FabSwingers.com forum: How do I introduce swinging to my wife

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it"

Does she know your on this site?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Talk to her. There is literally no other way but to ask her if she's interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don’t know if that might ask her why and that I’m not happy with just her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it

Does she know your on this site? "

No she doesn’t

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By *ioux80Man
over a year ago

london

I suggest starting with some swingers clubs, something soft in order to let her takes her time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I suggest starting with some swingers clubs, something soft in order to let her takes her time"

Still got to broach the subject though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don’t know if that might ask her why and that I’m not happy with just her "

Ok. They were the first questions I asked my partner. He answered them, we talked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t know if that might ask her why and that I’m not happy with just her

Ok. They were the first questions I asked my partner. He answered them, we talked."

Oh right maybe then

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By *ello HarveyMan
over a year ago

Lots of places

Why do you want her to get into swinging? You mention she’s bi sexual so is this for a ffm for you as well or you hoping she will delve into all aspects of play ( mf, mmf, mfmf also etc… ).

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don’t know if that might ask her why and that I’m not happy with just her

Ok. They were the first questions I asked my partner. He answered them, we talked.

Oh right maybe then "

He suggested it. I had doubts but I also felt good that we were able to talk about these things which at times felt difficult, without it affecting our core relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do you want her to get into swinging? You mention she’s bi sexual so is this for a ffm for you as well or you hoping she will delve into all aspects of play ( mf, mmf, mfmf also etc… )."

All aspects of swinging, it would be great to have fun with a couple

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t know if that might ask her why and that I’m not happy with just her

Ok. They were the first questions I asked my partner. He answered them, we talked.

Oh right maybe then

He suggested it. I had doubts but I also felt good that we were able to talk about these things which at times felt difficult, without it affecting our core relationship. "

Still nervous about bringing it up though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don’t know if that might ask her why and that I’m not happy with just her

Ok. They were the first questions I asked my partner. He answered them, we talked.

Oh right maybe then

He suggested it. I had doubts but I also felt good that we were able to talk about these things which at times felt difficult, without it affecting our core relationship.

Still nervous about bringing it up though "

Of course you are. These conversations are difficult.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

P&O Azura

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it"

So to be clear. You want her involved. She hasn't said she wants to be involved. She has no idea you've been on and off this site. She has no idea what you are trying to arrange. Is that about right?

Stop with your fantasy chasing and speak with her, there is no other way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it

So to be clear. You want her involved. She hasn't said she wants to be involved. She has no idea you've been on and off this site. She has no idea what you are trying to arrange. Is that about right?

Stop with your fantasy chasing and speak with her, there is no other way.

Well maybe I just need to get the courage to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it

So to be clear. You want her involved. She hasn't said she wants to be involved. She has no idea you've been on and off this site. She has no idea what you are trying to arrange. Is that about right?

Stop with your fantasy chasing and speak with her, there is no other way.

Well maybe I just need to get the courage to do it "

Well you can accommodate or so it seems why not just in vote some of the gang round on Saturday night and take it from there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it"

So with J and I - swinging is always something I wanted to get involved with, I’ve never felt satisfied with monogamous sex but haven’t ever been unfaithful to anyone. So I just “settled”. Then I got with J, and we properly clicked right away…one night I’d sent a funny meme about a gangbang not being proof you can work as part of a team, and it opened up a whole conversation about things we’d like to do…and do them together. I’ve never experienced this level of trust or attraction with someone before, and I love the fact we are exploring this together.

Maybe have a drink or two to relax, and bring up the subject of sexual fantasies and take it from there. Good luck!

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it

Maybe have a drink or two to relax, and bring up the subject of sexual fantasies and take it from there. Good luck!

F (Mrs)"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it

Maybe have a drink or two to relax, and bring up the subject of sexual fantasies and take it from there. Good luck!

F (Mrs)"

Thanks for the advice

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By *igblackcock69Man
over a year ago

notts

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it"
be careful what you wish for, you may not like it.

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By *ayswa78928Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Is this for your benefit or hers. My Mrs isn't interest I'm enough...sometimes we can impose our own fantasties onto our partners and this can harm relationships.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

You could broach the subject by asking if she would like a young sexy girl for her birthday and if you can watch. Take the conversation from there.

