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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so I know, there are a lot of swingers looking for that special someone.

Im not, however I am on a dating site, mostly the forums, however Ive been chatting with someone.

Now previously Ive used 'how would you feel about having to eat only 1 type of breakfast for the rest of your life.. I like variety so enjoy swinging' when explaining how Im not going to be looking at wedding dresses or any of the other pre wedding things. Within the near future. Shock horror I know...

At the same time, I want more than sex once a week and waking up with the entire bed to myself every morning, and yes maybe even someone to, just now and again, take the dustbin out or do the weekly shop...

So how have you/ explained your self justification for swinging to nilla's?

Or do you just keep stum?

Or do you only consider dating other swingers?

sorry if it's been done to death but it's not a rant/moan (I think)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i swing cos i a single male dont expect an emotionan comitment but like friendship and i respect whoever i meet

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I have kept quiet about it.... until I feel its the right time to say to them that actually I like more than one willy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to meet someone for more than just sex. I think that's only natural. However I really enjoy the openmindedness of swingers and the lifestyle so would ideally love a potential partner to be a swinger or at least be perceptive to it. A lot of girls I meet my own age or a touch younger out of the lifestyle run a mile when I bring it up.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

variety, but as part of a couple we enjoy the social side too, espescially if we get a play at the end too,its agood way of meeting like minded people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have kept quiet about it.... until I feel its the right time to say to them that actually I like more than one willy...

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hey babe nothing wrong with wanting more than one cock at a time make sure they know ot to do with them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my last partner of 2 yrs i met off fab ,aotho we were togther 2 yrs we only saw each other once a week due to distance ,kids etc...im also on a "vanilla" dating site ...ideally id love to meet someone that was as open minded as me and maybe use swinging just as an extra thrill in our already amazing relationship....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like to make friends with who i meet i just as happy with a social meet as a meet for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my last partner of 2 yrs i met off fab ,aotho we were togther 2 yrs we only saw each other once a week due to distance ,kids etc...im also on a "vanilla" dating site ...ideally id love to meet someone that was as open minded as me and maybe use swinging just as an extra thrill in our already amazing relationship....

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this lady is so right sex is one thing for thrills making love is a totaly diferant thing two people can be in love and make love but can also enjoy sex with other people together thats mot love but fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this lady is so right sex is one thing for thrills making love is a totaly diferant thing two people can be in love and make love but can also enjoy sex with other people together thats mot love but fun"

one of the reasons we ended our relationship was bcos he treat it more like a fab relationship than a "normal" relationship ...in all the 2 yrs we prob made love 4 times...the rest was sex and ididnt like that ...the relationship shud have come first not fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swingers should settle with swingers. Means you have your cake and eat it at the same time

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I came out of a longish term relationship a few months ago and we slipped into a kind of 'relationship-lite' mode. It was a bit more than NSA but not a full on commitment. Sadly that ended - going from a full relationship to that was too much for the lady in question.

I would really like to find someone like that again to be honest. To spend a few fun evenings together and the odd weekend. Even to get to know their vanilla friends or even family, probably as 'my friend'. Wouldn't need to be exclusive in my mind either.

A regular partner is so much more fulfilling sexually and emotionally, even if it is a 'lite' relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

before you wrote this i was just going to say was it a proper relationship or just sex one. Your free as a bird now at least

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

Swingers as partners works well when both parties are self confident and aware of their own worth ,which in turn does not get them feeling threatened of loosing that persons intimate bond through jealousy. It works well when their minds have a special bond and that neither of them OWN the right to use the others body. With that type of TRUST a swinging partner can truly enjoy watching their partner having sexperiences with other people and share the thrill together & enjoy not endure the experiences with a mutual respect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys,

just adding, no please do not message me inviting me on a date, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks guys,

just adding, no please do not message me inviting me on a date, thanks "

och!!!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Thanks guys,

just adding, no please do not message me inviting me on a date, thanks "

So how fo you fancy... oh ... er ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Invictus, you keep sticking that ass at me, I might have to spank it lol

*blowing kiss smiley*

cough

so basically it's a 'just date swingers' at the moment...

