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By *urplekeys OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

As we are still relatively new on the scene, we’ve been talking a lot recently about why we’ve taken this leap into swinging and what we expect to gain from it. We are curious to know why other couples started, what you gain from it and whether you see it as a separate activity from your ‘own’ sex life or if it’s a part of your sex life (hopefully this makes sense)?

We aren’t in any doubt but curious and if this thread means we meet a few more couples, great!

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By *ittycock400Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Mainly to fulfill some fantasies that we both have/had which we couldn't have done alone.

We have both been open with each other about these fantasies and felt able to do something about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's to create great memories by fulfilling some fantasies that we both have... we've done the complete vanilla bit while we raised our beautiful kids, now it's our time.

We aren't very active at the moment but whenever we both get the itch this side of our life is there to be explored more.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's a bit of fun, something we experience together like enjoying a good meal out. We don't take it seriously

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

We just adore each other and each others pleasure so makes sense sharing as this enhances everything x

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By *aveing funCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

For the fun experience and don’t have to cheat on each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’d just been talking about how hot it would be to see each other with someone else. Watching each other enjoying themselves while having fun ourselves with the other part of the couple.

Very new to the scene but enjoying what we’ve done so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the fun experience and don’t have to cheat on each other "

This

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"For the fun experience and don’t have to cheat on each other

This "

But nobody *has* to cheat, swingers or not

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I personally missed one night stands

My husband had participated in threesomes/gangbangs before we met also missed sex with other partners

So after a lot of discussions we ended up here x

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By *aveing funCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We are both bi, so initially it was so we would both still get to experience that part of life. Now, it's just something we do as monogamy doesn't make much sense to us.

Welcome to fab!

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"For the fun experience and don’t have to cheat on each other

This

But nobody *has* to cheat, swingers or not "
..For us we’re both bi and we enjoy seeing each other with the same sex..

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By *aveing funCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"I personally missed one night stands

My husband had participated in threesomes/gangbangs before we met also missed sex with other partners

So after a lot of discussions we ended up here x "
and know you don’t need 1 nite stands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We see it as an extension to our sex life.

We are fulfilling fantasies with each other that we have always talked about or role played within our sex life before taking the leap.

We like to build a connection so it's not one off sex with random people and more like an additional to an already great mix xx

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By *aveing funCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"For the fun experience and don’t have to cheat on each other

This

But nobody *has* to cheat, swingers or not ..For us we’re both bi and we enjoy seeing each other with the same sex.."
fair play to you guys

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By *ipseyTwoCouple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

For us, it has been a way to explore fantasies. We generally talk about past/future encounters during sex.

It is part of our sex life, but our sex life doesn’t rely on it.

Welcome to the club…have fun!

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"We just adore each other and each others pleasure so makes sense sharing as this enhances everything x"

Can’t say it better than that really!

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By *iking SoftiesCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"We just adore each other and each others pleasure so makes sense sharing as this enhances everything x"

This about sums it up for us too.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"...and whether you see it as a separate activity from your ‘own’ sex life or if it’s a part of your sex life "

Very much part of our sex life and also relationship.

We don't consider this to be an optional extra.

We did however get together in order to have this type of relationship and lifestyle so we're a little different to most as this is all we've ever known.

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By *nked_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We're both very sexual people and we wanted to explore our fantasies together. Some fantasies are shared and some are individual but with this lifestyle we get to explore them all together. We also heard so many people talk about how it can bring you closer together, and even though we didn't think that would be possible we knew we were strong enough as a couple to give it a try and see what happens and all I can say is the others were right, it brings us closer together every time! It's amazing!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We started swinging as it was a chance to live out some sexual fantasies we had in the bedroom.

We keep swinging separate from our love life if that makes sense but we also have rules/boundaries.

At the end of the night regardless of what we have done, who we have been with we still go home together and are still very much in love even after 30 years together.

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By *unmidwcoupleCouple
over a year ago

leicester

For us we started to fulfill both of our fantasies. We have a great sex life together but adding others to the mix spices things up and turns us on.

Is scary the first time not knowing what to expect or how each other will react but just have to be secure in your relationship and talk openly about what you both like and dislike

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I met my partner here in the forum's 7 years ago next month.we weren't after anything more than fun,but it developed into more

We took time away and his our profiles ,then decided we wanted to swing together and have a couple profile.

We are just looking for occasional fun and partner swapping ,as I'm straight .or we use our joint profiles to arrange to meet in clubs or go to socials really.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hid not his

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Char used to meet guys for kink stuff...but that's not for me. I was fine with her carrying on doing that as long as we had no secrets. That led to the conversation about whether I'd want to watch which led us to here.