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

You say she is bi, so is this knowledge from a 3 some or from talking? If you want as you say for her to join you here you need to be open with her and talk about it. I suggest unless your profile is verified prior to your marriage that you delete it so she don't find out you been cheating on her.

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By *andS1Couple
over a year ago

Poole

We were watching a program on swinging once and both agreed it looked fun and next thing we were doing it. Try watching 'Open house' on channel 4 or the show'swingers' which you can find on those free porn sites. When your watching it you can ask what she thinks to get a feel without actually bringing it up out of the blue and admitting you want to do it. If she watches it and says no then you have your answer. If like me, she says it looks fun then you can talk about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it

So to be clear. You want her involved. She hasn't said she wants to be involved. She has no idea you've been on and off this site. She has no idea what you are trying to arrange. Is that about right?

Stop with your fantasy chasing and speak with her, there is no other way.

Well maybe I just need to get the courage to do it "

Before joining here would have been the time ‘to get the courage’. Swinging involves a good deal of trust but how is she supposed to trust you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it"

Show her your verified profile...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Show her your profile, let her make her own singles profile, or is it a do as I say situation rather than do as I do ?

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After many years together we thankfully feel able to talk about anything.

About 10 years ago I told my wife that I'd been reading lots of hotwife/threesome erotic stories and it sort of evolved from that, it took maybe 8 months of talking about things before we was both ready to take the next baby steps.

If at anytime she'd had said it wasn't for her then that would have been the end of it..

Good luck

A good way that worked for us was playing in the bedroom with her using a vibrator on herself while sucking me and me asking if it it felt like was being played With by two men etc.. baby steps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For future reference, I'd maybes discuss it with her BEFORE you join a swinging site and start fucking about.

Just an idea.

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Ask her if she ever feels like sleeping with another woman, reassure her that if she does talk to you about it.

Just talking about it might make her feel at ease talking about her own desires

Good luck however you approach it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it"

How do you know she is bisexual?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it

How do you know she is bisexual?"

She has had relationships with women

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By *nicornExplorersCouple
over a year ago

north east

So you had the courage to create and upload a profile, but not the courage to tell her how you feel, you also have a none public verification either it's fake or your playing behind her back?

The lack of trust you've created it seems is red flags already.

Broaching the subject while being ultimately sneaky won't benefit your side.

Honestly, stop asking strangers on the Internet how to persuade your partner to have a threesome and just talk to her...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it

How do you know she is bisexual?

She has had relationships with women"

Have you ever talked about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it

Does she know your on this site?

No she doesn’t "

I'd suggest that you delete your profile from here first before you have a chat. If she's still interested after the chat you can search the web and find this site and show her what its all about. The last thing you want is for her to find you on here.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Has she ever expressed any interest in having sex with others, like while watching porn, when discussing fantasies, while watching TV programs that involve swinging etc

Swinging as a couple is all about communication & trust, if you can't even have an initial chat to see if she has any interest, I'm not sure how you cope discussing jealousies, boundaries etc

As others have said probably best to delete your profile on here before you have the discussion, as if I'd found out my partner was on here without my knowledge not only would I not have signed up but it would have likely been the end of us too

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By *rettyflamingoCouple
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

As someone else has suggested delete your profile organise a date and have the discussion with her. If she found out you were on here that only demonstrates deceitfulness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Youve failed at the first hurdle . ..swinging is about trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah but she's bi so of course she will want to fuck around and be used as bait for the OP to fuck other women.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Sit down and have an open conversation with your wife ,ask her if she has any fantasies or of she's thought about sleeping with other people .

Just because she's bi doesn't mean she will want to swing with you ,so be prepared that you might not get the answer you're after.

Then if she says no you have to respect that ,so many men on here just want to do things for themselves without actually taking into account what their wives or partners want .

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By *tms1xCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Talking is the key and don’t expect it to happen overnight if it even happens! We are now several years into our journey and still not found our place within the swinging community covid etc didn’t help but we are getting back on track now.

We hope to start going to clubs again soon and now free from kids start to have more adult holidays!

