FabSwingers.com forum: Women that say no to anything anal

By *aughtySexualArousal OP Man
over a year ago

SPALDING

So last night I went out with a female friend, she's always said no to anything anal when we've all been together as a group. So we was all out, but i ended up back at hers. One thing led to another and my tongue slipped when I was going down on her and she moaned more. So I kept doing it then, and she never said stop. So I then gently pressed my thumb against her arse hole and ended up licking and sucking her clit and pussy while fingering her arse. She loved it as she was moaning louder but wouldn't let me fuck her in the arse. Am I missing something here? She's always said no to her arse being used in anyway. I'm just grateful for the night. Has anyone else experienced this or ladies what's your thoughts on it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck em

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

Well unless your cock is the same size as your thumb, there’s a massive difference.

Sometimes you just go with what feels good in the moment. Just know that that may well be as comfortable as she’ll ever be with bum fun

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If you liked being rimmed and a bit of finger play in your arse area, would you be happy for a butt plug to be shoved up your arse, or think it strange that you don't like it?

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Yeah I'd like to think there's a difference in girth between your cock and finger. I'm partial to a cheeky finger but no way in the world is anything bigger getting in there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So last night I went out with a female friend, she's always said no to anything anal when we've all been together as a group. So we was all out, but i ended up back at hers. One thing led to another and my tongue slipped when I was going down on her and she moaned more. So I kept doing it then, and she never said stop. So I then gently pressed my thumb against her arse hole and ended up licking and sucking her clit and pussy while fingering her arse. She loved it as she was moaning louder but wouldn't let me fuck her in the arse. Am I missing something here? She's always said no to her arse being used in anyway. I'm just grateful for the night. Has anyone else experienced this or ladies what's your thoughts on it?"

Yep, you're missing the fact that she said she's not interested in being fucked in the arse. Although she clearly said that when you asked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a no to anal and a tongue and finger is VERY different to putting a cock in there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, you're missing the fact that she said she's not interested in being fucked in the arse. Although she clearly said that when you asked? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very similar. Would only entertain anything anal with someone I trust and definitely not in group situations cause things can get out of hand. So if I were you, I’d probably be flattered that it’s you she trusts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A finger tip is not the same size or width as a cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good on her. I see no desire to fuck anally or take anything in my bum. She might not like it, find it painful or just nasty.

My partners rubbed on my asshole but she got a slap on the ass trying to put a finger in there.

Sorry. No entry! Lol and neither do I have anything to do with hers unless a soft caress or I’m going at her pussy with my tongue and get carried away slightly, accidentally licking her.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes you are missing something. She doesn't want anal sex, she said she doesn't but you seem to have missed that she doesn't want it.

Compare your finger to your cock and you will get an idea of the reason.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"She doesn't want anal sex, she said she doesn't but you seem to have missed that she doesn't want it. "

I feel like I can get this because - hey - I don’t want it up my bum, either.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"She doesn't want anal sex, she said she doesn't but you seem to have missed that she doesn't want it.

I feel like I can get this because - hey - I don’t want it up my bum, either. "

I'm a firm believer that if a person wants their partner to try anal, man or woman, they should demonstrate how easy and enjoyable it is by experiencing it themselves first.

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

I always so not anal if guy asks mainly because although like being rimmed and even a finger it will always be no to guy putting his cock up their. (Bad experience couple of years ago).

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

A ‘no’ to anal isn’t always just about preference. Sometimes there are medical conditions to take into account.

While the person may enjoy some anal foreplay and really want to go further, sometimes it’s impossible and could lead to some rather painful injury.

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By *rTongueTeaserMan
over a year ago

CHELMSFORD

"Well unless your cock is the same size as your thumb, there’s a massive difference.

Sometimes you just go with what feels good in the moment. Just know that that may well be as comfortable as she’ll ever be with bum fun"

I'm happy just to rim it, pussy feels better to be in

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

A lady has to prepare herself for anal. Perhaps she was worried she hadn’t!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lady has to prepare herself for anal. Perhaps she was worried she hadn’t!!"