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Invictus, you keep sticking that ass at me, I might have to spank it lol

*blowing kiss smiley*

cough

so basically it's a 'just date swingers' at the moment... "

For me it is. I joined a vanilla dating site a few weeks back and quickly realised it wasn't really for me. Too many flakes and, to be brutally honest, bloody boring women on there.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Invictus, you keep sticking that ass at me, I might have to spank it lol

*blowing kiss smiley*

cough

so basically it's a 'just date swingers' at the moment...

For me it is. I joined a vanilla dating site a few weeks back and quickly realised it wasn't really for me. Too many flakes and, to be brutally honest, bloody boring women on there. "

Ermmmmm so are me and kinky boring??

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I came out of a longish term relationship a few months ago and we slipped into a kind of 'relationship-lite' mode. It was a bit more than NSA but not a full on commitment. Sadly that ended - going from a full relationship to that was too much for the lady in question.

A regular partner is so much more fulfilling sexually and emotionally, even if it is a 'lite' relationship. "

I've been single now for so long, I can't remember what a proper relationship is like!

What you have described seems ideal to me, time together and time apart without having to justify it, unless I've been on my own for too long now that it's just never going to happen.....

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Invictus, you keep sticking that ass at me, I might have to spank it lol

*blowing kiss smiley*

cough

so basically it's a 'just date swingers' at the moment...

For me it is. I joined a vanilla dating site a few weeks back and quickly realised it wasn't really for me. Too many flakes and, to be brutally honest, bloody boring women on there.

Ermmmmm so are me and kinky boring??

You found me then

Not at all, I've known Kinky a few years now. Didn't know you were on there

The ones I mean go something like this 'don't really know what to put, I'm a bit boring really, I like staying in and watching dvd with a nice bottle of wine... message me if you like, I won't bite, unless you ask me too lol'

FACEPALM!!!!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

me and kinky boring??

You found me then

Not at all, I've known Kinky a few years now. Didn't know you were on there

FACEPALM!!!!

Ahhhh they bite on dating sites as well do they??

Do they do exactly what it says on the tin as well?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Invictus, you keep sticking that ass at me, I might have to spank it lol

*blowing kiss smiley*

cough

so basically it's a 'just date swingers' at the moment...

For me it is. I joined a vanilla dating site a few weeks back and quickly realised it wasn't really for me. Too many flakes and, to be brutally honest, bloody boring women on there.

Ermmmmm so are me and kinky boring??

ahhh, that's why. You're out my catchment zone for dating. I'll drive that far for a shag though... er... that's a bit shallow isn't it?

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"Ok so I know, there are a lot of swingers looking for that special someone.

Im not, however I am on a dating site, mostly the forums, however Ive been chatting with someone.

So how have you/ explained your self justification for swinging to nilla's?

Or do you just keep stum?

Or do you only consider dating other swingers?

sorry if it's been done to death but it's not a rant/moan (I think)

Haven't you heard? You can get those remote controlled wheelie bins, nowadays!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

See Im keeping my toes in the water, because Ive taken breaks from swinging before and had dates and well had dates from hell.

Telling someone you may possibly like, you enjoy swinging .... well 1 its not easy. I found I was either taken for 'easy' or I became unsuitable as I 'obviously cant stay faithfull'

Neither is true and when I then have to go on and say I like women too, cue the awkward silence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I met someone in a pub or just out and about in general I would keep quiet about the swinging part of my life. I don't think anyone who is not into would understand and I guess there would also be emotions involved so I think that would be a leathel combination.

I would like to meet up with someone who had the same outlook on things as myself and that is not a one off thing but someone I could share the the swinging life style with as well as quality one on one time.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I have to say I have met someone on here... who I enjoy their company and we get on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you mean to say ....this isnt a dating site ......bugger pmsl haha.

been single too long to think bout anything lol

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

If I did find a vanilla partner I would simply stop swinging. It's what I did with my last girlfriend. I even hid my account and kept off Fab while we were together.

