FabSwingers.com forum: Dare Say NO to a Woman here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Taken for granted on FabSwingers that Men get rejected by the 100's on here.

Has any Man ever rejected a Woman on here?

ALL the men are more Slutty than the women?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. But in a polite way.

And strangely not one has felt the need to come back and ask why!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

absolutely... i have said no thanks to women and couples....

i know... just crazy me!!!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Yes. But in a polite way.

And strangely not one has felt the need to come back and ask why!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I'll further qualify my yes.

I too have sent 'thanks but no thanks' replies to messsges and even winks.

I have also chatted with ladies or couples before and then decided they were not for me and also declined to meet them

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I had a guy message me, say he was very interested, he was quite fit, asked if he could see a face pic, I sent one, then we chatted some more, then he said I wasn't what he was looking for.

Fair do's. I just said thanks for letting me know and good luck x

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

I'm only a part-timer on here but even I've said "Thanks, but no thanks".

I didn't just delete the mail and block them.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"I had a guy message me, say he was very interested, he was quite fit, asked if he could see a face pic, I sent one, then we chatted some more, then he said I wasn't what he was looking for.

Fair do's. I just said thanks for letting me know and good luck x "

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I can't say no to minxie pie.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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Yeah, a dozen or so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few blokes reject me and women too. We can't all be everyones type. Lots are not mine so why should I be everyones. I'm a normal ordinary person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one guy said yes he thinks Im great, just what hes looking for but never made a date to meet. lol

If he had actually been honest and said 'No thanks' life would have been less confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes - she was married and her husband didn't know she was on here.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Taken for granted on FabSwingers that Men get rejected by the 100's on here.

Has any Man ever rejected a Woman on here?

ALL the men are more Slutty than the women?

No, I 'm not very familiar with such a word.

Only time I would use it is if she (or he) lived too far away or we just could not arrange accommodation for a sexy encounter.

Yes I think it absolutely 100% correct us men are more slutty than women. Just look at the things we do to get a bit of pussy (or cock in some cases-including me, he he)

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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"Taken for granted on FabSwingers that Men get rejected by the 100's on here.

Has any Man ever rejected a Woman on here?

ALL the men are more Slutty than the women?

No, I 'm not very familiar with such a word.

Only time I would use it is if she (or he) lived too far away or we just could not arrange accommodation for a sexy encounter.

Yes I think it absolutely 100% correct us men are more slutty than women. Just look at the things we do to get a bit of pussy (or cock in some cases-including me, he he)"

Any hole's a goal, eh mate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not everyones cup of tea, and would rather they just said so or just deleted and blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any hole's a goal, eh mate?

Yes, I do agree there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not everyones cup of tea, and would rather they just said so or just deleted and blocked me

I only block people that become a pest. There are very few people on here that are not my cup of tea, whether I'm there's is another question

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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"Any hole's a goal, eh mate?

Yes, I do agree there"

Ha ha. Fair do's, to you. I like your honesty

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By *entkevMan
over a year ago

Dover

Being an average guy, height/looks/size etc i'm use to rejection on here.

I find that all the females and couples in Kent want young hung studs and they are in the fortunate position to be choosy. But so many are blunt & rude.

Lucky im not a sensitive sole. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and why not? I know I am not everyone's cup of tea!

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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago

Northwood

I've been rejected plenty of times ... and I'm glad .. sometmes it just doesn't click and I'd hate to be the sad subject of an ' oh well I'll fuck it anyway' moment.

Unless it's just that I'm careful who I meet ... meet nice people, get treated nicely.

Siimples*

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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago

Northwood

"Being an average guy, height/looks/size etc i'm use to rejection on here.

I find that all the females and couples in Kent want young hung studs and they are in the fortunate position to be choosy. But so many are blunt & rude.

