FabSwingers.com forum: What League are you in?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".

Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

No I don't ever think that.

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By *awkeye_30Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".

Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?"

All the time buddy!! Even add them to my hotlist thinking some day I'll message them.....who am I fooling haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly yes. Realistically I know that I shouldn’t and should just go for it but something always holds me back

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By *ust Passing ThroughMan
over a year ago

poole

Non league lol

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

No one is out of anyone's league.

We all have different preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I fancy someone I message.

What's the worst that could happen? They delete or say no thanks? Next.

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

Yup. I very rarely send messages anyway, but there is a certain profile who is on my hotlist & well well well out of my league.

I won’t be firing my shot

Mrs

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

We rarely message anyone to be honest but even if we do, it’s usually just a simple compliment with no expectation for anything back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time. Suppose I underestimate my self. Never had any complaints

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"No one is out of anyone's league.

We all have different preferences

Exactly this. I might be bottom of the lowest amateur league on looks, charm, charisma, body, cock, stamina, and basic human decency, but top of the Premier League on...some category I've yet to think of.

(I'm not bottom on all those, as it happens. My bum is at least Isthmian First Division.)

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

No ones league apparantly cus every one thinks there better than me when they aint

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"If I fancy someone I message.

What's the worst that could happen? They delete or say no thanks? Next. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When this happens I normally hotlist them and wait for a day when I’m feeling fabulous

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By *ust Passing ThroughMan
over a year ago

poole

It's all about self confidence. Everyone is attractive

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yes I think I’m not in the same league as some people that message me, or whose profiles I view.

There’s some dry handsome guys out there.

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"No ones league apparantly cus every one thinks there better than me when they aint "

The whole entire site has said it to many fakes on here plus i have better ego than most dont judge on looks like some do maybe not the best looking but have a nice personality but yet to much ask for to meet some one genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always admired gym fit then would never be brave enough to message. My version of a gym is jims cafe. There is an inch of me that doesn't wobble lol

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"It's all about self confidence. Everyone is attractive "

Tell that to blockers who blocn for no reason i just get called ugly and never gonna get a chance on here to many fakes

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By *ames_SoloMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm in the league...

"Can't get a reply no matter how brief and to the point you write a message and attach a face pic"

: )

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"Yup. I very rarely send messages anyway, but there is a certain profile who is on my hotlist & well well well out of my league.

I won’t be firing my shot

Mrs

Lucky u im on no oned as to ugly for anybody so giving up on here to many judgemental people

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By *orkswatcherMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Definitely people way out of my league. And even those that I think are not, they have different ideas

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"I'm in the league...

"Can't get a reply no matter how brief and to the point you write a message and attach a face pic"

: )"

Even with a face pic still get ignored and blocked doesnt work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say I was non league but they have played and beaten premier league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have days when I’m feeling pretty confident others when I’m not. So I guess sone days I’m thinking some guy is out of my league another day I’ll be thinking yeah that’s just what I like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell no.

I just put it down to ...not being compatible.

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"I have days when I’m feeling pretty confident others when I’m not. So I guess sone days I’m thinking some guy is out of my league another day I’ll be thinking yeah that’s just what I like "

How can u be confident spending to much time on ur own and to many idiots blocking u for no reason

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By *hatCoupleNextDoorCouple
over a year ago

nearby

Ya unfortunately we do think that at times, silly really!

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

No one is ever out of my league and if you don’t send a message, you never know right. But that doesn’t mean I like everybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have days when I’m feeling pretty confident others when I’m not. So I guess sone days I’m thinking some guy is out of my league another day I’ll be thinking yeah that’s just what I like

How can u be confident spending to much time on ur own and to many idiots blocking u for no reason "

Based on your status you’ll get blocked often wtf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dog and Duck Sunday Reserves ..

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By *arried BifemWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the midlands

Never, as everyone has their own tastes and I might be exactly what they are looking for.

With the boot on the other foot, if someone messages, first thing I do is evaluate if they’ve read my bio or just block and delete if they haven’t without even looking at pictures

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"Never, as everyone has their own tastes and I might be exactly what they are looking for.

