unless I am physically attracted to them.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

I was born cross eyed and had 2 ops when I was young. I now have a slight lazy eye its more noticable if I'm tired. I don't let it bother me its a part of who I am. My 2 brothers and my sister also had probs with their eyes my sister refused an op but now regrets it as the nhs won't do it now after all these years they class it as cosmetic.

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By *xscotMan
over a year ago

Kingston

I had a straightening operation at 7 - but always used a single eye - could change it at will. Came in very handy when I had a medical condition meaning I lost a lot of the sight in one eye - just moved to the other one - no problem.

my party trick is to make my eyes move independently of each other lol

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

I have a twitch in my left eye that causes me to wink involuntarily... now go and try to buy Asprin at a chemist with this affliction!!!

But it gets worse... In my little finger of my right hand I have something called 'trigger finger', its a growth that shortens the tendon so I cannot straighten the little finger. Consequently, when I shake hands with a guy my little finger tends to curl up into his palm! Now add the involuntarily wink... one of these days its going to get me such a punch in the gob

Mind you, from a bi-guy there could be a different result

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it would. If that makes me shallow then tough titties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"u talkin to me? "

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am very

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a straightening operation at 7 - but always used a single eye - could change it at will. Came in very handy when I had a medical condition meaning I lost a lot of the sight in one eye - just moved to the other one - no problem.

my party trick is to make my eyes move independently of each other lol"

You don't catch insects with your tongue as well do you?

Sorry mate, couldn't resist! R

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire


"My dad has a false eye since the age of four (not that hes a swinger) but its never affected him. Hes had some very attractive women"

Can you be certain? Lol.

Dave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a straightening operation at 7 - but always used a single eye - could change it at will. Came in very handy when I had a medical condition meaning I lost a lot of the sight in one eye - just moved to the other one - no problem.

my party trick is to make my eyes move independently of each other lol

You don't catch insects with your tongue as well do you?

Sorry mate, couldn't resist! R"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my wife has a lazy eye too only ever notice it when she is tired so far she has had no trouble so sorry to hear you have some people like u say are really shallow on here.

no one is perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I quite like sunglasses being worn but only in the right place "

What? like on a face?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"here is a question, i am finding some very shallow people on here, who are put off by the fact i have a lazy eye, hence why i wear sunglasses in my pics. I have had this since birth and there is sod all i can do about it, however my eyesight is perfect, indeed at 40 years old, i still don't need glasses, and it has no effect on my nice(if i do say so myself!!) personality.

So would this put you off?"

Taste and preference is not shallow. You, however, are, for seeing it as an excuse.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Am I missing something here? The OP's profile doesn't say he has a lazy eye nor does his pics show him wearing sunglasses.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

My eyes are ok it's my bloody arse that's lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"here is a question, i am finding some very shallow people on here, who are put off by the fact i have a lazy eye, hence why i wear sunglasses in my pics. I have had this since birth and there is sod all i can do about it, however my eyesight is perfect, indeed at 40 years old, i still don't need glasses, and it has no effect on my nice(if i do say so myself!!) personality.

Every time I read a thread were someone calls people shallow I always think "well aren't we all?!". You're suggesting people are shallow because people won't sleep with you because there's something they don't find physically attractive about you! Are you saying that you'd sleep with absolutely any women on here if given the chance??? Just because you don't find something attractive doesn't make a person shallow! It's a sex site after all and for most (not all) there has to be some physical attraction.

I sympathise with your predicament but think you're wrong to say people are shallow because they won't sleep with you because of it. Just like it's wrong for people who are over weight to call people shallow for not finding them attractive for example. Most people have something that others don't find attractive it's just that some things are less attractive to most than others. That doesn't make those people shallow for not wanting sex with them!

Like I said earlier if that's the case we are all shallow unless you are willing to have sex with anyone with a pulse :-S

So would this put you off?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"here is a question, i am finding some very shallow people on here, who are put off by the fact i have a lazy eye, hence why i wear sunglasses in my pics. I have had this since birth and there is sod all i can do about it, however my eyesight is perfect, indeed at 40 years old, i still don't need glasses, and it has no effect on my nice(if i do say so myself!!) personality.

So would this put you off?"

Every time I read a thread were someone calls people shallow I always think "well aren't we all?!". You're suggesting people are shallow because people won't sleep with you because there's something they don't find physically attractive about you! Are you saying that you'd sleep with absolutely any women on here if given the chance??? Just because you don't find something attractive doesn't make a person shallow! It's a sex site after all and for most (not all) there has to be some physical attraction.