If I dated a fellow swinger it would be very different. I wouldn't want loads of other meets but I'd still play and maybe start a couples profile with them.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I have to say I have met someone on here... who I enjoy their company and we get on....

Good for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to say I have met someone on here... who I enjoy their company and we get on....

That's perfect

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I have to say I have met someone on here... who I enjoy their company and we get on....

Good for you

Yes but I know what it is so tend to not get too many feelings it is what it is...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to say I have met someone on here... who I enjoy their company and we get on....

Good for you

Yes but I know what it is so tend to not get too many feelings it is what it is...

Maybe when or if the time is right for you both you can move away from swinging. good luck to you both

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I have to say I have met someone on here... who I enjoy their company and we get on....

Good for you

Yes but I know what it is so tend to not get too many feelings it is what it is...

Maybe when or if the time is right for you both you can move away from swinging. good luck to you both

I doubt it... but hey I am enjoying the attention...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ideally I'd like somethong in between. Some swinger types (not all!) are totally NSA and treat people like objects, just another fuck.

Some vanillas on dating sites are just too darn polite and uptight. You so much as mention sex and they think you're a raving tart!!

I've never told a vanilla about me being on here as they just wouldn't understand. They seem to think anything other than missionary position is perverted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to say I have met someone on here... who I enjoy their company and we get on....

Good for you

Yes but I know what it is so tend to not get too many feelings it is what it is...

Maybe when or if the time is right for you both you can move away from swinging. good luck to you both

I doubt it... but hey I am enjoying the attention...

Good for you and so you should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just cant be bothered with relationships anymore. all mine have been bad so i dont want it anymore. ill do my own weekly shop and bins for a quiet life. while i do envy the sex on tap of couples, im happy having friends with benefits which swinging allows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol and the usual response is ??

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By *Brinksy xxWoman
over a year ago

Halesowen

I have a few responses to this being on a dating site too..

in general on a dating site, men want to fuck a slut not date one..

and also, at which point when you start dating and if it gets a bit more serious do you tell a guy about your "other" activities? surely hiding it and not telling them isn't a good base to start a relationship...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on a well know dating site and its the same guys around this way on here too lol makes me chuckle. I would live a relationship but have to agree I need a little more than some guys on dating sites can offer.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

I met my hubby on a vanilla dating site. 2 Weeks after meeting I told him I enjoyed 3sums and was bi, i expected him to run, he didnt, he rubbed his hands together and said brilliant. We tried swinging as a couple but it just didnt work, so now i have a profile to myself just looking for a fem friend. He totally respects this and has no problem. Sometimes you just have to wait and meet the right person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A regular partner is so much more fulfilling sexually and emotionally, even if it is a 'lite' relationship.

I've been single now for so long, I can't remember what a proper relationship is like!

What you have described seems ideal to me, time together and time apart without having to justify it, unless I've been on my own for too long now that it's just never going to happen.....

I`m the same, I`ve been on my own about 10 years and was celibate for about 9 of them, I would love to meet someone special, but in all honesty, I really don`t want anyone living with me, just someone I can see when my daughter is at her dads, maybe go out to dinner, have some fun and explore/push my boundaries with. I realise finding someone on here who wants the same is neigh on impossible, but I`ll give it a go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to say I have met someone on here... who I enjoy their company and we get on....

Me too and feels good... Some interesting conversations to be had...

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Thanks guys,

just adding, no please do not message me inviting me on a date, thanks "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My single life has now become my swinging life. I think if I didn't have swinging I wouldn't be able to have stayed single for so long. That being said I wouldn't give up swinging for anyone, therefore if I settle with someone it'd have to be a swinger.

I like Invictus' relationship-lite idea, I couldn't have a full blown relationship at the moment, I don't have time or patience if I'm honest, but someone to do vanilla stuff with and swing with would be lovely without the hassle that a full on relationship brings.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Interesting thread. We need more like this on the forums.

