FabSwingers.com forum: Club courage

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm very new to all this, new but really REALLY excited.

At the moment I've met two guys from here, I'm impatient but I want to take things slow. However I can't stop thinking about going to a club. I just know I'll be incredibly nervous and think it's because I don't know what it will be like, what you're supposed to do (apart from sex of course!) I mean what if the people there don't attract me? I'd feel awful saying no thank you.

I just can't imagine it...do some people go and decide to leave without having done anything? I'm a fairy shy person at first and need to chat before going any further. Would that seem odd to others?

Sorry for all the questions but I'd love to hear your experiences.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I'd check out the reviews for clubs in your area, most are really friendly and will look after you if you let them know you're new. You don't need to play with anyone and a polite refusal won't offend anyone - well it shouldn't and if it does it's their problem and not yours. We've been to loads of clubs and they're quite diverse but I'd say take the plunge, don't drink too much and treat it like a night out in a new place to hopefully meet some nice people. Have fun, Z

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Oh, and most people will want to chat and get to know people before they decide to have fun so don't worry about that either. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just can't imagine it...do some people go and decide to leave without having done anything? I'm a fairy shy person at first and need to chat before going any further. Would that seem odd to others?"

Loads of peeps do nothing on their first visit. Don't allow yourself to feel any pressure to do anything but watch if that's all you want to do.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Get one of the guys to take you to watch your back and if you only want sex with him then dont feel pressured into anything else.... Have a great time

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i always say to anyone that the bravest part is walking thru the door.... once you have done that, the rest is a doddle....

you'll have a gander and see that it is full of normal people... and you'll just sit down and take it in...

we were all knew at clubs once...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can spend all night just chatting in most clubs. You do not need to have sex. Head over to chams, lcs or xx & have fun. Lots of us go alone or meet friends there

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Just go along and chat, take a look around. Say hello to the staff and let them know you are a newbie so they can help you and keep an eye out for you.

Maybe take someone with you as a chaperone if you can.

Good luck with it

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