I sympathise with your predicament but think you're wrong to say people are shallow because they won't sleep with you because of it. Just like it's wrong for people who are over weight to call people shallow for not finding them attractive for example. Most people have something that others don't find attractive it's just that some things are less attractive to most than others. That doesn't make those people shallow for not wanting sex with them!

Like I said earlier if that's the case we are all shallow unless you are willing to have sex with anyone with a pulse :-S

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

I have a roaming eye ...does that count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be put off by a lazy eye but I would be put off by someone with sunglasses on in their pic.

Eyes say so much and it's great to be able to see them - whether they are perfect or not.

I happen to quite fancy people who have noticeable intricacies about them - I find them really endearing somehow.

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

Really can you be shallow on this site...i have my rough days when i look like i have been dragged through a bush back wards and my eyes look like pissholes in the snow etc...everyone and i mean everyone feels shit about has faults with some part of their body or the way they look.

The only thing i dont like on this site is when people put in their profile STUNNING/GOODLOOKING COUPLE/FEM what makes them good looking/stunning...who says that they are that

I get told im cute all the chuffing time on here im 41 for gods sake, puppies and babies are cute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be put off by a lazy eye but I would be put off by someone with sunglasses on in their pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pmsl luv it. Di x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It might put me off. I wouldn't know without knowing what you look like.

Perhaps it's shallow but attraction is important when meeting for no-strings sex! We can't help what and who Uyuwe do or don't find attractive.

The fact I am a lardarse puts some people off and others just won't find me attractive. That's life. We can't appeal to everyone."

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

This site allows people to be shallow, so generally they will be shallow.

Lets face it if you had guys sending you messages to the point where its difficult to even answer them (as most couples/single fems do), then you could and would drop people based on silly little things.

unfortunately that includes little things to some (like a lazy eye).

Unlike "dating" you aren't really forming and investing in people long term (well we certainly aren't) so it allows you more freedom on being picky and choosy.

the site being like 80% single men doesnt help much either

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"u talkin to me? "

Tuttin' through the laughin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im very shallow, its NSA sex, if someone isnt aesthetically pleasing to me, then it wont happen. If it were anything other than NSA sex i may less shallow, as its life partner stuff, as it isnt im not. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i admit when looking for NSA i am very shallow.. i want sex not socks..

but not sure i can class the OP as a act of shallowness..

i have met with a guy in a wheelchair who has CP, but he was very good looking! amazing hair and i still fancy the ass of him when i see him lol so yh i am still shallow when i chose him, but u could say someone is being shallow for not picking him??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"here is a question, i am finding some very shallow people on here, who are put off by the fact i have a lazy eye, hence why i wear sunglasses in my pics. I have had this since birth and there is sod all i can do about it, however my eyesight is perfect, indeed at 40 years old, i still don't need glasses, and it has no effect on my nice(if i do say so myself!!) personality.o

So would this put you off?

Every time I read a thread were someone calls people shallow I always think "well aren't we all?!". You're suggesting people are shallow because people won't sleep with you because there's something they don't find physically attractive about you! Are you saying that you'd sleep with absolutely any women on here if given the chance??? Just because you don't find something attractive doesn't make a person shallow! It's a sex site after all and for most (not all) there has to be some physical attraction.

I sympathise with your predicament but think you're wrong to say people are shallow because they won't sleep with you because of it. Just like it's wrong for people who are over weight to call people shallow for not finding them attractive for example. Most people have something that others don't find attractive it's just that some things are less attractive to most than others. That doesn't make those people shallow for not wanting sex with them!

Like I said earlier if that's the case we are all shallow unless you are willing to have sex with anyone with a pulse :-S

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well said sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a roaming eye ...does that count "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"u talkin to me? "

How did the op go

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"here is a question, i am finding some very shallow people on here, who are put off by the fact i have a lazy eye, hence why i wear sunglasses in my pics. I have had this since birth and there is sod all i can do about it, however my eyesight is perfect, indeed at 40 years old, i still don't need glasses, and it has no effect on my nice(if i do say so myself!!) personality.

So would this put you off?"

I am very overweight, over 50 and black. Any of the above will not be appealing to some: does that make them shallow? Of course not!

I really do struggle to understand why people cannot accept they will not appeal to everyone regardless of what they look like, and stop with the name calling.

We are all here for our own hedonistic pleasure. Some people don't care, blimey, some don't even need to know names or see faces before they shag them - not my way of doing things, but each to their own. Some of us want to fulfill our own fantasies be it BBC, BBW, Daniel Craig/Harry Styles look-a-likes, doesn't mean we are any kind of "ist" or shallow.

We all pick, choose and refuse to our own preference: we will in turn be rejected. I tend to concentrate on those who want to meet me rather than those that don't.

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