I can't think of any more of an ideal situation than the 'relationship-lite' one for me at present. You have seperate lives but meet each week for both intimate times and companionship. You have days out and time together but nothing too heavy. It would be a way to enjoy that intimacy only regular lovers get and even, dare I say, introduce a little romance to the relationship.

Feelings would have to be kept in check but I don't see why it couldn't work if both parties enter into it knowing the score.

Seems a few folk on here feel the same way too. Maybe we need a Fab dating agency as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting thread. We need more like this on the forums.

Feelings would have to be kept in check but I don't see why it couldn't work if both parties enter into it knowing the score.

Seems a few folk on here feel the same way too. Maybe we need a Fab dating agency as well

Yes please! It's exactly the kind of thing I'm looking for. The perfect 'in between' situation. In between vanilla dating and NSA swinging. I don't think it exists.... yet. You invented it... And we want it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting thread. We need more like this on the forums.

Feelings would have to be kept in check but I don't see why it couldn't work if both parties enter into it knowing the score.

Seems a few folk on here feel the same way too. Maybe we need a Fab dating agency as well

I think it would help with the loneliness that long term single life brings whilst allowing for independence to remain. I for one would enjoy such a situation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

when i chat with people in clubs I often find they have a f buddy to sort out their 'itch' but i believe 'companionship' is more than 'just sort my itch out'.

Relationship lite is good; so _nvictus, when will the new site be up and running?

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Ive been on a few vanilla sites and yes some of the women are boring. But most arnt...... Ive fucked more off them than off here..... Most women dont know what they want I suppose men too......

Ive met a few off here and theyve said they just want me for now...... Same as me maybe...... I love being in a relationship but theres still that desire to meet others for excitement..... Im confuddled tbh......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive been on a few vanilla sites and yes some of the women are boring. But most arnt...... Ive fucked more off them than off here..... "

Had the same experience. The thing that strikes me about why it was so much easier to meet and fuck women of what are supposedly Vanilla sites is that - sweeping generalisation warning! - the women on them would be aghast at being classified as a 'swinger' for two reasons - they don't really know what swinging is, and/or they are in denial about the reality of their own sex lives.

But in answer to the OP's original point, I had what you might call a 'Relationship-Lite' with someone before Perky (to me it was just FWB) and all was well until... she declared she had 'feelings' for me.....

and that was the end of it... Very, very difficult to have a relationship like that for any period of time, I think. It has to go one way or the other - forwards, or nowhere. It can't stay 'somewhere in the middle'..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was with my ex for 2half years I got him in to swinging we was together all the time n this was meant to be something fun we did on side but it got to be all he wanted to do in the end, I was the only one having sex he just liked to watch.

No I'm single have stepped back from all this but would date some1off here or that was a swinger as its something I enjoy sharing with partner,but want to be seen as more than sex

Who knows keeping open mind

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"when i chat with people in clubs I often find they have a f buddy to sort out their 'itch' but i believe 'companionship' is more than 'just sort my itch out'.

Relationship lite is good; so _nvictus, when will the new site be up and running?

Mmmmmm... I can feel a thread comming on here

Isn't it odd that so many swingers and, it seems, vanilla daters want the same thing now? All us 30 to 40 somethings who are jaded with relationships but still want something?

Very interesting...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

all us 30s - 40s somethings

come on join me on the step lol

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By *Brinksy xxWoman
over a year ago

Halesowen

"all us 30s - 40s somethings

come on join me on the step lol

I'm there with you waiting patiently ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ooh ooh have i pulled?

hang on, are we sharing the guys, dividing the worthy between us are just having a girly thing?

;-) ps this is 1 big step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well unless ur prepared to give up swinging for one guy, then u need to be open and honest about it from the start

if u r gonna give it all up no need to say anything cos the subject of previous partners between a couple isnt necessary

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

joined a well known dating site earlier this year and within a week had messages from 9 guys who messaged me on there after recognising my face pics from fab ...arghhhh lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"when i chat with people in clubs I often find they have a f buddy to sort out their 'itch' but i believe 'companionship' is more than 'just sort my itch out'.