Hope it all works out for you and your wife

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By *rogalCouple
over a year ago

Falkirk

We watched porn together, mainly mfm as I knew my wife loves it. Then we worked it into dirty talk and then had a few open and honest conversations about do we actually want to try this and I assuaged her doubts about why I want o share her etc

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Take her to a play park, put her on a swing and give her a push.

They say, "funny, on the subject of swinging..."

Either you'll get a result, or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By being honest but something tells me you won’t do that.

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By *topianDreamersCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

There is some holier-than-thou bullshit going on here. A guy has asked people for advice on how to ask his partner if she would like to get into Swinging. Something many of us would have experiences. Instead of sharing your experiences, a number of people have accused him of infidelity. OK he has set up a profile but there is no evidence that he has begun the journey or cheated. You are asked to set up a Profile on joining. So why cant you just help the guy out?

As many people have said trust an openness are key. Talk about things. We watched a documentary about swinging and I asked my partner, 'what do you think'? We talked about things and found a path that was comfortable for both of us. If she flat out refuses to discuss it you have to respect her opinion. However you might find she, herself wants to find out more.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Talk to her. There is literally no other way but to ask her if she's interested."

This! been the same answer on so many threads asking same question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it"

Get a hot guy round and ask him to slap his cock on the coffee table? It’s the risky method but hey.

Seriously, just tell her you think she’d look good with another guy, if she fancies it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is some holier-than-thou bullshit going on here. A guy has asked people for advice on how to ask his partner if she would like to get into Swinging. Something many of us would have experiences. Instead of sharing your experiences, a number of people have accused him of infidelity. OK he has set up a profile but there is no evidence that he has begun the journey or cheated. You are asked to set up a Profile on joining. So why cant you just help the guy out?

He’s meet verified though, that’s why people have said he’s cheating!

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Have a games night. Do an online quiz. Ask her questions

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

He’s meet verified though, that’s why people have said he’s cheating!"

Yep and writes he's been here before so knows the score .so probably has had meets .

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By *oppolocosTV/TS
over a year ago

inverurie

Why not try asking her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because joing a swinging site and not telling your partner is perfectly acceptable I guess?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because joing a swinging site and not telling your partner is perfectly acceptable I guess? "

Not to some I guess!

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By *topianDreamersCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Surely the best way to find out about something is to do some research. Joining a site will inform him, so when he does talk to his partner he knows what he is talking about... the line that shouldn't be crossed is cheating imho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely the best way to find out about something is to do some research. Joining a site will inform him, so when he does talk to his partner he knows what he is talking about... the line that shouldn't be crossed is cheating imho"

It doesn’t require joining up multiple times to do that plus like we’ve already said he’s meet verified!

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

Probably going to be a difficult conversation since you have a bio here and say you're not new. I'd say that given one of the fundamental things about swinging etc is trust, communication and honesty, I'm not sure she'd be able to feel those with you.

Unless of course she knows you're here?

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

As others have said, you need to be able to talk about it. Communication is key. Think about how you can bring it into a conversation, naturally. Alay her fears; make it about you as a couple. If she does find out you're already well versed in the scene then it might end badly. So it could well be now or never.

If you'd ask me (Mr) a year or so ago would Mrs go swinging I'd have said not in a million years. But here we are and it's great to share the experiences with her; much better than skulking around behind her back.

Good luck!

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it

So to be clear. You want her involved. She hasn't said she wants to be involved. She has no idea you've been on and off this site. She has no idea what you are trying to arrange. Is that about right?

Stop with your fantasy chasing and speak with her, there is no other way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is hilarious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is hilarious "

Oh I wasn't sure if I'd like the feel of my cock In someone else so I thought it best to do some "research" first.

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By *red333Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Don't mention it ever, she'll leave you..... That's my advice

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By *topianDreamersCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

If that is JUST what swinging is for you you are missing out on a lot.

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By *he beard and the bumCouple
over a year ago

Lancashire

I would get on to the subject of fantasies and ask her to be honest and reveal hers. She’s bound to ask yours so reply that you’d love to see her with a couple. See how it goes. If she kicks off then say you were being honest and it’s just a fantasy.

