FabSwingers.com forum: 50 shades of grey swinging/dating

By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Errrmmmm where to start......

Ive never been a true swinger.... Whats a true swinger I ask myself?

Most women Ive met have been of dating sites most probably like me want a loving relationship.... But whats the perfect date/relationship?

Ive met a few off here and theyve wanted a 1-2-1 but there still seems something simmering under the surface.....

This is one example of my life......

I met this girl earlier on this year...... She was vanilla we felt lots for each other.... She was the second woman this year that wanted to sell her house and move to Turkey with me..... But as it was still in its early stages I was still meeting other for sex.... WHY??

I had everything I wanted an ex model that wanted a loving relationship...... I dont know why we finished... Maybe she found out I was on fab..... Who knows???

Im confused...... I stopped fucking anything that moved in the 80s prob because of aids

Ive met women off here that say they ONLY practice safe sex but mostly this is a lie :-/

Checkout pictures or listen to stories on here..... I went into a room with a guy and he put his willy in me or I had sex with my hubby last night and 3 others they all spunked up in me....... WHAT

If we did the maths on this how many would it be 3 new partners say they each fuck 1 woman a week..... Its frightening

I think most of the people on here including ME are living a LIE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

gem you ok?

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Cors Im ok Im a gemini..... Sometimes up sometimes down lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up mate, you're a good looking bloke and to me it looks like you enjoy a good standard of living.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My attempt at trying to put a smile on your face mate...

50 shades of Grey (A Northern Poem)

The wife went t’bookshop on Wednesday

A novel was purchased that day

I asked was it Catherine Cookson?

She said “No, it’s The first Mr Grey’

I settled in t’armchair for t’evening

She sat reading t’book over there,

It must have been only half hour,

When I heard a loud groan from her chair

I asked was she feeling quite normal

She said ” I must lay off that gin”

But by the way she was twistin n squirmin

I knew it was more than trapped wind!

As time passed she got even louder

I put down my crossword and watched

She was panting like a watchmans Alsatian

And her neck was all purple and blotched

She got up and went into t’kitchen

I settled myself down for a smoke

When she suddenly flew through the doorway

With gaffer tape, bike chain and rope

Now Mavis is not what she once was

She was 77 last week

Her boobs she tucks into her knickers

And she rarely puts in her new teeth

Her lipstick was smeared up her cheekbones

Her hairnet bedraggled and torn

She said “I’ve got plans for you Arthur”

and then it was my turn to groan!

She leaped onto t’back of my armchair

The bike chain she slung round my neck

Her knickers got caught on the window

and she shot back and pulled down the nets

I struggled to reach for my glasses

But then wished I hadn’t at all

As she surged like a rugby prop forward

And grabbed me right under the balls

The rope tied my wrists to the sideboard

My underpants slung over t’lamp

The gaffer tape stifled my screaming

Cos when I sit on the floor I get cramp

I must have passed out then quite quickly

an hour or more I was gone

When I woke up she was sitting on t’sofa

With a cup of PG and a scone

I looked up, she didn’t look best pleased,

I said “eh up love, you feeling ok”?

She said “you couldn’t raise chickens”!

“And you’re certainly no Mr Grey”,

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Im not down or sad Ive met a few since that person in the story above...

Thanx for the poem although I liked the other 50 shades one better..... Thanx for taking time to share it with me and others

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I'm confused by your post, but I genuinely hope you're okay.

All the best.

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Sorry for the confusion Ive caused but I dont see how

Basically I was just trying to point out that some of us live a lie by swinging.

Most of us want a loving relationship but also want to swing.

Alot of people have admitted being on dating sites ie wanting a relationship and they keep their swinging secret.... Im one of these people. I sometimes get confuddled. I find someone and things are good but I still want sex with others. Confused.com lol

I'll be okay when I get a pussy purrrring for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wb gem :D

now I understand, so from my pov...

ok Im on a dating site, however it is for the forums...

I think whilst I enjoy swinging,,,,

You cant wake up with swinging on cold mornings nor can you ask swinging to go warm your side of the bed up or scrape your car

So its a thoughts for the future maybe.

I dont class it as lying to myself, as I know I like variety but I know I do not want to wake up alone forever.

Come spring, when the bed is warmer and I am outdoors more, I might not want to share my bed as then I'll be looking for the cool spot

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Sorry for the confusion Ive caused but I dont see how

Basically I was just trying to point out that some of us live a lie by swinging.

Most of us want a loving relationship but also want to swing.

I'll be okay when I get a pussy purrrring for me

I totally get where you are coming from. It is the dilemma between wanting the security/ cozyness/ intimacy/trust etc from a loving exclusive relationship versus the excitement, spontaneity, unpredictability and adventure of polygamy.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Aphrodite: you hit the nail on the head!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"wb gem :D

now I understand, so from my pov...

ok Im on a dating site, however it is for the forums...