For me, personally, it's all about making sure Char has the opportunity to experience everything she wants. I don't "perform" that well, I'm not the hunkiest guy out there, not great stamina, and I also don't have boobs or a vagina for her play with

(Bry)

Oh....we also came here to meet hot couples from Milton Keynes!

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By *illyandjamesCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

We've always had an amazing sex life but for us, sex is something to be shared and enjoyed! We both love watching eachother and being watched. Adding more people into the mix just adds to the fun

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Same as most I guess, to fulfil fantasies, try new things, meet new people, we both enjoy sex and have a great sex life, I love the honesty and openness of it and I like to show off the Mr, also he doesn't have boobs I can fondle.

Mrs

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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago

Romford

We both have found that this journey has made us communicate more to what we both like, Ranes mentality has changed from “ I want to swing to please you as that turns me on “ to

“I want to swing for me as well as for you now as I love the sex “

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By *annybb2012Man
over a year ago

south West

I know this is for couples but just wanted to say how interesting it is so see so many similar answers, which are also the same reasons for the majority of couples I have had the pleasure of playing with over the years.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

There are a number of reasons we play.

We both like the ladies, it would be difficult to say which enjoys them the most.

Also I adore D/s play, L plays B/d, however doesn’t enter into D/s relationships.

So she has bi wants and I am drawn to kink relationships.

Plus we both enjoy the fun element.

What’s not to enjoy.

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

I met scarlet as single pringles on another site similar to this, we both enjoyed sharing each other with others so we carried on as a couple in the scene.

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By *urplekeys OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

Thanks to everyone who has responded so far! It's reassuring to read so many similar responses that aren't too dissimilar from our own reasons.

To be honest, we aren't yet in a place where this doesn't feel like an extra activity but I'm sure this will change over time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started on here as a couple. The reason was the sex was mind blowing. I couldn't get enough and just wanted 2 of him. Bringing someone into the mix was the closest I was going to get

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We met on here. We were both singles and started meeting a lot. The meets got longer and the gaps shorter.

We fell in love, live together, got engaged and enjoy the total honesty and ability to follow our desires while together.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"We just adore each other and each others pleasure so makes sense sharing as this enhances everything x"

This

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By *udere.Couple
over a year ago

South West

For us swinging was a form of escapism, something we do just for us.

It’s our opportunity to leave intense jobs to one side, to push boundaries and fantasies together and also have our own little secret. We’ve certainly grown even closer as a consequence.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

For us, sex is not a relationship or love thing. Love is us cuddling up together on the sofa, going out to places together and spending 24/7 together.

Fucking is just fucking. We share it with others like we would go for a drink with a mate. We see no additional value in it. It’s obviously better with each other than anyone else but we don’t make love. We fuck. And why not fuck other people?

We met in an FFM so we didn’t start on the traditional and normal dating path. We just realised we liked each other and took it from there.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I'm a bi woman I like having sex with women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As we are still relatively new on the scene, we’ve been talking a lot recently about why we’ve taken this leap into swinging and what we expect to gain from it. We are curious to know why other couples started, what you gain from it and whether you see it as a separate activity from your ‘own’ sex life or if it’s a part of your sex life (hopefully this makes sense)?

We aren’t in any doubt but curious and if this thread means we meet a few more couples, great!

"

For me personally, I’ve always felt differently about sex. I’ve never been unfaithful to a partner but monogamous sex just didn’t leave me feeling fulfilled. I’ve previously been made to feel shit about myself for wanting anything that wasn’t strictly vanilla. So thought there was something wrong with me.

Then I met J (Mr), and something just clicked in my head…the subject of swinging came up in conversation randomly one evening and we realised we’d both like to explore this together. He’s been on here as a single guy but I’ve never even done internet dating before. So for me the whole online thing is a new concept for me to get my head around as well.

It’s the whole thing of enjoying sex together and sharing that with like-minded people…it’s a lifestyle choice I’d say, rather than just random fucking about, or separate to our own relationship. I guess it’s just part of who we are and I love the fact that we have this level of trust and respect that we want to share it together.

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The divorce rate amongst swinging couples is much lower than those found in monogamous relationships due to the unlikely event of one partner cheating - I mean, why would you? Much of this is because couples that swing together, stay together because have better communication with one another, much more transparent and are happier in their relationship.

Swinging is such a healthy and consensual sexual activity based on the premise that all humans should explore sexual connections with multiple partners (dates back years) and is thoroughly enjoyable for every-one involved... The reasons swingers don't file for divorces in comparison to their monogamous peers are the traits which determine happiness and flexibility in addition to creativity and adaptability to changing circumstances. The sex lives of the swingers are undoubtedly more flexible if compared with the monogamous couples...