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By *oupleexeter30Couple
over a year ago

Exeter

If your relationship is good you should be able to raise it in conversation

She doesn't know you're on here so not a good start is it

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

This gets asked quite regularly.

In my opinion, if you have to ask and have an active single profile, swinging isn't for you.

Unless you have a strong, honest relationship, where you're able to discuss your desires, swinging is unlikely to be a positive addition to the relationship.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me and my partner it started over something small tbh, we brought a suction cup dildo and the 1st time we used it she started to ride while gagging on my cock moaning it made my mind go filthy and without thinking I just said do you wish that you was riding a real cock while gagging on mine, and while she was moaning and gargling she went yes. After we finished and we calmed down she said I dont know if I would tbh but we carried on speaking about it, then I searched up sites came across chams and I said so we go and just see what its like have a drink relax with there jacuzzi steam room etc and she said OK but nothings happening which was fine by me. In the steam room about and hour or so before we was leaving I started playing with her clit the moaning started and so she started playing with me there was 1 dude in there with us watching he came over sat near us stopped us and asked politely if he could touch her tits she just looked at me and I was like yh carry on 10 minutes later cock in her mouth and one in her pussy. Thats how it all started for us lol

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By *ust Passing ThroughMan
over a year ago

poole

Alas you have no choice but to ask as you will never know otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should talk to her!! My wife k knows I'm on here and I have talked bout it with her! When we play I take name of different guys which she enjoys

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By *T SwingersCouple
over a year ago

Brazil

I brought the subject up with my wife after we made a fantasy wish list one New Years Eve.

We discussed it over a couple of bottles of wine and we agreed to go to a club in London on the basis that we could just watch and we would leave immediately if she didn't like it.

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By *lmostDeviantCouple
over a year ago

Tameside

We started out with a bit of dirty talk in the bedroom, about our naughtiest fantasies and our most adventurous/riskiest experiences, (obviously while playing and teasing so we felt sexy and horny while we spoke!) We watched group porn together and asked each other if and what we enjoyed from it and we used toys whilst we were being intimate for that ‘more than one person’ experience but also so we knew we enjoyed what we were doing together with it still being just us in our safe space intrigued how turned on we got, and not just jumping into trying something either of us weren’t comfortable around or just didn’t like the feeling in reality as much as the stories! But before a potential first meet You should both discuss boundaries aswell as turn ons so you know what is happening and that it will only go as far as you both want it to, that way there is no “what-if worries” because every thing is planned so no suprises if you do decide to eventually dip your toes in the water together! Communication is key if you want a successful swinging relationship because it’s all based on trust and making each other comfortable and sexy so it’s pleasurable with no worries or doubts! Sorry for the essay and Best of luck on your journey xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it be careful what you wish for, you may not like it."
I was thinking the same.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We'd suggest you just ask her. What's worse?, the reaction of you asking her finding out your on here trying to cheat on her?

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By *hippy57Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I would suggest try some role play ,into your foreplay,not straight into it,take your time,use your imagination,let her know how it makes you feel,from her reaction you will feel if it’s something she would try

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By *hippy57Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I can see your point it’s difficult to just blurt it out,when my first wife and I experimented with swinging etc,I got her interested in sensual massages,often used toys to stimulate her near end of massage,suggested a 4 handed massage for her,happy days

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

If you love your wife and genuinely would like to be involved in the swinging scene with her then having a profile on here solo is really not the way to go about it

I would be devastated if my other half hadn’t even discussed such a massive thing with me yet had happily been on and off a site which is , let’s face it a site to meet others for sexual gratification and the like

You haven’t even given her the option on this as yet

And remember sometimes the reality isn’t as good as the fantasy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your comments

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By *inkyfuckery69Couple
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

Communication is key ! You have to talk to her .

In the heat of passion try " id love to see blah blah " if she drys up and jumps of the bed , its probably a no!

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By *ornyhubbyhornywifeCouple
over a year ago

Neath

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it"

Start by asking her what her wildest fantasy would be. Tell her what yours is & how does she feel about acting them out.

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Yorks/Lincs

take her out say your going to bible class

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Communication is key ! You have to talk to her .

In the heat of passion try " id love to see blah blah " if she drys up and jumps of the bed , its probably a no!