With the boot on the other foot, if someone messages, first thing I do is evaluate if they’ve read my bio or just block and delete if they haven’t without even looking at pictures"

Lucky to even get 1 message tbh

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"I have days when I’m feeling pretty confident others when I’m not. So I guess sone days I’m thinking some guy is out of my league another day I’ll be thinking yeah that’s just what I like

How can u be confident spending to much time on ur own and to many idiots blocking u for no reason

Based on your status you’ll get blocked often wtf "

What happens when people tell u ur ugly and no one liked u even with out having a status still get blockrd by idiots

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By *wabathMan
over a year ago

Bath

I’ve lost all body confidence, various scars from cancer ops and put on a couple of stone since treatment (steroids) so lower league for me

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By *arcosaMan
over a year ago

London

Seems to me like 99% are out of my league here, not by my estimation, but by theirs. I simply console myself by knowing I'm in a league of my own.

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"No one is ever out of my league and if you don’t send a message, you never know right. But that doesn’t mean I like everybody.

Sent nice messages and just get blocked cus not good enough

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"Seems to me like 99% are out of my league here, not by my estimation, but by theirs. I simply console myself by knowing I'm in a league of my own."

Welcome to the world of people who think there better than u lol

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By *vasexperimentWoman
over a year ago

huddersfield

"I have days when I’m feeling pretty confident others when I’m not. So I guess sone days I’m thinking some guy is out of my league another day I’ll be thinking yeah that’s just what I like

How can u be confident spending to much time on ur own and to many idiots blocking u for no reason

Based on your status you’ll get blocked often wtf "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never know if you will get a reply without trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely

It’s pretty obvious to me when women are out of my league and I find it better to just leave them alone

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Nobody is out of anyone's league. You're either attracted to one another or you're not

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By *arcosaMan
over a year ago

London

"You never know if you will get a reply without trying "

I have tried. It's a red letter day if I receive a polite refusal. I don't even get that normally.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

All the time

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Oh yeah, I generally don’t bother messaging some people who I think I would have no chance with, I just enjoy their pics instead.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

No such thing as leagues...

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By *arcosaMan
over a year ago

London

"Nobody is out of anyone's league. You're either attracted to one another or you're not"

I don't think that's true. I think there's a hierarchy here. I think it's largely matriarchal. I don't think shit happens without their approval. All the real business happens in the clubs and socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone help can’t decide what league I’m meant to be in..

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"Nobody is out of anyone's league. You're either attracted to one another or you're not

Everybody should be given a chance no matter how they look its people havent grown up from school and still judging

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By *ust Passing ThroughMan
over a year ago

poole

I'm in a league of my own

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"No such thing as leagues... "

Well there is on here

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By *egvisir71Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Never. I was always taught to aim high and take disappointment on the chin

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By *arcosaMan
over a year ago

London

"No such thing as leagues...

Well there is on here "

F U if you're a married man.

F U if you're a single man.

F U if you're a bi-sexual man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t refer to it as league but surely people should be realistic to avoid potential disappointment?

If your normal attire is a dirty pair of joggers and you rarely shave or wash your hair should you be expecting much success with the lady wearing a channel club dress?

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I sometimes think like that and close the profile if they've got loads of verifications from muscley guys! But that's more about knowing when someone won't be into me, rather than just assuming she's better than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t refer to it as league but surely people should be realistic to avoid potential disappointment?

If your normal attire is a dirty pair of joggers and you rarely shave or wash your hair should you be expecting much success with the lady wearing a channel club dress?

Can’t always be judged on appearance, some men could be dressed like a million £ but in terms of their physical attraction the could be lacking.. men with big chisled muscles will have more success than Dave the friendly receptionist who doesn’t put in as much effort into him self.. that’s where people become categorised, ladies like effort in a man, invest time into your self and it’ll pay off. You might not be the most attractive guy but atleast you’ll have some muscle behind ya

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I know my place...

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By *ontrosebicoupMan
over a year ago

MONTROSE

They can only say no just go for it

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".

Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?"

Does that say something about the other person, or about your own self-confidence/ self-esteem?

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By *lhr1061Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire

"I always admired gym fit then would never be brave enough to message. My version of a gym is jims cafe. There is an inch of me that doesn't wobble lol"

But I bet it wobbles beautifully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s all about chemistry for us. We are happy to message people we think may be “our kind of people” but understand we may not be their kind of people and that’s fine.

You’ve got to cross the white line to get in the game though ….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with being pragmatic. I wouldn't message someone who I thought was out of my league.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

No.. There are no leagues... If you fancy someone why make their mind up for them? They might actually fancy the arse off of you but unless you ask, you won't know... A no isn't a big deal so ya might aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing wrong with being pragmatic. I wouldn't message someone who I thought was out of my league."