Relationship lite is good; so _nvictus, when will the new site be up and running?

Mmmmmm... I can feel a thread comming on here

Isn't it odd that so many swingers and, it seems, vanilla daters want the same thing now? All us 30 to 40 somethings who are jaded with relationships but still want something?

Very interesting... "

I'm jaded with relationships at 26, what does that make me? Old before my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"when i chat with people in clubs I often find they have a f buddy to sort out their 'itch' but i believe 'companionship' is more than 'just sort my itch out'.

Relationship lite is good; so _nvictus, when will the new site be up and running?

Mmmmmm... I can feel a thread comming on here

Isn't it odd that so many swingers and, it seems, vanilla daters want the same thing now? All us 30 to 40 somethings who are jaded with relationships but still want something?

Very interesting...

I'm jaded with relationships at 26, what does that make me? Old before my time. "

Not old. Just realistic. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"when i chat with people in clubs I often find they have a f buddy to sort out their 'itch' but i believe 'companionship' is more than 'just sort my itch out'.

Relationship lite is good; so _nvictus, when will the new site be up and running?

Mmmmmm... I can feel a thread comming on here

Isn't it odd that so many swingers and, it seems, vanilla daters want the same thing now? All us 30 to 40 somethings who are jaded with relationships but still want something?

Very interesting...

I'm jaded with relationships at 26, what does that make me? Old before my time.

Not old. Just realistic. X"

I think that's a better description. its a sorry state of affairs but I fear its to do with past relationships and their failure.

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By *Brinksy xxWoman
over a year ago

Halesowen

"ooh ooh have i pulled?

hang on, are we sharing the guys, dividing the worthy between us are just having a girly thing?

;-) ps this is 1 big step

I think we can share the guys when they decide to sit on the step with us...

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"ooh ooh have i pulled?

hang on, are we sharing the guys, dividing the worthy between us are just having a girly thing?

;-) ps this is 1 big step

I think we can share the guys when they decide to sit on the step with us...

*quietly sits on step* hello ladies, if I may sat so you're both looking very beautiful today

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Dating is hard work haha.... I have had so many bad dates...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of the last 3 vanilla dating site meets I had, 2 were absolute nut jobs who couldn't have a conversation and wanted one thing (to suck my face off!!) and the other I ended up having to report to the police and get a harassment order out on.

This is why I don't do vanilla dating and this is why I am totally against vanilla dating. That being said I'm not totally against a relationship, I'm just incredibly wary about them. In fact it would be fair to say in the 20 months I've been single I've not missed a relationship except for having cuddles, which I have to admit I really miss especially when its really cold like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dating is hard work haha.... I have had so many bad dates...

This could be good! What's your worst date so far???

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Dating is hard work haha.... I have had so many bad dates...

This could be good! What's your worst date so far??? "

Ermmmmmmmmmmmmmm ohhh god... Went on a date with a guy that just spoke about his ex, went on one where he was 10 yrs older than his pic... I met my dream man a while back but I messed that up... I was gutted.. I have just had dates where I wanted to get out of there after 5 mins...

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Dating is hard work haha.... I have had so many bad dates...

This could be good! What's your worst date so far??? "

I have a couple of them buried under the floorboards...

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over a year ago

"I'd like to meet someone for more than just sex. I think that's only natural. However I really enjoy the openmindedness of swingers and the lifestyle so would ideally love a potential partner to be a swinger or at least be perceptive to it. A lot of girls I meet my own age or a touch younger out of the lifestyle run a mile when I bring it up.

Xxx"

This could be me in a nutshell! Apart from I'd really prefer a bloke for that traditional feeling, bu not adverse to a filly

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im lucky to have the best of both worlds a wonderful boyfriend but we have no intention of living together. Its all quality time. Bliss. I dont want to live with anyone again so if god forbid anything happened between us i wouldnt get into another relationship. We understand each other and our wants and needs

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over a year ago

"Dating is hard work haha.... I have had so many bad dates...