I did that last night while she was sucking me and I was fucking her with a big dildo, I said how good would it be if this was another guys cock and she moaned and said yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife knows I'm on here! We have cammed with ppl from here! We have also met people from here and I take a guy's name when we fuck! But still tryna get her to do it for real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love to get mine started

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

"Communication is key ! You have to talk to her .

In the heat of passion try " id love to see blah blah " if she drys up and jumps of the bed , its probably a no!

I did that last night while she was sucking me and I was fucking her with a big dildo, I said how good would it be if this was another guys cock and she moaned and said yes "

Yeah but you really need to do it honestly and not when she’s ‘blinded’ by the sexual haze! Just ask her as though if it’s something she ever thought about and not that you necessarily ‘want to do it’ in the first instance to sound her out and if she says ‘eugh no’ then you don’t have to admit to wanting to do it x

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolves

"Communication is key ! You have to talk to her .

In the heat of passion try " id love to see blah blah " if she drys up and jumps of the bed , its probably a no!

I did that last night while she was sucking me and I was fucking her with a big dildo, I said how good would it be if this was another guys cock and she moaned and said yes "
This is the type of suggestions you need to make, but in a very appropriate manner.

Cold light of day can be a whole different thing. Good luck

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it"

Put something on tv that has group sex in it, but not porn. And just say dya fancy trying this. The netflix programme white lines has soft orgy scenes in it, and worth a watch in general anyway

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Really want to get my wife in to the swinging scene, she is bisexual and I think she would love it but afraid to raise it"

That's completely the wrong approach. And will cause serious trust issues in your relationship.

I recommend you read 'How to be a Swinger' by Knight.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"My wife knows I'm on here! We have cammed with ppl from here! We have also met people from here"

Get a couple's profile then.

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe do not start with asking if she is happy with sex life? Also suggest to go down to swingers club and try just observe and maybe try to have sex with just two of you as public display, put on performance for others and then see how she feels about swinging all together. You should know her better and how open she is about sex etc

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By *ritIndianCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Poor women has no idea. Seems like you’ve had your fun and got bored and now want to include her. You should of asked her about swinging well before joining the site and if you was already on when you met her then should of spoken to her about it the first chance you had. J (MR)

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"I suggest starting with some swingers clubs, something soft in order to let her takes her time"

Personally if I was new to swinging a club would have scared me off.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"I suggest starting with some swingers clubs, something soft in order to let her takes her time

Personally if I was new to swinging a club would have scared me off."

Absolutely! I personally think that's really bad advice as the first step. Even talking about it this early is a mistake.

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By *arried ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Newark

"I suggest starting with some swingers clubs, something soft in order to let her takes her time

Personally if I was new to swinging a club would have scared me off.

Absolutely! I personally think that's really bad advice as the first step. Even talking about it this early is a mistake."

So we got into it about a year ago. Bedroom fantasy talk became more serious and we then discussed it properly in the cold light of day with our clothes on. The male gave the female the choice whether to look online (neither of us were aware of this site then) or go to a club.

We settled on a small club. Purple Mamba looked friendly , clean and good on their website, was/is closest to us. We wanted as much (admittedly perceived) anonymity as possible.

It was only through talking to people there that we discovered this site and only after a few months did we decide to join.

So, horses for courses.

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By *iguyforfun50Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I have a similar problem myself,she is happy to roleplay 3some/group/gangbang/spitroast and dvp fantasies with me and has even asked me to get a 10" dildo to use during these but remains adament she doesn't want it for real.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"So we got into it about a year ago. Bedroom fantasy talk became more serious and we then discussed it properly in the cold light of day with our clothes on.

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That's very different to the situation OP describes. He suggests he's scares to even bring it up.

You guys talked about it in the bedroom and out of it. *That* is the first step - which clearly worked out well for you guys.

For the first conversation ever - before even fantasizing - to literally be, "fancy a sex club?" is quite a leap.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"I have a similar problem myself,she is happy to roleplay 3some/group/gangbang/spitroast and dvp fantasies with me and has even asked me to get a 10" dildo to use during these but remains adament she doesn't want it for real."

That's not a similar problem at all. You have your answer. Your problem seems to be accepting it.

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