I think whilst I enjoy swinging,,,,

You cant wake up with swinging on cold mornings nor can you ask swinging to go warm your side of the bed up or scrape your car

So its a thoughts for the future maybe.

I dont class it as lying to myself, as I know I like variety but I know I do not want to wake up alone forever.

Come spring, when the bed is warmer and I am outdoors more, I might not want to share my bed as then I'll be looking for the cool spot

So true but I am in between a rock and a hard place with a current situation I have at the moment...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guessing we are lucky that we have both. Fingers crossed for all who want the same.

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Sorry for the confusion Ive caused but I dont see how

Basically I was just trying to point out that some of us live a lie by swinging.

Most of us want a loving relationship but also want to swing.

I'll be okay when I get a pussy purrrring for me

a wise lady....

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Yes now youve got my drift

QKM Why cant you ask a swinger to warm your side of the bed or scrape your car for you?

Surely you can warm it up together and doing things for each other should be a pleasure not a chore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my daughter is too old to meet 'men friends' but too young to be discussing swinging with, so I only 'play out'

Why is it easy to get in stupid situations but not so easy to get out :-/

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Oh right now I see you need to meet a ninja...... Im special forces trained how about some special forces sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to meet someone special, but I gave up on that idea years ago, I think I'm supposed to be on my own, although that saddens me, because I have a lot of love to give someone. So I find myself here, trying to fill the void, seeking affection and attention, for now it's working, but one day it wont be enough, I think perhaps I would enjoy this lifestyle more if I was part of a couple, who knows tho.

OP I really hope you find what you are looking for, we all deserve some happiness.... better go before I dig my hole too deep lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Every relationship I've had has been disastrous so I am more than happy to stay single. It may point to selfishness on my part but I don't enjoy being told what to do, what to wear, what to eat, what to listen to, and what to watch on TV. So yes, it can be lonely sometimes, but I never think I am just marking time being on here.

Sometimes the grass is greener my side of the fence.

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By *msmithWoman
over a year ago

bristol

i'm on fab because i want sex and the fun bit of a relationship but without the commitment or the other stuff.. so, when i do my meets, i make sure its more than just sex.. we'll have a chat, a flirt, a cuddle, etc.. but i know i dont need to call them or text them or commit to them..

this is a bit pessimistic, but i dont believe any guy on dating sites really want to date.. i would think most guys just wants a shag.. therefore, i decided not to go on dating sites.. might as well be honest about it on here..

but as much as i try to deny it, maybe deep down i do want a relationship.. if i ever do, then the guy must be really good.. that's the only way to get me to actually want a guy.. have to say, i think i might have met my match..

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Ditto sugarkisses and never give up.

How were you digging an hole?

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

See most deep down want someone..

I hope you find what you want _msmith till then keep having a fab time

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By *msmithWoman
over a year ago

bristol

well, out of all my meets so far (20ish).. there's only one guy that i'd probably really want for myself.. like if he told me to stop meeting anyone else and just him, i would.. although, that would be very boring, plus he's so kinky i'm pretty sure we'd just have more fun with more people..

before i join fab, i'd probably do want a relationship, marriage, kids, home and white picket fence.. but since fab, there's so much to explore that i think how good is the sex is as important as how much money he has.. (wanted to say personality, but money sounds much more wrong)..

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Your still young theres lots of time for other things...... Course sex is good (with the right partner) But with the right person you can have the best of both worlds (its just finding and keeping that person) Ive just had a 4 month relationship with someone off fab and although it was amazing at times there was still sooooo many things for us to try/explore

Theres quite a few people on here thats met their current partners off here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry for the confusion Ive caused but I dont see how

Basically I was just trying to point out that some of us live a lie by swinging.

Most of us want a loving relationship but also want to swing.

I'll be okay when I get a pussy purrrring for me

I want a loving relationship we all do unfortunately I can't do 24/7 as I not only have 3 kids but a career the guys I meet want my attention and get stroppy when I can't deliver although when I'm seeing someone I see them exclusively

When I'm single I play and I like to have more than one regular guy on the go but then you undoubtedly find one who although they've met you on here want more they want to try seeing you see how it goes try dating but there's no trust and is that really what they want it do they just not want you fucking anyone else !!!

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Of course theres hurdles that get in the way. But some hurdles can be got over,under,around or through

Trust is a great thing but it has to be earnt which is hard when meeting off here.

Of course most of us need or want more but it works both ways.

If you still want to play with others then tell the meet from the onset.

When I met someone on here it started out as just fun.... But we both agreed we wanted more. That neither of us would see anyone.... I know I didnt see anyone else I was saving that for when we wanted to involve others for fun.... But that never transpired.... Never mind theres plenty more fish.... Pof (plenty of fakers)

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Maybe these cold winter nights are making us all a bit soppy and wanting cuddles

Simply put, I would love a simple relationship with someone, open and honest, maybe meet a couple of times a week, share intimate nights together as well as a few fun times out. Nothing heavy, no expectations for it to be anymore... just a little companionship and the unique intimacy only a regular lover brings. Even days out with my young son wouldn't be out of bounds with the right person.