This could be good! What's your worst date so far??? "

I should say mine was a guy who talked at me for hours about football and the offside rule (I've watched football since I was 11 and am fairly knowledgeable) he then told me how much he missed having cuddles with his ex in bed because, like me, she was a bit on the cuddly side!!

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By *Brinksy xxWoman
over a year ago

Halesowen

"ooh ooh have i pulled?

hang on, are we sharing the guys, dividing the worthy between us are just having a girly thing?

;-) ps this is 1 big step

I think we can share the guys when they decide to sit on the step with us...

*quietly sits on step* hello ladies, if I may sat so you're both looking very beautiful today

Well hello there....

its ok you can put your hands on our legs, we don't mind ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow....I didn't realise there were so many of us looking for the same thing! Pity majority are south of the border. I have other commitments like kids and work like most people, but a relationship-lite sounds perfect. A little bit more than a fuck buddy, but less than a boyfriend. Sounds good to me! Fab had another site running that was supposedly for singles, but it was dead. Considering the amount of singles on here, you would think it would have been mobbed! Anyway....who wants a date! Date night rules....lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I actually got stopped by a traffic officer in Daybrook Notts, who checked my license and then asked for my phone number.

We went on 1 date.

It was horrid, he was so up himself, I had his life history, all his acts of 'bravery' the medals he should have been awarded, all the faults of his many ex's and then he had a right go at a d*unken bloke outside the resturant, and picked him literally off his feet.

WORST 3 hours hours ever

Then having filled his face with garlic whilst lecturing me, when we got to our cars; he tried not only to kiss me but pinned me up against my car and moved in for a feel,

He was literally on me like a rash and I could tell he had enjoyed himself.

I was pinned, I offered him a piece of gum and he threw the wrapper on the floor and told me 'to follow him to his for a really good date'

At which point, through the car window, I declined. Only to endure 3 days of texts and calls

Not so keen on uniforms anymore, but that isnt the worst date I've had.

The 'octopuss' from lcs in Sheffield but thats a different post

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over a year ago

"ooh ooh have i pulled?

hang on, are we sharing the guys, dividing the worthy between us are just having a girly thing?

;-) ps this is 1 big step

I think we can share the guys when they decide to sit on the step with us...

*quietly sits on step* hello ladies, if I may sat so you're both looking very beautiful today

Well hello there....

its ok you can put your hands on our legs, we don't mind ..."

'our legs' now now, I must have missed some of this conversation, might have to rethink the skirt

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I actually got stopped by a traffic officer in Daybrook Notts, who checked my license and then asked for my phone number.

We went on 1 date.

WORST 3 hours hours ever

Then having filled his face with garlic whilst lecturing me, when we got to our cars; he tried not only to kiss me but pinned me up against my car and moved in for a feel,

He was literally on me like a rash and I could tell he had enjoyed himself.

I was pinned, I offered him a piece of gum and he threw the wrapper on the floor and told me 'to follow him to his for a really good date'

At which point, through the car window, I declined. Only to endure 3 days of texts and calls

Not so keen on uniforms anymore, but that isnt the worst date I've had.

The 'octopuss' from lcs in Sheffield but thats a different post

I dated someone like that.. they had the same job role too... not the trafffic bit though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had the octopus snog one. This guy was from a well known vanilla site and he invited me for a brew at his. No probs I thought, safety first; I gave my bestie his address and agreed to check in with her.

I gets there and he lets me into the gates of his "apartment" complex. I use the inverted commas because it was a high rise council block. As I'm parking he's having a piss behind the communal bins (I shit you not) and when we get into his flat he leads me into his uncarpeted, floorboards only room where he proceeded to grope and suck my face off! I made my excuses about 45 minutes in and made like Usain Bolt in the opposite direction!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dipped my toes in a number of vanilla dating sites, never got as far as arranging a meet with anyone before I decided it is not for me.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"ooh ooh have i pulled?

hang on, are we sharing the guys, dividing the worthy between us are just having a girly thing?