Or perhaps she just isn’t interested in anal like she’d stated!

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"A lady has to prepare herself for anal. Perhaps she was worried she hadn’t!!

Or perhaps she just isn’t interested in anal like she’d stated! "

Yes most likely!

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

If it doesn’t turn her on then you need to respect her decision, just be grateful she let you shove a finger in.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Am I missing something here?"

Have you watched the tea video?

https://youtu.be/pZwvrxVavnQ

LvM

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'd prefer a man to be far more respectful of my wishes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd prefer a man to be far more respectful of my wishes."

Yep. A limit is a limit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she just doesn't want your Willy Wonka in her Chocolate Factory.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

To be fair I don't think the op is saying anything other than he's confused that the lady was happy for a finger but nothing more. He hasn't complained and said he was happy with things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever I have given a woman oral & obviously slipped the tongue down to the bum I have found none of them objected to a tongue or finger massaging their bum, I can see why they would object to a guy wanting to stick his knob in though as that is totally different, I have no issue with rimming & playing with a lady's bum but I never try to stick my know in, I'm happy with the oral pleasure of being allowed down there.

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By *urga2076Woman
over a year ago

London

If she can orgasm perfectly well from

Rimming she may not want or need more from anal penetration.

Also very different dynamics- in every sense.

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By *um2me123Man
over a year ago

burin

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By *um2me123Man
over a year ago

burin

I have a fwb that chats up anal....it takes so much trust that when she desires it, we will have fun for sure...a tongue and a finger is so different ....enjoy what your lover wants, sounds like a fun lady

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

"Well unless your cock is the same size as your thumb, there’s a massive difference.

Sometimes you just go with what feels good in the moment. Just know that that may well be as comfortable as she’ll ever be with bum fun"

Lmao. This sums it up well

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

What is it with anal, I'm not a fan, my ex husband continually asked for it to the point it became nagging and I just got repulsed by him! A finger or tounge is much different than a cock.

Let her peg you after popping a finger in see if you notice the difference

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By *randMrsJones69Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

There is a big difference between anal sex and "anything anal"..My guess is she is used to guys thinking because she enjoyed a tongue in there that is an open pass to put your cock in there.

When ever we meet, we will tend to say that we aren't into anything anal to not get to that point. Albeit very rare that a guy can refrain from trying a tongue or finger wonder

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

"I'm a firm believer that if a person wants their partner to try anal, man or woman, they should demonstrate how easy and enjoyable it is by experiencing it themselves first."

I suggested this to an old friend of mine once, her bf wanted to try it but she said no. He wouldn't listen to her so I suggested she offer him to be fucked by her with her dildo. As I pointed out there are severla outcomes,

1) he likes it wants it more

2) he likes it wants to try with men

3) she started to enjoy doing it to him

4) they'd spilt up

5) she'd have to do it as she said him first.

6) she enjoys it and becomes a new thing.

They split up.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm a firm believer that if a person wants their partner to try anal, man or woman, they should demonstrate how easy and enjoyable it is by experiencing it themselves first.

1) he likes it wants it more

2) he likes it wants to try with men

3) she started to enjoy doing it to him

4) they'd spilt up

5) she'd have to do it as she said him first.

6) she enjoys it and becomes a new thing.

They split up. "

There is a 7th he'd realise he was being unreasonable and shut the hell up.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

There is a massive difference between someone having someone play with their ass with their finger and sticking a cock up it .And op if you cannot see the difference than that's pretty sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Huuuge difference between rimming and a thumb than a cock !

I never do anal first meet.. I've really got to trust someone sexually to do it but I enjoy my asshole being played with. Everyone has different preferences. Because a dude enjoys a finger doesn't mean he will enjoy a cock in his ass.. x

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

No means no. Which means no. Which really does mean NO.

Just because she humoured you one time to the limit of her patience, it doesn't mean she has changed her mind.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

She decided to try something in the heat of the moment so I’d leave it at that unless she brings up the subject again.

We have anal as one of our interests, that doesn’t mean it’s anal everytime.

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