I’ll take it as a compliment since you haven’t message me yet lol

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".

Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?

Does that say something about the other person, or about your own self-confidence/ self-esteem?"

How can u get self confidencr if u put a pic up and no one likes u and just blocks u cus of the wsy u look then ur never gonna be happy in ur self or like ur self if no one else likes u or gives u a chance

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"No one is ever out of my league and if you don’t send a message, you never know right. But that doesn’t mean I like everybody.

Bet u wouldnt date a uglier person Than u with a low ego who looks worse than shrek so doubt thats a lie lol

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"Nothing wrong with being pragmatic. I wouldn't message someone who I thought was out of my league.

I’ll take it as a compliment since you haven’t message me yet lol"

Whats a compliment lol

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".

Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?

Does that say something about the other person, or about your own self-confidence/ self-esteem?

Why would you just assume that's the only reason nobody is interested?

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

"No.. There are no leagues... If you fancy someone why make their mind up for them? They might actually fancy the arse off of you but unless you ask, you won't know... A no isn't a big deal so ya might aswell "

I’m going to copy this & read it whenever I’m unsure of myself. You’re bloody right!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m going to copy this & read it whenever I’m unsure of myself. You’re bloody right!!!"

I agree, gave me the kick up the arse I needed

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".

Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?

Does that say something about the other person, or about your own self-confidence/ self-esteem?

Why would you just assume that's the only reason nobody is interested? "

Well ur never gonna get confidence then lol

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I’m going to copy this & read it whenever I’m unsure of myself. You’re bloody right!!!"

My life would be very different if I had come to this conclusion earlier... And definitely very different if I hadn't

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Please stick to the forums please, guys

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".

Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?

Does that say something about the other person, or about your own self-confidence/ self-esteem?

Why would you just assume that's the only reason nobody is interested?

Well ur never gonna get confidence then lol "

You can only help yourself with that, I'm afraid

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"I'm in a league of my own "

Same as me and nobody else is allowed in!

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Sometimes I think that.

But I might say hi anyway.

V x

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".

Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?

Does that say something about the other person, or about your own self-confidence/ self-esteem?

Why would you just assume that's the only reason nobody is interested?

Well ur never gonna get confidence then lol

You can only help yourself with that, I'm afraid "

Well never gonna get any where then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve slays been very insecure about my body and looks x

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By *abfipsMan
over a year ago

chester

National league North lol

However I'm not up myself either.

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By *KG12Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Whe I've had a drink I think I'm champions league and will talk and flirt with all. When I've not, I'd say league 1 and looking to punch to championship

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".

Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?"

Leagues do not register in my neurodivergent brain. I look for something to connect to more than their body....but I'm a weird woman. I'm kind of a bohemian in lifestyle so I float around all types.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and my own view is men view women very differently to how women view other women (and themselves). Men probably see other men differently to how women see them.

So, no in answer to OP.

I also know that I’m not for everyone. No one is, no matter how hot they may think they are.

TLT

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

Pretty much everyone is definitely out of my league for sure. Doesn't stop me trying though as you never know who may find you attractive!!

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By *egvisir71Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"I’ve slays been very insecure about my body and looks x"

You shouldn’t be from your pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely, I feel there are people out of my league and there's no chance they would have sex with me and while I mostly admire from afar, I have messaged them to say I like their pics and had some really nice responses and conversations off the back of it. Unlikely they would end in a meet but nice to know we can be equal on a human level

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Champions League

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It should make it a challenge if you think you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend not to message if we feel like they are out of our league. We also look at people’s verifications and if they aren’t meeting with people with similar body types/look as us we just move on. No shame in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was supposed to say we not they

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"I’ve slays been very insecure about my body and looks x

You shouldn’t be from your pics

Unfortunately it has nothing to do with how others see you but how you see yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve slays been very insecure about my body and looks x

You shouldn’t be from your pics

Ty x

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By *egvisir71Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"I’ve slays been very insecure about my body and looks x

You shouldn’t be from your pics

Unfortunately it has nothing to do with how others see you but how you see yourself "

Absolutely but no harm in paying a compliment where it’s due

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We aren't all the same level of attractiveness. Not everyone is physically beautiful and that matters to most people on the site. It's a pretty superficial place. So yes, I think there are leagues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve slays been very insecure about my body and looks x

You shouldn’t be from your pics

Unfortunately it has nothing to do with how others see you but how you see yourself "

So true. And outside influences x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time. I mainly don’t even reply to messages because of this

