FabSwingers.com forum: Winking yes I said Winking

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is sending winks a complete waste of time ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some ppl like it, others don't

Personally i think its lazy and just delete them without seeing who winked

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By *..WillowCouple
over a year ago

East Lincs

We never look at winks.

If you can't be bothered to send a message then we can't be bothered to respond to a wink.

Other opinions are available

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

yes i think it is , at least send a message asking them to chat !

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Is sending winks a complete waste of time ? "

Depends what you do with them. We like winks - if someone winks at us then we delete it if they're not our type, or if they are then we wink back as a "yes, please message us".

So often though, we get a wink, we wink back and then......nothing. We then message after a few days and generally don't get a reply.

(Bry)

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By *..WillowCouple
over a year ago

East Lincs

"Is sending winks a complete waste of time ?

Depends what you do with them. We like winks - if someone winks at us then we delete it if they're not our type, or if they are then we wink back as a "yes, please message us".

So often though, we get a wink, we wink back and then......nothing. We then message after a few days and generally don't get a reply.

(Bry)"

This is why we gave up on winks.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We've had meets that have started with a wink so they can work, a well thought out message is better though.

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

I always send a wink and love to get them back

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By *amasoporkyCouple
over a year ago

midlands

We love a wink

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By *ervice2000Man
over a year ago

derby

"We've had meets that have started with a wink so they can work, a well thought out message is better though."

Ive sent you a well thought message a couple of times and you jut simply delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like winks, I use them n I get them, its just a way of saying there's an interest. If nothing comes of it it's not exactly end of world stuff

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Ive sent you a well thought message a couple of times and you jut simply delete."

Maybe after the first one, you might have thought that they didn't fancy you?

(Bry)

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By *ervice2000Man
over a year ago

derby

"Ive sent you a well thought message a couple of times and you jut simply delete.

Maybe after the first one, you might have thought that they didn't fancy you?

(Bry)"

I get that Bry but i think its polite to reply. Do you get replies all the time???

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"I get that Bry but i think its polite to reply. Do you get replies all the time???"

That chestnut is done to death many, many times. Fab's own FAQ says that "no reply = no thanks" and people telling us we're rude for not replying just gets them blocked.

(Bry)

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Ive sent you a well thought message a couple of times and you jut simply delete.

Maybe after the first one, you might have thought that they didn't fancy you?

(Bry)"

He hasn't messaged at all, it says on someone's profile if they've messaged, there's been no messages. We wouldn't reply to a Man's profile which has photos of a Woman anyway.

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By *othic KinkCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We like winks, and generally see them as an invitation to message.

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By *rogalCouple
over a year ago

Falkirk

We like winks, we wink, get a wink back and then message. Saves wasting time on a personalised message when there was no chance in the first place.

It was why the wink was included on the site

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"We wouldn't reply to a Man's profile which has photos of a Woman anyway."

^-- this

(Bry)

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By *orksguy1965Man
over a year ago

Howden

Its away of breaking the ice if you like the profile

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

Winks are great, an easy way to gauge interest without any awkwardness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are good as it can show the other person you like them without having the brain melt of the first message lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel free to send as many winks

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

Not that I message or wink much but I would use winks to show appreciation/ declare but acknowledge I might not tick each and every box being looked for.

Good feature but as women get 100's of messages a day, I doubt maybe women / couples bother you check them

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By *omethingfun96Couple
over a year ago

greater london

"We never look at winks.

If you can't be bothered to send a message then we can't be bothered to respond to a wink.

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This for us too, even worse sending us friend invites without a message

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Winks are good as it can show the other person you like them without having the brain melt of the first message lol

Also good for those of us with anxiety issues as we don't have to worry about the "you're not really our type" message coming back

(Bry)

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Just depends on who sends the wink !

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By *hasingrainbowsCouple
over a year ago

Teesside

Sometimes think it’s a way of people breaking the ice. We respond to winks if we like what we see.

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We like winks, way of letting us know your interested x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Winks are good as it can show the other person you like them without having the brain melt of the first message lol

Also good for those of us with anxiety issues as we don't have to worry about the "you're not really our type" message coming back

(Bry)"

Yeah exactly that,as I the Mrs Do actually suffer from bad anxiety and that would definitely be a bummer lol

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By *lackFun69Man
over a year ago

East Anglia

I like winks, it's an easy ice breaker and I've had some great meets from winks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We like winks, and generally see them as an invitation to message.

That’s how I use winks, unfortunately I always get ignored

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Yeah exactly that,as I the Mrs Do actually suffer from bad anxiety and that would definitely be a bummer"

If you were closer we'd definitely add you to our "not really a hotlist but a list of people we'd desperately love to meet but are too shy to message so we might send them wink one day list"

(Bry)

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

If you were closer we'd definitely add you to our "not really a hotlist but a list of people we'd desperately love to meet but are too shy to message

(Bry)"

I'm always surprised when couples who seem (from the outside) confident are actually quite shy. Not sure why that should be.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I wink ..generally at attractive people who are too far away to make arrangements to meet...I like getting winks from all over the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is sending winks a complete waste of time ?

Depends what you do with them. We like winks - if someone winks at us then we delete it if they're not our type, or if they are then we wink back as a "yes, please message us".

So often though, we get a wink, we wink back and then......nothing. We then message after a few days and generally don't get a reply.