Lucky im not a sensitive sole. lol"

I think your problem is the K word ... Kent LOL ... come out of plastic fantastic world and we're all normal and we love normal people LOL I'd while away hours I'd kiss a paunchy tummy and snuggle a stubbly face, play idly with an average limp willy and squish those moobs. Normal is comfortable, comfortable is fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every guy or gal will say no to someone. I can believe a guy could get a hard on for someone he thinks looks like a beast.

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By *igger2012Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

we have rejected quite a few just because they are not what we are looking for, i always reply with a polite message as manners cost nothing x

and in all fairness we've had 2 occasions when we have arranged a meet with single guys that just haven't bother to show up with no excuse or apology xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes have said no to quote a few but have always been respectful i am not gods gift by any means and have always said ill chat to anyone or will socially meet anyone in a club for a hello even if have no intention of playing xxx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm afraid the times I have been rejected I had my message read then deleted without reply.

And I didn't post a thread moaning about it or anything. Shocking, I know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes i have given a polite no to couples and singles alike .

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

No, not yet.

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By *r_TrojanMan
over a year ago

In The North

I just say a polite no thank you... and I leave it at that...

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've NEVER been rejected!!!

But then I don't put myself out there lol so that might be why! (and yes this was a tounge in cheek response!) before you all jump on the band wagon

However, I have been rejected because they have then gone all quiet on me after chatting for a while and thinking I have had good vibes, but then it is all boils down to nothing, but hey it's all part and parcel, live and learn as they say!

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By *nteressanteMan
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *nteressanteMan
over a year ago

Manchester

can I just clarify here, all the blokes on this thread saying they've said no to women..........genuine question, on what premise? are you suggesting you have had unsolicited messages from a women/women on here expressing interest for which you have replied no?

In the 18 months on here (and for the first 12 months my profile had visible photos before anyone pipes up) I have not had one pro-active unsolicited message from a single female on here, so I'd be genuinely interested to know the context of all these rejections the males on here have given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been rejected lots of times. Usually by deleted mail with no reply but I did once get a thanks but no thanks.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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are you suggesting you have had unsolicited messages from a women/women on here expressing interest for which you have replied no?

Yes.

I didn't fancy them and politely told them so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"absolutely... i have said no thanks to women and couples....

i know... just crazy me!!!"

The same.

We know what we want too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can I just clarify here, all the blokes on this thread saying they've said no to women..........genuine question, on what premise? are you suggesting you have had unsolicited messages from a women/women on here expressing interest for which you have replied no?

Exactly the context you just described - unsolicited messages. Women and couples don't just sit there sifting through the inbox - they do actively seek meets too!

I'm as able to say no to others as they are to me!

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By *nteressanteMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Exactly the context you just described - unsolicited messages. Women and couples don't just sit there sifting through the inbox - they do actively seek meets too!

I'm as able to say no to others as they are to me! "

fair enough, thanks for clarifying

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By *ornishBiLoverMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I have said no too, we all have our likes and dislikes, what floats the boat for some people is a right turn off for others.

Thats the beauty of fab, we pick and choose what we are looking for. I think just about everyone has replied either no thanks or just moved on without responding.

Its not being narrow minded or anything, we are on here to fulfill our fantasy or desire so there are bound to be people who just dont fit. Those people will fit into other fantasies somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have twice , it was their attitude . I am not a performing seal . I am not gonna be spoken to like something they trod in . I was quite shocked as they were fully verified. I just told them to f off and guess what I was blocked

. Which was no skin off my nose , I have far to much respect for myself than meet people like that.

Rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get no's as a single.

Littlebit

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

yes... i have had people mail me after seeing me in clubs... or having seen me on the forums and my profile and ask if I have faniced meeting...

and i have said no... no pics, or not wanting to talk, or being married and the other people not knowing...

men can be just as choosy and women and couples.. i know it is a radical concept...