I know I shouldn’t think like this but I still do..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I want someone I'll definitely just be upfront about it

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By *egvisir71Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"I’ve slays been very insecure about my body and looks x

You shouldn’t be from your pics

Unfortunately it has nothing to do with how others see you but how you see yourself

So true. And outside influences x"

You’re beautiful and don’t ever forget that

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By *hiregirl76Woman
over a year ago

Scotland

Yeah i think that all the time. It's stopped me meeting a few times on my previous profile

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Unless they are Margot Robbie then we all in the same league

I find the whole league business is just to boost people's egos

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

My experience with this site has made me realise that _everyone_ thinks someone else is in a higher league and that often two people think each other are in “higher” leagues.

I don’t bother with that “league” stuff - just say hi and see where it goes.

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By *rKingsmanMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Even if I know they’re too good to be true I’ll try my luck as you never know! But I’d put myself in the average league I suppose

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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago

where the world takes me

The ratio of women to men on here means "leagues" are a reality for most men, and there's plenty of women i have on my hotlist who i'd never in my most d*unk and horny moments have the confidence to message.

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By *ulldog_71Man
over a year ago

Sedgefield

I quite often think people are out of my league but have learnt that its not about what league your in but personal taste.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I haven't thought about anyone out of my league since I was in my 20's. They either like me or don't.

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By *egvisir71Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"The ratio of women to men on here means "leagues" are a reality for most men, and there's plenty of women i have on my hotlist who i'd never in my most d*unk and horny moments have the confidence to message."

You might be surprised if you do.

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

More than I'd like to admit . I'm pish poor at constructing a first message. If I don't ask I don't get rejection. Granted I'll never get to know either way ....maybe I should just go for it and to hl with the league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".

Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?"

Plenty of times!!

And yeah it’s stopped me messaging many times. Even if they replied I think I’d be too nervous to meet them.

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

As a sporting analogy as opposed to using leagues, the old rugby club system prior to professionalism and leagues were introduced.

Where as you had first class and junior...those that were first class or deemed themselves first class only played amongst themselves..junior always played just themselves..

Occasionally first class clubs would invite junior clubs to play them..however should they lose they often were honoured bound to keep the fixture...

End of the day there is posh totty out there that does like a bit of rough...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve slays been very insecure about my body and looks x

You shouldn’t be from your pics

Unfortunately it has nothing to do with how others see you but how you see yourself

So true. And outside influences x

You’re beautiful and don’t ever forget that

That’s so kind xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This thread has been a bigger source if debate than I thought it would! Its been really intersection reading people's viewpoints and interactions.

I suppose the source of it did stem from my own insecurities. In my career, I have to come across ad confident and charming otherwise I never get the buy in I require from people. So I find it easy to continue portraying that in person. It seems much harder when doing it in text.

Thanks all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

End of the day there is posh totty out there that does like a bit of rough..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't know what league to put ourselves in. We do state on our profile, we're average looking. Whatever league we're in, we do like to think we're no better than most out there but do have preferences.

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

No, cos you simply don't know what that person likes until you speak to them.

Have self belief, reach high. What's the worst that can happen? - somebody you've never met blocks you.

Be brave,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do try just in case. Like Jean Paul Duce would say :

Sur un malentendu ça peut passer.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

It’s not a great turn of phrase but I know what the OP is saying. I think before approaching someone you look at a host of things, age preferences and what is in there bio, and of course looks come into it too. You have to be realistic and say has this lady or couple out enough information on there profile that suggests they definitely may be interested in me.

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By *elloWoman
over a year ago

alpha centauri

"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".

Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?"

Yep, this happens all the time, I see profiles with pictures of really hot men and women with great bodies and think 'nah what's the point' although if their photos are particularly well done I might send a message saying how much I liked the pictures, but I'd not continue chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".

Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?

Same here. I'm already at a disadvantage being one of many men who are likely messaging.

Clubs and in person are a different matter though. Much easier for personality to shine through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd probably still send the message, you never know..!

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By *adbod52Man
over a year ago

London

I might be Sunday morning reserve league, but I always turn up to play and give it my best.

Maybe I should bring the oranges for half time

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By *azza72Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Vanarama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t believe in leagues at all… we are all attracted to different things.

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By *678Man
over a year ago

Surrey

Grassroots local Sunday league.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Metaphorical leagues are absolutely real.

Take the punt anyway, though. Don't ask, don't get. I've had lovely experiences with people I thought wouldn't even acknowledge I exist.

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