(Bry)"

Yes, same for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like getting winks I don’t think it’s a waste of time.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

nothing wrong with a wink..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a wink maybe you shouldn't be able to message someone new unless you have winked and they have winked back.

;-)

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By *ust me 999Man
over a year ago

near you

CLl me old fashioned but it’s a start to a conversation so I accept them as your interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t like generic copy paste messages, prefer to make some effort after reading a profile but this takes a long time and normally never gets a response so I assumed winks were to gauge interest before dropping a nice long message. Hmm. Maybe I’ve got this wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at the profile. Usually it's an empty non descriptive profile with an array of knob pics. So I delete.

Followed by silhouette empty profiles

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By *ang average kinkMan
over a year ago

Farnborough

I'm a big fan of the much maligned and under valued wink.

Wink away to your hearts desire.

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Personally we think a really good hard wink is naughty &flirty, what's the harm wink away Xx

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

I use winks to let someone know there's an interest... If I get a wink back I'll usually message or hope they just message me if there's interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a winker and happy to receive them too

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

"I like winks, I use them n I get them, its just a way of saying there's an interest. If nothing comes of it it's not exactly end of world stuff

Use them for exactly the same purpose, if I wink first I’ll follow up with a message if it’s reciprocated… some people appear to believe it is the end of the world tho unfortunately

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

If we get a wink it proves that our profile hasn't been read. Now that is crazy and lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wink when I don’t think I really stand a chance of a reply but would still like to show appreciation of the person in the profile,. Same with gabbing pictures..

I love winks, just don’t get enough from those who I’d like too…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is sending winks a complete waste of time ?

Depends what you do with them. We like winks - if someone winks at us then we delete it if they're not our type, or if they are then we wink back as a "yes, please message us".

So often though, we get a wink, we wink back and then......nothing. We then message after a few days and generally don't get a reply.

(Bry)"

Yeah we quite like winks as well - it’s a “we like your profile” sign for us…equivalent to your eyes meeting in a bar and smiling at each other, I think. If we don’t get a wink back, then we generally just leave it. If we get a wink back, we will message (in general)

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a wink I always say thanks and hi back or chat more if they interest me…

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By *portbilly1976Man
over a year ago

manchester

As others have commented above, a wink is a general sign of interest…if I receive a wink back I will message…to me there’s a mutual interest/attraction from photos and so I’ll engage

I get the message if you like us approach too though

Ladies/couples feel free to wink away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is sending winks a complete waste of time ? "

Love a good wink

Missy x

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Is sending winks a complete waste of time ?

Love a good wink

Missy x"

Ah, well, in that case...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a nutshell, yes.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Everyone is different, and thus, their reaction to winks will differ as well.

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By *estwirralcoupleCouple
over a year ago

NW England

We quite like winks tbh

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By *irebrand 1263Man
over a year ago

near you

I like a good wink

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By *andJDubaiCouple
over a year ago

Dubai, with visits to Glasgow, Edinburgh and London

We like a wink, we treat it as a compliment about our or the other parties profile and like a little

“hello, we are interested in you do you want to have a look at us and if you feel the same?”

If the answer is yes then we try to put some time and effort into a message.

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

"We like winks, we wink, get a wink back and then message. Saves wasting time on a personalised message when there was no chance in the first place.

I'd agree with you, i use winks and a few fabbed photos if I get 1 back I would follow up with a message. A conversation starter and sign of interest. If I dont get one back no problem keep winking haha

It was why the wink was included on the site

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By *agnar1980Man
over a year ago

Poole

Love a good wink, wink away, you can never have too much winking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a good place to start

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I've had a few winks from couples , when I've sent them a thank you for the wink never hear from them.

Not sure what people think they are for anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at winks and if we like them we wink back and see what happens

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Nope, we look at the profiles, if they fit what we’re looking for, we’ll send a message to engage in chat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do look at winks. If I like I'll reply with a wink and a quick little message

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We like winks, If we like a profile we'll wink, if they wink back we'll message.

Sometimes we do skip the winking part and just message if it's clear we match what there looking for.

We've had some good meets that have started from a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like receiving winks and I send them to I think sometimes it helps break the ice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a good wink

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By *portbilly1976Man
over a year ago

manchester

"As others have commented above, a wink is a general sign of interest…if I receive a wink back I will message…to me there’s a mutual interest/attraction from photos and so I’ll engage

I get the message if you like us approach too though

Ladies/couples feel free to wink away

That said, I read the profile and if they don’t meet single guys or im not within their age range (give a year or 2) then I don’t.

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By *he MinionMan
over a year ago

I like a wink and send them too. As said, if the wink is recipricated then a well thought message will follow and hopefully the message will not become lost in the many messages that ladies and couples recieve, as the recipiant will recognise the name from the wink.

At least thats how i see it, not always the way however !

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have met people are they have sent me a wink or I have sent them one at the very start. So no they can work.

In saying that I don't look at mine anymore I think I just got out of the habit especially because at the moment I'm not doing any new meets.

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I would send a wink if they were offline and hope for one in return then message. Not been too productive Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had wink

Ever

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By *he MinionMan
over a year ago

"Never had wink

Ever

Um no, me neither

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Winks are nice between couples who can show interest without risking no reply to a message if low on confidence or new..

Complete waste of everyone's time from a single, guy who needs to work much harder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a wink it tells me the person is interested without wanting to message first

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By *arried ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Newark

We like to send and receive winks. It hints that a message is worth trying at least.

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