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By *nteressanteMan
over a year ago

Manchester

yes... i have had people mail me after seeing me in clubs... or having seen me on the forums and my profile and ask if I have faniced meeting...

and i have said no... no pics, or not wanting to talk, or being married and the other people not knowing...

men can be just as choosy and women and couples.. i know it is a radical concept..."

oh I'm as discerning as the next man, cheers for your reply and the explanation of how you get them

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I've never sent an initial message out, but before I had facepics on my profile I'd always attach one to my reply if I liked the look of a guy/couple - on occasion I've never heard anything back from them so I just assume I'm far too gorgeous for them rather than they think I'm a complete munter

I've also had one or two polite rejections when I've sent face pics to which I've responded with a "thanks for letting me know" type message...I've then employed a cyber expert to trace the cheeky sod via their IP address, wipe out their bank account, steal their identity and insert them onto Interpol and the FBI's most wanted list...the way I look at it, I'm keeping that cyber expert in Lamborghinis

I had a mail off a local guy coupla weeks ago which started off by saying I wasn't his type, but did I fancy car-sharing with him to go to clubs seeing as nearest is 2 hours away - I said no thanks as I prefer to go to clubs with people I play with then I'm sure of getting laid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've rejected a few, yes.

If you don't click, it'll be a rather boring meet..

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Yes lots... Then he blocks me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have said no thanks a few times. Usually because one of us doesn't like the look or we get a "like to message and not much more" vibe.

We had a meet where halfway through it was made pretty clear one of them was "taking one for the team" and it was not a nice experience so out of respect for ourselves and others we would not do that to someone else. Better to be honest and say no thanks.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had "no thank you" messages in response to messages I've sent to people on here, and I, too, have had messages ignored and deleted.

I've also been told there was no chemistry after social meets, on a couple of occasions.

I've not taken any of them personally, I just wasn't what they were looking for, or it wasn't a good time for them, or whatever.

So yes, women who approach others on here do get turned down sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've rejected a few, yes.

If you don't click, it'll be a rather boring meet.."

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes we have had no thanks messages from single men or our mail read and deleted when we have approached them.

It's part and parcel of swinging, no one can appeal to all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i too have said no thanx,didn't get a nasty reply or any abuse! There gotta be some attraction whether physical or mentally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes, i think we all must at some point be propositioned by someone we aren't physically attracted to, and lets be honest we don't just jump into bed with anyone there has to be that spark.. So i have politely declined offers (and even once got abuse for it) its all part of the swinging game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get no thanks all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get no thanks all the time

I seriously doubt that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but always in a gentlemanly manner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

every one thats contacted me thus far

not something am proud of but u like what u like

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By *nteressanteMan
over a year ago

Manchester

*coughs* bullshit *coughs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've turned down plenty of women in the past, sometimes because there was no chemistry and others because the distance would have made meeting impractical - COUPLES however I've had to turn down constantly, and that doesn't even include the vast numbers of them who could only be bothered to wink or send friends invites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've turned down plenty of women in the past, sometimes because there was no chemistry and others because the distance would have made meeting impractical - COUPLES however I've had to turn down constantly, and that doesn't even include the vast numbers of them who could only be bothered to wink or send friends invites."

Wink wink

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

Yes, I have turned down women and couples before today. I have my preferences and know what turns me on and what doesnt. I dont have sex for the sake of it, I want to enjoy it as much as I can - for that, there needs to be both attraction and chemistry. If its not there, then I wont meet.

I always do it politely though, nothing offensive, no just blocking without saying anything, and if I am asked why, I am honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've turned down 2 who were quite a pain in the arse to chat to and talk lek dis 4 evri msgg.

If I wanted that I'd go Blackpool on a Friday night.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

yes... i have had people mail me after seeing me in clubs... or having seen me on the forums and my profile and ask if I have faniced meeting...

and i have said no... no pics, or not wanting to talk, or being married and the other people not knowing...

men can be just as choosy and women and couples.. i know it is a radical concept..."

I agree on this. Well said, sir!

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