FabSwingers.com forum: People asking for what’s app straight away

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Red flag for us, what about you?

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Agreed. I don't want to give my number out to a complete stranger.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Oh yeah ,

I hate people asking for kik or sc on a first message too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agreed. I don't want to give my number out to a complete stranger."

We’ve just had one, saying that’s the only way they can verify who they are by sending photos as they can only upload one a day in messages.

Said we are happy to wait until they are verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they've had it before, yeah.

But usually after a good bit of conversation perhaps.

An alternative means of contact for someone you're interested in for real is a good way to stop them getting lost in the message noise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they've had it before, yeah.

But usually after a good bit of conversation perhaps.

An alternative means of contact for someone you're interested in for real is a good way to stop them getting lost in the message noise.

This particular ‘couple’ have only been on the site a day or so, not paying for gold/silver and have one photo of a pair of trousers. First message is ‘let’s have your number so we can WhatsApp pictures of ourselves’

Not for us thanks, we’ll wait

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

100% Agree.....We hardly ever give our phone number out anyway..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We insist on WhatsApp after a few messages if we plan to meet but we use a burner phone.

In the early days someone made reference to things they could only have seen on Facebook by following the number link.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed. I don't want to give my number out to a complete stranger.

We’ve just had one, saying that’s the only way they can verify who they are by sending photos as they can only upload one a day in messages.

Said we are happy to wait until they are verified. "

I've never gave my number out to anyone in the 7 years I've been on here let alone a new unverified profile. Don't take up forum space with this crap

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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago

wirral

Yeah same for us. We used to get asked all the time so we put it on our profile that we don't send pics on it.

Sone people just rush into chats like they have 30 seconds to get your number and you to confirm you will meet that that day. Hasn't worked out for one person that way with us.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Red flag

Asking about kik, red flag

Sending their phone number, red flag

It's like Liverpool v Man Utd

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I wouldn't say it's a red flag for me. Some people prefer to have a 3 way chat but I'd just politely decline to give out my number unless we were friends already and suggest an alternative platform.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't use kik or any other app, if I like someone I will give out my number.

Usually this is after a lottttttt of messages on here first.

Though I have in the past given it out after just a handful of messages, sometimes you just know that you like someone.

There a million other things that a more of a red flag for me that someone asking for my number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they've had it before, yeah.

But usually after a good bit of conversation perhaps.

An alternative means of contact for someone you're interested in for real is a good way to stop them getting lost in the message noise.

Not for us thanks, we’ll wait "

Yep, I wouldn't do it. lol

Not in that circumstance anyways!

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Had one recently where her first message to me was "add me on snap babe". Deleted

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We’d only be sharing WhatsApp details when we were intending to meet or have a video call.

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By *om_Sub69Couple
over a year ago

Derby

We like to keep our personal life / private number exactly that. Happy to arrange socials as we go like to go out anyway so it works well either way for us just to meet in person, sieves out the time wasters x

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By *ichelinstar1Man
over a year ago

Peterborough & North West

"I don't use kik or any other app, if I like someone I will give out my number.

Usually this is after a lottttttt of messages on here first.

Though I have in the past given it out after just a handful of messages, sometimes you just know that you like someone.

There a million other things that a more of a red flag for me that someone asking for my number.

This is my approach. You can tell how genuine someone is by their messaging and how they come across. If someone gives a good vibe, then it’s all good. Whatsapp does let you block people you know

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

Smells like a pic collector but could just be the kid in the candy shop over eagerness of a newbie, if they are genuine they will wait untill your happy to exchange this at the right time for all concerned.

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Red flag for us, what about you? "

We never use WhatsApp for fab related chat, Telegram is much better and you can keep your phone number (which often links to social media) private.

We do like to move over to chat once we have decided we would probably like to meet the person/people as it gives everyone the chance to interact rather than one person from a couple doing all the talking.

K x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We tend to use what's app for group chats it's just easier to know who's talking, but if someone didn't want to it's no problem, I don't see it as a red flag though. 3/4 way conversations between 2 profiles can be tricky on here.

Mrs

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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk

It's a red flag for me. I don't use WhatsApp for conversations with anyone on here. I also do not give out my number to anyone who asks. The only people who get that are those I know well and know I can trust. I have no interest in using a second phone for fab so I won't give out my number .If that doesn't suit others they can move on to someone else . Bo .

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By *randmrsfuntobehadCouple
over a year ago

near you

If we like the person I can't see an issue with it but I must admit I've had to use that block button quite a lot

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By *23RouteCouple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

No contact with anyone until we’ve met . Friend request on second message ? No chance. Wife would kill me !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big red flag to me block them straight away

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