;-) ps this is 1 big step

I think we can share the guys when they decide to sit on the step with us...

*quietly sits on step* hello ladies, if I may sat so you're both looking very beautiful today

Well hello there....

its ok you can put your hands on our legs, we don't mind ...

'our legs' now now, I must have missed some of this conversation, might have to rethink the skirt

I think I've missed some bits too

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Crickey, there are some horror stories there on the dating!

...I'm going to copyright 'Relationship-Lite' though so you'll have to pay me royalties if you find someone

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over a year ago

"Crickey, there are some horror stories there on the dating!

...I'm going to copyright 'Relationship-Lite' though so you'll have to pay me royalties if you find someone

My flatmate has the best story... First date the guy told her he'd love her to meet his mum!

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over a year ago

"Crickey, there are some horror stories there on the dating!

...I'm going to copyright 'Relationship-Lite' though so you'll have to pay me royalties if you find someone

Do I have to pay to use the term?

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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"Ideally I'd like somethong in between. Some swinger types (not all!) are totally NSA and treat people like objects, just another fuck.

Some vanillas on dating sites are just too darn polite and uptight. You so much as mention sex and they think you're a raving tart!!

I've never told a vanilla about me being on here as they just wouldn't understand. They seem to think anything other than missionary position is perverted.

What's missionary position??

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

"ooh ooh have i pulled?

hang on, are we sharing the guys, dividing the worthy between us are just having a girly thing?

;-) ps this is 1 big step

I think we can share the guys when they decide to sit on the step with us...

sitting on the step and twiddling my fingers mmmmmm sorry can't help twiddling

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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"Ive been on a few vanilla sites and yes some of the women are boring. But most arnt...... Ive fucked more off them than off here.....

Agreed. In theory this 'inbetween stuff' is perfect. Best of both worlds etc without the hassles and commitment of a relationship.

But in reality, it just doesn't last. I know, I've been there several times before!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Ive been on a few vanilla sites and yes some of the women are boring. But most arnt...... Ive fucked more off them than off here.....

Agreed. In theory this 'inbetween stuff' is perfect. Best of both worlds etc without the hassles and commitment of a relationship.

But in reality, it just doesn't last. I know, I've been there several times before! "

I had it for a couple of months with my last girlfriend when we split but still stayed on good terms ... finally ended because she gave up on it, fairly inevitable really from that background.

I still think it could certainly work with the right people, especially if both are from a swinging background.

Willing to try!

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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"Ive been on a few vanilla sites and yes some of the women are boring. But most arnt...... Ive fucked more off them than off here.....

Agreed. In theory this 'inbetween stuff' is perfect. Best of both worlds etc without the hassles and commitment of a relationship.

But in reality, it just doesn't last. I know, I've been there several times before!

I had it for a couple of months with my last girlfriend when we split but still stayed on good terms ... finally ended because she gave up on it, fairly inevitable really from that background.

I still think it could certainly work with the right people, especially if both are from a swinging background.

Willing to try!

To clarify.

No, it definitely does work with the right two individuals. But, it doesn't tend to last more than a few months or so. That's what I meant.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Ive been on a few vanilla sites and yes some of the women are boring. But most arnt...... Ive fucked more off them than off here.....

Agreed. In theory this 'inbetween stuff' is perfect. Best of both worlds etc without the hassles and commitment of a relationship.

But in reality, it just doesn't last. I know, I've been there several times before!

I had it for a couple of months with my last girlfriend when we split but still stayed on good terms ... finally ended because she gave up on it, fairly inevitable really from that background.

I still think it could certainly work with the right people, especially if both are from a swinging background.

Willing to try!

To clarify.

No, it definitely does work with the right two individuals. But, it doesn't tend to last more than a few months or so. That's what I meant.

No worries, got that

I guess like anything it's about the right people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've dated vanillas and swingers. Who's worse I'm not sure. The vanilla thought he had the right to use an ex's credit card. How do I know that. I was with him when she caught up with him. Very embarrassing I can tell you. The swinger found it hard to tell the truth.

