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By * starr - OP   Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

am i "very choosy" for a "big, fat, ugly person"? i have been asked.

how rude was this? and i must stress, this wasnt from this site either, but does the guy know me?=no, does the guy know why i have weight issues?=no, am i ugly?(id say)=average.

and choosy, yes im choosy, i, like every other person, has an attraction to certain people sexually, i dont just sleep with strangers, and to make this comment, i think he must have a very ugly mind.

small minded people eh

rant over me thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up, block and crack on - sites full of arm chair warriors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

look at me.

im a short arse. i cannot change that or have a desire too.

if people wont meet me because of that then they are missing out on a great time bcause i treat everyone i meet really well.

i have met some lovely (and i do mean this) larger/bbw/ woman size 14 and way above that.

but look here is my point.

i do not like labels or ways to discribe people because of size.

personality is what i look for and sometime a have a damn good laugh with many different people.

we are who we are.

no one should feel or made to feel unwanted because of the way they are.

so dont be down on yourself. if someone is nasty,block them and forget about it because on this site (and many others) there will be a lot of people who would love to meet you and meet you more than once.

take care xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess you turned him down hence his comment, report, block and move on

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

His loss. You can congratulate yourself on making the right choice as now you can see what he was really like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this sort of comment before from guys ,just ignore and like the previous poster said know you made the right choice to not meet them , unfortunately some people think because you are on a site they have the right to sleep with you and how dare you turn them down (and they wonder why they don't get any action?) just know you are better than them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When kids call each other names and they get upset, I say this.

What if they called you a tree? Are you a tree? (They giggle... No!)

What if they called you a car? Are you a car? (they giggle again... No! Course not!)

Well obviously you're not a car or a tree. It's just words. Silly words. You're not a (insert the word the bullies used) so don't let it bother you. It's just a word....

Usually they go away a) thinking I'm nuts, and b) realising that it's just name calling and feel better.

People that call people mean names are idiots. Ignore them. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have a good day Sarah.

dont give it another thought x

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"am i "very choosy" for a "big, fat, ugly person"? i have been asked.

how rude was this? and i must stress, this wasnt from this site either, but does the guy know me?=no, does the guy know why i have weight issues?=no, am i ugly?(id say)=average.

and choosy, yes im choosy, i, like every other person, has an attraction to certain people sexually, i dont just sleep with strangers, and to make this comment, i think he must have a very ugly mind.

small minded people eh

rant over me thinks "

Hey i have a big nose and people on this site have pointed it out (as if i dont know) just keep smiling hun xx

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By * starr - OP   Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

id not even spoken to him, he obviously looked and thought his really lovely thoughts and decided to share them with me lol.

i no some people like what they see, and on here too.i very rarely use the other site now anyway.find this one so much more easier to use than most others out there, so ill stick to this one and the friends im making on here.

thank you for the comments too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ur not ugly Hun he prob just a knob who can't get any friends

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Single guys on here get a hard enough time, let alone guys from other sites... There is no need for the comments that the guy may have said. Maybe leave comments on the other site and enjoy this one as you mention.

Have fun

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know a lot of people on here who think if your not slim that you should be grateful for any mans attention and you have no right to like or dislike certain types.

well thats rubish because some fat men dislike fat women, same as some old men dislike old women.

it seems to upset a few people when they see large women who actualy like themselves.

i mean, how dare they.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont worry vbg xxxx

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Could be worse Hun Ive just had a veri left by a guy i met recently who basically put that my pictures are very deceiving and he regretted the meet as I was not pretty, gross and vile and a complete turn off!!!! He's entitled to his opinion although could have phrased it a little more pleasantly lol.

I reckon some guys feel that they have to cover their own insecurities by making other people feel bad!!!

I know I'm horribly fat and I know I have other issues and they are very clearly stated in my profile but I also know I'm a nice person and have met some really great guys but its the ones who are horrible that stick with you the most!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could be worse Hun Ive just had a veri left by a guy i met recently who basically put that my pictures are very deceiving and he regretted the meet as I was not pretty, gross and vile and a complete turn off!!!! He's entitled to his opinion although could have phrased it a little more pleasantly lol.

I reckon some guys feel that they have to cover their own insecurities by making other people feel bad!!!

I know I'm horribly fat and I know I have other issues and they are very clearly stated in my profile but I also know I'm a nice person and have met some really great guys but its the ones who are horrible that stick with you the most!!

"

i know love.can tell your a lovely person and deserve better.

xxx

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By *iker BullMan
over a year ago

leeds


"Single guys on here get a hard enough time, let alone guys from other sites... There is no need for the comments that the guy may have said. Maybe leave comments on the other site and enjoy this one as you mention.