How this is arranged or defined is perhaps an issue and would need careful thought and discussion. Do you keep it all quiet and discreet? or would it just be easier to tell people you were in a relationship but it was nothing heavy? Could you trust someone enough to flit in and out your week and home like that? Just say 'my girlfriend' if anyone asks rarher than try and explain the situation?

I'm an eternal optimist... I really hope I can find something like that

This kind of 'relationship-lite' really appeals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe these cold winter nights are making us all a bit soppy and wanting cuddles

I'm an eternal optimist... I really hope I can find something like that

This kind of 'relationship-lite' really appeals. "

Ah bliss sounds idyllic just a shame life's not that simple whereas I could happily be the girl and that guys life my kids don't really need a guy coming and going unless he's planning on hanging around its true what they say love me love my kids they too get attached and I'm big enough to let my own heart get broken but couldn't put my kids through the disappointment

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Im just a hopeless romantic lol

Yes its difficult at times..... Personally Ive always been open and honest with my family and friends "we met on pof/fab a swinging site" but a few that Ive met/dated/fcuked have said "dont tell em where we met"

Most of my mates dont know whether to believe me or not because.....

"Im a gagster not a gangster"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im just a hopeless romantic lol

Most of my mates dont know whether to believe me or not because.....

"Im a gagster not a gangster"

Haha love it friends and family know about me too xx unfortunately I can't really admit to a fab bf cause they will instantly put their guard up as I had two half year relationship with a guy I met off fab turned out to be married etc found another gf also once I'd actually shown him a thing or two luckily it stopped being love and was just about the sex when I found out coulda been worse great times were had but friends etc see it as two years wasted !!!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Im just a hopeless romantic lol

Most of my mates dont know whether to believe me or not because.....

"Im a gagster not a gangster"

Hopless romantic here too

I love spoiling a special lady with little treats and gestures.

As to the risk about breaking your heart with a full blown relationship; I took that risk again last year with a very lovely lady I knew, sadly it didn't work out but we both have some lovely memories and I'm glad I did. Her kids were upset when we seperated but they bounced back very quickly and I still see them now and again when we are both at a hobby me and the her share.

That relationship taught me I do need a bit more than just NSA, but that I'm not entirely sure I'm ready to risk a full on relationship again.

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Im glad its not just me..... Im sure everyone got something out of the relationship. Sure it hurts when you split..... I just try and focus on the good/great time

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Why do you see it as two years wasted comp? If you say you had some great times..... It was worth it

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Im glad its not just me..... Im sure everyone got something out of the relationship. Sure it hurts when you split..... I just try and focus on the good/great time

Good philosophy

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Best way to be buddy..... Ive had women say I dont want to get hurt again...... I tell em to go and listen to the words to "the rose" Im a person that likes great/meaningful lyrics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wb gem :D

now I understand, so from my pov...

ok Im on a dating site, however it is for the forums...

I think whilst I enjoy swinging,,,,

You cant wake up with swinging on cold mornings nor can you ask swinging to go warm your side of the bed up or scrape your car

So its a thoughts for the future maybe.

I dont class it as lying to myself, as I know I like variety but I know I do not want to wake up alone forever.

Come spring, when the bed is warmer and I am outdoors more, I might not want to share my bed as then I'll be looking for the cool spot

I agree x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Best way to be buddy..... Ive had women say I dont want to get hurt again...... I tell em to go and listen to the words to "the rose" Im a person that likes great/meaningful lyrics

Better to sit beneath the tree of life and look around at the fallen fruit and say with a smile "I tasted that one once" than to spoil such memories and taint the once sweet memory as bitter

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Sorry for the confusion Ive caused but I dont see how

Basically I was just trying to point out that some of us live a lie by swinging.

Most of us want a loving relationship but also want to swing.

I'll be okay when I get a pussy purrrring for me

I have had relationships. Do not want one again. I certainly am not living a lie. Self knowledge is the key. And perhaps that comes with age. I know exactly who I am and what I want. Can't say that was true in my 30s. I am happier now with myself and how I live my life than I have ever been.

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By *eminiman61 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

"Best way to be buddy..... Ive had women say I dont want to get hurt again...... I tell em to go and listen to the words to "the rose" Im a person that likes great/meaningful lyrics

Better to sit beneath the tree of life and look around at the fallen fruit and say with a smile "I tasted that one once" than to spoil such memories and taint the once sweet memory as bitter

Exactly...... Go look on google for the story of an imperfect pot and see that being perfects not the be all in life.

Everything we see and do shapes who we are...... Cherish the good times and memories

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