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands


"It's a bit of fun, something we experience together like enjoying a good meal out. We don't take it seriously"

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The divorce rate amongst swinging couples is much lower than those found in monogamous relationships due to the unlikely event of one partner cheating - I mean, why would you? Much of this is because couples that swing together, stay together because have better communication with one another, much more transparent and are happier in their relationship.

Swinging is such a healthy and consensual sexual activity based on the premise that all humans should explore sexual connections with multiple partners (dates back years) and is thoroughly enjoyable for every-one involved... The reasons swingers don't file for divorces in comparison to their monogamous peers are the traits which determine happiness and flexibility in addition to creativity and adaptability to changing circumstances. The sex lives of the swingers are undoubtedly more flexible if compared with the monogamous couples..."

This makes a lot of sense to me - for the first time in my life I feel totally like “me” and love the trust, openness and good communication J (Mr) and I have. I’ve never experienced anything like it before, and it feels good being with someone totally like-minded

F (Mrs)

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By *nicornExplorersCouple
over a year ago

north east

We both love watching each other and fluid movements of pleasure of each other, something you can't exp 3rd person, so it's far more enjoyable watching each other with someone else.

The excitement of exp pleasures with others.

For her, enjoying the exp with another woman, exploring and enjoying the bi side, while he gets to watch and join in.

Just some of the reasons.

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

To fulfil hubbies fantasy of seeing me with other men and for me to get more cock, win win situation for us

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By *arrenandhisduckCouple
over a year ago

blackpool

We are both just perverts we like watching people and people watching us just turns us both on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are both just perverts we like watching people and people watching us just turns us both on"

J (Mr) and I described ourselves as filthy perverts the other night haha. And do you know what? We love it, and we love it there’s other people out there like us

F (Mrs)

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By *irtyKittenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I think we are just weird sometimes as I do like it when k goes out with other men and she likes me being with other women.

But being on this site it appears we are not on our own in this.

But one of the main reasons is k is bi and has always wanted a girlfriend as well as having me but unfortunately she has never found that girl who is ok with her having me as well.

So this is way of trying to find someone for her, as I know she has got really attached to some girls and was really heartbroken when they did want to continue because of me

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By *inkyfuckery69Couple
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

Because we are really horny , and so are many other people . Simple .

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By *arrenandhisduckCouple
over a year ago

blackpool


"We are both just perverts we like watching people and people watching us just turns us both on

J (Mr) and I described ourselves as filthy perverts the other night haha. And do you know what? We love it, and we love it there’s other people out there like us

That’s all there is too it just plain perverts just that now we accept it and it’s better because I have found the better half of me that likes it as well.

Darren

F (Mrs)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are both just perverts we like watching people and people watching us just turns us both on

J (Mr) and I described ourselves as filthy perverts the other night haha. And do you know what? We love it, and we love it there’s other people out there like us

That’s all there is too it just plain perverts just that now we accept it and it’s better because I have found the better half of me that likes it as well.

Darren

F (Mrs) "

Oh yes, the accepting it and sharing it with someone else bit is amazing

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The divorce rate amongst swinging couples is much lower than those found in monogamous relationships due to the unlikely event of one partner cheating - I mean, why would you? Much of this is because couples that swing together, stay together because have better communication with one another, much more transparent and are happier in their relationship.

Swinging is such a healthy and consensual sexual activity based on the premise that all humans should explore sexual connections with multiple partners (dates back years) and is thoroughly enjoyable for every-one involved... The reasons swingers don't file for divorces in comparison to their monogamous peers are the traits which determine happiness and flexibility in addition to creativity and adaptability to changing circumstances. The sex lives of the swingers are undoubtedly more flexible if compared with the monogamous couples..."

I've always though this to be true and what you say makes absolute sense

As a self Confessed nerd I'd love to see some data on this x

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By *randmrsfuntobehadCouple
over a year ago

near you

Because life is for living and having fun. It may not be mainstream but we all have fantasies and as a married couple we should help eschother explore them rather than be scored and run in opposite direction

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

We took the plunge as we are both bisexual and told each other early in in the relationship. We both thought meeting bisexual cpls would expand our sexual journey together.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"The divorce rate amongst swinging couples is much lower than those found in monogamous relationships due to the unlikely event of one partner cheating - I mean, why would you? Much of this is because couples that swing together, stay together because have better communication with one another, much more transparent and are happier in their relationship.

Swinging is such a healthy and consensual sexual activity based on the premise that all humans should explore sexual connections with multiple partners (dates back years) and is thoroughly enjoyable for every-one involved... The reasons swingers don't file for divorces in comparison to their monogamous peers are the traits which determine happiness and flexibility in addition to creativity and adaptability to changing circumstances. The sex lives of the swingers are undoubtedly more flexible if compared with the monogamous couples..."

Could not have worded it better. As we are so open with each other about our sexuality and sex tastes we find our relationship is far stronger.

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