Have fun"
well said

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"Could be worse Hun Ive just had a veri left by a guy i met recently who basically put that my pictures are very deceiving and he regretted the meet as I was not pretty, gross and vile and a complete turn off!!!! He's entitled to his opinion although could have phrased it a little more pleasantly lol.

I reckon some guys feel that they have to cover their own insecurities by making other people feel bad!!!

I know I'm horribly fat and I know I have other issues and they are very clearly stated in my profile but I also know I'm a nice person and have met some really great guys but its the ones who are horrible that stick with you the most!!

i know love.can tell your a lovely person and deserve better.

xxx"

Thanks Hun x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Don't worry i got called every name under the sun for not meeting....i find it funny one minute you are gorgeous with a sexy figure. the next minute you are a fat heffer who is meant to shag anything....lol. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't worry i got called every name under the sun for not meeting....i find it funny one minute you are gorgeous with a sexy figure. the next minute you are a fat heffer who is meant to shag anything....lol. Xxx"

see i dont understand it.

ive known you on the forums for a long time and youve always been funny and someone who does meet.

ok i admit id need a step ladder but your a lovely woman and these guys have no right to talk to you like that x

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Don't worry i got called every name under the sun for not meeting....i find it funny one minute you are gorgeous with a sexy figure. the next minute you are a fat heffer who is meant to shag anything....lol. Xxx"

Yep - I'm up myself/ shallow/ too choosy for a short fat bird... some guys are charmers! Usually after being turned down, I have to say (and thereby confirming that declining their offer was definitely the best move) But report, block and move on - there's plenty of lovely ones out there to choose from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time unfortunately xxx at the end of the day one mans meat is another's poison were all different and like other things and tbh chick there's nothing wrong with you xx you are gorjus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"am i "very choosy" for a "big, fat, ugly person"? i have been asked.

how rude was this? and i must stress, this wasnt from this site either, but does the guy know me?=no, does the guy know why i have weight issues?=no, am i ugly?(id say)=average.

and choosy, yes im choosy, i, like every other person, has an attraction to certain people sexually, i dont just sleep with strangers, and to make this comment, i think he must have a very ugly mind.

small minded people eh

rant over me thinks "

the guys who send this sort of thing are the ones who u have clearly stated u r not looking for..

i get it too..

they basically got excited at looking at ur thumbnail and thought yh i like her, then by realising they werent what u wanted, got bitter with rejection..

i normally reply with somethign like " who would of thought this ugly fat chick would be so overwhelmed with interest that she can be choosy.. was a shock to me too mate!"

they then change their tune a bit, usually try and get at me for pointing out i dont like blacks (if theyre black) but then admitting each to their own..

bet if u lookat this guys profile he fits into one of ur dislikes

take it as a compliment that he was so into u he got bitter with the rejection lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

babes men need to get a life and grow up keep yopur chin up xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"look at me.

im a short arse. i cannot change that or have a desire too.

if people wont meet me because of that then they are missing out on a great time bcause i treat everyone i meet really well.

i have met some lovely (and i do mean this) larger/bbw/ woman size 14 and way above that.

but look here is my point.

i do not like labels or ways to discribe people because of size.

personality is what i look for and sometime a have a damn good laugh with many different people.

we are who we are.

no one should feel or made to feel unwanted because of the way they are.

so dont be down on yourself. if someone is nasty,block them and forget about it because on this site (and many others) there will be a lot of people who would love to meet you and meet you more than once.

take care xx"

Well said.. I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could be worse Hun Ive just had a veri left by a guy i met recently who basically put that my pictures are very deceiving and he regretted the meet as I was not pretty, gross and vile and a complete turn off!!!! He's entitled to his opinion although could have phrased it a little more pleasantly lol.

I reckon some guys feel that they have to cover their own insecurities by making other people feel bad!!!

I know I'm horribly fat and I know I have other issues and they are very clearly stated in my profile but I also know I'm a nice person and have met some really great guys but its the ones who are horrible that stick with you the most!!

"

Please tell me that you didnt actually play with him???

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Could be worse Hun Ive just had a veri left by a guy i met recently who basically put that my pictures are very deceiving and he regretted the meet as I was not pretty, gross and vile and a complete turn off!!!! He's entitled to his opinion although could have phrased it a little more pleasantly lol.

I reckon some guys feel that they have to cover their own insecurities by making other people feel bad!!!