Relationship lite does sound the way to go.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I've dated vanillas and swingers. Who's worse I'm not sure. The vanilla thought he had the right to use an ex's credit card. How do I know that. I was with him when she caught up with him. Very embarrassing I can tell you. The swinger found it hard to tell the truth.

Relationship lite does sound the way to go. "

I intend to start interviews at the earliest opportunity

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Invictus, who let you off the step??

You'd best be quick viccieboy (that's such a camp name btw) because Gem just made me realise that come spring, my happy single self will be back with determination

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Invictus, who let you off the step??

You'd best be quick viccieboy (that's such a camp name btw) because Gem just made me realise that come spring, my happy single self will be back with determination

Fancy a drink sometime?

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By *Brinksy xxWoman
over a year ago

Halesowen

This step is getting a bit cold! brrrr

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over a year ago

"This step is getting a bit cold! brrrr"

Can I sit on the step in the hope of a potential relationship-lite? I'm liking the idea more and more!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"This step is getting a bit cold! brrrr

Can I sit on the step in the hope of a potential relationship-lite? I'm liking the idea more and more!"

I'm going to give it a bit more thought and maybe start another thread in the Introductions bit, those who want to place a 'relationship-lite dating ad' could post something there.

How's that idea? It will increase your inbox nutter responces though ladies, that's one drawback.

Now it's Thursday am I allowed off the step? Only I have something on later I'm very much looking forward too. Thanks for letting me fondle your knees

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By *Brinksy xxWoman
over a year ago

Halesowen

"This step is getting a bit cold! brrrr

Can I sit on the step in the hope of a potential relationship-lite? I'm liking the idea more and more!

I'm going to give it a bit more thought and maybe start another thread in the Introductions bit, those who want to place a 'relationship-lite dating ad' could post something there.

How's that idea? It will increase your inbox nutter responces though ladies, that's one drawback.

Now it's Thursday am I allowed off the step? Only I have something on later I'm very much looking forward too. Thanks for letting me fondle your knees

Ok you can get off the step *sigh*

Typical... 3 ladies on the step and no men!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my business what i do.

as a single i answer to no one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry ladies, i kinda have to be somewhere soon so Im erm off the step too. Don't worry Im sure I'll be sent back soon

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over a year ago

"Sorry ladies, i kinda have to be somewhere soon so Im erm off the step too. Don't worry Im sure I'll be sent back soon "

And then there were 2!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Sorry ladies, i kinda have to be somewhere soon so Im erm off the step too. Don't worry Im sure I'll be sent back soon

And then there were 2!

Has she gone?

Bugger...

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over a year ago

"Sorry ladies, i kinda have to be somewhere soon so Im erm off the step too. Don't worry Im sure I'll be sent back soon

And then there were 2!

Has she gone?

Bugger...

Yeah sorry you're stuck with the two of us for a bit.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Hi I'm back

...you two still here? Erm, are your knees cold again?

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over a year ago

"Hi I'm back

...you two still here? Erm, are your knees cold again?

I'm frozen over... all over! My knees are definitely cold

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im back toooooo :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im back toooooo :P"

Yay

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Im back toooooo :P

Yay"

I brought a flask this time and some bicuits too.

My hands are still warm...

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over a year ago

"Im back toooooo :P

Yay

I brought a flask this time and some bicuits too.

My hands are still warm...

Oohh what biscuits!! I'm a sucker for a man with biccies

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over a year ago

"Im back toooooo :P

Yay

I brought a flask this time and some bicuits too.

My hands are still warm...

Oohh what biscuits!! I'm a sucker for a man with biccies "

You'll be waiting a while hun, I've been asking for a coffee from Viccie for hours

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over a year ago

"Im back toooooo :P

Yay

I brought a flask this time and some bicuits too.

My hands are still warm...

Oohh what biscuits!! I'm a sucker for a man with biccies

You'll be waiting a while hun, I've been asking for a coffee from Viccie for hours

OI Viccie. I am not sitting here on this step freezing my boobs off if I don't get a biscuit.

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