I know I'm horribly fat and I know I have other issues and they are very clearly stated in my profile but I also know I'm a nice person and have met some really great guys but its the ones who are horrible that stick with you the most!!

i know love.can tell your a lovely person and deserve better.

xxx

Thanks Hun x"

Excuse my language but what a nasty fucker. I've just looked at your profile and you are very clear of your size and what people should expect. Why people feel the need to belittle and put down others I don't know. All your other veri's seem lovely so he's obviously a tosser xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could be worse Hun Ive just had a veri left by a guy i met recently who basically put that my pictures are very deceiving and he regretted the meet as I was not pretty, gross and vile and a complete turn off!!!! He's entitled to his opinion although could have phrased it a little more pleasantly lol.

I reckon some guys feel that they have to cover their own insecurities by making other people feel bad!!!

I know I'm horribly fat and I know I have other issues and they are very clearly stated in my profile but I also know I'm a nice person and have met some really great guys but its the ones who are horrible that stick with you the most!!

i know love.can tell your a lovely person and deserve better.

xxx

Thanks Hun x

Excuse my language but what a nasty fucker. I've just looked at your profile and you are very clear of your size and what people should expect. Why people feel the need to belittle and put down others I don't know. All your other veri's seem lovely so he's obviously a tosser xxx "

talking from experience, they are messaging out of rejection as she states on her profile some things she doesnt like..

ive had the same thing a fair few times and its exactly along the same lines of how can someone as fat and ugly as u be so choosy.. and everyone of them have been someone i have said i dont want to meet.. its just that plain old bitterness from rejection, they have been rejected by whats written on a profile rather than a no thanks being sent thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say I daily reject a good 10-15 guys and then I'd say that 4-6 of them will come back with a reference to my weight. At the end of the day they wanted me to begin with and don't like being told no. To the OP I think you're stunning. Don't let them get to you. Nil illegitimi carborendum. Don't let the bastards grind you down!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a similar message cpl weeks back. (wanna chat & meet you fat dirty bitch) told him to f---off and blocked him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say I daily reject a good 10-15 guys and then I'd say that 4-6 of them will come back with a reference to my weight. At the end of the day they wanted me to begin with and don't like being told no. To the OP I think you're stunning. Don't let them get to you. Nil illegitimi carborendum. Don't let the bastards grind you down!! "

oh the old "well it was only going to be a sympathy shag cos ur so fat" type of reply :D got to love them.. especially when their original message was so very different lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"His loss. You can congratulate yourself on making the right choice as now you can see what he was really like."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say I daily reject a good 10-15 guys and then I'd say that 4-6 of them will come back with a reference to my weight. At the end of the day they wanted me to begin with and don't like being told no. To the OP I think you're stunning. Don't let them get to you. Nil illegitimi carborendum. Don't let the bastards grind you down!! "

Got to love the male mentality... dick heads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say I daily reject a good 10-15 guys and then I'd say that 4-6 of them will come back with a reference to my weight. At the end of the day they wanted me to begin with and don't like being told no. To the OP I think you're stunning. Don't let them get to you. Nil illegitimi carborendum. Don't let the bastards grind you down!!

oh the old "well it was only going to be a sympathy shag cos ur so fat" type of reply :D got to love them.. especially when their original message was so very different lol"

Yeah my favourite I've ever had actually upset me so much I decided to leave fab. I hadn't replied to one guy so he sent me a message saying, oi you fat slag don't fucking ignore me. I was mortified. Got to say I'm made of tougher stuff now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry, he was probably a BLACK GUY, a FOREIGNER, an ASIAN,

a HAIRY GUY, a SMOKER or an ASHTRAY!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep your chin up don't let people like that get you down.i used to be called because im a big lady they made me feel ugly but since being on here i now feel very sexy again i meet blokes that take me for who i am and most come back for seconds lol

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"babes men need to get a life and grow up keep yopur chin up xx"

is that just single guys or are partners within couples exempt

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes it wasn't nice thing to say at all but just shrug it off and take no notice. Why let one negative comment get to you....

Focus on all the positive messages that you get instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"babes men need to get a life and grow up keep yopur chin up xx

is that just single guys or are partners within couples exempt"

couples and women are just as bad as well.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"babes men need to get a life and grow up keep yopur chin up xx

is that just single guys or are partners within couples exempt

couples and women are just as bad as well."

, yes they are xx

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"babes men need to get a life and grow up keep yopur chin up xx

is that just single guys or are partners within couples exempt

couples and women are just as bad as well."

Exactly you get some rude people in all groups.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"babes men need to get a life and grow up keep yopur chin up xx

is that just single guys or are partners within couples exempt

couples and women are just as bad as well.

Exactly you get some rude people in all groups."

Indeed, Fuckwittery knows no boundaries.

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By * starr - OP   Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

thank you for all the lovely comments, and info.

id not even messaged the guy on other site, he just left me a message, so i hit the block button, silly man, and it only bothered me for about half hour, then i thought "idiot".some blokes out there find me very sexy (or so they say) so that is a nice compliment when they text me saying so. it just bugged me that he left such a comment without even a hello.

think ill stick to here, not had much trouble from here.

and most of the folks seem very nice.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"thank you for all the lovely comments, and info.

id not even messaged the guy on other site, he just left me a message, so i hit the block button, silly man, and it only bothered me for about half hour, then i thought "idiot".some blokes out there find me very sexy (or so they say) so that is a nice compliment when they text me saying so. it just bugged me that he left such a comment without even a hello.

think ill stick to here, not had much trouble from here.

and most of the folks seem very nice. "

I got an unsolicited message, on another site, along the lines of what a whore and slut I was. I thanked them, saying that was exactly the impression I was going for. Told them I was happy for them to vent and hoped they felt better for it. Then blocked and reported the bastard.

Incidentally, the person was so far outside my preferences they were on Jupiter! LOL Maybe that had something to do with it. A pre-emptive snipe at me before I could turn them down!

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"Excuse my language but what a nasty fucker. I've just looked at your profile and you are very clear of your size and what people should expect. Why people feel the need to belittle and put down others I don't know. All your other veri's seem lovely so he's obviously a tosser xxx

Thanks Hun and the language is far less than I've called him!! Thing is I know I have the other veris but when you get one as vile as his was it makes me start to question the others which is crazy as apart from 1 or 2 I've met the others on several occasions!! I just need to be this little scrote out of my head

Well I can't imagine they'd come back for more if they thought the same as him. Honestly I'm gob smacked. Had you already left him a veri? X "

Yes I'd already left him a veri although it didn't say a lot cos he was shite

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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago

Northwood

Ugly is as ugly does ... you have already said it - he's the ugly one deep down inside, ugly and nasty and probably quite unhappy.

Shine on beautiful ... don't let the nasty man get to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to the op, ive just looked at ur pics and ur def a bbw a big BEAUTIFULwoman...ur very pretty xxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"am i "very choosy" for a "big, fat, ugly person"? i have been asked.

how rude was this? and i must stress, this wasnt from this site either, but does the guy know me?=no, does the guy know why i have weight issues?=no, am i ugly?(id say)=average.

and choosy, yes im choosy, i, like every other person, has an attraction to certain people sexually, i dont just sleep with strangers, and to make this comment, i think he must have a very ugly mind.

small minded people eh

rant over me thinks "
The person who said that is a thoughtless and illogical twat.....sorry to be blunt, but it's true. Don't let such Neanderthals bother you

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

These people who name call are just throwing their rattles out of the pram. The obviously cannot take rejection. Everybody in the world has their own personal preferences. ?That's includes the people you reject if they don't fit your personal preferences.

I always find it funny that these sort of men find the woman ugly, fat etc AFTER they have been rejected by the women. Does a rejection suddenly change their eyesight for the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Does a rejection suddenly change their eyesight for the better ?"

What it changes is their perception.

The potential for rejection and disappointment is huge on this site and others like it.

Many join without realising this key fact and when they see that things aren't working out as the might have liked, their perceptions change - of the site, of it's users and most importantly of those they seek.

Some can't handle that - hence the kick back.

A total nonsensical state of affairs - but a reality just the same.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Could be worse Hun Ive just had a veri left by a guy i met recently who basically put that my pictures are very deceiving and he regretted the meet as I was not pretty, gross and vile and a complete turn off!!!! He's entitled to his opinion although could have phrased it a little more pleasantly lol.

I reckon some guys feel that they have to cover their own insecurities by making other people feel bad!!!

I know I'm horribly fat and I know I have other issues and they are very clearly stated in my profile but I also know I'm a nice person and have met some really great guys but its the ones who are horrible that stick with you the most!!

"

Until they day I die I will never understand how one human being can be so cruel to another human being like that.

If he had sex with you that makes worse. He should have had the honesty and decency to say he did not fancy you (in a polite way of course) when he met you.

Did you really think you would put that verification no your profile?

As I have said before nobody is ever going to be fancied by everyone. But on the flip side nobody is ever going to be not fancied by everyone. There is somebody for everybody out there. It is just finding the buggers lol.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Don't worry i got called every name under the sun for not meeting....i find it funny one minute you are gorgeous with a sexy figure. the next minute you are a fat heffer who is meant to shag anything....lol. Xxx

Yep - I'm up myself/ shallow/ too choosy for a short fat bird... some guys are charmers! Usually after being turned down, I have to say (and thereby confirming that declining their offer was definitely the best move) But report, block and move on - there's plenty of lovely ones out there to choose from "

After seeing you in chat you are the sexiest short fat bird I have ever seen lol. You are gorgeous. In all seriousness you are right. The nasty comments ALWAYS come after the rejection.

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